Typical taurus women behavior? or it's me?

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Okay, I dated this taurus girl for a few months and things were good until i found out a few things i didn't like.

She told me how much she hated two cheating exes she had but have them on facebook and myspace..
She had anger management and therapy which I don't think she take seriously..
She never admits her feelings or have trouble doing it.
We'll argue about things that never even happen.
Mad when I talk to my friends for some reason..
I always gotta do things on her time.
Jump to conclusions too fast and stubborn as hell. So when we had our problems, I'll be the one to talk it out and say sorry for things I didn't even do to make her happy.

But despite that, I love her and we in love with each other. Been there for her through tough times.. Until, She told me she was seeing someone and dumps me. Then later dumps her quickly. I was upset but just let her do her thing. Strangely, She became verbally abusive towards me, Got our mutual friends on her bandwagon and stalked me and my twitter, facebook, etc.. Since she's a singer, she actually made songs about our relationship. Things that didn't even happen. Her friend send the songs she did, about hating and loving me. I just wanted to clear the air so i talked to her. She said sorry and she was "lost". Which I thought was a bad excuse and was hiding the real one from me. She just seems like she didn't care about how much she put me through.. So i got tired of kissing her ***, called her ruthless and walked away.. It's been 4 months.. She going over-board on me now.. Insult me, Stalks me, and make more hateful **** about me..Even on her birthday, calls me and play the song "deuces" on my vm. I ignore her but how long is she gonna keep this up and why?

She like so confusing.. I though tauruses women don't do this but wtf is her deal? Is this how taurus women act or what?

No offense to any taurus women out there, it's just a question.. Don't bite my head off.
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Nah! Won't bite your head off for asking honest questions.

"She told me how much she hated two cheating exes she had but have them on facebook and myspace.. " Wouldn't happen, they'd be iced.

"She had anger management and therapy which I don't think she take seriously.." Probably not, she's probably a stubborn ass who thinks she's justified in her anger. Am I right?

"She never admits her feelings or have trouble doing it." Troublesome at best. Cautious isn't even in play here it's been a few months.

"We'll argue about things that never even happen." That isn't a warning bell my friend, that's a klaxon going off.

"Mad when I talk to my friends for some reason.." Insecurity in herself.

"I always gotta do things on her time." Ridiculous, it should be working around each others schedules, not just hers. That needs checked. And I refuse to listen to such bullshit womanly diatribe like "Well if you loved me/cared about me you'd come to me." Horse puckey. Needs to flow both ways.

Jump to conclusions too fast and stubborn as hell. A given. The conclusion jumping needs sorted out. Stubborn is its own deal. I'm stubborn, I'm sure the majority of us are.

So when we had our problems, I'll be the one to talk it out and say sorry for things I didn't even do to make her happy.
....Again, has to be a two way street. One person hashing things out or bending over backwards for another with zero input won't work. She'll know she can manipulate you, that you're a pushover in this area. NEVER apologize for something you've not done. It feeds into a fantasy scene that doesn't even exist, and makes you look like a panty waist. ( No offense meant, just laying it all out there for you.. )

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Well before anything, she sounds immature. How old are you guys anyway? The only thing I can attest to is still being friends with my ex's, but they didn't cheat on me so I don't know why'd she still be friends with them. Also are you telling the whole story? You are pointing out everything she's done to you , but what have you done to her? I only get verbally abusive and dgaf if I get tired of someone's bs.
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And as to her bullshit mind games..she wants to know she still owns you in some way. That she can work her way under your skin. Block her, everywhere if you must. If the two of you called done, it's done. I don't look back, I look forward. I don't revisit a relationship, I don't hold witty conversation with nor acknowledge someone who is in the past. I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to embroil myself in continuing on with bad feeling or using a past love as a touchstone. That's masochistic. Making me hurt and the other person hurt. Life is too short for that horse shit. That part of my life is over now. One Bullettes M.O.
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Thanks so much for your input..

The craziest thing is she manged to get my friends to turn on me.... My own friends! She acted like she been victimized by me.

I also thought taurus women don't cheat but i guess i was wrong. They say if she doesn't cheat, then you did something wrong.. That's the thing, I didn't do nothing to upset her. She was fine in the beginning but like in the 6th month, did a whole 360. She became very very clingy, which i put up with even though i had my own issues to deal with. Both of my parents are gone, so dealing with that and everything else was hard. She knew that and was nice about it at first, then got pushy and unreasonable. So i asked her for space and she just freaked out.. Went on a rampage until I gave in..

How about the stalking? Is that normal?

Why is she acting like this?
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as big of a butt hole as I could be at that age...I wasn't into that kind of stuff.
But,I'll tell you....I'm not sure Capricorn males and Taurus females are ready for each other in early life.
we both have things to work thru and master in ourselves before we can appreciate each other.
I think we make an excellent match after 30 though.
(not that you want to hear that now...)
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I get it, I'm just ignoring the insults still. Why is she still doing that, I don't know. I figure since she was the one that wanted out, I should be a memory. It's been months now and since we live near each other... I'll have run-ins with her from time to time. "My ex hates me", you fucked up, deal with it, i'm a jerk and a motherf***ker". I don't say nothing, just go my own way. She wants me to react for what?


To answer some of you guys questions, I never cheated but she has some trust issues which I understood and remain loyal. We been there for each other through some very hard times, I know she isn't perfect and I'm not expecting her to. She told me a few times about her fear of me leaving her or thinking I can do better. Sometimes she'll test me to see if i can be trusted. When we fought, She can be so stubborn at first so it's hard talking to her, but I loved her so I wouldn't give up. We have loads of things in common and pick up on each other, so she knows how to make me smile and vice versa. I just wanted her to open up more so I can be on the same page. In one letter, this is the first time she opened up to me:


"First I just want to say sorry... for holding back. I said I'm not good with words unless it's a song, when it comes down to expressing how I feel, I've always been like that... note how I regret saying some of this shit I said to you because it's easily misinterpreted and generally doesn't make any sense. I just want you to know that I miss you. I left because I thought I was making things more difficult for you. All these things you were willing to do for me, to be with me. At the same time, I wanted to be with you. That front about "dealing with it" and all that shit. I've spent my life dealing with it and moving on and learning really not to give a fuck about how I feel and just making sure I'm doing the best for everyone around me... The reality is, I don't know everything. I know I don't know everything so I don't know why I go on like I do..."

So yeah she's can be complex but I do love her... I just don't know what to do
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Boy, insecurity is a killer. I understand how she's feeling though. She cares about you, and I think she fears she loves you more than you love her, so she wants to see your reaction to gauge just how much you care. For some reason, she's not feeling the depth of your love, so the only way she feels she can really know is by how you react to what she's doing. It's like stealing or forcing forth an emotion that's not apparent. I've come to realize that Taurus, like their opposite Scorpio, will test to see what they cannot see.

I'm a Capricorn too, and I thought I had a hard time expressing my emotions but Taurus people probably take the cake lol. I'm sure that as much as you love her, you've held back just a little. Try writing her a letter too, letting her know that you still care about her and will be by her side while she deals with what's bothering her inside. You can help cure it temporarily, but she's the one that has to rid herself of her insecurities and fears completely. Maybe you've enhanced or brought to light what she needs to deal with herself. Just let her know you are there for her though, and don't be afraid to express whatever, especially if she's your friend. Sometimes people don't realize how much certain words of encouragement and love can help. Nor do we realize the importance of someone sticking by our side.
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Thanks for the feedback..

I'll talk to her and hope it does any good. She can be a brick wall at times.. It might be award because she's hanging around her ex now... The one who cheated on her 3 times and supposedly despised. I heard it's rarely Taurus women cheat. Ever since she dumped me and such.. She just changed. She's more angry than ever. i wish she'll tell me why she cheated instead of saying i was "lost. I don't even know what that meant but she hate being asked questions.
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Whether she cares or not, try not to make that your main concern. Just get your feelings out so you will feel better about the situation. I think Caps, especially, will rather sit back and over-analyze a situation instead of deal with it. We don't realize that getting our emotions out will actually make us feel better, and that goes for her too. She's angry because she's holding so much in, wanting what she wants and not wanting to sacrifice a little more, when really, making a sacrifice by expressing herself will benefit her.

Again, I would write her a letter. I think that will be easier and after that maybe you can talk face-to-face. Either way, do it for her, but do it more for you. Both of you seem to be holding onto what you had, and maybe it will be up to you to take the lead in saying what you really feel so she can follow. Even if she doesn't follow, getting it out will give you the strength to properly move on. Until then, there will be a bunch of unanswered questions on both ends.
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Posted by saywhat718
Well, I'm doing what i'm always doing..Expressing myself and doing all the talking.. She likes that because it means she's in control of my feelings. She just loves the control and see me break.. Like i'm weak



She's not at all in control of your feelings. What you are probably doing is feeding her ego, but that has nothing to do with her insecurities, and she will one day realize that. When she gets off the high of thinking she's controlling you, she will still be angry and insecure inside. The ego is something else I tell ya, trust me, i know lol..

If you've released your feelings, and put it out in the open then the ball is now in her court. If laughing or "thinking" she is in control is the only way she can handle you being honest and sincere about loving her, then she's not someone thats ready for love right now. You've laid it out, now you can move on if she's not now giving you what you need. As someone said, she is stuck in a loop. She will tangle you in it if your not careful.
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I find it odd that your busting the "L" word in 2 months.. I think you need to slow your roll a little in this gambit...
People sometimes just throw that word around in a frantic attempt regain someone they feel there losing.. "I love you/I love her" are words that hold a lot of weight with me. Just be careful with how your throwing that "L" word around.. It could mean the world to someone to hear it from you, Or nothing at all.. depending on how 'you' value its use...

That said I think that you writing her your feelings was a good thing, and commend you for it.. Now days most people would rather hide what they feel for someone for risk of rejection then sick there neck out and say I care about you.. God knows us earth signs are masters of keeping our feelings hidden/necks safe.. It takes a strong person, maybe even more so for a earth sign, to stick the old neck out when rejection is a real possibility or reciprocation is unknown and say 'I care about you/You mean a lot to me'.. That takes strength..

But... There is a place that coming out and saying 'I care about you' can go awry.. Thats when you tell someone you care about them 'seeking' validation for those feelings, 'seeking' reciprocation.. Sure, anyone thats said 'I care about you' would have there day made if that person said they felt the same.. But seeking reciprocation should not be the motive for telling someone how you feel, reciprocation is the bonus.. lol.. In the reality of this situation after telling her that you care a lot about her, that she means a lot to you, you should be ready to walk away.. Leave it at that.. Ball's in her court.. Beating on her door wanting a response starts to de-value the statement.. Strength..? Thats looking the woman in the eye, unsure how she feels about you, and saying 'I care a lot about you.. And I could give a damn if you feel the same..' lol ok not quite like that, but you get the idea...



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Great advice TaurGuy, and not to get too off-topic, but what does "I care about you" mean coming from a Taurus? You said it a lot just now, and just last week I sent my Taurus friend a text saying "thank you for thinking about me" and he replied "no problem, I care about you lnana04 and don't want to see anything happen" etc. That caught me by surprise a bit because it was the first time he's ever said anything like that. I'm just wondering exactly what it means, like whats the motive, or maybe thought, behind letting it be known to someone?

I'll admit, it kind of melted my heart a bit but I didn't say it back because he's much younger and I didn't want to send any weird signals although I care about my friend too.

saywhat718, like TaurGuy, you will only feel stupid if you are expecting something and again, that letter was written for you first. Regardless if she responds or not, there is absolutely nothing to feel stupid about. I wish you luck!
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Thanks for the advice and encouragement.

I'm trying to accept all this and move on. It's just hard to see someone you cared about become so distant. I get it now, I did what i had to do for myself. So it's outta my hands now cause i said what i wanted to say and did what i wanted to do. As much as i care for her and really want things to work out, only she can decide that now. So i got to try checking my email, waiting for a response from her. I ain't gonna lie, it's hard cause i just wanna know how she feels so i know where i stand. I'm not trying to be too demanding or anything.. Just care about her that's all.
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Posted by 25thDecan
I'm just wondering exactly what it means, like whats the motive, or maybe thought, behind letting it be known to someone?- it doesn't always mean something romantic..but it IS serious. For the bull to count you THAT close is a good thing and one not to be abused. Of course some are different but if it needed to be said it was something inside and sincere making it come out. A bull will say it and show it throughout. A virgo would do it and say it later.



Knucklehead and I don't talk anymore so it didn't mean much of anything...or heck, maybe I abused it. Who really knows?! If you would've posted this a year ago maybe we would still be friends. All your fault Decan.

Btw, I'm gonna need you to cut cappie ladies some slack, atleast once...*begging*pretty pleeeaaase. Besides, Whatever happened to the saying that if you don't have anything nice to say then shut up! LoL. At this point ill settle and be happy if the thought of Cappies can get the eye down to twitching only once.

In typical fashion, lil ole innocent Cap ends up taking whatever she can get from the Virgo smh.
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Posted by 25thDecan
You know what...let me let go of that bitterness. Let's just say that whenever I'm NOT around cap women I don't have eye twitches.



I read what you wrote. Im like i give up. I've never been so unsuccessful at welcoming someone over to the dark side, or atleast getting them on the fence, goodness. This has been an epic fail for me smh.

Yeah, I don't think I like this whole backbone thing LoL.
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You know what...let me let go of that bitterness. Let's just say that whenever I'm NOT around cap women I don't have eye twitches.



I read what you wrote. Im like i give up. I've never been so unsuccessful at welcoming someone over to the dark side, or atleast getting them on the fence, goodness. This has been an epic fail for me smh.

Yeah, I don't think I like this whole backbone thing LoL.



—— I don't feel like assuming motive here...so...explicate please....@winning me over.
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The other day we were pet farm animals and my head almost spun at the comparison you made one time to between Cap females and that evil symbol. I'm too scared to even google the name of it but it starts with the letter b.

Anyway of course, through my pleasant words and actions lol, I've been trying to show you not all Cappie ladies are evil. Yeah, you've probably had two handfuls of bad experiences but again, they don't represent every Cap female.

This week, I want you to go on a Cappie hunt and try to find one you're attracted to. The secret to success is all in the eyes. If she's capable of giving "ill cut you" looks, then stay away because she eventually will. Go out and look for a sweet looking Cappie and watch how she sweetens the bitterness. For once you'll be singing a different tune. Keep me updated!
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^no.
And the "being" is none other than the evil Baphomet. Demon. Horrible leviathan...ok..ok..sorry. look up baphomet on wiki or in general first. I was going IN on goat women then lmao! With baphomet and plenty of "christian" teaching...nothing is as it seems and is grossly misrepresented and misinterpreted via unnecessary fears and prejudices against any little thing not anglo-saxon. Again..it isn't as it seems.


Anyhew: Anyway of course, through my pleasant words and actions lol, I've been trying to show you not all Cappie ladies are evil. Yeah, you've probably had two handfuls of bad experiences but again, they don't represent every Cap female.-
Meh. Why? Do you consider that I paint YOU with the same brush? Honestly...how could I? I don't know you nor any of the vile bloodsucking arachnid women I hate equally. LOL I do avoid cap women and when I know I'm around one will always act accordingly. The pattern of me+cap chick to =incompatible is not a bad thing. My extreme jackashness is schtick. It's amusing. Some of the things those women did are amusing..some are downright nasty, ruthlessly unnecessary and unethical. That doesn't concern you. A "good thing" for me romantically isn't going to be a cap woman. You wanna hear the real me talking? Here it is: I'm heterosexual. I'm single. I'm a wonderful guy who is as human as anyone else. Any woman cannot be a cure-all of romance for me that will magically "teach me a wonderful lesson and ease my "pain"", dig? I have to love me. I do. Should I require an awesome by my side, her sun sign is utter bullish compared to what I won't be able to deny. If and when that happens I'll be happy. Rest easy water-goat you don't have to worry about the state of "capi-dom" in my eyes.


Hold up, was I just...schooled here?! *confused look*
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Posted by 25thDecan
Yep. Seriously..all zodiac crap aside. Look up baphomet..and now the guy who actually created the image has escaped my mind. He was a frenchman btw...smh. we'll pull it up and discuss on religion board or miscellaneous



I've ran across it before. Its been a minute but if I'm not mistaken it ties to Illuminati, like the symbol they use and it seems to even connect to Capricorn in a way. Again its been a minute and I got a little scared searching it on my phone, since I forgot the name, but ill read on it again.

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Dear venusianbull
I lost my taurus girl on a matter of fact to investigate why was she silent somewhat , after Tons of emotional sms or fb msgs i sent i dont reply, and i got furious, as she comes online watch my msgs but dnt even care to reply, even confused me by telling that to call her to once after 3 day, we were supoosed to be together in a couple of month, but suddenly she lost her interest over me..Later trying to get friends to his friend found out that on her fb frend list his ex was there and trying to get help from the guy called her and told everything to her, she burst out though i was trying to sneek peek on her past and i also burst out by telling her not to response my calls or msgs or sms over a week, why she dnt tell me whts wrong , b4 that over a call she was comforted n told everything is ok, but dnt even tell me the truth.
Later I found out it was my incessent impatient led her to do this, as i really sometime dnt get this taurus. now i really need our friendship back and want back her. I want to convince her tht what i did wasnt intentional but by accidental but may be the languages of the msgs with his ex n me hurt her a lot. its been 4 days we stopped contacting each other and she blocked me in fb and even her add req is closed, n chnged her phnnuber.but i need to applogise cause i did wrong. thoughi dont care she did it too