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Understanding Taurus Dating and Emotional Needs
Tauruses value loyalty and emotional connection in relationships. If you feel unfulfilled or your efforts are not reciprocated, it may indicate a mismatch. Focus on partners who show consistent affection and commitment to build meaningful love that satisfies your needs.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow
Your doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
how long have you been doing this with the Cancer man ?
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
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this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
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I agree. This weekend I'm going to have other plans.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
how long have you been doing this with the Cancer man ?
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Basically since January... I asked him a couple of weeks ago what we were doing, was I just a friend to him? And he said yes, I'm a little more than a friend, but still a good friend to him.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
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Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
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Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
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Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
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I mean, I let him initiate all the texting and he does text me every day. Last weekend he said, I can take you to dinner if you want, in reference to me always cooking. When I was sick, he offered to come take care of me. But at the same time, I feel like he's holding back for some reason. I don't get it. Maybe he just needs more time.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
What ya hell are you talking about?
Uou said Aqua loves you
followed by
I want love someone who loves me...
Does Aqua ring the bell? Duh—
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
What ya hell are you talking about?
Uou said Aqua loves you
followed by
I want love someone who loves me...
Does Aqua ring the bell? Duh—
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He's my ex for a reason.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
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I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
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I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
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believe me, I can relate to everything you say here, and I'm sure a lot of people can....seems like a fundamental incompatibility, even if its mainly around communication...but it does really seem the chemistry is stronger on your end as well....You'll most likely always feel like you are not getting your fill of affection when you're in a situation like this....Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with either of you, neither should feel rejected or inadequate, etc. but definitely time to explore other options and wean from this IMO....
For me any time I feel like the connection is causing me to consistently think less of my self or be less of my self to adapt to the other person, to lose confidence, feel weak and needy, over-give, over-share, etc., its a huge warning sign that its just not a good fit....You dwell in that state for too long and it really does damage to your self-worth/identity....Just be wise to him stringing you along (even unknowingly) because he's comfortable with the current arrangement. I think if you're honest with your self you know he really isn't meeting your needs. Totally possible that he will feel like he really loved you when you withdraw, and try to turn it around, but I don't know....I just think you have to have enough pride to say if the dude has known you for this long and doesn't want to seal the deal, time to look for a smoother more reciprocal connection....good luck with everything...
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
What ya hell are you talking about?
Uou said Aqua loves you
followed by
I want love someone who loves me...
Does Aqua ring the bell? Duh—
He's my ex for a reason.
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So why do you even bring him up?
Do you feel better your crush even mildly interested? Except for food? You must feel something...
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
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Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
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The Aqua and I are friends. Believe me, I'm not doing anything to encourage him. When he says things like that I literally don't respond. The only way to get him to stop would be blocking him on all social media and blocking his number. He did something that broke my trust when we were together, and I can't take him back because of that, and he knows it, yet still tries. I think with time, he will stop.
And I didn't say no to the Cancer. I said yes actually. But it still hasn't happened.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
The Aqua and I are friends. Believe me, I'm not doing anything to encourage him. When he says things like that I literally don't respond. The only way to get him to stop would be blocking him on all social media and blocking his number. He did something that broke my trust when we were together, and I can't take him back because of that, and he knows it, yet still tries. I think with time, he will stop.
And I didn't say no to the Cancer. I said yes actually. But it still hasn't happened.
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well you need to know if you can trust him because it sounds a tad shady that he doesn't want to go out in public with you
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
The Aqua and I are friends. Believe me, I'm not doing anything to encourage him. When he says things like that I literally don't respond. The only way to get him to stop would be blocking him on all social media and blocking his number. He did something that broke my trust when we were together, and I can't take him back because of that, and he knows it, yet still tries. I think with time, he will stop.
And I didn't say no to the Cancer. I said yes actually. But it still hasn't happened.
well you need to know if you can trust him because it sounds a tad shady that he doesn't want to go out in public with you
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Oh God. We go out in public. We go to art shows, to museums, we go shopping for clothes, he even went grocery shopping with me one morning (he asked if he could come, I said uh okay). I don't know, maybe in his mind taking me to dinner means I'm his gf and he doesn't want that, so he's not following through.
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
The Aqua and I are friends. Believe me, I'm not doing anything to encourage him. When he says things like that I literally don't respond. The only way to get him to stop would be blocking him on all social media and blocking his number. He did something that broke my trust when we were together, and I can't take him back because of that, and he knows it, yet still tries. I think with time, he will stop.
And I didn't say no to the Cancer. I said yes actually. But it still hasn't happened.
well you need to know if you can trust him because it sounds a tad shady that he doesn't want to go out in public with you
Oh God. We go out in public. We go to art shows, to museums, we go shopping for clothes, he even went grocery shopping with me one morning (he asked if he could come, I said uh okay). I don't know, maybe in his mind taking me to dinner means I'm his gf and he doesn't want that, so he's not following through.
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sounds great then !
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
why in the hell are you cooking for his ass? lol no no honey
I am actually stopped lmao just a while ago. Imagining man come, eats, goes...
Doesn’t even fuck— Wtf? Where is ‘W’ stands for ‘where’?
Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollowYour doing too much for someone who isn't your man. Chill.
this....sounds like you're being taken for granted/used....if there is no reciprocity of affection, mutual respect, etc., time to move on, regardless of chemistry you feel....always been my experience that Cancer men and women will typically give equally, if not more so, if the love is strong for them....
Yeah I'm at that point now where I'm like hmmm nothing has changed since January. We've known each other for about two years too... It's not like I just met the guy. He already knows me pretty well.
Seems its just not there for him romantically, and like you're basically courting the guy, and I think, with Cancer men especially, that's kinda backwards. I'd back way off if I were you....
Yeah... And tbh the stagnation is causing me to lose interest. I'm taking a few steps back and stopping the sex (even though it's incredible).
I feel for you on that....everyone is different, but I've always been super old fashioned in that regard....sex is super important to me, but I know it just bonds me so strongly to the other person, that I never go there unless I am 100% sure, and the commitment and love goes both ways with someone....I would kill the sex too, if I felt that those other areas were lacking....I saw the word "demisexual" used on here recently, and I think I'm that. Its hard enough to heal having to detach emotionally, mentally, etc. If all that other chemistry is strong for you, and then the sex is good and regular on top of that, I think its much worse than going through severe opiate withdrawals (which I've experienced), if you have to break up....
I was blinded by the chemistry we have. I felt it when we were just friends and just assumed when we were both single again, we would end up together naturally. But actually nothing about it feels natural now, it feels like he is holding back or not saying something. I'm just a friend to him, despite the intimacy we've shared and the things I've done for him... He never tells me how he feels, whereas I'm the type that wants to gush. With him I have to hold it in-- And it's starting to hurt. Because at the moment that I wanted to say "I love you", I felt too afraid. I felt like he wouldn't react the right way, like he wouldn't say it back, or like he would say it but not mean it... just the energy in the air... And that really hurt me because I thought wow I've come so far with this guy, I've let him get to me this close, and look I'm standing here all alone... I am too sensitive I guess.
Ok so I read more and you are quite involved with this Cancer - he offered to take you out and yet you said no. He takes care of you when you are sick. You want things to escalate but maybe he isn't ready yet. And then there is this Aqua - so you need to decide what you want - go one way, not two - Aqua is an ex-thing friend whatever hanging around going no where fast or a chance to make it with the Cancer guy IF you can find the words and speak to him about where he thinks ya'll are headed because you got feels and do NOT want to get hurt again. You must air this out. And stop with the Aqua tease nothing guy.
The Aqua and I are friends. Believe me, I'm not doing anything to encourage him. When he says things like that I literally don't respond. The only way to get him to stop would be blocking him on all social media and blocking his number. He did something that broke my trust when we were together, and I can't take him back because of that, and he knows it, yet still tries. I think with time, he will stop.
And I didn't say no to the Cancer. I said yes actually. But it still hasn't happened.
well you need to know if you can trust him because it sounds a tad shady that he doesn't want to go out in public with you
Oh God. We go out in public. We go to art shows, to museums, we go shopping for clothes, he even went grocery shopping with me one morning (he asked if he could come, I said uh okay). I don't know, maybe in his mind taking me to dinner means I'm his gf and he doesn't want that, so he's not following through.
sounds great then !
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You kidding right? 🤣🤣💦
Posted by taurusgirl9000
Any other single Taureans out there moping around?I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...
how long have you been doing this with the Cancer man ?
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What do you mean ‘this’... feeding? Sorry I can’t help it...
Posted by Reincarnation
Try talking to a Scorp.
I tried once. It was actually too intense to be a practical relationship.
It's true, I've always felt like I was born to love us taureans truly love like no other it's unique. I don't believe any sign can beat us in the love department. I feel like without love in your life is meaningless and empty. True love is one of best thing we can experience in life and everyone should have it in their lives.
Posted by LentoBull91
It's true, I've always felt like I was born to love us taureans truly love like no other it's unique. I don't believe any sign can beat us in the love department. I feel like without love in your life is meaningless and empty. True love is one of best thing we can experience in life and everyone should have it in their lives.Aries/Libra axis is close enough to Scorpio/Taurus. These 2 are all about love and passion.
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I have Scorpio rising and a Scorpio Mars, which makes me intense about things overall. I either am with you or not, it’s in my nature unfortunately...
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Any other single Taureans out there moping around?
I am seeing someone (a Cancer) and really interested in pursuing it but he's taking a long time to commit to even being my boyfriend... I cook him dinner every weekend, never ask him to pay for what I make, and he keeps coming back. It's starting to feel hollow... We text every day but it's like there's no damn emotion..
Lately I have been feeling kind of depressed about it.
Meanwhile my Aquarius ex is texting me every day telling me how much he loves me, asking to take me to dinner, asking if we can go on trips...
I just want someone to love, that loves me, that I can be open with and isn't afraid to show me how they feel.
Anyone else experiencing this? I honestly feel that without love in my life, it's so empty and meaningless...