Well, that's it with Mr Taurus. I think. (Page 2)

"enjoy being single!"

LOL!

ooops I said right winger and meant right fighter...thanks for the correction

yeah, pretty much what you said initially.

it took me a long time to get a handle on "he has his perspective too" and i'm still working on it. point being, if you want to be with someone long-term, right or wrong, you have to learn how to deescalate conflicts rather than fuel them.

My bull did something very similar to this about one or two months ago. I texted him earlier in the day asking if he wanted to get together after he got off work. He works late into the night, but that's usually no issue to us. So, I'm off work, with a friend, waiting to here from him. Nothing. He's usually pretty good about getting back to me, but he has his moments. At about 1 or 2am, I'm pissed, hurt, peeved, you name it. I'm usually easy going, but tonight, I was just over it. I knew I wanted to yell at him for pulling a dick move and not even texting me, but instead, I just took a shower, went to bed, and waited. I knew that If I didn't sleep on it, I would have said something I regretted.

The next morning/afternoon when I wasn't as pissed, I sent him a single text. I said, "I understand that you're busy and work late into the night, and I'm not even upset if we can't get together, but the least you could have done was let me know nothing was happening." I didn't get to say this to his face, but apparently the text was enough. He immediately texted back, apologized, and his behavior changed that night. From then on, he let's me know when plans fall through or just keeping me updated in general.

I have to agree, your bull pulled a dick move. Guys (and gals) do that. But I was most upset by the language and just the way you blew up. It's easy to get angry when people are being inconsiderate, but if your bull has been pulling mistakes like this for a while, it shouldn't have blown up over something like this.

Caligula, I enjoy being single very much so thanks for that.

If right fighter is the name, then I'll take it. My patience and tolerance level is too low to explain basic ish to people. I mean, this is relationship 101 stuff that a man should know. As far as my stance being productive, I'm not the type that would care at that point.

But this IS about NZ, and it doesn't seem that she wants the break-up, so I agree that hopefully they smooth it all over.

Why did he read her texts, knows she is getting upset, and then doesn't answer them? And....how does anyone know where he really was? He told her he would be late on a case...she believes him...gets dinner and is waiting. Why can't he understand that she is just pissed off and felt he was not being sensitive to her feelings? Just because she acted impulsively, sounded petty, etc. Why couldn't he see she was upset and save his rant for the next day— Why does NZ have to be the bigger person and he gets off the hook.? uggh...

Nope...he is wrong too and should realize that BOTH men and women act pissy sometimes and he should not be threatening a break-up over it. Or making it look like its all her. Bullshit, who knows where he was anyway?

exactly! that's why in addition to txt read receipts, she needs to put a tracking device on his phone.

LOL!@tracking device on phone...unbelievable

@Bullshit, who knows where he was anyway? Glad you said it, possibly why she called him a prick

Like I said, there's more to the story than what's been told. So we can only provide advice based on what she said happened. Maybe he wasn't really working on a case, but we don't know this because she didn't say she had her doubts whether he was or not.

Posted by caligula
exactly! that's why in addition to txt read receipts, she needs to put a tracking device on his phone.

Lol