Why?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by SirHorns on Wednesday, April 22, 2015 and has 7 replies.

Why Do Some People Endure Abusive or Controlling Relationships

People may stay in abusive or controlling relationships due to fear, emotional attachment, low self-esteem, or hope for change. Understanding these reasons can help recognize unhealthy patterns and seek support to prioritize safety and well-being.

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Do some of you bull put up with down right abusive treatment from lovers?
Or borderline stuff like overly controlling ones?

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Loyalty. Soft hearted .'commitment. Lasting quality. For better for worst.... I weight down thHe great and the bad though. I walked out of an abusive relarionship before n never regretted it..... silent treatment if u really cut the line

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Posted by saweetz1988
Loyalty. Soft hearted .'commitment. Lasting quality. For better for worst.... I weight down thHe great and the bad though. I walked out of an abusive relarionship before n never regretted it..... silent treatment if u really cut the line

Hmm no wonder a previous Bull went silent on me so many times. I was so patient though and it was a great, long-lasting relationship. I feel bad now, like I should be put in time out or something.

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Posted by INTJBull
I agree with the others. I always say I'm stupidly loyal. I give way too many chances because I hate cutting people out of my life and because I realize I'm not perfect, I don't expect anyone else to be so I'm good at overlooking/forgiving certain things. (NOT cheating or physical abuse) As far as the borderline stuff like being controlling goes, It depends what that looks like. If it comes in the form of being possessive I can put up with that because I'm possessive myself so I get it.

Same....I don't mind being controlled as long as I can control you too. lol.

Depends on the type of control. If someone wants to know where I'm going, what I'm doing all the time, who I am with, doesn't want me around a bunch of other women unless they know them....I don't mind really. That type of jealous control I am ok with. Firstly, I feel like I kinda need a woman to look out for me in that way. I've gotten myself into trouble just being too friendly and I don't really trust myself all that much. Secondly, I just enjoy when a woman is jealous. To me, jealousy for me = passion for me.

If a woman has to control other aspects of my life though - if she wants to control how I spend my time, takes from time contributed to creative outlets, passions in life, time with my daughter, etc. *That* kind of control I won't tolerate at all. Also, if a woman tries to cut off my male friends, I won't allow that (though at one time I did). I feel any partner I'm with should have a healthy social circle, and should allow me to have mine.

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I see.
I was wondering if it was sun only but...yeah.

Taurus Placements: Rock-Solid in devotion, even when covered in cracks.

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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by INTJBull
I agree with the others. I always say I'm stupidly loyal. I give way too many chances because I hate cutting people out of my life and because I realize I'm not perfect, I don't expect anyone else to be so I'm good at overlooking/forgiving certain things. (NOT cheating or physical abuse) As far as the borderline stuff like being controlling goes, It depends what that looks like. If it comes in the form of being possessive I can put up with that because I'm possessive myself so I get it.

Same....I don't mind being controlled as long as I can control you too. lol.

Depends on the type of control. If someone wants to know where I'm going, what I'm doing all the time, who I am with, doesn't want me around a bunch of other women unless they know them....I don't mind really. That type of jealous control I am ok with. Firstly, I feel like I kinda need a woman to look out for me in that way. I've gotten myself into trouble just being too friendly and I don't really trust myself all that much. Secondly, I just enjoy when a woman is jealous. To me, jealousy for me = passion for me.

If a woman has to control other aspects of my life though - if she wants to control how I spend my time, takes from time contributed to creative outlets, passions in life, time with my daughter, etc. *That* kind of control I won't tolerate at all. Also, if a woman tries to cut off my male friends, I won't allow that (though at one time I did). I feel any partner I'm with should have a healthy social circle, and should allow me to have mine.

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It's your gem venus. I am guilty of such.... Hehe