SagittariusXO
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Why did he seem so heartless...... H E L P
He'd stay if there was a steak coming.
@Mr_Pinchy
he had eaten two slices of BOMB pizza at the place before he asked to leave. so i don't think food would have worked otherwise I would have told him to eat a #Snickers
he had eaten two slices of BOMB pizza at the place before he asked to leave. so i don't think food would have worked otherwise I would have told him to eat a #Snickers
@Impulsv
this i know. i Hate it.
will i ever learn how to deal with this? will he ever learn how to deal with this? can we compromise?
it gives me pain and sad feeling in my chest, honestly.
this i know. i Hate it.
will i ever learn how to deal with this? will he ever learn how to deal with this? can we compromise?
it gives me pain and sad feeling in my chest, honestly.
Posted by sagittariusxo
@Mr_Pinchy
he had eaten two slices of BOMB pizza at the place before he asked to leave. so i don't think food would have worked otherwise I would have told him to eat a #Snickers
Posted by Smidgeseriously because things are so unresolved on my end
Shoulda just let him leave " k bye"
and im not confident enough to say he isn't going to act like that again
i am totally repaired to just say, if you wanna leave you can and ill just uber it home ...
i would hate to forces you to do anything that you don't want to.... like compromise staying 40 more minutes with a smile on your face.
so upsetting, truely
Posted by WarAngel1i say me telling him how i was feeling at the moment of feeling it was my fault - caused him to get angry and defensive.
As with all fixed signs, when we get a bug up our ass, we're difficult to be with. Give it some time and let him come to you.
The same way he can be a statue and an asshole, ask yourself if you didn't do anything to set it off besides your request.
maybe because i was off talking to people i had just met and not paying enough attention to him, he just wanted to go so that he can have all to myself.... i know that sounds like im full of myself but i honestly feel like that could have been it. he is definitely possessive and needing of attention when he isn't getting it.
i also called him out on his traits.... "your being stubborn"
but he denied me love... that's like emotional abuse. for someone to go in for a kiss, in your face and for them not to even look at you or kiss you back. my Scorpio mother used to do that to me as a child and it is such a trigger for me.
Don’t be the first to reach out. Let his stubborn ass stew in this bratty funk until he’s ready to come around with an apology.
Only male who ever acted that way with me was a Taurus also. It was so annoying! I mean I know people can not like a place, but get over it for less than an hour?! I would do it for you!
It didn’t work out. He constantly put me in a cage I didn’t want to be in. It got tiring.
It didn’t work out. He constantly put me in a cage I didn’t want to be in. It got tiring.
Posted by Redbull
I mean...it can be like that sometimes. Dont necessarily think any sign is immune from wanting to leave a place at a particular time or maybe not wanna go somewhere or maybe wanna go somewhere...I guess your question is why did the feelings seem to continue cant really say except to say sometimes that type of thing can happen.
touché...
i just don't like the public display that occurred. i didn't like that he was stone face man instead of boyfriend taking one for the team . i didn't like that he denied me kisses and i didn't like how rained on my parade.
hmps.
Posted by Shadowcatthat was a comment he made too..
Your bf is a child.
" you treat me like a child" and i told him he was projecting because he is acting like a child.
Posted by Shadowcatthat was a comment he made too..
Your bf is a child.
" you treat me like a child" and i told him he was projecting because he is acting like a child.
Posted by Impulsvgirl, i ask myself this a lot.
They tend to be my way or the highway
They think saying to a compromise and make u pay for it is compromise lol
Imagine a lifetime of this
Ok this is a little issue imagine a bigger issue
Is he going to be able to bend/flexible compromise, apologize ,communicate
All requirement you need for a successful marriage—
still not sure if there will be a forever. im no convinced
i hope there is a forever but right now it just right now still.
Posted by Impulsvgirl, i ask myself this a lot.
They tend to be my way or the highway
They think saying to a compromise and make u pay for it is compromise lol
Imagine a lifetime of this
Ok this is a little issue imagine a bigger issue
Is he going to be able to bend/flexible compromise, apologize ,communicate
All requirement you need for a successful marriage—
still not sure if there will be a forever. im not convinced
i hope there is a forever but right now it just right now still.
Posted by euphony
Only male who ever acted that way with me was a Taurus also. It was so annoying! I mean I know people can not like a place, but get over it for less than an hour?! I would do it for you!
It didn’t work out. He constantly put me in a cage I didn’t want to be in. It got tiring.
yup. classic Sag/Taurus Textbook Dynamic.
i'm hoping there is a way around that.
it makes my love very confusing.
Posted by WarAngel1i fear that he will get defensive.Posted by sagittariusxoPosted by WarAngel1
As with all fixed signs, when we get a bug up our ass, we're difficult to be with. Give it some time and let him come to you.
The same way he can be a statue and an asshole, ask yourself if you didn't do anything to set it off besides your request.
i say me telling him how i was feeling at the moment of feeling it was my fault - caused him to get angry and defensive.
maybe because i was off talking to people i had just met and not paying enough attention to him, he just wanted to go so that he can have all to myself.... i know that sounds like im full of myself but i honestly feel like that could have been it. he is definitely possessive and needing of attention when he isn't getting it.
i also called him out on his traits.... "your being stubborn"
but he denied me love... that's like emotional abuse. for someone to go in for a kiss, in your face and for them not to even look at you or kiss you back. my Scorpio mother used to do that to me as a child and it is such a trigger for me. click to expand
Do you think maybe, you could articulate this to him once he's cooled off? Maybe you'd be surprised about what he has to say when he opens up. The hallmark of any good relationship is communication.
As a fellow fixed sign I'm curious to see how this plays out.click to expand
he will take it so personally. his feelings will be hurt.
he wont look at is as me, a person who loves him asking him how im suppose to deal with things like that.
and to add to it.... i can bring this up and he wont know what to say in the moment.... and it will take so long for him to figure it out that when he finally know what to say it will feel like a dead subject.... water under the bridge... he wont bring it up. ill just be left hoping that he figured something out that will benefit us and not just him....
that's what i think could and would happen. but ill let you know how it goes.,
Posted by UnicornSag
Well you're dealing with fixed sign so that sounds pretty normal. What you should have done was to leave him be instead of trying to make him happy about staying longer. He already compromised to stay so you should have just let him be and ignore that grumpy face and since you couldn't make him change it you became agitated and that made the real problem. So basically options are - stay without him, let him leave when he wants; let him sulk and ignore if he accepted to stay or leave with him when he wanted to go.
truth bombbbb...
ok...im going to let this soak. thank you UnicornSag.
Typical Taurus men behavior.. unless they are head over heels in love with you, it’s his way or no way
Posted by sagittariusxo
maybe because i was off talking to people i had just met and not paying enough attention to him, he just wanted to go so that he can have all to myself.... i know that sounds like im full of myself but i honestly feel like that could have been it. he is definitely possessive and needing of attention when he isn't getting it.
but he denied me love... that's like emotional abuse. for someone to go in for a kiss, in your face and for them not to even look at you or kiss you back. my Scorpio mother used to do that to me as a child and it is such a trigger for me. click to expand
Have you told him any of this? Maybe if he is aware of exactly how much his behavior had hurt you, he'd learn to be more mindful and less emotionally reactive in the future. You've heard it before, but communication is key. You should discuss and communicate what each of you expect in situations like this, so there's less room for disappointment. I think he was just having a petty moment and didn't realize how much impact it had on you.
Also, don't make assumptions. Ask him why he reacted the way he did. Did he feel ignored? Was something else bothering him? If he still feels his reaction was justified, then tell him it isn't something you'll stand for it. You can't have that kind of disrespect and negativity in your life. Those are the kind of things that kill relationships.
class="bqexpand"> Posted by ImpulsvNo, I’m actually a Libra. I have a Sag Mars though.Posted by euphony
Only male who ever acted that way with me was a Taurus also. It was so annoying! I mean I know people can not like a place, but get over it for less than an hour?! I would do it for you!
It didn’t work out. He constantly put me in a cage I didn’t want to be in. It got tiring.
Are u a sag too? click to expandclick to expand
class="bqexpand"> Posted by sagittariusxoI’m actually a Libra. Maybe it’s my Sag mars? But I can identify with this a lot.Posted by euphony
Only male who ever acted that way with me was a Taurus also. It was so annoying! I mean I know people can not like a place, but get over it for less than an hour?! I would do it for you!
It didn’t work out. He constantly put me in a cage I didn’t want to be in. It got tiring.
yup. classic Sag/Taurus Textbook Dynamic.
i'm hoping there is a way around that.
it makes my love very confusing.
click to expandclick to expand
i also think you are making a lot of assumptions here. you actually don't know why he wanted to leave.
and you denied him your love also when you stayed on the sofa.
but i think you also have bigger issues here. you guys have a pattern and you have felt in the past that he is unreliable and selfish. it just seems that this is another one of those examples.
i wish i knew what the solution was here.
the "you treat me like a child" line would worry me. do you? do you scold him like a mother would? you've said in the past that you can be controlling and given he is younger and you already have a child, have you slipped into that dynamic? that's hard to break if you don't trust in his dependability. mixed that with a petulant and stubborn taurus and you're going to have spats that resemble tantrums.
and you denied him your love also when you stayed on the sofa.
but i think you also have bigger issues here. you guys have a pattern and you have felt in the past that he is unreliable and selfish. it just seems that this is another one of those examples.
i wish i knew what the solution was here.
the "you treat me like a child" line would worry me. do you? do you scold him like a mother would? you've said in the past that you can be controlling and given he is younger and you already have a child, have you slipped into that dynamic? that's hard to break if you don't trust in his dependability. mixed that with a petulant and stubborn taurus and you're going to have spats that resemble tantrums.
Posted by confuzzledcapWell that will be the challenge.
Tauruses are just generally super stubborn, and if they don't get stuff their way they can throw a fit, a nature of a fixed sign. Just let him cool down and give it time, he'll soften up.
its a vibe killer when the on you love is CHOOSING to be unhappy.
I live life by choosing happy. but I suppose this is what ill have to learn
Sounds like he was being a bit pouty, but other than that, I don't see what the problem was.
You asked him to stay and compromise, and he did. Wanting him to smile, dance, and catch kisses in the process just seems like too much of dictating how he should not only stay, but also act to make you happy after the initial compromise.
Again he was being pouty,
but you even said that you were enjoying the conversation of someone new you met, so I thought you would have went back over and continued the convo. Seems you had branched out from him early, so he wasn't a part of the reason you wanted to stay. Why not go have fun and leave him be how you did before?
You asked him to stay and compromise, and he did. Wanting him to smile, dance, and catch kisses in the process just seems like too much of dictating how he should not only stay, but also act to make you happy after the initial compromise.
Again he was being pouty,
but you even said that you were enjoying the conversation of someone new you met, so I thought you would have went back over and continued the convo. Seems you had branched out from him early, so he wasn't a part of the reason you wanted to stay. Why not go have fun and leave him be how you did before?
Posted by sierra_help me understand how I thought about myself?
yeah but did you care about how HE felt?
i'm not a fan of fixed signs but all you thought about was yourself
ktnxbye
aside from wanting to stay when he wanted to go home and me asking for 40 more minutes. COMPROMISE
ill also add it was his idea to go out that night not mine, but i'm a go with the flow Sagittarius. I also paid $ 30 for the ticket to see the show. the headliner didn't even go on until 12 midnight so we paid to leave before the show technically.
ill wait....
Posted by sierra_help me understand how I thought about myself?
yeah but did you care about how HE felt?
i'm not a fan of fixed signs but all you thought about was yourself
ktnxbye
aside from wanting to stay when he wanted to go home and me asking for 40 more minutes. COMPROMISE
ill also add it was his idea to go out that night not mine, but i'm a go with the flow Sagittarius. I also paid $ 30 for the ticket to see the show. the headliner didn't even go on until 12 midnight so we paid to leave before the show technically.
ill wait....
Posted by sierra_help me understand how I thought about myself?
yeah but did you care about how HE felt?
i'm not a fan of fixed signs but all you thought about was yourself
ktnxbye
aside from wanting to stay when he wanted to go home and me asking for 40 more minutes. COMPROMISE
ill also add it was his idea to go out that night not mine, but i'm a go with the flow Sagittarius. I also paid $ 30 for the ticket to see the show. the headliner didn't even go on until 12 midnight so we paid to leave before the show technically.
ill wait....
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YOU! Taurus man, do you do this ?
YOU! Taurus how am i suppose to deal with you when you act like this?
YOU! Taurus, tell me something that is going to help me move past this, deal with this or understand this.
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