E. M. Henderson
@Emhendo
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I Don't Relate
-Other than that.......
Don't get me started on gay clubs.
I would never go to one.. It feel desperate to me... It's like online dating but worse.. I just don't like looking at other lesbians. I like femmes... But I don't like lookin at other butches... PFFFTFTT.. Shit, I just don't.
That place be crawling with them, and that's the point... But I don't wanna be around they ass. They go there lookin for bitches. Place be packed full of studs and gay men. No beautiful femme girl that's not in her slut/bisexual phase would show up to a gay bar. Every woman there would be slutty, simply curious, or there with her actual gay friends.
Like my cousin...
She dates men exclusively, but attends gay clubs with her friends. At the same time, she's has wondered stupid ass shit about gay people, has said mean shit about gay people, and so on.. One day her and my other cousin's baby momma was in the kitchen talking about attending a lingerie party.
Talking mad shit about how it's so gay, it's a bunch of bitches in their underwear and lingerie, half naked, titties out, booty bouncing... Saying they don't understand how women could do some gay shit..
Then turned to me and asked me "what do ya'll get out of that?" ... I looked at both they ignorant asses and walked away.
They both went to the damn lingerie party. My cousin got gay friends, goes to gay bars, does some gay shit.. But is a bitch about the subject.
And either she's just really fake and only wants something to do... Or she's really fake and is secretly bisexual or something and scared to come out.. We been calling her bisexual for years, but she ain't never gonna say it.
Also, she is my stepcousin.. I feel got a thing for me sometimes.
But as far a gay bars...
I think there would be a few femmes who are there to have fun, make connections, and meet someone.. Especially if she is new to being open about her sexuality. But that's very rare.
Most genuine femmes would not attend gay clubs. They hate them too.
A femme told me she hates gay clubs are bars because nobody engages until they get pretty drunk... At that point it becomes obnoxious.
Shouldn't nobody need liquor courage to have a conversation.
It's shit like that.. That gives studs and shit a bad name, cuz that's who she was talking about.
Other butches kind of make me hate being butch... Shit, I even hate the fuckin word. I don't call myself this.
I find other butches to be the some of biggest simps. They have super-beta behavior, very insecure in relationships, sacrificial for one woman, and easy to please... And that is why some femme women decide to sleep with men. They get confused by the beta behavior their partner has. Not that men are any different, cuz there are many beta males than people realize that exist.. But a man that's just lookin to fuck - would be very much appealing to a femme than her needy girlfriend. Since she is attracted to masculine energy and enjoys penetration anyway.. That's why it happens.
I have a stud cousin on my father's side. Actually two studs cousins, they are twins.
One of them got married... My cousin had only been with the woman for one year before marrying her. Met her on a dating app and lost her fuckin mind... She had been living in a nice basement apartment for like 3-4 years before she got kicked out. Why did she get kicked out? Well, she's a nurse and part of her lease was to take care of the elderly woman upstairs - the landlord's wife. Getting paid good money to basically work from home, got Christmas and holiday bonuses.. She just couldn't have too much company and nobody could live there with her. For years we were very lowkey when I visited my cousin's place..
Knowing this, she moves her new girlfriend into the home and her girlfriend's 7 kids... I forgot to mention she is a mother. My cousin's wife had has 6-7 kids. I'm not kidding... Moved the pets in, all the rabbits, ferrets, cats, puppies, camels and mooses..
My cousin just fucking let loose and stopped giving a fuck about the lease policy, all for this one girl.. All over some love, attention, and pussy.. Lost her damn home.
Ended up living at her new girlfriend's apartment... Come to find out, ain't no heat or gas there and that's why she was at my cousin's house.
Me and my other cousin (the other twin) use to talk mad shit together... I'm not gonna lie..
It was obvious the girl is using my cousin, and she likes dick... Bitch got fucked enough to have 7 kids. A few different men too. They are still together till this day... I don't count for it very long, and that ain't me being a dick and having no faith in anyone's shit..
It's just all the red flags are there.
My cousin made it too easy for the woman.
I think the girl only still with my cousin 'cause maybe she got a bit of a heart, feels trapped, and knows how much was invested. She needed a beta provider for her children. If women can't settle for the alpha (all the men that knocked her up and left her ass), they will take a beta provider.. Even going gay to get it..
And that's the simp behavior butch/studs display often times...
Ready to lose it all for some pussy or just too easy for these bitches.. Spending, lending, being used..
Even ran up ya little cousins's (me) credit for that bitch... She asked me when I was 19 could I put the gas in my name (her girlfriend's apartment had no gas, as mentioned)... My dumbass did it for $ 50 bucks. I am in debt by a couple thousand thanks to my cousin and her simp ass behavior. Fucked your little cousin into debt for that skank.. If I was who I am today back then, it would have been a huge no.
On another note, a femme probably gets the shit beat out on them or repeatedly cheated on.. And the femme can't leave the stud alone because of their own personal validation issues..
I can't go too deep into, but I've seen it with own two eyes... My ex-girlfriends being stuck on an ex before me.. Or I've been the cheater...
Lesbian relationships are very complicated, and I'm just not interested in a relationship right now...
They cause a lot of attention.. They get awkward at times. Your girlfriend may not know what she fuck she's doing She may not know how to make you happy... How to please you.. (Is why I talk about training women, and I encourage men to train, set-up, and groom women to be their girlfriends).
Just... If my momma didn't love me the way she loves me, if I wasn't in school pursuing my purpose... If I didn't have dreams and aspirations.. If I was not an attractive individual..
This shit would be for the birds. I would probably want to die.
Don't get me started on gay clubs.
I would never go to one.. It feel desperate to me... It's like online dating but worse.. I just don't like looking at other lesbians. I like femmes... But I don't like lookin at other butches... PFFFTFTT.. Shit, I just don't.
That place be crawling with them, and that's the point... But I don't wanna be around they ass. They go there lookin for bitches. Place be packed full of studs and gay men. No beautiful femme girl that's not in her slut/bisexual phase would show up to a gay bar. Every woman there would be slutty, simply curious, or there with her actual gay friends.
Like my cousin...
She dates men exclusively, but attends gay clubs with her friends. At the same time, she's has wondered stupid ass shit about gay people, has said mean shit about gay people, and so on.. One day her and my other cousin's baby momma was in the kitchen talking about attending a lingerie party.
Talking mad shit about how it's so gay, it's a bunch of bitches in their underwear and lingerie, half naked, titties out, booty bouncing... Saying they don't understand how women could do some gay shit..
Then turned to me and asked me "what do ya'll get out of that?" ... I looked at both they ignorant asses and walked away.
They both went to the damn lingerie party. My cousin got gay friends, goes to gay bars, does some gay shit.. But is a bitch about the subject.
And either she's just really fake and only wants something to do... Or she's really fake and is secretly bisexual or something and scared to come out.. We been calling her bisexual for years, but she ain't never gonna say it.
Also, she is my stepcousin.. I feel got a thing for me sometimes.
But as far a gay bars...
I think there would be a few femmes who are there to have fun, make connections, and meet someone.. Especially if she is new to being open about her sexuality. But that's very rare.
Most genuine femmes would not attend gay clubs. They hate them too.
A femme told me she hates gay clubs are bars because nobody engages until they get pretty drunk... At that point it becomes obnoxious.
Shouldn't nobody need liquor courage to have a conversation.
It's shit like that.. That gives studs and shit a bad name, cuz that's who she was talking about.
Other butches kind of make me hate being butch... Shit, I even hate the fuckin word. I don't call myself this.
I find other butches to be the some of biggest simps. They have super-beta behavior, very insecure in relationships, sacrificial for one woman, and easy to please... And that is why some femme women decide to sleep with men. They get confused by the beta behavior their partner has. Not that men are any different, cuz there are many beta males than people realize that exist.. But a man that's just lookin to fuck - would be very much appealing to a femme than her needy girlfriend. Since she is attracted to masculine energy and enjoys penetration anyway.. That's why it happens.
I have a stud cousin on my father's side. Actually two studs cousins, they are twins.
One of them got married... My cousin had only been with the woman for one year before marrying her. Met her on a dating app and lost her fuckin mind... She had been living in a nice basement apartment for like 3-4 years before she got kicked out. Why did she get kicked out? Well, she's a nurse and part of her lease was to take care of the elderly woman upstairs - the landlord's wife. Getting paid good money to basically work from home, got Christmas and holiday bonuses.. She just couldn't have too much company and nobody could live there with her. For years we were very lowkey when I visited my cousin's place..
Knowing this, she moves her new girlfriend into the home and her girlfriend's 7 kids... I forgot to mention she is a mother. My cousin's wife had has 6-7 kids. I'm not kidding... Moved the pets in, all the rabbits, ferrets, cats, puppies, camels and mooses..
My cousin just fucking let loose and stopped giving a fuck about the lease policy, all for this one girl.. All over some love, attention, and pussy.. Lost her damn home.
Ended up living at her new girlfriend's apartment... Come to find out, ain't no heat or gas there and that's why she was at my cousin's house.
Me and my other cousin (the other twin) use to talk mad shit together... I'm not gonna lie..
It was obvious the girl is using my cousin, and she likes dick... Bitch got fucked enough to have 7 kids. A few different men too. They are still together till this day... I don't count for it very long, and that ain't me being a dick and having no faith in anyone's shit..
It's just all the red flags are there.
My cousin made it too easy for the woman.
I think the girl only still with my cousin 'cause maybe she got a bit of a heart, feels trapped, and knows how much was invested. She needed a beta provider for her children. If women can't settle for the alpha (all the men that knocked her up and left her ass), they will take a beta provider.. Even going gay to get it..
And that's the simp behavior butch/studs display often times...
Ready to lose it all for some pussy or just too easy for these bitches.. Spending, lending, being used..
Even ran up ya little cousins's (me) credit for that bitch... She asked me when I was 19 could I put the gas in my name (her girlfriend's apartment had no gas, as mentioned)... My dumbass did it for $ 50 bucks. I am in debt by a couple thousand thanks to my cousin and her simp ass behavior. Fucked your little cousin into debt for that skank.. If I was who I am today back then, it would have been a huge no.
On another note, a femme probably gets the shit beat out on them or repeatedly cheated on.. And the femme can't leave the stud alone because of their own personal validation issues..
I can't go too deep into, but I've seen it with own two eyes... My ex-girlfriends being stuck on an ex before me.. Or I've been the cheater...
Lesbian relationships are very complicated, and I'm just not interested in a relationship right now...
They cause a lot of attention.. They get awkward at times. Your girlfriend may not know what she fuck she's doing She may not know how to make you happy... How to please you.. (Is why I talk about training women, and I encourage men to train, set-up, and groom women to be their girlfriends).
Just... If my momma didn't love me the way she loves me, if I wasn't in school pursuing my purpose... If I didn't have dreams and aspirations.. If I was not an attractive individual..
This shit would be for the birds. I would probably want to die.
Posted by Black-Mamba
TDLR
but i hate that gay people jacked the Rainbow too
what is a straight people flag?
Shut up.
Personally I think it's fine if someone cares that much about their sexuality. I call myself bi, I have pride in that, but it's not all I am. But I get why to others it's more of a big deal, especially if maybe they grew up and felt unsafe to identify themselves. I imagine for them it's freedom, and I respect that.
I do think it's odd you find it cringe but you seem to be fine with more rigid or stereotypical gender norms and roles. To me that's much more cringeful lol.
Also how do feel about your gender beyond you think it'd be easier to be a dude? Like if you could wake up tomorrow as a man biologically would you be ok living like that forever?
I do think it's odd you find it cringe but you seem to be fine with more rigid or stereotypical gender norms and roles. To me that's much more cringeful lol.
Also how do feel about your gender beyond you think it'd be easier to be a dude? Like if you could wake up tomorrow as a man biologically would you be ok living like that forever?
Omg this is a fucking novel. Lol.
I just want to know if you’re a clingy cancer? I seriously had no clue you were a cancer. Thought you were a Virgo all this time.
I just want to know if you’re a clingy cancer? I seriously had no clue you were a cancer. Thought you were a Virgo all this time.
This was a really raw and evocative piece of writing. Thank you for sharing it.
Would you ever consider gender reassignment surgery?
Would you ever consider gender reassignment surgery?
I just read the last part. So people mix you up here and say “Man” this and that. I’ve talked with you and said Women, blah blah blah. And that was offensive?
Posted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
I was wondering if you were in a same sex relationship. I didn't know your gender but from your comments it just came off that way.
It seems like the reason you hate being called a lesbian comes from the fact you may not like how that word may effect how other people perceive you. It shouldn't be that way, if you don't want a label, great. But I think that decision should be based on how you feel only. Anyone else's opinion doesn't matter.
Cause speaking for myself, I would love to have the opportunity to tell people I have a gf!😎
Posted by Prince_PiscesPosted by Emhendo
To gay people.
I prefer to identify by my hobbies and interest rather than my sexuality.
I must have missed something because I thought this was all gay people. Straight people are the ones who put our sexuality before anything else, but that's their problem.
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Well, you did miss something...
Cuz I wasn't talking about me, but how people address me.. To others - I'm Emhendo, the lesbian ..Or some shit...
Posted by torothebull02Posted by FireStarterPosted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
I was wondering if you were in a same sex relationship. I didn't know your gender but from your comments it just came off that way.
It seems like the reason you hate being called a lesbian comes from the fact you may not like how that word may effect how other people perceive you. It shouldn't be that way, if you don't want a label, great. But I think that decision should be based on how you feel only. Anyone else's opinion doesn't matter.
Cause speaking for myself, I would love to have the opportunity to tell people I have a gf!😎
yes im a woman lol
you raise a valid point but how can i train myself to not let other people's opinion bother me? it is something i struggle with outside of my family.
are you a woman as well attacted to women?click to expand
I knew it! *Fist pump*
Well if it's something you naturally struggle with, I think it'll take time bit I recommend doing some soul searching, asking yourself why other people's opinions should bother you. Maybe ask and talk about it with a friend or family member who can share their experiences. There's also plenty of books, videos, and forums that can give really good advice. And here are a few (imo) basic things to remind yourself of.
1. Self love and respect. It's hard sometimes, we all have insecurities. But you need to remember being true to yourself is how you will find happiness. And the things that are a part of you, like your sexuality, like your talents and passions are wonderful and should never be shamed by anyone.
2. This is your life not anyone else's. We've got a short time here, even if each one of us is fortunate to live a long life. Don't waste your time trying to please others at the expense of yourself. People will always find a reason to judge you. Better you ignore it and ask yourself "am I happy, the way I am?" if so then keep smiling.
3. Don't feed into that negativity. The 'what will they think's' can be toxic and cause anxiety. Its better to focus on the positives and think of the people who wouldn't judge you.
And yes I'm a woman with a strong preference for other women.😁
Posted by torothebull02Posted by FireStarterPosted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
I was wondering if you were in a same sex relationship. I didn't know your gender but from your comments it just came off that way.
It seems like the reason you hate being called a lesbian comes from the fact you may not like how that word may effect how other people perceive you. It shouldn't be that way, if you don't want a label, great. But I think that decision should be based on how you feel only. Anyone else's opinion doesn't matter.
Cause speaking for myself, I would love to have the opportunity to tell people I have a gf!😎
yes im a woman lol
you raise a valid point but how can i train myself to not let other people's opinion bother me? it is something i struggle with outside of my family.
are you a woman as well attacted to women?click to expand
Just a suggestion - have you considered taking your gf for a short holiday to the Greek island of Lesbos?
Posted by Emhendo
-Other than that.......
Don't get me started on gay clubs.
I would never go to one.. It feel desperate to me... It's like online dating but worse.. I just don't like looking at other lesbians. I like femmes... But I don't like lookin at other butches... PFFFTFTT.. Shit, I just don't.
That place be crawling with them, and that's the point... But I don't wanna be around they ass. They go there lookin for bitches. Place be packed full of studs and gay men. No beautiful femme girl that's not in her slut/bisexual phase would show up to a gay bar. Every woman there would be slutty, simply curious, or there with her actual gay friends.
Like my cousin...
She dates men exclusively, but attends gay clubs with her friends. At the same time, she's has wondered stupid ass shit about gay people, has said mean shit about gay people, and so on.. One day her and my other cousin's baby momma was in the kitchen talking about attending a lingerie party.
Talking mad shit about how it's so gay, it's a bunch of bitches in their underwear and lingerie, half naked, titties out, booty bouncing... Saying they don't understand how women could do some gay shit..
Then turned to me and asked me "what do ya'll get out of that?" ... I looked at both they ignorant asses and walked away.
They both went to the damn lingerie party. My cousin got gay friends, goes to gay bars, does some gay shit.. But is a bitch about the subject.
And either she's just really fake and only wants something to do... Or she's really fake and is secretly bisexual or something and scared to come out.. We been calling her bisexual for years, but she ain't never gonna say it.
Also, she is my stepcousin.. I feel got a thing for me sometimes.
But as far a gay bars...
I think there would be a few femmes who are there to have fun, make connections, and meet someone.. Especially if she is new to being open about her sexuality. But that's very rare.
Most genuine femmes would not attend gay clubs. They hate them too.
A femme told me she hates gay clubs are bars because nobody engages until they get pretty drunk... At that point it becomes obnoxious.
Shouldn't nobody need liquor courage to have a conversation.
It's shit like that.. That gives studs and shit a bad name, cuz that's who she was talking about.
Other butches kind of make me hate being butch... Shit, I even hate the fuckin word. I don't call myself this.
I find other butches to be the some of biggest simps. They have super-beta behavior, very insecure in relationships, sacrificial for one woman, and easy to please... And that is why some femme women decide to sleep with men. They get confused by the beta behavior their partner has. Not that men are any different, cuz there are many beta males than people realize that exist.. But a man that's just lookin to fuck - would be very much appealing to a femme than her needy girlfriend. Since she is attracted to masculine energy and enjoys penetration anyway.. That's why it happens.
I have a stud cousin on my father's side. Actually two studs cousins, they are twins.
One of them got married... My cousin had only been with the woman for one year before marrying her. Met her on a dating app and lost her fuckin mind... She had been living in a nice basement apartment for like 3-4 years before she got kicked out. Why did she get kicked out? Well, she's a nurse and part of her lease was to take care of the elderly woman upstairs - the landlord's wife. Getting paid good money to basically work from home, got Christmas and holiday bonuses.. She just couldn't have too much company and nobody could live there with her. For years we were very lowkey when I visited my cousin's place..
Knowing this, she moves her new girlfriend into the home and her girlfriend's 7 kids... I forgot to mention she is a mother. My cousin's wife had has 6-7 kids. I'm not kidding... Moved the pets in, all the rabbits, ferrets, cats, puppies, camels and mooses..
My cousin just fucking let loose and stopped giving a fuck about the lease policy, all for this one girl.. All over some love, attention, and pussy.. Lost her damn home.
Ended up living at her new girlfriend's apartment... Come to find out, ain't no heat or gas there and that's why she was at my cousin's house.
Me and my other cousin (the other twin) use to talk mad shit together... I'm not gonna lie..
It was obvious the girl is using my cousin, and she likes dick... Bitch got fucked enough to have 7 kids. A few different men too. They are still together till this day... I don't count for it very long, and that ain't me being a dick and having no faith in anyone's shit..
It's just all the red flags are there.
My cousin made it too easy for the woman.
I think the girl only still with my cousin 'cause maybe she got a bit of a heart, feels trapped, and knows how much was invested. She needed a beta provider for her children. If women can't settle for the alpha (all the men that knocked her up and left her ass), they will take a beta provider.. Even going gay to get it..
And that's the simp behavior butch/studs display often times...
Ready to lose it all for some pussy or just too easy for these bitches.. Spending, lending, being used..
Even ran up ya little cousins's (me) credit for that bitch... She asked me when I was 19 could I put the gas in my name (her girlfriend's apartment had no gas, as mentioned)... My dumbass did it for $ 50 bucks. I am in debt by a couple thousand thanks to my cousin and her simp ass behavior. Fucked your little cousin into debt for that skank.. If I was who I am today back then, it would have been a huge no.
On another note, a femme probably gets the shit beat out on them or repeatedly cheated on.. And the femme can't leave the stud alone because of their own personal validation issues..
I can't go too deep into, but I've seen it with own two eyes... My ex-girlfriends being stuck on an ex before me.. Or I've been the cheater...
Lesbian relationships are very complicated, and I'm just not interested in a relationship right now...
They cause a lot of attention.. They get awkward at times. Your girlfriend may not know what she fuck she's doing She may not know how to make you happy... How to please you.. (Is why I talk about training women, and I encourage men to train, set-up, and groom women to be their girlfriends).
Just... If my momma didn't love me the way she loves me, if I wasn't in school pursuing my purpose... If I didn't have dreams and aspirations.. If I was not an attractive individual..
This shit would be for the birds. I would probably want to die.
Posted by elllle
You can be a writer.
Was just gonna say the same. It is only my opinion so make of it what you will, but I think you could find more people that can relate to your story (and therefore find the emotional support I suspect you would like to get) if you try and reach a bigger and more relevant audience, say through a blog,vlog, website or hell! Why not even public-speaking TED-Talk style ? 🙂 It's obvious that you have a great need for self-expression and DXP can have it's limitations even if it seems like a safe start.
Not all gay clubs are the same. Just like how not all gay people are the flamboyant rainbow flag wearing stereotypes. Case in point, you.
Have you ever been to pride week?
Have you ever been to pride week?
You say you relate more to being male than female and don’t like identifying as gay.
Makes sense to me.
You identify as male and are attracted to females, aka straight.
Makes sense to me.
You identify as male and are attracted to females, aka straight.
I may not be in your same situation but sure enough I'm more than tired of the over-the top sexuality/gender/sexual preferences/identity politics-focus in popular culture and social/mass media these days. Whatever happened to QUALITY OF CONTENT being more important than (sexual/gender) identity? It's like, ok Facebook people, thank you for telling me who you prefer to fuck and thank you for telling me what gender you really feel like, SO WHAT? And thank you Netflix for the thousands of movies you want us to watch that discuss genders/sexual preferences, SO WHAT? Are they any good? More often than not they aren't and that sucks.
Posted by Emhendo
A blogger.. A instrumentalist..
Genuinely curious, what instrument(s) do you play and what do you blog about?
Posted by saggurl88
Omg this is a fucking novel. Lol.
I just want to know if you’re a clingy cancer? I seriously had no clue you were a cancer. Thought you were a Virgo all this time.
Not a clingy Cancer...
I really like my space and alone time, I never double texted anyone or any girl. I also believe women can take you for granted very easily if you are always available, around her, and at her becking call.
That clingy shit a stereo-type, or very young/teenage Cancers do it. Immature/unevolved/insecure Cancers do that.
Every Cancer I met that got it together, all grown up and satisfied in life - get sick of people real quick.
Posted by Reciprocity8
This was a really raw and evocative piece of writing. Thank you for sharing it.
Would you ever consider gender reassignment surgery?
No, and only cuz I don't see the point.
I'd be a dickless dude. I might as well had stayed how I am for free and pain-free.
I have read a lot of transition stories of people regretting it also.. Some people stop transitioning before they hit the surgery stage. It's possible I would regret it.
And I don't want to be with a straight woman. Knowing she's only with me cuz I look like a man and she is attracted to men.
I rather date lesbians. At least they are attracted to my natural being.
Posted by saggurl88
I just read the last part. So people mix you up here and say “Man” this and that. I’ve talked with you and said Women, blah blah blah. And that was offensive?
I don't recall you callin me girl... And if you did it probably irked me, cuz if nobody told you I was male - you wouldn't even be calling me all that..
A lot of people on DXP refer to me as "man" and "bro", cuz they don't know shit... Yet.
Or they just sticking to it because of the vibes I bring. I don't bring them "girl"/"lady" vibes. It don't irk me when people call me male terms... Cuz I know that's my vibe, and I'm not lady at all.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by saggurl88
I just read the last part. So people mix you up here and say “Man” this and that. I’ve talked with you and said Women, blah blah blah. And that was offensive?
I don't recall you callin me girl... And if you did it probably irked me, cuz if nobody told you I was male - you wouldn't even be calling me all that..
A lot of people on DXP refer to me as "man" and "bro", cuz they don't know shit... Yet.
Or they just sticking to it because of the vibes I bring. I don't bring them "girl"/"lady" vibes. It don't irk me when people call me male terms... Cuz I know that's my vibe, and I'm not lady at all.click to expand
Well I can tell by the way you look that you're a female. I was just calling you by your gender, it wasn't based on how you act. But I don't want to offend either, so I won't bring up gender when I bull shit with you. I was asking what term you preferred for clarification.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by saggurl88
Omg this is a fucking novel. Lol.
I just want to know if you’re a clingy cancer? I seriously had no clue you were a cancer. Thought you were a Virgo all this time.
Not a clingy Cancer...
I really like my space and alone time, I never double texted anyone or any girl. I also believe women can take you for granted very easily if you are always available, around her, and at her becking call.
That clingy shit a stereo-type, or very young/teenage Cancers do it. Immature/unevolved/insecure Cancers do that.
Every Cancer I met that got it together, all grown up and satisfied in life - get sick of people real quick.click to expand
I know a few Cancers and they are all pretty clingy naturally, at least when in love. Must be other factors in your chart that make you very secure.
Posted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
Well, you shouldn't hate being a lesbian... I just hate what comes with it, and maybe you feel that way too.
If you love women, which I do.
Then you love being a lesbian...
You were born way before me, it was harder to come out or even simply express yourself back when you was my age. Had to be like the 2000s or something, right?
Society wasn't all the way together with the gay shit.. You may be still stuck on how shit was.. It's beautiful to come today, if you live in a nice city, in a nice neighborhood. Or anywhere in America.. I can't speak for other countries.
It's way more accepting today and it's not even a shock to people no more.
The black community has never been very accepting towards LBGT, but I can say it would be way better being openly gay now than it was 10-20 years ago.
I don't know if you white/latino/hispanic or mixed... But cultural differences definitely play a roll.
You should tell people, but don't answer no questions and don't talk about shit with them... It really ain't their business and I don't see why it should matter to them.
At least you were honest, living your truth - and that's respectable. If can't nobody respect that, fuck em.. If they overly inquisitive, fuck em..
Posted by aPiscesPrincess2
@Emhendo I thought you were a guy until some people here pointed out to me that you're not lol.
Yap...
Posted by LadyNeptune
Not all gay clubs are the same. Just like how not all gay people are the flamboyant rainbow flag wearing stereotypes. Case in point, you.
Have you ever been to pride week?
I know not all... Obviously.
But it's most and it doesn't bother me - but people put me in all that shit...
And yeah, only twice... I don't see nothing wrong with it. It's very fun event and a way to meet new people that can relate to you.. And women.
Posted by LadyNeptune
You say you relate more to being male than female and don’t like identifying as gay.
Makes sense to me.
You identify as male and are attracted to females, aka straight.
I didn't say that... I just said I'm definitely not a lady and I don't need nobody trynna treat me like I am.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Emhendo
A blogger.. A instrumentalist..
Genuinely curious, what instrument(s) do you play and what do you blog about?
click to expand
You can get an idea of what I like to blog about in my topic section in my profile.
I like dating advice, women's nature, redpill knowledge, conspiracy, astrology, psychology and crime..
I play guitar which also cringes me a bit... But I love playing, so fuck it..
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by elllle
You can be a writer.
Was just gonna say the same. It is only my opinion so make of it what you will, but I think you could find more people that can relate to your story (and therefore find the emotional support I suspect you would like to get) if you try and reach a bigger and more relevant audience, say through a blog,vlog, website or hell! Why not even public-speaking TED-Talk style ? 🙂 It's obvious that you have a great need for self-expression and DXP can have it's limitations even if it seems like a safe start.click to expand
Yeah, I thought about it.. Writing is very easy to me..
I also thought about starting a YoutTube channel, but I'm not ready yet. I need my own space and more time. I got roommates, I hustle and go to school, I really don't have to time to think like this often..
Group mentality sucks ass, especially in the 21st century....all those snowflakes. Plus they all have those agendas and propagandas, and they're just getting more retarded by the day. All those stupid made-up nouns, pronouns and acronyms.
I want no part of that shit. I just focus on the people in my life and the rest can burn for all I care.
I want no part of that shit. I just focus on the people in my life and the rest can burn for all I care.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptune
You say you relate more to being male than female and don’t like identifying as gay.
Makes sense to me.
You identify as male and are attracted to females, aka straight.
I didn't say that... I just said I'm definitely not a lady and I don't need nobody trynna treat me like I am.
You said you don't relate to gender norms
Posted by Emhendo
I don't relate with being a girl.... I hate when people call me "girl" ... I hate it.
By life style ...
I'm not a girl... Maybe biologically so... But I'm definitely not a lady either, despite being a girl...click to expand
Good news is your 20s is for figuring this shit out. If you don't want a label no worries. Your just going to have to educate people on what you preferred to be called/treated as.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptune
You say you relate more to being male than female and don’t like identifying as gay.
Makes sense to me.
You identify as male and are attracted to females, aka straight.
I didn't say that... I just said I'm definitely not a lady and I don't need nobody trynna treat me like I am.
You said you don't relate to gender normsPosted by Emhendo
I don't relate with being a girl.... I hate when people call me "girl" ... I hate it.
By life style ...
I'm not a girl... Maybe biologically so... But I'm definitely not a lady either, despite being a girl...
Good news is your 20s is for figuring this shit out. If you don't want a label no worries. Your just going to have to educate people on what you preferred to be called/treated as.click to expand
EXACTLY. Would hate to sound condescending but regardless of what you think society expects from you at this point, your body, mind and soul tell you your 20's are meant to figure out yourself and how you fit in this world, and we all go through that in different ways, some more painful than others. So take advantage of these times cause people will pay attention to your youthful rage in your teens and 20's. In your 30's people will be like: "meh, stop whining like a child and go back to work or something"😋
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
Group mentality sucks ass, especially in the 21st century....all those snowflakes. Plus they all have those agendas and propagandas, and they're just getting more retarded by the day. All those stupid made-up nouns, pronouns and acronyms.
I want no part of that shit. I just focus on the people in my life and the rest can burn for all I care.
Hmmkay.
BTW, do you realize "snowflakes" is as made-up noun too?
Posted by PurplePassion38Posted by EmhendoPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by elllle
You can be a writer.
Was just gonna say the same. It is only my opinion so make of it what you will, but I think you could find more people that can relate to your story (and therefore find the emotional support I suspect you would like to get) if you try and reach a bigger and more relevant audience, say through a blog,vlog, website or hell! Why not even public-speaking TED-Talk style ? 🙂 It's obvious that you have a great need for self-expression and DXP can have it's limitations even if it seems like a safe start.
Yeah, I thought about it.. Writing is very easy to me..
I also thought about starting a YoutTube channel, but I'm not ready yet. I need my own space and more time. I got roommates, I hustle and go to school, I really don't have to time to think like this often..
YouTube is the ultimate hustle right now. These young peeps are making millions from subscribers. Find a way to make it happen if it's what you want. Even if you start with just one day a week.click to expand
*like*
However you can only make money once you hit a certain amount of subscribers, regardless of how many hits your video gets. Even then, YT has specific requirements on how you can earn your money. Now they require you to include ads on your videos and the viewer has to watch the entire ad for you get a commission from that video hit. If they skip through it, you get nothing.
They changed this because everyone was trying to make money off of YT and the creators need to be making more money than they are giving out right? Social engagement, partnership and affiliate links earn you more money than YT (but it is still a good way to put extra money in your pocket). Figuring out how to balance that with your platform and still being authentic so your platform reflects you, not the ads is the trick.
Are you typing all this on a phone?!
Posted by brianafay
Are you typing all this on a phone?!
I'm a very fast typer on a keyboard... Grew up around computers cuz I had a Gemini momma and Virgo pops. Mercury is the nerd. They loved gadgets.
Posted by torothebull02Posted by EmhendoPosted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
Well, you shouldn't hate being a lesbian... I just hate what comes with it, and maybe you feel that way too.
If you love women, which I do.
Then you love being a lesbian...
You were born way before me, it was harder to come out or even simply express yourself back when you was my age. Had to be like the 2000s or something, right?
Society wasn't all the way together with the gay shit.. You may be still stuck on how shit was.. It's beautiful to come today, if you live in a nice city, in a nice neighborhood. Or anywhere in America.. I can't speak for other countries.
It's way more accepting today and it's not even a shock to people no more.
The black community has never been very accepting towards LBGT, but I can say it would be way better being openly gay now than it was 10-20 years ago.
I don't know if you white/latino/hispanic or mixed... But cultural differences definitely play a roll.
You should tell people, but don't answer no questions and don't talk about shit with them... It really ain't their business and I don't see why it should matter to them.
At least you were honest, living your truth - and that's respectable. If can't nobody respect that, fuck em.. If they overly inquisitive, fuck em..
hey thanks i appreciate you taking the time to give me some feedback. i get what you mena. im 28 so i think it was like 2005-2006 when i wanted to really be out but couldnt. im from latino descent, i had a bad experience coming out to my famiy whe i was around 19. they accept me now though. but that mixup wasnt even that horrible i think it had to do more with strangers. oh now that i think of it, there was one experience where i got invited to a party by a friend. so at that party some guy was like "oh you like eating pussy" or something like that and i was completly shocked, my friend told my secret to the guy and idk why the fuck he was telling me shit like that. i felt emberrassed and even now writing it i get upset thinking about it. i felt completly rejected. my friend ended up apologizing to me but still, idk, it was not a pleasant experience at all. maybe since that time ive been guarded because of itclick to expand
Yeah, I mean.. The more you live your truth.. The more you are comfortable with it.
Like nobody could ever make me feel embarrassed about eating pussy. I would seriously laugh..
How you felt, was all in your head. Had you been living your truth back then - that shit he said wouldn't even had phased you.
Like look how honest I was.. I wouldn't go around telling people all that shit, but I realized these things and typed them out to be viewed by a small community. That solidified my truth.. That being lesbian ain't all what you see on TV, and it's not terrible either - but it's a complex life that you didn't ask for.
You just gotta be more secure and confident in your sexuality... Ready for the bullshit too, cuz people gonna try you. People WILL try you.
Gotta be ready to give back what they are dishing. Sometimes a simple "fuck you" and walking away from them does the mental good. Destroys they ass and makes you feel in control.
Promise yourself... Or me
That you will never let someone make you feel that way about your sexuality ever again.
You got every right to go the fuck off.
Posted by torothebull02Posted by EmhendoPosted by torothebull02Posted by EmhendoPosted by torothebull02
i personally do not like the rainbow flag either. i think its so cringey repping it. i dont know, like i can support the LGBTQ community without having to parade it around. I hate identifying myself as lesbian, it feels like people will look at me different right when i utter that i have a gf out of my mouth. and TBH i do not check out my friends who are girls i just see them as friends which is awesome. Straight friends have actually tried to fool around with me back in my early 20's, I am still schocked because I never gave them a vibe that I was interested, thats a different story though. I don't know. I am closeted for the most part. I came out to one coworker he really didnt know i was gay, we used to have lunch together but i thought we were just hanging out as friend, when i told him I was seeing a girl he was really schoked. Ive always been a tomboy so I felt that it is just a given that people knew I like women. Not until two years ago, 2017, i came out publicly to people I had just met, my classmates. I felt so weird saying, "I have a gf" but idk, theyre mature so they sort of get it, I just hate how women may immediately think of it as "Oh have to be careful, might catch the lesbian, etc."
It's a different type of fitting in I guess.
Well, you shouldn't hate being a lesbian... I just hate what comes with it, and maybe you feel that way too.
If you love women, which I do.
Then you love being a lesbian...
You were born way before me, it was harder to come out or even simply express yourself back when you was my age. Had to be like the 2000s or something, right?
Society wasn't all the way together with the gay shit.. You may be still stuck on how shit was.. It's beautiful to come today, if you live in a nice city, in a nice neighborhood. Or anywhere in America.. I can't speak for other countries.
It's way more accepting today and it's not even a shock to people no more.
The black community has never been very accepting towards LBGT, but I can say it would be way better being openly gay now than it was 10-20 years ago.
I don't know if you white/latino/hispanic or mixed... But cultural differences definitely play a roll.
You should tell people, but don't answer no questions and don't talk about shit with them... It really ain't their business and I don't see why it should matter to them.
At least you were honest, living your truth - and that's respectable. If can't nobody respect that, fuck em.. If they overly inquisitive, fuck em..
hey thanks i appreciate you taking the time to give me some feedback. i get what you mena. im 28 so i think it was like 2005-2006 when i wanted to really be out but couldnt. im from latino descent, i had a bad experience coming out to my famiy whe i was around 19. they accept me now though. but that mixup wasnt even that horrible i think it had to do more with strangers. oh now that i think of it, there was one experience where i got invited to a party by a friend. so at that party some guy was like "oh you like eating pussy" or something like that and i was completly shocked, my friend told my secret to the guy and idk why the fuck he was telling me shit like that. i felt emberrassed and even now writing it i get upset thinking about it. i felt completly rejected. my friend ended up apologizing to me but still, idk, it was not a pleasant experience at all. maybe since that time ive been guarded because of it
Yeah, I mean.. The more you live your truth.. The more you are comfortable with it.
Like nobody could ever make me feel embarrassed about eating pussy. I would seriously laugh..
How you felt, was all in your head. Had you been living your truth back then - that shit he said wouldn't even had phased you.
Like look how honest I was.. I wouldn't go around telling people all that shit, but I realized these things and typed them out to be viewed by a small community. That solidified my truth.. That being lesbian ain't all what you see on TV, and it's not terrible either - but it's a complex life that you didn't ask for.
You just gotta be more secure and confident in your sexuality... Ready for the bullshit too, cuz people gonna try you. People WILL try you.
Gotta be ready to give back what they are dishing. Sometimes a simple "fuck you" and walking away from them does the mental good. Destroys they ass and makes you feel in control.
Promise yourself... Or me
That you will never let someone make you feel that way about your sexuality ever again.
You got every right to go the fuck off.
so it would be along the lines of if im challenged with "youre dating a woman?"
i have to be zen. and reply like, "yea, so?"click to expand
Yeah, if they sound like they got some attitude in their tone.. "Yeah, is that a problem with you?" sounds curt.
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I like manly things, and when I was a shorty - I liked boyish things.
I actually didn't realize that I wasn't a boy till my aunt yelled "you not a boy" at me, when I was about 7 years-old. I was screamin and hollerin about my bike to my brothers and cousin. At that age, I didn't know being a boy meant you got a dingaling. I just felt like a boy... I had boyish energy, I did boyish things and girls had boyish crushes on me.
My first crush was in 2nd grade... Her name was Elisa and she had peach fuzz on her lip.. She had these big sparkly eyes, wore lipgloss, had a hair of curly dark hair, light skin - and she was nice as fuck to me. I use to have dreams at 7 years-old... Kissing her. She showed up to my door almost every morning to walk across the street to school with me (I lived across the street from my school)..
One day she asked me was I gay. I did not know what gay was - so I said yes.. I remember her walking off laughing and she stopped being friends with me. I didn't understand why. My love for her was very innocent and genuine and I didn't know it "wrong". I think she liked me back but didn't like it. I asked my ma what does gay mean and my momma told me.. I didn't feel good about it, but I didn't remember being ashamed either. I just didn't want my mom to think I was gay for asking and shit.. I wasn't even sure if I was gay back then..
My first sexual experience was with a girl... She was my play cousin.
I remember feeling attracted to her and she was always wanting to play house with me, having me be the daddy of the house. One day we snuck and watched porn on my computer together... We was on nastydisney.com being some little nasty kids, and it turned her on. I think I was turned on too. I remember saying "I feel weird" and she said "I do too", but we felt weird in a good way. We were 10 years-old. She touched my butt and told me to "come on"... I wanted to and I didn't want to. I remember feeling scared.. Maybe gettin caught.. She pulled my pants down then pulled hers down. She rubbed her herself against me.. It lasted about 2 minutes or less.. I got her off me.
So at 10 years-old, a girl my age tried to seduce me...
I hate when people assume my damn sex life and fuck up that aspect of my world to the public.. Motherfuckers just assuming I got a strap-on... I ain't never owned a damn strap-on... I haven't owned a vibrator, dildo, or any sex toy to please these bitches.. I only have handcuffs and ropes... All of my girlfriends have had strap-ons cuz they prefer to have their own at home to be used to fuck them... Due to cleanliness and shit... People be nasty. I don't blame them.
But 90% of my relationships and 90% of the time I fuck... I haven't used one or any toys.
I learned that sex is in the mind for most women... I think that's why some women accept when a man is not that good in bed or he has a small penis.. Cuz a big dick don't mean you good, and a small dick doesn't mean your bad... I think it all boils down to how invested she is and how much she likes you, it could feel very good just touching and kissing.
Anyways.
I don't relate with being a girl.... I hate when people call me "girl" ... I hate it. You will get ignored. I feel like they trynna offend me or something.. Or put me in a place they see fit.. I would prefer it a lot more if people called me 'woman', if they gonna refer to my gender to address me anyway...
I don't know how to paint a nail.
I don't know shit about make-up.
I don't know where I'm going with this... But I ain't never did shit feminine in my life. It just didn't come naturally to me.
By life style ...
I'm not a girl... Maybe biologically so... But I'm definitely not a lady either, despite being a girl...
As I said, I like "manly" things.. I was given the perfect body to do a lot of shit I do... But my body don't allow me to do these things to the fullest. Like.. I ain't tall enough for certain shit. My hands ain't big enough.. So I gotta work out to get above my natural strength. I'm very naturally strong.. But my physicality is hindering. I literally do man's work. I always have.. The only thing make me feel better is knowing it's men out here my size, hands and all.. I hate it oth