Umm I have a issue

Its really uncomfortable to talk about this but, I am 20 and I still have not been with a boy. I have never even kissed a boy. Can you please give me advice how to act when a boy talks to me?

I know its a really weird thing to ask,but I need help.

If you want something real, act like yourself. All the time. You should know that you're playing against the odds as most ppl aren't really suitable for an aqua. I know i could say that for more or less everyone but i think with an aqua this holds true to a larger degree.

If you want something on the fly, act like a bimbo and some dude with an 80 IQ will pick up on it and try his luck.

Posted by MademoiselleFisk

Are you shy?

Yeah a lot.

Posted by Arielle83

I was 19. If you’re not comfortable yet, don’t force it, but maybe you’re at that point where u keep hearing ur friends talk about the guys they’re with and now u feel less than them.

Just make friends with guys first and then you’ll get more comfortable over time.

Um the thing is that I am just reallyy shy and I think boys do not like that.

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Posted by Arielle83

I was 19. If you’re not comfortable yet, don’t force it, but maybe you’re at that point where u keep hearing ur friends talk about the guys they’re with and now u feel less than them.

Just make friends with guys first and then you’ll get more comfortable over time.

Um the thing is that I am just reallyy shy and I think boys do not like that.

Well at 20, they’re awkward and don’t know how to be with a shy girl.

When they get older, shy and modest girls are where it’s at.

Don’t push yourself out there cuz you’re ashamed of being shy. That’s what I did and it did not make me feel good.

Who cares what they think.

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Thank you so much for the advice. I appreciate it.

Posted by Apis

I'm a guy, but..

I think it really just boils down to putting yourself out there and letting your interest be known. There are varying degrees and methods to do this.

Being shy definitely makes it harder, but you have to figure out what makes you shy and take steps to overcome it. Are you afraid of rejection? Are you self conscious? Are you pessimistic?

Just keep in the back of your mind that no matter what happens when you take initiative - whatever happens they can't eat you, you'll survive.

I am extremely afraid of rejection.

Thanks for the advice.

I think maybe I should work on my personal problems first. Because, yes, I am really weird and and I do not know how to talk with males.

But I also have self esteem issues, I am anxious etc

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Posted by dreamer18

I think maybe I should work on my personal problems first. Because, yes, I am really weird and and I do not know how to talk with males.

But I also have self esteem issues, I am anxious etc

What is your rising?

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Taurus

Posted by MademoiselleFisk

Are you in school? Shyness and awkward approches are a little easier to bear when you have common interests to help get past them. Don't feel forced or pressured to act a certain way. Like Ariel mentioned, most guys around your age are equally awkward. And there are a lot of guys out there who find shyness cute and endearing, so don't let this affect how you feel about yourself.

No, at university.

Thank you so much for the advice.

I am so thankful to you. Thank you for the nice words and advices.

Posted by RooSagicorn

Some guys like shy girls. Get used to talking with guys through common interests/hobbies. Sometimes it’s just forcing yourself to be in situations that you meet people or talk to people.

Kissing/sex/boyfriends will come as you get more comfortable in your own skin & talking to others.

Ah you’re young still no need to do this until you’re ready 🙂 I tell my daughter all the time - there is no rush!! ( she’s 17). We don’t need to be finding the love of our live already, you have plenty of time.

Thank you for the advice. I think you are right.

Posted by dreamer18

I think maybe I should work on my personal problems first. Because, yes, I am really weird and and I do not know how to talk with males.

But I also have self esteem issues, I am anxious etc

Hey I am almost 21 and a virgin yet. I was in your place sometime ago and got me sometime and boys to feel comfortable with the whole situation. Men don't have issues with you being shy, they may like that especially if you are sweet too. Don't stress yourself. Get out there be friendly and flirt and in a little time men with begin to show around and get interested. Take care of your appearance in a normal sense and do what it takes to feel good and beautiful with yourself. And yes don't push yourself. You will feel worst then. When a guy is genuinely interested in you, you will see that because you will feel good, comfortable and nice by the way he treats you. Wish you the best. And forget about the shyness. You are not shy. You just don't have the experience yet. Repeating yourself that you are shy all the time only makes you believe and act more like that and makes things worst in the end.