A Virgo's view ...

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by ImpianDewata on Monday, July 3, 2017 and has 4 replies.

Hi! Been reading some of the insights on here and have to say, theres some pretty good stuff! So hoping someone has some insight for me ...

Long story short, I've been with what seems to be a typical virgo for some time. Cant tell you how much more I understand him and what I thought was his selfish behaviour around time and communication - its uncanny!

The problem is: I got frustrated and ended it mainly due to his perceived lack off communication and me then assuming this meant he didn't care and was selfish. I then went back to my hometown for 3 weeks (preplanned trip) and we had the odd communication - he said he missed me. Then I got back and another problem on his end occured - he resigned from his job. Cue stress overload ... and he said he thought we could work it out but he had to focus on his job for now. Then - slight twist! - there were some (false) rumours about me and his friend. His response was: 'Fine, I know nothing happened, but I'm done anyway as she doesn't trust me, doesn't appreciate me, wants me to be somebody else and said she gives me too much' - his reference for too much was 'money'. He's now gone AWOL on social media, from his friends etc. And his perception of what is wrong is exaggerated and wrong in the case of money - he's simply decided these are the facts and won't even read the few messages I've sent to him trying to correct his perception given its mostly directed at me and 'my faults' - with the under-current of himont being good enough. (which he is and I do tell him! :-).

To me, it seems he's getting over a broken heart and he's completely done. He's never going to reflect or even talk with me to discuss it and try again - given he's ignoring me. (Going on for 2 weeks now) The door is closed and the horse has bolted!

Some say he's stressed with everything that's happening i.e.: mainly the job and that I am just another unresolved problem he can do without and so easier to just find reasons to end it and be done (albeit his reasons are clearly things that were on his mind) - as that's one less thing to deal with (other than what I can gather is a broken heart) - but that he just needs time to hide, reflect and think, heal and he'll then open up again.

Any thoughts on what you think is happening? Driving myself nuts over-analysing things! :-/

@Toastedtoast

9 Years

I'm a Virgo female but I think whatever after " some say...." in your post is exactly right. He probably wants to fix one thing at a time. Give him some time to figure the work part out. And when all is calm, use a soft approach to talk to him again. Just be like, hey it's been a while and I was " insert something memorable like passing by the shop we used to go to " and thought about you. And see if he takes the bait.

I wouldn't try to bring up past problems cuz he will be all in his head again and possibly decide not to talk to you. Keep a light and appeal to his soft side.