@Shaniajam
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PATIENCE WITH A VIRGO IS KEY!
Patience Is Key When Dating a Virgo
Building a relationship with a Virgo requires patience and understanding. They may seem emotionally reserved at first but open up over time. Communicate clearly, be consistent, and show appreciation to foster trust. Patience helps navigate their cautious nature and reveals their true caring side.
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Posted by nikkistar
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I'm Jamaican so my language is different means the same thing to me though. and I won't allow you to change that — but thanks nonetheless.
Posted by MiZLeo
They do take a bit of patience.
Yesss! Lol
Posted by starwars
major keyanother one
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jesus..do they ever.
Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_Mars
jesus..do they ever.
Lol
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
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You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
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Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
1) I'm not virgo bacteria
2) yes have that talk. Why waste your time
But men lie
Actions speak louder than words
Pay attention to the actions not the words
Virgos are good at deluding themselves and others
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In response to your reply:
1. Cute...very funny.
2. I will. I've put it off for far too long hoping he would get his shit together.
3. Very true. I feel like I've allowed myself to believe a lie because the sex is great.
4. I can see that trait in him. Now I won't say that I can forget him that easily, but...I just want him to act right. Damn you free will 😢
Being genuine and patient will get you everywhere with Virgos.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
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Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
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I agree with this
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
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No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Posted by GraceV15
Being genuine and patient will get you everywhere with Virgos.
I so believe this 100 percent ❤️
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
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Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
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Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
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How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
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Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
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Update me ?
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
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He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
Update me ?
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I sure will! 🙂
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
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Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
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I'm gonna do this. I'm not gonna say "we need to talk" or "you got a minute?" I'm gonna get straight to it because it seems that me asking or saying those statements makes him run. I hope this works because I'm this close to telling him to fuck off. I don't like inconsistency.
sure, they also will be happy with you being patient while them dissappearing
@Shaniajam he have me the pissiest answer ever. Can I PM you?
They're direct when they want to be but want you to be direct all the time. I swear I used to think water signs were an emotional minefield but Virgos take the cake for that. Patience is definitely the key.
Also so damn controlling.
Alright I'm done.
Posted by Chelsey07
@Shaniajam he have me the pissiest answer ever. Can I PM you?
Yes pm me hun
Posted by Confused_
sure, they also will be happy with you being patient while them dissappearing
Why deal with the dissapearing though? I wouldn't... I'll allow space. But communicate "how" much space is needed I feel could fix it.
Posted by starwars
major keyanother one
Cocoa butter ??
Posted by Toti
Virgos are so difficult to understand. Gives all or nothing. Goes hot or cold. Pushes and pulls. And we just need to be patient? "Just".
Yep, once you understand the rythym .... it's that simple.
Right now you're probably puzzled like how? That's exactly how a Virgo "feels"....because they feel with their heads not their hearts. Logical not emotional...Once you get that.... it will be that simple.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
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I would dump u. Ur too demanding
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
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well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
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You mean you'd rather be dumped
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No doubt this is how Virgo sees Shaniajam
She probably spends all her spare time pulling fresh petals from flowers so she has them available to throw at his feet as he walks.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
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Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
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I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
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Well, fuck you too.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
Well, fuck you too.
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No thank you
Speaking as someone who has dealt with a lot of them it isn't. Reasoning is key.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
Well, fuck you too.
No thank you
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Don't thank me, assholes aren't my type.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
Well, fuck you too.
No thank you
Don't thank me, assholes aren't my type.
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I would spend my time arguing with you, but it would be a waist considering all the water in your chart.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢So be direct. Virgos are direct as fuk
You know what? You're right. I'm gonna lay it all out there.
Lay what out there. Do tell prior to laying it out there and scaring a virgo away
Are y'all this touchy? What would he be scared of? All I'm gonna ask is what he wants from this. And by "this", I mean the little situationship we have going on. One day you're all over me and the next day you don't know me. The shit is annoying and I feel like I'm being played with. I hope I don't come off that angry when I see him in the morning. I'm just a little annoyed.
No... its not cold. If you just continue to act how you normally would when he's warm he'd snap right out of it. Don't force "emotional" talk it won't work, say "I love it when you caress me, when you suddenly stop I feel like I did something wrong. If I did I'd rather talk about it ok?" Or something like that. Logical speech not emotional speeches.
Got it. Damn Cancer moon makes everything an emotional play house. I'm gonna say how I feel with a straight face. Wish me luck.
I would dump u. Ur too demanding
well being a doormat is what got me in this predicament, so I rather be demanding.
You mean you'd rather be dumped
Oh so continuing to allow the mind games would've gotten me what I wanted? No. There's nothing wrong with being demanding.
I don't know ur circumstances & I really could care less.
All I know is that you sound like a bunch of problems
Well, fuck you too.
No thank you
Don't thank me, assholes aren't my type.
I would spend my time arguing with you, but it would be a waist considering all the water in your chart.
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Then drown 🙂
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
I'm gonna do this. I'm not gonna say "we need to talk" or "you got a minute?" I'm gonna get straight to it because it seems that me asking or saying those statements makes him run. I hope this works because I'm this close to telling him to fuck off. I don't like inconsistency.
Ugh! Men hate that "we need to talk " line, its like exactly okay, what have i done again.
Gotta slip in sweet and caring then bring issues up, even then. Bring the issues with such care
It always works
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I'm sure it would if I hadn't told him to fuck off already. We're adults. I'm not gonna hold your hand and beat around the bush just so I can get out what I need to say. If you're my man, then act like it.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
I'm gonna do this. I'm not gonna say "we need to talk" or "you got a minute?" I'm gonna get straight to it because it seems that me asking or saying those statements makes him run. I hope this works because I'm this close to telling him to fuck off. I don't like inconsistency.
Ugh! Men hate that "we need to talk " line, its like exactly okay, what have i done again.
Gotta slip in sweet and caring then bring issues up, even then. Bring the issues with such care
It always works
I'm sure it would if I hadn't told him to fuck off already. We're adults. I'm not gonna hold your hand and beat around the bush just so I can get out what I need to say. If you're my man, then act like it.
Yeah and thats the sag sun talking, so he sees that side and he sees the sweet side and its like pressure to them, so they run?
You want them closer not farther, so you lure with honey. Earth sign men take their fucking time to adjust to relationships while paying attention to how you react, they sort of want you to walk with them to the destination.
However, if you're too fiesty they'll think its a trap in the long run. I'm a sag sun dominated by Capricorn everywhere else and what i find best is a balance. I pull back and approach with a very soft side. heck if i let my sag fire out which i have in the past he'll just look at me like
"Are you okay?!"
So i do the straightforward feminine touch in convos and it works best that way with every other man I communicate with even my dad.
I feel he will be back though, depending on how far you guys have gone. the pressure just made him say crap to avoid the topic.
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But that's the thing, my sweet side is what got me here. My sweet side made me a doormat because I care for him so much. So what was I supposed to do? Being kind gets me ran over and my rage scares him away, so I have no in between. The only time it seems to work is when he's ready to talk, but I don't wanna work on his time only. I shouldn't have to run you down just so I can barely get my questions out and for you to run away. This is why I'm so fucking angry.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
I'm gonna do this. I'm not gonna say "we need to talk" or "you got a minute?" I'm gonna get straight to it because it seems that me asking or saying those statements makes him run. I hope this works because I'm this close to telling him to fuck off. I don't like inconsistency.
Ugh! Men hate that "we need to talk " line, its like exactly okay, what have i done again.
Gotta slip in sweet and caring then bring issues up, even then. Bring the issues with such care
It always works
I'm sure it would if I hadn't told him to fuck off already. We're adults. I'm not gonna hold your hand and beat around the bush just so I can get out what I need to say. If you're my man, then act like it.
Yeah and thats the sag sun talking, so he sees that side and he sees the sweet side and its like pressure to them, so they run?
You want them closer not farther, so you lure with honey. Earth sign men take their fucking time to adjust to relationships while paying attention to how you react, they sort of want you to walk with them to the destination.
However, if you're too fiesty they'll think its a trap in the long run. I'm a sag sun dominated by Capricorn everywhere else and what i find best is a balance. I pull back and approach with a very soft side. heck if i let my sag fire out which i have in the past he'll just look at me like
"Are you okay?!"
So i do the straightforward feminine touch in convos and it works best that way with every other man I communicate with even my dad.
I feel he will be back though, depending on how far you guys have gone. the pressure just made him say crap to avoid the topic.
But that's the thing, my sweet side is what got me here. My sweet side made me a doormat because I care for him so much. So what was I supposed to do? Being kind gets me ran over and my rage scares him away, so I have no in between. The only time it seems to work is when he's ready to talk, but I don't wanna work on his time only. I shouldn't have to run you down just so I can barely get my questions out and for you to run away. This is why I'm so fucking angry.
LOL
Balance is key.
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I don't want to try anymore. I'm fed up with his shit. Why do I have to bend over backwards, jump through hoops and meet the Dalai Lama just to talk to him? Why can't he come to me as an adult and say what's on his mind? It could all be so simple. If I have to work this fucking hard just to have a simple talk, then forget about a relationship. I'm tired.
Posted by Chelsey07
Was I meant to read this or what? It's so hard to be patient when you want directness. 😢Their directness is what I like most about them!
Well this Virgo isn't being direct. ? He's being the opposite
Tell him what you want... don't wait for him cause I've noticed they'll never get the hint... just tell him.
Got it! That's if he doesn't try to avoid the conversation?. He tends to talk when he's ready.
How old is he by the way? If it's any comfort... I was scared shitless and then he said "ok" man I realized it was that simple... that response wasn't cold either ... I said thank you so much baby I appreciate it. Everything changed.
He's older than me...much older. I'm 20 and he's 45. And that's literally all he said? I over analyze things, so I'd be all in my feelings and possibly ready to set him on fire. I look into body language, voice inflection and time it took to respond to my questions/statements. I'm nuts, I know.
Oh my god! I did the same thing! Mines is 41, I feel at that age they've gone through the games stage. Yes all he said was "ok" I was like let me back off... but one day I was like no I'm just gonna tell him it would make me happy... give him time to reflect (they need space) then check in... how you doing baby? The next day. They have so much going on he'll come back I promise. Yes that "ok" and "yeah" responses are just "simple answers" nothing to read into. I'd rather him respond with that then not at all... and I just continue to be me without the "emotional side" .... worked so good. Woman have been trained that if he's not always "full text or full responses" that's a problem.... virgos are not the average man. Remember that. It'll make it so much easier. If he doesn't like approaching then why shouldn't you approach and show him you want him? He needs reassurance too. Been better ever since. Love my Virgo.
I'm gonna do this. I'm not gonna say "we need to talk" or "you got a minute?" I'm gonna get straight to it because it seems that me asking or saying those statements makes him run. I hope this works because I'm this close to telling him to fuck off. I don't like inconsistency.
Ugh! Men hate that "we need to talk " line, its like exactly okay, what have i done again.
Gotta slip in sweet and caring then bring issues up, even then. Bring the issues with such care
It always works
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So freaking true!
Posted by Toti
Virgos are so difficult to understand. Gives all or nothing. Goes hot or cold. Pushes and pulls. And we just need to be patient? "Just".Yep, once you understand the rythym .... it's that simple.
Right now you're probably puzzled like how? That's exactly how a Virgo "feels"....because they feel with their heads not their hearts. Logical not emotional...Once you get that.... it will be that simple.
Right now I don't know what to think. He was all over me and now he is completely cold and doesn't contact me. We had a same episode couple of months back... I don't know. I feel like it would be better to end it all. We are genuinely attracted to each other,but he seems like much work. The bad thing is that he is a really great guy.
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Yes I know the topic is cliche' we all should know this by now, but I just wanted to share my story about my Virgo. It's only going on two months but I've finally got some break through lol.
In the beginning I was so frustrated because for the life of me I couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. First two dates flaked, wasn't hearing from him like I wanted to but missing him like crazy, afraid to tell him things because he'll "run" (we've heard this advise many times). And all along it was so freaking simple!
All it took was patience. I finally got my first date which didn't even seem like one lol... I think going with the flow took the stress off of making it perfect and just doing it instead.
Learning to just "Tell Him" what I want... don't argue or fuss about it, just tell him in a logical way and wait for him to reciprocate.
Who says he always have to text first? If I want to talk to him all I have to do is shoot him a text and he responds right away or soon as he's available. If I would like a phone call all I have to do is say baby I would love to hear from you and soon as he's available he does.
Praise and validate him. You like what he's doing... tell him, cause you want more of it and he'll give it.
That cold exterior is not what is true of the Virgo! It's a mask... those short responses? They're not cold it's just "simple responses" just keep responding like you normally would.
He's opened up to me more now I couldn't ask for anything else! In public everyone gets "the mask" but behind closed doors?? Omg this man is amazing.... this Virgo got this Taurus in heaven ❤️
Also thank you @nineavenue for helping me see how simple it was to understand that the "emotional coldness" is just a fasad....
PATIENCE IS ALL YOU NEED.