FallingForVirgo
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Are Virgos Selfish?
Do Virgos Act Selfishly or Thoughtfully
Virgos often need time to process their feelings which may appear as selfishness. They tend to analyze situations carefully, sometimes pulling away to reflect. This behavior is usually about self-awareness and not about disregarding others' feelings. Understanding Virgo's need for introspection can clarify their actions.
From my experience, Virgo's are pensive and expect (sort of) others to be mind readers. They are not selfish. As a matter of fact they are more generous they any other zodiac sign.
FFV,
Perhaps we're all selfish in our own ways, and that seems natural. Everybody has to own a certain amount of self-righteousness for the sake of our self-esteem. With the Virgo, their selfishness seems to be leaning more towards demanding people to accept them for who they are .. yet, they don't always give this back. Such as, thier criticism of others .. they hold very high standards and are expecting of others to do for them according to their wishes, how they value whether another person is worthy of them and they can get a tad shallow with the physical aspects of others, like if a woman isn't gorgeous or doesn't have some kind of benefit to them, they make judgements and view them as unworthy.
Yet, everybody else is suppose to just accept that they are them, and be thankful for it because they think that high-standard value system makes them a good catch. Well, it does make them a good catch, that is, if they were accepting of others in the same way they expect us to accept them.
This IS their selfishness .. just as well have it in some way.
Do they think about their effect on others when they pull away? That's doubtful because to them, they think that we admire them for this quality of being in control and mature. The only problem is that we (non-V) don't see this as being mature, rather, the opposite.
How we look to ourselves isn't necessarily how others view us.
However, I don't know that I would fault them for it, for this is apart of their make-up. Is it fucked up? Yeah, but, to love somebody means their weaknesses have to be accepted. Just as, take the Cancer, for example, they take everything to heart, everything is personal to them .. they can't help it. That is the way it is, people are who they are. Another person might view the Cancer as selfish because they demand so much emotional support .. is that being selfish? No, not really, because it is apart of their internal system, they HAVE to have emotional support. It can't be helped. But, to others, this may be viewed as selfishness.
I can certainly see how you would come to this question. And, it probably IS being selfish to some degree. But, to date a Virgo, this HAS to be accepted in them, because they can only be the person they are.
Inside, this is having an effect on you, because of the fact that everything someone does, you take personally and I understand that it can't be helped. But, really, your Virgo friend probably doesn't comprehe
Perhaps we're all selfish in our own ways, and that seems natural. Everybody has to own a certain amount of self-righteousness for the sake of our self-esteem. With the Virgo, their selfishness seems to be leaning more towards demanding people to accept them for who they are .. yet, they don't always give this back. Such as, thier criticism of others .. they hold very high standards and are expecting of others to do for them according to their wishes, how they value whether another person is worthy of them and they can get a tad shallow with the physical aspects of others, like if a woman isn't gorgeous or doesn't have some kind of benefit to them, they make judgements and view them as unworthy.
Yet, everybody else is suppose to just accept that they are them, and be thankful for it because they think that high-standard value system makes them a good catch. Well, it does make them a good catch, that is, if they were accepting of others in the same way they expect us to accept them.
This IS their selfishness .. just as well have it in some way.
Do they think about their effect on others when they pull away? That's doubtful because to them, they think that we admire them for this quality of being in control and mature. The only problem is that we (non-V) don't see this as being mature, rather, the opposite.
How we look to ourselves isn't necessarily how others view us.
However, I don't know that I would fault them for it, for this is apart of their make-up. Is it fucked up? Yeah, but, to love somebody means their weaknesses have to be accepted. Just as, take the Cancer, for example, they take everything to heart, everything is personal to them .. they can't help it. That is the way it is, people are who they are. Another person might view the Cancer as selfish because they demand so much emotional support .. is that being selfish? No, not really, because it is apart of their internal system, they HAVE to have emotional support. It can't be helped. But, to others, this may be viewed as selfishness.
I can certainly see how you would come to this question. And, it probably IS being selfish to some degree. But, to date a Virgo, this HAS to be accepted in them, because they can only be the person they are.
Inside, this is having an effect on you, because of the fact that everything someone does, you take personally and I understand that it can't be helped. But, really, your Virgo friend probably doesn't comprehe
wow that is very nice info , P-A
P-Angel, it sounds like you're describing most MEN in general. 😉
MOST seem to be the way you just described "Virgos" as far as having "high standards" for others but not necessarily offering the same.
How many times have you seen a fat, hairy, balding, unattractive, unemployed, mentally ill man who will ONLY be with young, attarctive model types? :cough: Hugh Hefner :cough: Ok. Hugh isn't unemployed and he isn't fat, but he wouldn't give a woman his own age the time of day. And if HE were as young and attractive as the women he surrounds himself with, HE wouldn't give a 70 year old woman the time of day!lol
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And as far as pulling away: like the telephone calls, it's just something that I do.
I like having time to myself.
I give 110% when I'm around ANYONE.
I spend that time around someone *feeling* what they're feeling and doing whatever I can to help them to feel even better and happier.
The ONLY time I don't do that is when I'm alone.
Then I can feel what *I* feel without picking up on others' feelings and I can just relax.
I care about people and don't try to hurt them by spending time on my own. I wouldn't do anything to betray someone's trust or feelings in that time. I just need time for myself.
If me spending time away from someone will hurt them, then we're not right for each other.
I'm glad I'm not a man and have to cater to a woman's emotional need for constant attention and closeness. lol
MOST seem to be the way you just described "Virgos" as far as having "high standards" for others but not necessarily offering the same.
How many times have you seen a fat, hairy, balding, unattractive, unemployed, mentally ill man who will ONLY be with young, attarctive model types? :cough: Hugh Hefner :cough: Ok. Hugh isn't unemployed and he isn't fat, but he wouldn't give a woman his own age the time of day. And if HE were as young and attractive as the women he surrounds himself with, HE wouldn't give a 70 year old woman the time of day!lol
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And as far as pulling away: like the telephone calls, it's just something that I do.
I like having time to myself.
I give 110% when I'm around ANYONE.
I spend that time around someone *feeling* what they're feeling and doing whatever I can to help them to feel even better and happier.
The ONLY time I don't do that is when I'm alone.
Then I can feel what *I* feel without picking up on others' feelings and I can just relax.
I care about people and don't try to hurt them by spending time on my own. I wouldn't do anything to betray someone's trust or feelings in that time. I just need time for myself.
If me spending time away from someone will hurt them, then we're not right for each other.
I'm glad I'm not a man and have to cater to a woman's emotional need for constant attention and closeness. lol
leo/virgo75: I like having time to myself.
leo/virgo75, I totally understand what you mean. As a matter of fact, I am like that myself. Probably due to my virgo moon. Sometimes I don't pick up phones so as to spend some alone time. I have my friends complaining about this.
The virgic pull away that I am talking about is something else. It's not like taking a day or two off. One moment they are the sweetest creatures on earth, the next moment it's like they don't know you. Normally if a guy acts like this, you'd think he's not that into you. And I presume, if you were to confront them, they would admit that they don't like you. With this virgo guy, that hasn't been my experience. He had the opportunity to admit to something along those lines, or even the opportunity to stay silent and let me understand it but what did he do? He blamed his busy-ness, he claimed that the timing of things was not in favor of him! So, I'm guessing that he's into me in some weird virgic way?! But then, what's the point of his yo-yo behavior?
I would understand him if he wanted space, some alone time, etc. This is something different. It sounds silly but I think noone could understand how virguys act unless they get involved with one.
leo/virgo75, I totally understand what you mean. As a matter of fact, I am like that myself. Probably due to my virgo moon. Sometimes I don't pick up phones so as to spend some alone time. I have my friends complaining about this.
The virgic pull away that I am talking about is something else. It's not like taking a day or two off. One moment they are the sweetest creatures on earth, the next moment it's like they don't know you. Normally if a guy acts like this, you'd think he's not that into you. And I presume, if you were to confront them, they would admit that they don't like you. With this virgo guy, that hasn't been my experience. He had the opportunity to admit to something along those lines, or even the opportunity to stay silent and let me understand it but what did he do? He blamed his busy-ness, he claimed that the timing of things was not in favor of him! So, I'm guessing that he's into me in some weird virgic way?! But then, what's the point of his yo-yo behavior?
I would understand him if he wanted space, some alone time, etc. This is something different. It sounds silly but I think noone could understand how virguys act unless they get involved with one.
ya i feel tha same way, nobody understands unless theyv been ihn the same situation....who knows whats goin on in that head of theirs...
oh who flippin cares anymore.
virgs don't want anyone to ever figure them out EVER anyway..we might as well just let it go and move the hell on!!
virgs don't want anyone to ever figure them out EVER anyway..we might as well just let it go and move the hell on!!
lmao cookiemonstery huh...ya sometimes....thx 4 the compliment br...
yep i didn't really think so till recently i can have an attitude...only if u seem like the type that needs for me to behave like that otherwise im verrrrrrry nice..almost to nice...so what do u think about T.U.I (textn under the influence lol)
yep i didn't really think so till recently i can have an attitude...only if u seem like the type that needs for me to behave like that otherwise im verrrrrrry nice..almost to nice...so what do u think about T.U.I (textn under the influence lol)
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