Ask A Virgo Guy.... GemCurio Classic

I'm back everyone after a timely retreat. I thought to bring back this classic to assist people with their Virgo man needs Hope all has been well. So, for all you new comers, you can are invited to ask me a question concerning your Virgo Men and women. I will do my best to answer in detail and help your situation..

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Posted by BlueStar

Why do Virgo men not like Gemini women? 🥺

We do.. I have my original name in this because that's how friends can recognize me. I came here to learn about Gemini women when I was crushing on one. A Gemini woman had been something I hadn't experienced, so I came here for research 2 years ago..

@GemCurioThe1 Well Hello! 🤗 Funny that after 2yrs, I was off of here as well, we should both return to this forum the same day! When I was last on here I turned to you for advise regarding my Virgo guy. BTW...you gave amazing advise but sadly things didn't go as I had hoped. How are things going with you? Are you still with you Gemini?

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@GemCurioThe1 Well Hello! 🤗 Funny that after 2yrs, I was off of here as well, we should both return to this forum the same day! When I was last on here I turned to you for advise regarding my Virgo guy. BTW...you gave amazing advise but sadly things didn't go as I had hoped. How are things going with you? Are you still with you Gemini?

@Nancym Hi.. That is amazing and impossible coincidence.. Then again it seems that great minds think alike or maybe we're just tapped into the same energy. How are you?? Everything is wonderful on this end. Also, I actually never dated the Gemini who inspired the name or the curiosity. It was simply that she made such a great impression on me, that I had to learn more about Geminis. I hope all has been well...

Should i send my virgo stellium crush (August 28) a cute bday voice note?

I met him on an amazing date abroad in Sg. Went so amazing. Virtual 2nd date was terrible. Then we kinda ghosted each other. Oh yea, also i commented on his post (He posted something about not being goodlooking like he said he would be. Which I think is a lie. 😛) and i left comment knowing it would go well. Blame it on my aqua merc. *Clown Emoji Haha and def got ghosted. Sometimes he looks at my stories. But I miss him. I don't want to date him... but I would love to get to know him.

Hmm should I still send him a voice message?

wouldn't*

Absolutely!!! We Virgos play it cool, but little things like that melt us. You probably could imagine his facial expressions when receiving it... I think your gift idea is awesome!!

Do Virgos say things they don't mean just to make conversation? For instance: I've known my Virgo man over a decade (we dated in our early 20's); Life and distance just slowed us down. We reconnected 4 months ago and immediately fell back in love (we haven't said those words but its implied 😂😊). He works nights but we manage to spend hours on the phone day or night. We spend an immense amount of time together when work permits. He cut off all the women he was dealing with before me and when I came back around. He also told me although hes not ready for marriage this second, he knows I am the one for him hands down. He is super possessive and protective, but he still hasn't officially committed. I see his actions, but as a Scorpio, I need my reassurance but I know Virgos need to feel like they are in control and things are not moving too fast for their own sanity? Is he talking out the side of his neck, or can I count it as a win and wait for him to say the words?

Rlly? 🥺 Some people are saying I shouldn’t ‘chase’. And it’s been 4 months. Also him calling me ‘mate’ hurt. 🤡

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Absolutely!!! We Virgos play it cool, but little things like that melt us. You probably could imagine his facial expressions when receiving it... I think your gift idea is awesome!!

One last question pls! 🥺

Sorry I just have doubts cause others are saying I shouldn’t.

It’s just should I have taken it as a sign? How it’s been 4 months since we’ve talked and how we pretty much ghosted each other that I shouldn’t even send the voice note cause it’ll be too much?

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Absolutely!!! We Virgos play it cool, but little things like that melt us. You probably could imagine his facial expressions when receiving it... I think your gift idea is awesome!!

I apologize for the late response... DXP locked me out of my account because I had an old account I didn't remember. But.. The answer to your question is no. We don't just say things to say them. We hate wasting our time on people without it actually growing into something. That goes for friendships, family, and lovers as well. Your problem Scorpio Lady is you don't have any patience and we are perfectionists. We want to do everything the right way the first time if we can. That goes for dates, courting, and everything else. We have method to our madness and because our intentions are pure or not there, most of the time the outcome will be beautiful. Perhaps, his intentions and vision of marriage is greater than yours. Slow down Scorpio Lady.. If anything, start discussing the future plans with him, and watch it grow, and visions combine to a magical creation that only patience in passion can create. Believe it or not, I even I am having to reevaluate my patience in life and love. And Virgos are patient enough to be completely alone instead of being with someone we do not like.

Maybe that's why he stopped talking to you in the first place. We hate games and see through people that play them. As a matter of fact, we're so used to games that's 70% the reason why we ghost. The other 30% is just completely incompatible towards our intentions. If you like him, in any capacity in order to properly walk away from an idea of a person you have to put yourself out there. You have to take a chance. The reason why there are so many people trapped in thoughts of someone from yesterday is because they didn't make real efforts. Either way, the choice is yours and whatever will remain will be yours also, but for a fact, when a person gives there all in any type of relationship and achieves nothing, walking away leaves everything to gain.

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

And for the record, if there's any confusion, if a Virgo is trying to keep in contact with you, in spite of circumstances, he/she is chasing you. We are not going to burn brightly for someone at a distance. Where we display all our warmth is in person. While away, we're either working on finances, cleaning, organizing, or doing what everyone else should be doing, trying to maintain some balance in this matrix.. A phone call here and there. A text here and there. We like you. We're not going to hit you with sweet words and start wooing you until we know you as much as we need to. We teach people patience for the greater good vicariously.

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

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If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

Thanks that is helpful.

Does that advice still stand if you know he has been very depressed. Medicated. Alcohol problems and had to quit etc.

He keeps saying he will see me ...soon!

Is what you're suggesting, passive aggressive?

Is it not better to be direct?

Say to him words to the effect off, are we doing this or not, because I have a life to live?

You're right they do play games though. I've noticed him do it occasionally.

Actions speak louder than words and our love language is service. Actions. What good are all the words in the world if your actions are saying the opposite—

There's this thing called tough love and it's worthy of respect. What you're describing as his behavior is avoidance. He's doing anything he can to avoid life. Don't tell him to wake up. When he roused out of his slumber life style and you're not around, he'll either search you out or not care. Either way, you're getting an answer. That's what you want right? To for him to get off his @ $ ! And do something. Well if you're busy he'll instinctively know to do something different or he won't.

Does he live far away?? Is there any reason he can't drive to where you're at and see you?

Yes he lives quite far away. In another city. Nearly a 2 hour drive.

He is also a healthcare professional so it has been rough with covid 19

Believe me if he lived close by i wouldn't have put up with this because there would be no excuse.

You are right it is avoidance. He has been very honest with me and told me he lacks confidence and used alcohol as a crutch

He has anxiety since childhood.

Ok. 2 hours driving is nothing. Guys fly across countries to meet women they're interested in. You're enabling him. Being his crutch at your expense and now you're trying to say you're tired of paying his price of admission. He's a man. Do you know that little fact— I'm starting to think he might be married. He's made too many excuses through self inflicted behaviours. None of his situations are a threat to his existence. He's not homeless. He still makes it to work. He's either in a relationship already and you're the side chick or he's married and you're the side chick. Pick... Because we Virgos never show our weaknesses so openly nor behave so crippled without hiding something. Virgo men take pride in their independence and self maintenance and grooming. Even if we are the biggest drunks in the world, you will not find out until we're in the hotel room after our date or you're living with us. There are too many oppositions in your description of him with our very nature. We do have a sense of pride and we rarely ever make our problems or flaws someone else's burden. Those are the facts. He's being secret squirrel about something..

I moved to NYC about one and a half years ago. In NYC, you typically need a broker to even see an apartment so that’s how I met this Virgo guy (he typically buys/sells apartments but sometimes helps people rent). I think he’s married and loves his partner but probably tries to start something on the side. He told me he stays friends with his clients and we can be friends and hang out and stuff. I don’t remember what I said to that but no, we didn’t hang out after I rent the apartment. He did call me a week after I moved in to see how I liked the apartment. Then, in 4 months he sent me a Facebook friends request. I didn’t see the request until a week later. After I accepted the request, he messaged me right away to see how I was doing blah blah but the interaction was a bit awkward. We didn’t talk for another 8 months afterwards until I began to contemplating buying my own studio apartment. I had a phone consultation with him in June, and got a pre-approval letter from the bank so he could run the numbers and see what I could afford. I didn’t sign anything to make him my real estate broker but he reached back out when he had an apartment listing in my area and wanted to show me the place. He’s showed me at least 20 apartments since then without having a contract with me till this date. Odd? Also, since I work from home due to COVID-19, when there’s an apartment in my area I can easily just take an hour off to see the place during the weekday but he always choose to show me the apartments over the weekend and arrange more places for me to see than what I requested so I ended up spending a whole afternoon with him every weekend for the past month. He could’ve used the time for open houses for his own listings or for bigger clients who can afford luxury apartments. He even tried to make me see an apartment in his own apartment building, which is actually outside of my search area (I’m looking for something within 20 min walk from work.) Anyways, I did find an apartment I like in my area and the owner accepted my offer about a week ago. I’m a first time home buyer so I do need more guidance but he calls me a lot to discuss things that can just be stated in an email (he emails me a lot already.) And he always talks for a long time, like 30-60 minutes long. His partner is also a real estate agent and they work together. When it’s an important discussion, he’d get her on the phone too, but he checked on me himself during a lot of other times (eg when he’s between appointments ), it almost feels like he’s just trying to find an excuse to call. I don’t know. Do you think it’s fishy or am I over thinking (aka it’s just normal Virgo being friendly)?

Posted by BlueStar

Why are you so slow?

As a gemini, you perceive us to be moving too slow, because you're nature is very scattered and momentary; virgo energy is trying to catch all your word vomit, noting the sequence of each spew, and give you the benefit of the doubt it's been expressed to make sense and actually convey something. Virgo energy doesn't want you to think it's not listening, or worse, that it doesn't care about you.

Posted by BlueStar

Why does your name have Gem in it if you are a Virgo?

My curiosity about Geminis had created the name years ago, but because I had been inspired to grow further by Geminis since interacting with them, I have a deep respect for them and keep the name

Posted by whatisthisallabout

I moved to NYC about one and a half years ago. In NYC, you typically need a broker to even see an apartment so that’s how I met this Virgo guy (he typically buys/sells apartments but sometimes helps people rent). I think he’s married and loves his partner but probably tries to start something on the side. He told me he stays friends with his clients and we can be friends and hang out and stuff. I don’t remember what I said to that but no, we didn’t hang out after I rent the apartment. He did call me a week after I moved in to see how I liked the apartment. Then, in 4 months he sent me a Facebook friends request. I didn’t see the request until a week later. After I accepted the request, he messaged me right away to see how I was doing blah blah but the interaction was a bit awkward. We didn’t talk for another 8 months afterwards until I began to contemplating buying my own studio apartment. I had a phone consultation with him in June, and got a pre-approval letter from the bank so he could run the numbers and see what I could afford. I didn’t sign anything to make him my real estate broker but he reached back out when he had an apartment listing in my area and wanted to show me the place. He’s showed me at least 20 apartments since then without having a contract with me till this date. Odd? Also, since I work from home due to COVID-19, when there’s an apartment in my area I can easily just take an hour off to see the place during the weekday but he always choose to show me the apartments over the weekend and arrange more places for me to see than what I requested so I ended up spending a whole afternoon with him every weekend for the past month. He could’ve used the time for open houses for his own listings or for bigger clients who can afford luxury apartments. He even tried to make me see an apartment in his own apartment building, which is actually outside of my search area (I’m looking for something within 20 min walk from work.) Anyways, I did find an apartment I like in my area and the owner accepted my offer about a week ago. I’m a first time home buyer so I do need more guidance but he calls me a lot to discuss things that can just be stated in an email (he emails me a lot already.) And he always talks for a long time, like 30-60 minutes long. His partner is also a real estate agent and they work together. When it’s an important discussion, he’d get her on the phone too, but he checked on me himself during a lot of other times (eg when he’s between appointments ), it almost feels like he’s just trying to find an excuse to call. I don’t know. Do you think it’s fishy or am I over thinking (aka it’s just normal Virgo being friendly)?

In NYC, networking and having standing relationships with people is how you get good or bad reputations. If he hasn't asked you to lunch throughout all these endeavors, I doubt he's doing anything other than being professional and networking. It sounds like it's been over a years worth of interactions. If he hasn't invited you to lunch, I'd say he's simply doing his job well. So, now that we've established that, are you going to pursue him further??

Thanks for the feedback, GemCurioThe1!

I just thought it’s weird for a married man to tell a single woman let’s be friends and stuff, but maybe it’s part of normal networking here. He was kinda touchy before COVID but maybe that’s also normal. If things change I will keep you posted 🙂

Posted by whatisthisallabout

Thanks for the feedback, GemCurioThe1!

I just thought it’s weird for a married man to tell a single woman let’s be friends and stuff, but maybe it’s part of normal networking here. He was kinda touchy before COVID but maybe that’s also normal. If things change I will keep you posted 🙂

It's not very Virgo like to make friends unnecessarily. What makes sense is if you're a single woman who moved to NYC and you don't really know anyone, you might have questions like where's the subway, what's a good restaurant, what areas to avoid. These are the typical thoughts of us Virgos in good nature with no extras. We're happy to help people who might need it in difficult situations. But if he invites you to lunch and starts trying to make you laugh, you already know...lol

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Posted by whatisthisallabout

Thanks for the feedback, GemCurioThe1!

I just thought it’s weird for a married man to tell a single woman let’s be friends and stuff, but maybe it’s part of normal networking here. He was kinda touchy before COVID but maybe that’s also normal. If things change I will keep you posted 🙂

It's not very Virgo like to make friends unnecessarily. What makes sense is if you're a single woman who moved to NYC and you don't really know anyone, you might have questions like where's the subway, what's a good restaurant, what areas to avoid. These are the typical thoughts of us Virgos in good nature with no extras. We're happy to help people who might need it in difficult situations. But if he invites you to lunch and starts trying to make you laugh, you already know...lol

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lol Thanks! This is very helpful 🙂

Posted by halalbae

Whats with the pimp energy?

I have a Aries Moon and I think I figured out how to make it work. What do you think—

Riddle me this: cancer woman who recently stepped my game up and finally told Virgo gal that I like her more than just a friend. She was literally, blushing, shocked, and speechless 🤣. I left on a high note rather confidentially. I’m just curious if any Virgo women can advice on how I should interact with her moving fwd? She never expressed if the feelings were mutual but she didn’t waive me off with disgust either🤷🏾‍♀️

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Riddle me this: cancer woman who recently stepped my game up and finally told Virgo gal that I like her more than just a friend. She was literally, blushing, shocked, and speechless 🤣. I left on a high note rather confidentially. I’m just curious if any Virgo women can advice on how I should interact with her moving fwd? She never expressed if the feelings were mutual but she didn’t waive me off with disgust either🤷🏾‍♀️

Let it flow. Remain steady and consistent and she will let you know one way or the other. Remember she placed the ball in her court. Now kick back, relax and patiently wait on her response. Give her a week and remember that no response is a response.

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Posted by CallMeMuva

Riddle me this: cancer woman who recently stepped my game up and finally told Virgo gal that I like her more than just a friend. She was literally, blushing, shocked, and speechless 🤣. I left on a high note rather confidentially. I’m just curious if any Virgo women can advice on how I should interact with her moving fwd? She never expressed if the feelings were mutual but she didn’t waive me off with disgust either🤷🏾‍♀️

Let it flow. Remain steady and consistent and she will let you know one way or the other. Remember she placed the ball in her court. Now kick back, relax and patiently wait on her response. Give her a week and remember that no response is a response.

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This is great advice and also a wonderful reminder to keep my emotions in check. I do intend to proceed in a relaxed manner without pressuring her or making things awkward as i genuinely value our friendship. But no response is a response and I will carry that with me as well.

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Riddle me this: cancer woman who recently stepped my game up and finally told Virgo gal that I like her more than just a friend. She was literally, blushing, shocked, and speechless 🤣. I left on a high note rather confidentially. I’m just curious if any Virgo women can advice on how I should interact with her moving fwd? She never expressed if the feelings were mutual but she didn’t waive me off with disgust either🤷🏾‍♀️

Let it flow. Remain steady and consistent and she will let you know one way or the other. Remember she placed the ball in her court. Now kick back, relax and patiently wait on her response. Give her a week and remember that no response is a response.

This is great advice and also a wonderful reminder to keep my emotions in check. I do intend to proceed in a relaxed manner without pressuring her or making things awkward as i genuinely value our friendship. But no response is a response and I will carry that with me as well.

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I was really feeling "Riddle me this" . Thanks for the throwback..

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

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It's because you're not engaging him. The tables have turned. He's making the efforts. He's flirting and interacting with you as much as you're allowing him, but you're not reciprocating. It's time to ask yourself what's your overall goal from this interaction— What do you want? And for fuck sake text the man back if you like him. We Virgos hate being ignored and will break our own hearts and destroy our attractions to you if you're not receiving us. We'll do it quickly too. We don't play games with our attractions.

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

It's because you're not engaging him. The tables have turned. He's making the efforts. He's flirting and interacting with you as much as you're allowing him, but you're not reciprocating. It's time to ask yourself what's your overall goal from this interaction— What do you want? And for fuck sake text the man back if you like him. We Virgos hate being ignored and will break our own hearts and destroy our attractions to you if you're not receiving us. We'll do it quickly too. We don't play games with our attractions.

You also just said last time Virgos play head games so which is it?

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We play games only when people play with us. You're actually doing quite well because after your last post, I see clearly he's the one playing a game with you. He knows you want him and like him, so before I go in telling how to proceed, what exactly is it you're trying to have this guy do?? Know what you want and I can tell you how to proceed.

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

It's because you're not engaging him. The tables have turned. He's making the efforts. He's flirting and interacting with you as much as you're allowing him, but you're not reciprocating. It's time to ask yourself what's your overall goal from this interaction— What do you want? And for fuck sake text the man back if you like him. We Virgos hate being ignored and will break our own hearts and destroy our attractions to you if you're not receiving us. We'll do it quickly too. We don't play games with our attractions.

You also just said last time Virgos play head games so which is it?

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BTW.. Just inbox me on this site if you don't want all your business to be public. A have ran into many people who have a problem with that. Just in case...

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

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Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

Short of posting the entire story. That is not the case. He knows I was keen to date and have that sort of involvement.

He is the one who keeps making excuses

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Okay

Sometimes men do this unconsciously, without realising it

I was with one for many years and still don't know him. He's a great friend and dad but anything more, no. Since we parted he has dated lots of women, they'd get close, he'd run....

I wish you luck 💚

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There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

I should have said I didn't really engage him on that occasion as I am sick of him doing this by text and then not making plans in real life.

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Right. So why are you still giving him a chance? His behaviour may not change?

I guess you just need to stand right back and then you will see what he's made of

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Posted by MyuMe84

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by MyuMe84

Posted by GemCurioThe1

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

I should have said I didn't really engage him on that occasion as I am sick of him doing this by text and then not making plans in real life.

Right. So why are you still giving him a chance? His behaviour may not change?

I guess you just need to stand right back and then you will see what he's made of

I did stand right back. He cropped up and did it again.

How is he likely to react if I say are you just using me because I'm sick of this

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Just arrange to meet and see what happens....if he messes you around tell him to do one and if he keeps coming back ask him if he thinks you're stupid

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Did you look at his chart?

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Posted by MyuMe84

Posted by GemCurioThe1

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

I should have said I didn't really engage him on that occasion as I am sick of him doing this by text and then not making plans in real life.

Right. So why are you still giving him a chance? His behaviour may not change?

I guess you just need to stand right back and then you will see what he's made of

I did stand right back. He cropped up and did it again.

How is he likely to react if I say are you just using me because I'm sick of this

Just arrange to meet and see what happens....if he messes you around tell him to do one and if he keeps coming back ask him if he thinks you're stupid

Boundaries

Did you look at his chart?

You're right.

Rising sign Capricorn

don't know birth time so no rising sign.

Sun is in 04 Degrees Virgo.

Moon is in 13 Degrees Virgo.

Mercury is in 06 Degrees Virgo.

Venus is in 24 Degrees Virgo

Mars is in 05 Degrees Sagittarius

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Similarities in his and my exes chart. He still doesn't know what he wants. He is addicted to screens and all the women he dated are online.

What is your astrology?

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

I should have said I didn't really engage him on that occasion as I am sick of him doing this by text and then not making plans in real life.

Right. So why are you still giving him a chance? His behaviour may not change?

I guess you just need to stand right back and then you will see what he's made of

I did stand right back. He cropped up and did it again.

How is he likely to react if I say are you just using me because I'm sick of this

Just arrange to meet and see what happens....if he messes you around tell him to do one and if he keeps coming back ask him if he thinks you're stupid

Boundaries

Did you look at his chart?

You're right.

Rising sign Capricorn

don't know birth time so no rising sign.

Sun is in 04 Degrees Virgo.

Moon is in 13 Degrees Virgo.

Mercury is in 06 Degrees Virgo.

Venus is in 24 Degrees Virgo

Mars is in 05 Degrees Sagittarius

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I sent you messages back. Let me know if you got them. If not you have to change your mail settings

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

There's plenty to do and plenty you could say, but it would help to know a little about your desired outcome. Do you want him to just sort of smile at you?? Do you want him to melt?? What are you trying to achieve here—

In the mean time, a surprise home cooked meal brought to him would make him relax a bit around you.. It would be unexpected and because it requires a little more effort than McDonald's, he'll think you'll like him..

I'm tired of messing around. We're going to do this or I need to move on.

I'm tired of his back and forth and problems and excuses.

No one says it has to be a full on committed relationship right off the bat but I want to meet again. Do all the things he keeps saying we will.

I want him to want me and actually do what he says he will.

When we last met the chemistry was amazing

If you really want to get his attention and make a decision pull back. Tolerance means acceptance so don't tolerate it. We Virgos have our share of mind games and play, but if you want to know exactly where you stand with him ignore him for 3 weeks intentionally no matter what. Don't take his calls at all and if he texts you wait 5 hours before you text him back or wait until the next day. You can't miss something that's ALWAYS there and if you have a 75 inch TV that you rarely watch, the moment it's missing anyone would naturally panic. I'm giving you advice that will reveal a bottom line truth one way or the other. And if you want go out on a date with someone else. You're not in a committed relationship with him. People value what they can't have a sad fact of life. Believe me he will notice and respond. And no response is a response also.

OK so I did it.

He starts talking to me again. Telling me about work, asking how I am.

We chatted in quite a few days.

He turned the conversation sexual again on Thursday and said all sorts of lovely things about me. I exercised a degree of caution and didnt really engage.

I woke up on Friday morning to several texts sent when I didnt reply he sent another. I hadnt seen them...my phone goes on silent at night.

Then he back to the same. Not chatting again much.

What the fuck

Because he thought he wasn't getting anywhere sexually with you

Men are quite easy to suss out.......most of the time.

I should have said I didn't really engage him on that occasion as I am sick of him doing this by text and then not making plans in real life.

Right. So why are you still giving him a chance? His behaviour may not change?

I guess you just need to stand right back and then you will see what he's made of

I did stand right back. He cropped up and did it again.

How is he likely to react if I say are you just using me because I'm sick of this

Just arrange to meet and see what happens....if he messes you around tell him to do one and if he keeps coming back ask him if he thinks you're stupid

Boundaries

Did you look at his chart?

You're right.

Rising sign Capricorn

don't know birth time so no rising sign.

Sun is in 04 Degrees Virgo.

Moon is in 13 Degrees Virgo.

Mercury is in 06 Degrees Virgo.

Venus is in 24 Degrees Virgo

Mars is in 05 Degrees Sagittarius

I sent you messages back. Let me know if you got them. If not you have to change your mail settings

Just changed settings dont know if you need to send the messages again

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I have to rewrite it.

Hi please help me,

I'm pisces and met him online date 3mos ago,we directly hooked up. But I like him, so I pursue him.

He's been in bad relationship ,that's why he doesn't want any woman. But he tried considering me. But last week he just totally rejecting me and tell me to forget everything. (I was missing him too much because we can not meet for a month,I think he hate that overwhelming feeling from me), but he doesn't want considering his decisions anymore and trying to being very cold.

So I come to him last weekend,he still don't want any future with me and I should forget everything, and he said we shouldn't meet anymore. I said I accept his decision, but please give me some times. So after that we've been writing again. he even gave me some doll (some how also his tsihrt) and pouring it with his parfume.

I like him so so much, is there a chance?

What should I do?

Of course for now I need to give him his space, he indeed have a lot rightnow.

Is he actually playing with me all this time? Because he never stopped his online dating. I don't know what to think anymore, if there's a chance, or he is just a jerk from the start till now.

What should you do— remember how great you are and bring back the natural order of things. We Virgos know what we want, but never forget for a moment young lady, that at the end of the day you're the prize, and we, just like any other men should view you as such in order manifest anything fruitful...

Hit me up in my DMs... We'll get this sorted out...

@GemCurioThe1 thank you for the help and the insight on the virgo man I have been dealing with. I had so much anxiety in dealing with him but your advice def made all the difference. I wish I had reached out to you way before than I did to be honest 🙂

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Hello, I am a Virgo woman seeing on and off a virgo man for over a year. We started out as a fwb situation (I was always looking for more) I got feelings he did not so it ended Feb of 2020. Fast forward to July 2020 he starts messaging asking to see me and to hang out as friends. I put it off for 2 more months and in sept. He invited me to his bday party. I go finally thinking it’s a party and there will be other ppl so no need to worry about falling into old habits. I end up driving him home as he was wasted. (Insert old habits here) from that day on we have been seeing each other again. About a month ago I let him know I was dating someone else and him and I would need to stop seeing each other. He said ok we said out goodbyes and the very next day I get a message from him saying I’m the only one he’s been seeing that he hasn’t wanted to see anyone else and hasn’t been on dating apps (how we met) at all. I ended up not liking the new guy so I stopped seeing him. Virgo guy starts doing things he has never ever done and has told me in the past he does not do if he has no feelings. Which was a lot more before sex touching/kissing, cuddling after, and asked me to stay the night. He always tells me what a great person I am and how we r so alike in so many ways and also how he respects me. I had and incident with his best friend hitting on me and I told him right away he became jealous and he told another coworker about it and they mock the best friend and say how you should never do that to a friend. He tells ppl about me and him but has been adamant in the past about telling me he sees me only as a fwb. Do you think I have a chance at something more with him in light of his recent changes, or what do you make of them? Thank you I appreciate your guidance greatly.

Hi.. I apologize for the late response, but in the U.S., we just were buried in snow. You are well aware as a Virgo yourself that we do not take any actions which are not sincere and we try our best to say what we mean and mean what we say. I believe he has had a change of heart towards the nature of towards the nature of your relationship, but there's no real need for you to do anything right now other than observe his actions in hermit mode. We are very intuitive when it comes to people and being that he absolutely had to proclaim his attachment to you when you gave him notice of your brief relationship with another guy, he most likely had felt for you the entire time, but remained reserved due to his past experiences.

As a Virgo, you should be fully aware of our need to feel valued by a significant other/fwb. He had waited thinking that you would find value in him only to be confronted by the fact that he was exactly what was agreed upon. What should matter most right now isn't his words or even his actions. It should be simply what is it that you desire to come from this scenario?? Place your own thoughts and feelings first in this situation. This way, no matter what he does or says, you remain focused on what's most important to you. We Virgos fully understand how to manipulate feelings to achieve our desired outcomes whenever we so choose(you know this already). So, while he's in full compliance mode, play it cool as ice and play dumb to his advances as if you had no idea he felt anything towards you. Tell him you desire to take it slow, and just sit back with a cup of tea, and watch the show. I would greatly enjoy hearing an update.

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Posted by Mashelmybell

Hello, I am a Virgo woman seeing on and off a virgo man for over a year. We started out as a fwb situation (I was always looking for more) I got feelings he did not so it ended Feb of 2020. Fast forward to July 2020 he starts messaging asking to see me and to hang out as friends. I put it off for 2 more months and in sept. He invited me to his bday party. I go finally thinking it’s a party and there will be other ppl so no need to worry about falling into old habits. I end up driving him home as he was wasted. (Insert old habits here) from that day on we have been seeing each other again. About a month ago I let him know I was dating someone else and him and I would need to stop seeing each other. He said ok we said out goodbyes and the very next day I get a message from him saying I’m the only one he’s been seeing that he hasn’t wanted to see anyone else and hasn’t been on dating apps (how we met) at all. I ended up not liking the new guy so I stopped seeing him. Virgo guy starts doing things he has never ever done and has told me in the past he does not do if he has no feelings. Which was a lot more before sex touching/kissing, cuddling after, and asked me to stay the night. He always tells me what a great person I am and how we r so alike in so many ways and also how he respects me. I had and incident with his best friend hitting on me and I told him right away he became jealous and he told another coworker about it and they mock the best friend and say how you should never do that to a friend. He tells ppl about me and him but has been adamant in the past about telling me he sees me only as a fwb. Do you think I have a chance at something more with him in light of his recent changes, or what do you make of them? Thank you I appreciate your guidance greatly.

Hi.. I apologize for the late response, but in the U.S., we just were buried in snow. You are well aware as a Virgo yourself that we do not take any actions which are not sincere and we try our best to say what we mean and mean what we say. I believe he has had a change of heart towards the nature of towards the nature of your relationship, but there's no real need for you to do anything right now other than observe his actions in hermit mode. We are very intuitive when it comes to people and being that he absolutely had to proclaim his attachment to you when you gave him notice of your brief relationship with another guy, he most likely had felt for you the entire time, but remained reserved due to his past experiences.

As a Virgo, you should be fully aware of our need to feel valued by a significant other/fwb. He had waited thinking that you would find value in him only to be confronted by the fact that he was exactly what was agreed upon. What should matter most right now isn't his words or even his actions. It should be simply what is it that you desire to come from this scenario?? Place your own thoughts and feelings first in this situation. This way, no matter what he does or says, you remain focused on what's most important to you. We Virgos fully understand how to manipulate feelings to achieve our desired outcomes whenever we so choose(you know this already). So, while he's in full compliance mode, play it cool as ice and play dumb to his advances as if you had no idea he felt anything towards you. Tell him you desire to take it slow, and just sit back with a cup of tea, and watch the show. I would greatly enjoy hearing an update.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and advice!!

I am doing just that taking it slow, he is well aware of my feelings for him I have told him in the past that I wanted more out of this. I only started seeing someone else because he has been so adamant about feeling nothing for me so to be fair to both of us I decided to try and date others (which doesn’t work out when you’re in love with someone else). I have learned to take a step back, let him come to me, and not talk about feelings at all. I feel that he will continue to slowly come around. I will give an update in a few months. Again thank you kindly!!

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Just trust the process and remember who you are and what you bring just being yourself. We Virgos often settle for less than what we deserve because of that little mercury in us which makes us impatient at times, but in my experience and I'm certain in most people's experiences, time is never a factor when SINCERITY in thought and emotions are factors. Looking forward to hearing about the outcome...

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Posted by Mashelmybell

Hello, I am a Virgo woman seeing on and off a virgo man for over a year. We started out as a fwb situation (I was always looking for more) I got feelings he did not so it ended Feb of 2020. Fast forward to July 2020 he starts messaging asking to see me and to hang out as friends. I put it off for 2 more months and in sept. He invited me to his bday party. I go finally thinking it’s a party and there will be other ppl so no need to worry about falling into old habits. I end up driving him home as he was wasted. (Insert old habits here) from that day on we have been seeing each other again. About a month ago I let him know I was dating someone else and him and I would need to stop seeing each other. He said ok we said out goodbyes and the very next day I get a message from him saying I’m the only one he’s been seeing that he hasn’t wanted to see anyone else and hasn’t been on dating apps (how we met) at all. I ended up not liking the new guy so I stopped seeing him. Virgo guy starts doing things he has never ever done and has told me in the past he does not do if he has no feelings. Which was a lot more before sex touching/kissing, cuddling after, and asked me to stay the night. He always tells me what a great person I am and how we r so alike in so many ways and also how he respects me. I had and incident with his best friend hitting on me and I told him right away he became jealous and he told another coworker about it and they mock the best friend and say how you should never do that to a friend. He tells ppl about me and him but has been adamant in the past about telling me he sees me only as a fwb. Do you think I have a chance at something more with him in light of his recent changes, or what do you make of them? Thank you I appreciate your guidance greatly.

Hi.. I apologize for the late response, but in the U.S., we just were buried in snow. You are well aware as a Virgo yourself that we do not take any actions which are not sincere and we try our best to say what we mean and mean what we say. I believe he has had a change of heart towards the nature of towards the nature of your relationship, but there's no real need for you to do anything right now other than observe his actions in hermit mode. We are very intuitive when it comes to people and being that he absolutely had to proclaim his attachment to you when you gave him notice of your brief relationship with another guy, he most likely had felt for you the entire time, but remained reserved due to his past experiences.

As a Virgo, you should be fully aware of our need to feel valued by a significant other/fwb. He had waited thinking that you would find value in him only to be confronted by the fact that he was exactly what was agreed upon. What should matter most right now isn't his words or even his actions. It should be simply what is it that you desire to come from this scenario?? Place your own thoughts and feelings first in this situation. This way, no matter what he does or says, you remain focused on what's most important to you. We Virgos fully understand how to manipulate feelings to achieve our desired outcomes whenever we so choose(you know this already). So, while he's in full compliance mode, play it cool as ice and play dumb to his advances as if you had no idea he felt anything towards you. Tell him you desire to take it slow, and just sit back with a cup of tea, and watch the show. I would greatly enjoy hearing an update.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and advice!!

I am doing just that taking it slow, he is well aware of my feelings for him I have told him in the past that I wanted more out of this. I only started seeing someone else because he has been so adamant about feeling nothing for me so to be fair to both of us I decided to try and date others (which doesn’t work out when you’re in love with someone else). I have learned to take a step back, let him come to me, and not talk about feelings at all. I feel that he will continue to slowly come around. I will give an update in a few months. Again thank you kindly!!

Just trust the process and remember who you are and what you bring just being yourself. We Virgos often settle for less than what we deserve because of that little mercury in us which makes us impatient at times, but in my experience and I'm certain in most people's experiences, time is never a factor when SINCERITY in thought and emotions are factors. Looking forward to hearing about the outcome...

Hello,

Small update, my Virgo recently told me his feelings are growing for me. Hopefully this will continue and we will become official within a few months it’s already been 6. We are basically in a relationship already without saying it officially as he had expressed months ago he wanted to be exclusive.

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I'm happy for your progress. One thing that I'd like to add is that the extent of the damage from past relationships within a person is something that none can truly be aware of when developing a new bond. Also, sometimes people are willing to change everything about themselves to be what the person they are falling in love with needs. For men and women these are processes that require time and seem slow as a slug on the concrete, but that's only because the person is choosing to grow for love. People do not treat everyone the same. That's just a fact of life, and when the right person comes along a demon would strive to be an angel... Thanks for the update and I wish you the best.

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Posted by BlueStar

Why do Virgo men not like Gemini women? 🥺

We do.. I have my original name in this because that's how friends can recognize me. I came here to learn about Gemini women when I was crushing on one. A Gemini woman had been something I hadn't experienced, so I came here for research 2 years ago..

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Is this true? Virgo man not compatible with Gemini woman?? I wanted some Virgo man tips

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Posted by BlueStar

Why do Virgo men not like Gemini women? 🥺

We do.. I have my original name in this because that's how friends can recognize me. I came here to learn about Gemini women when I was crushing on one. A Gemini woman had been something I hadn't experienced, so I came here for research 2 years ago..

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Is this true? Virgo man not compatible with Gemini woman?? I wanted some Virgo man tips