Beating around the bush

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by DMV on Tuesday, September 17, 2013 and has 14 replies.

Why Virgos Tend to Beat Around the Bush

Virgos may beat around the bush because they prefer to analyze situations carefully before speaking directly, aiming to communicate thoughtfully. They often seek perfection and clarity, which can lead to indirect conversations. Understanding this trait helps improve communication with Virgo individuals, especially when they seem hesitant to address issues directly.

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@LostinmyMind11
15 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by Superseven
Cause their too scary to confront things head on.

-depends on what it is exactly

They will confront you eventually but not in a straight forward manner. Their usual tricks is gossiping, undermining you etc.

- I don't do that...it may take me a while to confront someone because im trying to get my wording right...I genuinely suck at communicating. Gossiping and undermining someone causes drama...which i dont particular care for.

And just when you thought everyone's over the issue and moved on they still remember and haven't gotten over it.

-true but again depends on the situation

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

I just notice it a lot with my virgo gal friend and some other virgos that I know. I dont think its for malicious intent. I think its quite the opposite.

It just seems like she spares my feelings a lot about things when its not really her place to make that call you know?. I want the good bad and the ugly and not just what she thinks I can handle.

She not only does the bob and weave with me but with others and sometimes me and my other bestie have to match stories and we will get maybe 85 percent of whats really going on.

Is it a trust thing? A comfort thing?

I sometimes think the bob and weave is annoying as fuck and extremely frustrating.

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@beautifulsoul74
14 Years5,000+ Posts

@DMV: four of my closest friends are Virgos...two males and two females and they all exhibit the behavior you describe.

At one point in our friendships I didn't even talk about anything emotional until one day my best friend asked my why? I simply told him I noticed he's afraid of anything emotional and he admitted it but he changed. From what I see, they are great people but once they embrace the emotional aspect of life they are even greater. I've gotten some of the best emotional insight from my friend.

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

its not even just the emotional stuff. it could be the most mundane things she withholds on. but i think its what Lixon talked about, they do it to avoid confrontation.

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@DMV
15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

i just take it as she is just not ready to tell me 100% maybe because she fears i will judge her but i dont give a hoot really.

im just nosey and would like full information.

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@virgodog58
14 Years1,000+ Posts

I just think that on balance we tend to be somewhat shy/reserved and so don't really like confrontations/rejections.

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@ShakenNotStirred
13 Years

why do virgos beat around the bush?

Even though we lack feelings, we're smart enough not hurt yours -- if we can.

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