Can't get Virgo Woman off my mind.... FUCK.

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She's super cute, she's mysterious, she's funny and I haven't crushed on a girl like this since I was in like Middle School. I moved to California a few months ago and to start my new job, and she was the first person that I noticed... she really got my attention.

I see hot girls all the time, and just like any man all I think about with them are things like shoving my face in her ass or between her breast. But even with that, I'm usually not phased by most women no matter how gorgeous. But not this time. And when it's a girl I really like... I usually don't know how to act around her.

She sparked a conversation with me and we kinda just... clicked. She's very nice and pleasant to be around. I would catch her looking at me sometimes and I'm pretty sure she's caught me a few times looking at her. I have held back on making any advances on her because I just started this job and didn't want to fuck shit up by getting distracted. Even with me being kinda awkward, we still got along.

Out of nowhere she finds me and adds me on Facebook (I don't even have people on my own team added on facebook). I accept it of course. She has a FUCKING BOYFRIEND. I felt my heart fall from my chest into my bowels. I don't understand how she NEVER brought this guy up before. She's super secretive, especially considering everybody around the office talks about their spouse at some point or another. Took look through her facebook and she doesn't even list the guy as her boyfriend an in fact ... hides all of her friends on facebook. I know it's not my business.... but why the shady stuff?

I just don't understand virgo women

*Huge Sigh*
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
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I mean honestly and truly, when I'm in a relationship, I don't shout it from the hilltops, and I don't usually say it as a conversation starter. Partly because 1. I don't really know you enough to tell you my business. 2. Why? Lmao 3. I wanna see what your intentions are towards me first. 4. I just find it annoying when your trying to be just friends w/ someone and then they bring up a relationship — Like okay ?? That's nice.
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
I mean honestly and truly, when I'm in a relationship, I don't shout it from the hilltops, and I don't usually say it as a conversation starter. Partly because 1. I don't really know you enough to tell you my business. 2. Why? Lmao 3. I wanna see what your intentions are towards me first. 4. I just find it annoying when your trying to be just friends w/ someone and then they bring up a relationship — Like okay ?? That's nice.

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You're right, and I wasn't being nice to her just for that, and I will not treat her any differently now. Just kinda sucks that she has someone already, but that's just the situation. I rarely EVER meet someone that makes me feel that way.
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
I'm private like that too even about the memories i have with some people, I dont wanna share them with others.

why are you annoyed though? Virgos are naturally nice to everyone like that which make them end up in the #respectzone aka the point, crabs are cray and like the nice "please friendzone me" act virgos pull.
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I'm not really "annoyed" with her. I'm disappointed, I mean, what man wouldn't be.

I do find it misleading the way you virgo's play the innocent nice girl card and lure men in. They probably know that the guys want them but keep stringing them along. I'm not the one.
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
I mean honestly and truly, when I'm in a relationship, I don't shout it from the hilltops, and I don't usually say it as a conversation starter. Partly because 1. I don't really know you enough to tell you my business. 2. Why? Lmao 3. I wanna see what your intentions are towards me first. 4. I just find it annoying when your trying to be just friends w/ someone and then they bring up a relationship — Like okay ?? That's nice.


You're right, and I wasn't being nice to her just for that, and I will not treat her any differently now. Just kinda sucks that she has someone already, but that's just the situation. I rarely EVER meet someone that makes me feel that way.

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Awe how cute ?

Sorry she's taken, you'll find someone else. Hope you two can be best of friends though
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
I'm private like that too even about the memories i have with some people, I dont wanna share them with others.

why are you annoyed though? Virgos are naturally nice to everyone like that which make them end up in the #respectzone aka the point, crabs are cray and like the nice "please friendzone me" act virgos pull.
I'm not really "annoyed" with her. I'm disappointed, I mean, what man wouldn't be.

I do find it misleading the way you virgo's play the innocent nice girl card and lure men in. They probably know that the guys want them but keep stringing them along. I'm not the one.
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Oh - and Virgo's usually have a lot of friends - including other males, so you will have to work past the paranoia of being a side piece.
I fucking HATE that honestly. And most men I know hate it as well. But she's cool enough for me to be friends with regardless of her having someone (which is SUPER RARE for me) so it's okay in my book.
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Are you jealous

Lmao I'm friends with tons of guys. Banter is always good, and no feelings are ever hurt. Always very protective of me.

I didn't think men hated that wot
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I do find it misleading the way you virgo's play the innocent nice girl card and lure men in. They probably know that the guys want them but keep stringing them along. I'm not the one.
hahaha
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@breterpan Puts my finger to your lips like, sshhhh.

OP: Bro, don't invest in this, give her what she gives you. The upside for you is, (probably just a fling) she may want an escape from where she's at, you can be that escape. The downside, (a relationship with her) if she can do that to him, she can do that to you.
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.
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there is a reason she looked you up and added you on Facebook. she wanted you to know she has someone
I wouldn't be surprised. In fact, i'm sure that's why she did it.
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think it about this way - she doesn't want to put you in an uncomfortable spot one day. she doesn't want to have to reject you. she likes you and wants to keep the good vibe between you
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.
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Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.
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there is a reason she looked you up and added you on Facebook. she wanted you to know she has someone
I wouldn't be surprised. In fact, i'm sure that's why she did it.
think it about this way - she doesn't want to put you in an uncomfortable spot one day. she doesn't want to have to reject you. she likes you and wants to keep the good vibe between you

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I can respect that as well.

I mean, it's not like i'm saying she did anything wrong in the first place. I can be disappointed if I want to.
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there is a reason she looked you up and added you on Facebook. she wanted you to know she has someone
I wouldn't be surprised. In fact, i'm sure that's why she did it.
think it about this way - she doesn't want to put you in an uncomfortable spot one day. she doesn't want to have to reject you. she likes you and wants to keep the good vibe between you



I can respect that as well.

I mean, it's not like i'm saying she did anything wrong in the first place. I can be disappointed if I want to.

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of course. it's only natural to feel disappointed. i'm just saying that she likely cares enough to do this
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.

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Seriously
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She's super cute, she's mysterious, she's funny and I haven't crushed on a girl like this since I was in like Middle School. I moved to California a few months ago and to start my new job, and she was the first person that I noticed... she really got my attention.

I see hot girls all the time, and just like any man all I think about with them are things like shoving my face in her ass or between her breast. But even with that, I'm usually not phased by most women no matter how gorgeous. But not this time. And when it's a girl I really like... I usually don't know how to act around her.

She sparked a conversation with me and we kinda just... clicked. She's very nice and pleasant to be around. I would catch her looking at me sometimes and I'm pretty sure she's caught me a few times looking at her. I have held back on making any advances on her because I just started this job and didn't want to fuck shit up by getting distracted. Even with me being kinda awkward, we still got along.

Out of nowhere she finds me and adds me on Facebook (I don't even have people on my own team added on facebook). I accept it of course. She has a FUCKING BOYFRIEND. I felt my heart fall from my chest into my bowels. I don't understand how she NEVER brought this guy up before. She's super secretive, especially considering everybody around the office talks about their spouse at some point or another. Took look through her facebook and she doesn't even list the guy as her boyfriend an in fact ... hides all of her friends on facebook. I know it's not my business.... but why the shady stuff?

I just don't understand virgo women

*Huge Sigh*
We're not all like that. Trust me. Sometimes I think I'm far too forthcoming with people. Wide open book. Doesn't serve me well but that's who I am. *shrugs*
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Wait how do you know he's her boyfriend if she never lists him as such Wot

Well you know us Virgos

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They were each other's "Valentine's" in a valentine post.... where they mention each other as being together.

And I respect the idea of protecting the relationship, but don't understand it honestly. Like what are you protecting? Either you're in one or you're not.
I mean honestly and truly, when I'm in a relationship, I don't shout it from the hilltops, and I don't usually say it as a conversation starter. Partly because 1. I don't really know you enough to tell you my business. 2. Why? Lmao 3. I wanna see what your intentions are towards me first. 4. I just find it annoying when your trying to be just friends w/ someone and then they bring up a relationship — Like okay ?? That's nice.


You're right, and I wasn't being nice to her just for that, and I will not treat her any differently now. Just kinda sucks that she has someone already, but that's just the situation. I rarely EVER meet someone that makes me feel that way.

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I feel you. One-sided love affairs/whatever... suck!
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.

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Very classy and diplomatic.. almost libra-like, very feminine. Virgo hates to hurt other people, they'd run away first lulz. OP: do what I would do when it's all or nothing, emotionally divest and then thrown out your feelings and tell her what you feel for her and what you expect or want, like a giant bar she has to hop. If she's in love she'll react favorably if she shuts you down or shuts down herself than walk away. If she jumps that bar she's yours. Forget the other guy.
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


Very classy and diplomatic.. almost libra-like, very feminine. Virgo hates to hurt other people, they'd run away first lulz. OP: do what I would do when it's all or nothing, emotionally divest and then thrown out your feelings and tell her what you feel for her and what you expect or want, like a giant bar she has to hop. If she's in love she'll react favorably if she shuts you down or shuts down herself than walk away. If she jumps that bar she's yours. Forget the other guy.
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I was talking to this guy about astrology and he was new to it so he asked me what the animal icon or whatever was for Virgo. I told him it wasn't an animal, it was a woman. And he's like "ohhhh that makes sense, because your so fragile and feminine". And I was like LMFAOO or it's Bc we're bit ches.
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I just started this job
So she's a friendly coworker then.

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.... but why the shady stuff?
What shady stuff?

You literally said "She's super secretive" right after you said "I don't understand how she NEVER brought up this guy before". I mean...uh...duh?

Do you perchance have a Scorpio moon?

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Assumptions = shady.

Sweet ole Virgo me is going to not put out my personal business while you assume I'm single because I decide to be a decent human being and smile at you.

Raise those RBF levels because apparently we are still sending mixed signals.

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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


Very classy and diplomatic.. almost libra-like, very feminine. Virgo hates to hurt other people, they'd run away first lulz. OP: do what I would do when it's all or nothing, emotionally divest and then thrown out your feelings and tell her what you feel for her and what you expect or want, like a giant bar she has to hop. If she's in love she'll react favorably if she shuts you down or shuts down herself than walk away. If she jumps that bar she's yours. Forget the other guy.
I was talking to this guy about astrology and he was new to it so he asked me what the animal icon or whatever was for Virgo. I told him it wasn't an animal, it was a woman. And he's like "ohhhh that makes sense, because your so fragile and feminine". And I was like LMFAOO or it's Bc we're bit ches.
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That's a hurt virgo. Or a leo on a good day lmao
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


Very classy and diplomatic.. almost libra-like, very feminine. Virgo hates to hurt other people, they'd run away first lulz. OP: do what I would do when it's all or nothing, emotionally divest and then thrown out your feelings and tell her what you feel for her and what you expect or want, like a giant bar she has to hop. If she's in love she'll react favorably if she shuts you down or shuts down herself than walk away. If she jumps that bar she's yours. Forget the other guy.
I was talking to this guy about astrology and he was new to it so he asked me what the animal icon or whatever was for Virgo. I told him it wasn't an animal, it was a woman. And he's like "ohhhh that makes sense, because your so fragile and feminine". And I was like LMFAOO or it's Bc we're bit ches.
That's a hurt virgo. Or a leo on a good day lmao
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Wait wot is
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Be selfish, destroy her relationship and kidnap her?

Is it weird that I like this idea? Self assured men are appealing, takes the onus off of me 😛


I do too... lowkey of course


What's your moon? If you don't mind me asking!

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Sag moon/rising/mars Leo Venus libra mercury (:
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.

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This goes to the very definition of friendship or befriending. You cant call someone a "friend" but put them at arms length or in a box where you give them limited access to your life...that's not friendship...it an acquaintance. Which is perfectly fine, but what's needed is honesty instead of what some of all the signs do which is call someone a friend but treat them like a threat in the absence of same. It's disengenuous...a not so subtle reminder of not being trusted when nine times out of 10 that person would expect total openness from someone else. Can't have it both ways. 🙂



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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


This goes to the very definition of friendship or befriending. You cant call someone a "friend" but put them at arms length or in a box where you give them limited access to your life...that's not friendship...it an acquaintance. Which is perfectly fine, but what's needed is honesty instead of what some of all the signs do which is call someone a friend but treat them like a threat in the absence of same. It's disengenuous...a not so subtle reminder of not being trusted when nine times out of 10 that person would expect total openness from someone else. Can't have it both ways. 🙂



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9 out of 10 someone would expect total openness from a friend? really? i never in my life expect that and i don't want total openness from my friends. keep some things to yourself please
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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


This goes to the very definition of friendship or befriending. You cant call someone a "friend" but put them at arms length or in a box where you give them limited access to your life...that's not friendship...it an acquaintance. Which is perfectly fine, but what's needed is honesty instead of what some of all the signs do which is call someone a friend but treat them like a threat in the absence of same. It's disengenuous...a not so subtle reminder of not being trusted when nine times out of 10 that person would expect total openness from someone else. Can't have it both ways. 🙂




9 out of 10 someone would expect total openness from a friend? really? i never in my life expect that and i don't want total openness from my friends. keep some things to yourself please
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OK? Well that may be your personal preference but pretty much ask anyone who's friends and it's not superficial and they'll say that they're open in their friendship. To each their own



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It's not shady if you wish to keep certain details of your life private.

I never listed my partner on Facebook...why? Do I need to display my love to the whole world?

I have my friends hidden. Again, why do you need to know how many friend's I have?

Never talked about my partner or family at work. What can you possibly gain from that information?

To me it's just if you're not important enough to know my personal life, why should everyone get to know those details? It's called Private life for a reason.
At that point, why add the person as a friend in the first place? It's not like she has to staple her relationship status and walk around the office.

Why wish to know her status in the first place? We will set up boundaries when necessary or unless directly asked. If we do tell you immediately without the conversation flowing in that direction then you'll automatically think us conceited. If we don't tell you then we're automatically shady.

Virgos can never get a win/win.


This goes to the very definition of friendship or befriending. You cant call someone a "friend" but put them at arms length or in a box where you give them limited access to your life...that's not friendship...it an acquaintance. Which is perfectly fine, but what's needed is honesty instead of what some of all the signs do which is call someone a friend but treat them like a threat in the absence of same. It's disengenuous...a not so subtle reminder of not being trusted when nine times out of 10 that person would expect total openness from someone else. Can't have it both ways. 🙂



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Not saying I don't agree. Openness is necessary to build a friendship. The term 'friend' is used loosely because nobody wants to hear they are a reject. In this scenario, both are labels with the same meaning, but one has a more positive spin to it.