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Cap F 31 needing Virgo advice....
I'm not a Virgo but can share some insight from my own experience with them since I dated a Virgo for 8 years...and always had friends Virgos so I think I really know them quite well. Firstly that slow thing is completely wrong and is nothing like any Virgo that I know of. If they see a potential they go for it, you Cap people are probably the slowest one of all 🙂 not criticizing with this just stating observation. Next thing regarding smoking, I was a smoker when I met my ex and on our first date I noticed he didn't smoke so I didn't either, it's not nice at all for a non smoker to kiss a smoker. And I started quitting on my own after that, he had no idea about it at all, never mentioned it just did it. He was actually quite quick when it came to dating, we were talking online for some time then he asked me out...somehow we kept missing eachother for a while, not getting free time at same time but when we met it went all rather quick. One date regular, next date we ended up sleeping with each other. I have never done it like that before, it felt so wrong yet so right and in fact that was what brought us together and kept us together. It was so incredibly good that we had instant connection. And well, he's a very physical guy and can't even stand relationship without it. But problems started appearing later, I caught him with another woman out and later found out he's been seeing someone else for long time before. What I got from him is like he's over with her just can't get rid of her so I kinda felt sorry for him and stayed with him. The longer I stayed the worse it became for me. But skipping that part now and moving on to the one when he finally broke up with another woman and we started being exclusive. he wanted everything , was very much attentive, involved, sharing feelings BUT he does not want a marriage yet. Keep in mind that this is a treat of Virgos. That was actually what fit us both since 2 of us are probably only signs that have hard time in committing and getting married. All people that are older that I ever heard of are either not married or got divorced after a rather short period in marriage. Maybe it's not a bad thing you went apart from that point if you want someone who wants a marriage too. Trust me he wouldn't let go just like that if he either doesn't mess around with someone else or sees a real potential with you. I did have a lot of downs with my Virgo as well, mostly I kept pushing to get back together but if I could do it all over again I wouldn't now. it simply isn't worth it. They're good people but hard to get truly committed, easy on cheating but want absolute devotion from your part. They can be both very attentive and completely blunt that can go as far as hurting you and not even caring for it (weird).
So overall if I'd point a finger at something it's moving slow part that went wrong. Not telling you ofc that you should jump right in bed with him but a bit more action definitely should have happen faster
So overall if I'd point a finger at something it's moving slow part that went wrong. Not telling you ofc that you should jump right in bed with him but a bit more action definitely should have happen faster
Hmm hmm hmm
He doesn't want to be a complete dick to you.
Even if your super crazy without your cigarettes.
He doesn't want to be a complete dick to you.
Even if your super crazy without your cigarettes.
it really isn't. someone who tells me they will support me through something then drops me through the worst possible way when I didn't even get that crazy on him.... no. no I don't think it's what I want. But now, if I can find one who doesn't set me up for failure - pretty sure a Virgo is what I have been looking for?
As for the 6 month issue.... we were really just seeing each other as friends.... I had my own things going and he did too.. with an ex who had a fiance... no joke.... She definitely played a major part in this. They were still "arguing" when we got together.
As for the 6 month issue.... we were really just seeing each other as friends.... I had my own things going and he did too.. with an ex who had a fiance... no joke.... She definitely played a major part in this. They were still "arguing" when we got together.
6 months... and you guys didn't have a physical connection to make a decision before a kiss? I guess if loyalty played a factor in it. I guess. He definitely isn't a fire sign.
People put too much emphasis on the sun sign. what you show isn't what you always feel.
I show sag, but my aries moon drives me. what are you guys moons? and are they compatible?
People put too much emphasis on the sun sign. what you show isn't what you always feel.
I show sag, but my aries moon drives me. what are you guys moons? and are they compatible?
we met through a dating site. He kept asking me to aircraft events. I thought we were just ending up as friends.... He made ALL moves after about 5 months on me. I was fine with being friends if that's what it turned out to be... Going slow felt really nice. I actually enjoyed our pace. I think he had other "affairs" going on. He laid it on thick when they dropped off if you know what I mean? I made no advances romantically for us. My profile very clearly stated "looking to date, but not serious." I wasn't kidding. I didn't want anything serious. He brought it there and it rocked my world...
Posted by TomSawyerLove this. thank you. I'm tired of games and pettiness. "Grounded" is a great word to hold onto.Posted by hazeofpixiedustIt could be a Virgo, it could be any of the other 11 signs.
it really isn't. someone who tells me they will support me through something then drops me through the worst possible way when I didn't even get that crazy on him.... no. no I don't think it's what I want. But now, if I can find one who doesn't set me up for failure - pretty sure a Virgo is what I have been looking for?
Keep a look out for a grounded individual.
Those are the ones that stick by you.
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He is Sept 21. 1986 and I am Jan. 18. 1986. can't find moons for the life of me...
Posted by TomSawyerHis moon is in Taurus and so is mine...Posted by hazeofpixiedust
He is Sept 21. 1986 and I am Jan. 18. 1986. can't find moons for the life of me...
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php
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Posted by DeadInside
honestly im note choked about the 6 month, and i think it's good sign. people who fuck the first night made couple who last 2 month. people who kiss 6 month after are couple made for life. just learn what is loyalty
I had that happening you described with a Virgo man lol and we spent 8 years together...it really means nothing if people get true connection and work out well together. Not saying also that one should just go and sleep with a person on first date lol
But it doesn't always end bad either...bit 6 months is too long waiting. You Caps move like a snail and we others feel the need to help you move faster but at some point decide just to let you be and go our own way...not many people have that amount of patience keep that in mind. Not because we don't like you but because we get a feeling you're not as equally into us as we are into you se we decide to just let go...not trying to criticize you with this ofc just keep in mind this perspective too
Posted by TomSawyerPosted by hazeofpixiedustIt could be a Virgo, it could be any of the other 11 signs.
it really isn't. someone who tells me they will support me through something then drops me through the worst possible way when I didn't even get that crazy on him.... no. no I don't think it's what I want. But now, if I can find one who doesn't set me up for failure - pretty sure a Virgo is what I have been looking for?
Keep a look out for a grounded individual.
Those are the ones that stick by you.
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I'm really not a very grounded person but I always stick to the ones I grow attachment to, have emotions for better said maybe. Virgos are grounded but not a fighters and don't stick by much trust me. All of them that I know are like that,you can get much more attention and care from a person who is passionate and temperimental than from those better grounded
Posted by TomSawyerSame moon is still better than same sun.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI have limited knowledge on the subject.Posted by TomSawyerHis moon is in Taurus and so is mine...Posted by hazeofpixiedust
He is Sept 21. 1986 and I am Jan. 18. 1986. can't find moons for the life of me...
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/natal.php
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Two things from a Cap F in a LTR with a Virgo M:
1. We could have easily been a one night stand. Out separately, but with mutual friends and hit it off. There was alcohol involved, one thing led to another and that was that. Except it wasn’t just that. A lil over a week later we were monogamous and we’re still looking great 2 1/2yrs in.
2. I recently suffered a big loss. More than one. It’s been a rough year. Not long ago, I realized that when we’d go out and I’d have too much to drink, I’d started to unload on him emotionally. I felt horrible! and I’ve taken steps to correct it, but he took it. He took it and he never made me feel bad for it or tried to punish me for it. What I did wasn’t pretty, but it was extremely human. He knows I’m going through a lot and he’s been crazy supportive, even when I was just being crazy.
Move at a pace *you* feel comfortable with and if you can’t be yourself around somebody, who else are you gonna be?
1. We could have easily been a one night stand. Out separately, but with mutual friends and hit it off. There was alcohol involved, one thing led to another and that was that. Except it wasn’t just that. A lil over a week later we were monogamous and we’re still looking great 2 1/2yrs in.
2. I recently suffered a big loss. More than one. It’s been a rough year. Not long ago, I realized that when we’d go out and I’d have too much to drink, I’d started to unload on him emotionally. I felt horrible! and I’ve taken steps to correct it, but he took it. He took it and he never made me feel bad for it or tried to punish me for it. What I did wasn’t pretty, but it was extremely human. He knows I’m going through a lot and he’s been crazy supportive, even when I was just being crazy.
Move at a pace *you* feel comfortable with and if you can’t be yourself around somebody, who else are you gonna be?
I just thought we were both being careful. For a while, I thought we were just going to be friends which I was actually really cool with. I enjoyed the events a lot and we had fun. Due to past cheating damage from ex lovers for BOTH of us, I thought going slow was mutual. We were long distance (3 hours) and we both are very preoccupied with our jobs and lives and hobbies in general. Because of this, it took some time for us to get to know each other. Kind of saw that as a weirdly good fit/match for us both. I agreed a lot with him when he said we were lucky. He started in HARD with "I love yous" etc. around his birthday and for a month. I changed pace with him but was wary about being "used" as a good time for his bday and maybe "arm candy" at these events for him to show off. I thought he might be trying to make someone at these enormous events jealous. I actually didn't mind that if it were the case while getting to know him. I just don't understand why he started in with the "love" stuff and FAST. hard. He seemed to have meant it, but I realize there's a good chance I got played??
I don't know. Noone's broken my heart like this in years. And yes, no matter my craziness he really should have stuck by it if we had anything real. And especially since he TOLD ME he would. And of course think about that in the future, when I go through worse... Couldn't have worked and I have to cash in here and say he is a complete idiot to have given us up. I saw something more real with this guy than anyone I've ever been with. The text break itself and especially "clean break" here I think is what has me so mixed up. AWFUL to do to someone. Makes you go back and question everything over and over. I prefer my men upfront. It could be a million things. Maybe he realized he didn't like my face. Maybe he only planned on having me around for his bday. Maybe I pissed him off beyond belief. Maybe he's just a comittment-phobe. Maybe the ex he was still arguing with came back into the mix. Doesn't matter really and it would be good peace of mind for me to stop trying to figure it out. If he doesn't want to be straight with me, dude is a waste of my time anyway.
I'll be VERY wary of anything with Virgos based on what I've read. Millions of forums, discussions. Don't mind fast divorces. And no thanks on the robotic, boring sex. Pull back and make you wonder constantly. Quick to criticize but won't take any criticisms. Probably not for me in the long run. I prefer my men UP FRONT. I always love Scorpio men but man do they STING.
Thank you for the help, advice! I'm feeling much better. I do think it would be funny if he ever contacted me again (no hopes there) so I can laugh in his face. Cruel Cappy? Maybe. Thanks! I appreciate you all!
I don't know. Noone's broken my heart like this in years. And yes, no matter my craziness he really should have stuck by it if we had anything real. And especially since he TOLD ME he would. And of course think about that in the future, when I go through worse... Couldn't have worked and I have to cash in here and say he is a complete idiot to have given us up. I saw something more real with this guy than anyone I've ever been with. The text break itself and especially "clean break" here I think is what has me so mixed up. AWFUL to do to someone. Makes you go back and question everything over and over. I prefer my men upfront. It could be a million things. Maybe he realized he didn't like my face. Maybe he only planned on having me around for his bday. Maybe I pissed him off beyond belief. Maybe he's just a comittment-phobe. Maybe the ex he was still arguing with came back into the mix. Doesn't matter really and it would be good peace of mind for me to stop trying to figure it out. If he doesn't want to be straight with me, dude is a waste of my time anyway.
I'll be VERY wary of anything with Virgos based on what I've read. Millions of forums, discussions. Don't mind fast divorces. And no thanks on the robotic, boring sex. Pull back and make you wonder constantly. Quick to criticize but won't take any criticisms. Probably not for me in the long run. I prefer my men UP FRONT. I always love Scorpio men but man do they STING.
Thank you for the help, advice! I'm feeling much better. I do think it would be funny if he ever contacted me again (no hopes there) so I can laugh in his face. Cruel Cappy? Maybe. Thanks! I appreciate you all!
Posted by greylaternBoring sex is not me. I knoooow that this energy wasn't coming from me. loll. I'm a freak! Don't know how else to say it. But yes he bored me. It wasn't "bad" or "horrible" sex. just kinda boring.
Boring sex? Either no passion or a passive placement in venus.
Posted by greylaternThis is where the "clean break" part totally stumped me. He also said "It's time for us to move on." and made no mentions of a friendship. When I asked what changed he said He's just too busy to be pursue romantic endeavors. I know I might sound dumb but he works his BUTT OFF. 7 days a week 4 am till about 10:30 pm. No joke. Do I believe he's "too busy" though? I don't know .No mention of a friendship probably hurt more than losing the romantic part of this. I mean I got dropped hard and fast. In a pissy fog, I removed him from my FB. We both have personal and professional pages, and I blocked him on all of them. Don't know how I can retract that except maybe down the line unblock him. I mean months from now. This is what makes me think something HUGE happened that I might not even be aware of. Another girl? I don't think I did anything to him that merited that response— The last time I had seen him we were touchy/feely/kissy. And then 2 weeks apart of BS. Just weird and fast and a hard drop. I'm usually really self aware and in-tune with people. This has me totally stumped...
Sounds like you guys would make great friends though. Mutual understanding and you get along well. If you are still capable of being friends go that route. Good honest friends you can really connect with are rare. Kinda sounds like you guys did the rebound thing. Rewind and go back to the way things were. As a virgo who has indirect tendances, I would say if he isn't that into you romanticlly he probly pulled away like that to cool things off. I am also a Taurus moon. Which means he will likely have sun opposition moon like myselfand I am also capable of having female friends. So I think I can relate to him.Sounds like he really cares for you.So I can confidently say I would hate to lose you and would be very worried of that.Getting into a serious romantic relationship and not being able to back out of it. Tell him if things were too much for him that is ok and you guys can just be good friends like before. I'll put really money on you seeing or hearing a sigh of relief.
Oh one more thing. Taurus moon. Expect a little jealious when one of you dates. It is normal though. The trait about Taurus being possesive is true and in the moon it is emotional possesive. Be mature about that. It is much more protective kinda not really a actual "ownership" thing.
Since I texted him some semi-mean stuff a week ago I don't think I will be contacting and asking for a friendship anytime soon. Maybe long down the road do a check up "Hi how are you?" but it feels really pathetic even thinking about doing that..
I also know one of his closer crew guys did not like me for whatever reason. I feel like he could have been an earworm. This guy was very clearly (to me) jealous of pilot who is hugely successful and much younger than the crew guy. Crew dude had it in for me. I do know that. Kind of felt like he didn't want the pilot to have it all. Successful business, big name for himself, stellar flying record, AND the girl. Weird, I know... but? Pilot has absolutely no clue who his "crew" really is. Some of them have it in for him and he is oblivious. I was happy to actually get to a point to where I could gently help him out in those areas to help him be even more of a success. Like I said, this dude gave up a good thing.
May I just say stop asking yourself what went wrong? Yes I know it's very hard cause I do it myself always, and always somehow blame myself for things that went wrong but trust me it's not worth it and it isn't you actually! You got me confused with later posts, so you did have sex? I think everyone got impression that you were just dating and nothing happened for 6 months so it made sense he moved on cause it was just too slow. If that's not the case it completely changes things
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
My family put it this way to me.. He's really just a jerk. During those two weeks (after visiting him for a week and having a good time!) where I got funky from quitting, he started to drop off. He was supposed to be delivering (driving) an aircraft to another state. He was still answering my texts during this time, although it wasn't looking the same as we had always talked. He would usually text me after flights, before dinner, before bed. The entire pattern changed during these two weeks. His texts became very sporadic and felt weird. Because I was quitting, I was weird right back - worried that something was up. What really gets me during this time though, is every time I asked him about the trip - how's the drive? how far have you guys made it? (wasn't hounding about it - I asked very sporadically) he would NOT answer. I have no idea where he was in the country! What state even. But he answered other things in texts! Funny memes, cute jokes - nothing about the drive. During these drives, crew of his would have taken the wheel at points and he could have let me know what was up. He didn't. His phone is always in his hand, I mean ALWAYS. Whether he is driving, eating, etc. So enter more fears of he's lying, cheating, shacked up with someone else. I thought about it and decided this: he doesn't want to let me know where he is because he isn't where he is supposed to be. He isn't giving me any answers on location because he doesn't have any good answers. Really simple. If he was "testing" me to see how I react that's just cruel anyway to make me wonder and I don't want anything to do with him.
He sold a blimp to a man. That's the aircraft he was delivering. Usually when pilots receive a new aircraft they show it off big time on FB. There is nothing on this guys' FB page of receiving the aircraft. There is nothing on my pilot's page about making a successful sale - which usually he does this when selling and flying for the first time. Nowhere can delivery of this blimp be found which is unlike these guys!
Truth is this Virguy is pretty emotionally immature. He skirted any tough talks between us and I thought we had put enough time in with each other to be at a better level of communication. He just isn't. When he dumped me via text and I kind of cornered him for answers - he said he would call me before bed - I felt the breakup was on its way - he didn't even call. He texted me at 5 pm the NEXT day. I literally laughed out loud when I got the text because it was such a little man move. I just think he is cowardly, spineless, not very socially smart, and cruel. He also expects everyone to bow down to him - maybe he didn't like that I was holding him responsible for being weird those 2 weeks. He is worshipped in his community. I'm a CAP. I don't worship anyone unless they are treating me right. Doesn't matter to me how many planes you have. Maybe he wanted me to still kiss his butt - which he's used to.
I don't think I care to figure him out anymore, but boy was that a rollercoaster of emotions this past month. He burned me pretty badly in the end, made me feel really stupid for wanting simple things like geographic location every once in a while. That's just unfair. When he was ON he was very on and that was the best I've had. I can't imagine how great an emotionally mature Virgo must be to date. Has to be wonderful! It's too bad the rumors about pilots seemed to ring true in the end with this guy too. I wanted to believe he was different.
I'll be single for a while after this guy!
He sold a blimp to a man. That's the aircraft he was delivering. Usually when pilots receive a new aircraft they show it off big time on FB. There is nothing on this guys' FB page of receiving the aircraft. There is nothing on my pilot's page about making a successful sale - which usually he does this when selling and flying for the first time. Nowhere can delivery of this blimp be found which is unlike these guys!
Truth is this Virguy is pretty emotionally immature. He skirted any tough talks between us and I thought we had put enough time in with each other to be at a better level of communication. He just isn't. When he dumped me via text and I kind of cornered him for answers - he said he would call me before bed - I felt the breakup was on its way - he didn't even call. He texted me at 5 pm the NEXT day. I literally laughed out loud when I got the text because it was such a little man move. I just think he is cowardly, spineless, not very socially smart, and cruel. He also expects everyone to bow down to him - maybe he didn't like that I was holding him responsible for being weird those 2 weeks. He is worshipped in his community. I'm a CAP. I don't worship anyone unless they are treating me right. Doesn't matter to me how many planes you have. Maybe he wanted me to still kiss his butt - which he's used to.
I don't think I care to figure him out anymore, but boy was that a rollercoaster of emotions this past month. He burned me pretty badly in the end, made me feel really stupid for wanting simple things like geographic location every once in a while. That's just unfair. When he was ON he was very on and that was the best I've had. I can't imagine how great an emotionally mature Virgo must be to date. Has to be wonderful! It's too bad the rumors about pilots seemed to ring true in the end with this guy too. I wanted to believe he was different.
I'll be single for a while after this guy!
Posted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.click to expand
Well again, not projecting and may be completely irrelevant and not related to sign whatsoever but I'll just give you example from experience with my Virgo guy...we hit on instantly, everything was going on great, great talks, great sex, very helpful when I need something etc...until I ran into him with another woman, he panicked, thought probably I'll make a scene or something...instead I just said "Hi" and passed right by him with my friends and set quietly while he left the place very quick and visibly panicked. He later said he has some unresolved things and we should end this while he resolves this and so we did. But somehow again we ended up reconciling and he was saying how the other woman won't let him go etc similar things to which I fell for and it went on for years like that! He did break it up, he was faithful ever since but trust me it was not worth it and now I realized that. They're affectionate only when they want and they pay attention only when they need something, not when you need it too. Think you Caps look for something different than that...and hope you are different than that too lol cause well i like a Cap guy now. It makes me want more to help you understand things from my own experience 🙂 I believe not 2 people are the same, regardless on their sing but signs do have some characteristic features that apply to majority in each sign.
I strongly believe that problem wasn't in you at all, not trying to flatter you in any way just being honest. I get from your side that there is many unanswered questions but might be quite simple too. Maybe guy isn't clear with himself about his own feelings and jumped the guns with the I love you's then later realized he's overdoing it. From what you described I think he did hide something and wasn't honest about that trip he told you about. They also do that when they're lying, they get all weird about it.
I get that he hurt you cause he seemed so reliable then all of a sudden turned his back on you and such things are hard to get over but not everyone is the same and from what I learned so far if 1 sign sounds good it doesn't necessarily mean people in it are good. They sound good on paper but they have their faults too which God forbid they'd ever admit! Had just fight about it recently with same guy and I told him exactly this- Even if God proves you you're wrong and he's right you'll still find a way to justify your own belief just because you can't accept the fact others are right and you're not sometimes! Do you really want someone like that in your life? They're not stubborn, they simply don't accept a fact they might be wrong. And believe me many are like this. I really hope Virgos who possibly read this won't take offense from it, this is their bad treat but each sign has some bad treat too, they're no exception...
I strongly believe that problem wasn't in you at all, not trying to flatter you in any way just being honest. I get from your side that there is many unanswered questions but might be quite simple too. Maybe guy isn't clear with himself about his own feelings and jumped the guns with the I love you's then later realized he's overdoing it. From what you described I think he did hide something and wasn't honest about that trip he told you about. They also do that when they're lying, they get all weird about it.
I get that he hurt you cause he seemed so reliable then all of a sudden turned his back on you and such things are hard to get over but not everyone is the same and from what I learned so far if 1 sign sounds good it doesn't necessarily mean people in it are good. They sound good on paper but they have their faults too which God forbid they'd ever admit! Had just fight about it recently with same guy and I told him exactly this- Even if God proves you you're wrong and he's right you'll still find a way to justify your own belief just because you can't accept the fact others are right and you're not sometimes! Do you really want someone like that in your life? They're not stubborn, they simply don't accept a fact they might be wrong. And believe me many are like this. I really hope Virgos who possibly read this won't take offense from it, this is their bad treat but each sign has some bad treat too, they're no exception...
Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXHe had been checking out girls left and right in front of me. Since day 1. He took me on a cute date up a mountain tram then took me to one of those hoochie places where the girl dress in nothing. I usually wouldn't mind and can hang but he literally had to stare at every girl. I didn't understand ending a cute date with THAT. I was fed up once we got serious.
What did you say that upset him?
You said you blew up on him and said some things, but you never specified what.
So I told him don't do this to me. It's just disrespectful. That I had been through the ringer with guys in the past and he needed to not embarrass me in public. I was like maybe it's a pilot thing, but don't do this to me! Nothing cruel. I was just hurt. We kissed and made up after that. He was like "just tell me next time" and was incredibly sweet about it the next day. His hands were all over me at a public event the next day. Rubbing my back, resting his hands on my legs, lots of cute rubs,etc. He was really soothing about it and incredibly nice. He even made jokes about it in the morning and we laughed it off.
Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxXWord!
Either way, a grown man who dumps you via text and then keeps it moving like nothing happened is not a man that loves you or even cares about you deeply.
I would move on and stop letting him have power over me. He's not worth it.
Posted by hazeofpixiedustwhat you described your feelings is exactly how I feel about a Cap guy in my life lol and funny thing is he might actually be feeling exactly the same lol but that's another story. Anyone who can't communicate is not worth your time, that's what I've learned so far I'd say. We're same age so I can say only that guys of our age should know better, that's all..if they don't they're not worth your timePosted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
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Posted by MalakYeah I'm really stumped that this guy can run a HUGELY successful business starting at 28 but not be able to communicate with a girl. The text dump spoke worlds of him and I am so so so not into cowards.Posted by hazeofpixiedustwhat you described your feelings is exactly how I feel about a Cap guy in my life lol and funny thing is he might actually be feeling exactly the same lol but that's another story. Anyone who can't communicate is not worth your time, that's what I've learned so far I'd say. We're same age so I can say only that guys of our age should know better, that's all..if they don't they're not worth your timePosted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
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Posted by hazeofpixiedustPosted by MalakYeah I'm really stumped that this guy can run a HUGELY successful business starting at 28 but not be able to communicate with a girl. The text dump spoke worlds of him and I am so so so not into cowards.Posted by hazeofpixiedustwhat you described your feelings is exactly how I feel about a Cap guy in my life lol and funny thing is he might actually be feeling exactly the same lol but that's another story. Anyone who can't communicate is not worth your time, that's what I've learned so far I'd say. We're same age so I can say only that guys of our age should know better, that's all..if they don't they're not worth your timePosted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
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they can talk trust me...i used to stay up all night talking with this Virgo guy, they are really talkers, they can discuss feelings too when it's a must do but not really going for it too soon
Posted by MalakYeah I believe it. This guy just isn't worth the worry. I actually wanted him to call during those two weeks so I could ask to take a step back. I should have just done it myself. Would have saved me from a world of hurt. I think I've been through all phases though. I laughed at first, then I questioned myself heavily, then I just got pissy about how he did it. Now I'm realizing I'm better off. That pilot's a good lover though! A bit of a playboy and possibly a player.. Makes it tough...Posted by hazeofpixiedustPosted by MalakYeah I'm really stumped that this guy can run a HUGELY successful business starting at 28 but not be able to communicate with a girl. The text dump spoke worlds of him and I am so so so not into cowards.Posted by hazeofpixiedustwhat you described your feelings is exactly how I feel about a Cap guy in my life lol and funny thing is he might actually be feeling exactly the same lol but that's another story. Anyone who can't communicate is not worth your time, that's what I've learned so far I'd say. We're same age so I can say only that guys of our age should know better, that's all..if they don't they're not worth your timePosted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
they can talk trust me...i used to stay up all night talking with this Virgo guy, they are really talkers, they can discuss feelings too when it's a must do but not really going for it too soon
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Posted by MalakYou're worried he has stuff going on on the side? I never run into Cap men in life - it is so strange! But from a cap female perspective.... In my past and younger years I would act VERY scandalously if my lover slighted me. I used to be really cut throat if I felt my lover was doing me wrong. I've grown out of that thankfully because it's awful - now I just walk away. But back in the day - whew. I could pull a fast one on any guy if he had done me wrong. If you suspect something might be up with him it probably is. Guts don't lie usually.Posted by hazeofpixiedustwhat you described your feelings is exactly how I feel about a Cap guy in my life lol and funny thing is he might actually be feeling exactly the same lol but that's another story. Anyone who can't communicate is not worth your time, that's what I've learned so far I'd say. We're same age so I can say only that guys of our age should know better, that's all..if they don't they're not worth your timePosted by MalakThose are my gut feelings too. I really have a weird feeling that once something drops off with whoever he replaced me with, he might be back. Just a feeling in my gut. Not even hope really because I am taking his staunch breakup words seriously. But this is really how I feel deep down too. It's why I keep mentioning another girl and cheating. Yeah rejection hurts, but this isn't the first time I've ever been rejected. I can actually handle rejection pretty well in previous experiences. Just feel like something else is WAY UP here. I feel played and used and it drives me nuts to not know and to not be able to stand my ground with it because it's "unspoken" stuff. I would love to somehow catch him on it - but I'm too far and I've blocked him on everything. I'm a big believer that the truth reveals itself eventually though. Bottom line.. he isn't worth my stress, worry, time. I deserve an emotionally big man who can communicate like a human being.Posted by hazeofpixiedustI know some may take it offensive but I really don't mean bad with this and I have always liked Virgos and had always had at least one in my life but if I'm completely honest and brutal they tend to stick around more if they have some interest. I noticed it since I can hardly find another person that knows them more or better. My friend who also was my bff for long time said same thing so it makes a pattern kinda...I won't go much deep into it so that no one gets offended and Virgos do tend to take offense very easy lol but he probably found some more interest in another place, I don't think your quitting smoking behavior had anything to do with it. They would really stick around and help you with it even though you may become difficult if they really care for you. But something else got him to distance, that's not the reason trust me. But don't over think about it please, it's just not worth it and he's not worth it. If he was into something serious you wouldn't be even talking about this now at all, would be happy with him instead
We did yes about 5 months in. And immediately told me he "loved" me during this time. . He also told me stuff like "We are lucky to have found eachother at our age with no children." That he thinks I'm special. That he thinks what we have is special. sweet heartfelt stuff. blah blah. He shocked me when he said he loved me because we HAD been moving so slow. I waited about a week to return the sentiment. He started in with all the sweet stuff just before his bday. We moved really quickly at this point. I went and stayed with him for a week. It went really well. Like I said - no issues until I got weird from quitting smoking.
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Apparently Virgo and Cap are supposed to be a very very strong match?? - some of the strongest in the zodiac and wonderful for long-term. Definitely felt that! Dude is an idiot.
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Apparently Virgo and Cap are supposed to be a very very strong match?? - some of the strongest in the zodiac and wonderful for long-term. Definitely felt that! Dude is an idiot.
I started to strongly believe how mutable, fixed and cardinal signs match is more important than how each sun sign matches. According to sun signs Fire matches Fire best and Earth matches Earth best...I can strongly disagree on that. I never matched well with Fire signs being one of them and always matched best with Earth signs. They with us as well. It's actually cause we balance each other well if people know how to overcome their differences. And since you mentioned player yes my ex was always a player, my friend's ex Virgo was also a player, also had another woman when he dated her at first, when they broke up he was hitting on me cause he thought "we're not that good friends"(?!)...anyway depends on your character who can balance well with you cause we all have so many aspects in our charts that it's not all about sun sign. Again I'll say myself as example, I'm mostly ruled by Fire signs and work best with grounded Earth person who can calm me down and stop me from wasting my energy while I in return get them out of their routine, bring some joy and excitement in their lives. As long as we have understanding for each other we're a great match actually but you'll rarely ever read that a Fire sign matches well with an Earth sign! I don't like Leo's laziness and don't like stubborn Aries either but most important signs in my life happened in this order: Virgo(big crush, didn't date), Taurus(2 years relationship), Capricorn (very intense few months of relationship), Libra(8 months or so but got me bored to death very soon), Sagittarius(huge intense few months relationship that started and ended in flames), Virgo (8 years relationship) and now Capricorn big crash, no relationship happened yet...as you can see Earth signs dominate and are most important ones. So what you read is a best match might not be actually true, could be something completely different.
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