Confused Libra about this Virgo guy!!!

Hi hope everyone is having a great Easter😉 I posted here before but made a mistake and erased it. I am so head over hills for this Virgo guy(Sept.22) that I have known now for 7 months. We have NOT had sex yet but came very close to it a few times. We don't talk everyday by phone or text, sometimes for weeks and that drives me CRAZY as hell! He also says he works so much the reason we don't see each other much either. I believe he has someone else but he says he loves me and wants a family with me. I have never been so confused about a guy in my life. I think he is so smart and sexy and that's a huge turn on for me. But I remember a post I read on here and it makes me feel like OMG is this how they really think—
Here's part of it: Oh and Virgos aren't really cold; we just don't care. We are EXTREMELY passionate about anything and anyone we care about and trust. Moreso than probably your most passionate zodiac signs. The difference is there are very few things and even fewer people that we care about. And when we don't care, we don't react, open up, or share anything of any kind. We just aren't invested in your emotions and we don't really care about making you feel better.

Like really—— Really— I just would like a Virgo mans suggestion. Should I not wait for him? I try and give him his space and not call and text too much but damn, he won't even return my calls or texts till weeks later. But he does want sex in the car and I dont want my first time with him in a car and I told him this and he said ok. "Sigh"

Oh thicky you sound sweet but this is just another "he's just not that into you" kind of situation.

Being into you sexually is not that special. Some men will say anything to conquer a woman sexually.

He really shouldn't throw the words "I love you" around just to get sexually ready. He know if he put you off by ignoring you eventually you'll fold and give him sex because he's most likely done this before with other women so he know how to get sex with zero emotional investment on his part.

If he can make you believe/feel he loves you and at the same time emotionally starve you (drive you crazy/make you feel crazy love in love) you'll eventually cave in but this can take weeks sometimes months. This is the path of least resistance therefore he does not have to invest his time, energy, money, emotions, all he has to do is make you feel CRAZY in love and wait it out.

Don't believe me then look at your own words. Does a man that proclaims to love a woman ignore her for weeks with no contact of any kind? No

How old are you? Try not to be so naive. Wake up you're asleep at the wheel

@tiki33 Thank u sooo much for ur honesty. Well when he finally does text me I sure as hell will not text that mofo back. I'm done letting him play with my feelings

@tiki ur all the way one point, I saved ur reply to remind myself of what it really is so I don't text or call him. Btw I'm 28

Take your time replying back to him just as he's taken his time replying back to you.

Also no more car dates, you're a grown woman, if he's not initiating a real date that requires him to be present and available then don't take the path of least resistance by settling for less just because you want him and like him.

Raise your standards a little bit higher. If a man is not taking you out, initiating contact and dates etc and instead he's only initiating wanting sex in the car with you well that's a blaring red flag that he's not interested in getting to know you on a personal level.

Well oh course we have been on like 5 dates, it's just the last two dates that have almost ended up with car sex. Which I have declined both times and I've told him I'm not a car sex type of girl

I'm curious...On those 5 dates who made the plans? My point being if he's sincerely into you he'll be the one planning, playing and driving and following up afterwards.

If he's attempting to get sex after the date/s he's clearly looking for a reward for those dates. His not initiating communication and contact is his way of avoiding a real relationship with you.

He can't be in a real relationship or even be on his way into one if he's unavailable.

meant planning, paying

Yes he made all the plans after asking me if I liked the place first and paid. Each time we went to really nice places that I've never been to and he did the whole gentlemen thing and held all doors, let me order first, offered me his food before he ate it, things like that. I take close notice of all those things. BUT he did continue to text while on our date each time even after I asked him not to more than once. So he always says well u know I have to be available to my clients 24/7 in order to keep living the lifestyle I live. So I didnt argue anymore about it but I still showed him that much respect and left my phone in the car. After the last 4 dates he followed up with text msgs. But it's going on 3 weeks and I haven't sent or received a text or call and now I'm kind of over him. Most days I use to cry but I can get through most days now without crying, I have never came across such a heartless, unemotional, rude ass guy in my life till now! Every other guy I have dated gushy over me or show me some type of interest. And I'm not bad looking and can get another guy but my Libra optimism gets to me sometimes and think he will come around because why would someone waste 7 months and let it dissolve? And I try and maintain relationships with ppl that I get close to even if it's just a friendship. Mentally I'm a strong person but this has been new territory for me.

Tiki, where are you—