Desperately need advise

I met this virgo man a year ago on a dating site. He was is UK at that moment. After a couple of weeks it was Christmas time so he came tback home and asked me out on a date. He arrived to my homecity, we had a nice time, he even tried to kiss me at the end of the date but I didn't give in. Then he moved back to UK and me kept talking online. Then he suddenly disappeared for about 4-5months. He came back when I accidentally checked his account. He wrote me, said he disappeared because he started to like me a lot, but he knew the distance between us would have made it to difficult to start somthing. From that moment we started talking and texting again. Everyhting seemed to move to another level, he said he would like to try something with me and that he is going to come back to our country this autumn. All this time he was texting, telling me i am special, that he had never met a girl like me and he has serious intentions. He even spoke about moving in together after some time when he is back. He said he was waiting for meeting me after so much time, he wants to try something serious, he used to be very attentive, talkative, caring and so on during online texting and talking. I am a cancer, i felt this.

And he came back 2 weeks ago. We now live in the same country but different cities. But he seems so distant. I noticed this even before he came back home. He rarely initiates contact, our texts became very formal. He says he is busy and that nothing has changed about me. Last week me finally met after 11 months, he gave me beautiful flowers, planned the whole evening, and the time was amazing, he was cuddling, kissing me, holding my hand, talking about our future, we slept together, i felt the connection but..after the date nothing. No calls, no texts, I couldn't wait i texted him, he said he was working. The next day he texted me first, casual chat, but no more planning, no connection, i feel he turned cold again, as if he got scared of something. Today i couldn't keep myself from telling him everything..i am a cancer..i am emotional. I said i lack his attention, that i feel him being cold, distant, that his words and plans do not fit the reality. I told him i felt disappointed that he gave me so much hope and now everything changed. He said he was never lieing to me and when we were chating online he was real, but he is not sure he is ment for serious relantioships, that it is hard to be with him, that he won't change, and he feels pressure from me. I said i just needed to say how i feel. I know virgos are scared of their emotions, they are slow, tend to be distant, but why did he used to be so sweet, caring, attentive and promising for so long, he even moved backed from UK, and the date was great, he couldn't take his hands of me, he used to talk about us moving in together and now..the distance, coldness, and he is nor sure..any opinions? Cause i feel sooo confused i don't know if I should leave him, o try to be patient and try to help him get out of his cave as he is really smart and has many good things i need in man. Thanx

I never like asking this question. But you leave me no choice...

Where is the TL;DR version of this post?

So you think there is no chance he is serious about me?

1). And perhaps the biggest reason: You slept with him

2). You’re emotionally clingy, which lead you to sleep with him

3). The distance

Well i did not sleep with him, during the date it was only kissing and cudling but no sex. And he was initiating the physical contact. The distance now is minimal as we live 1,5 hour apart from each other

Posted by Kiky
Today i couldn't keep myself from telling him everything..i am a cancer..i am emotional.

Your vulnerability is our fuel to the fire...

Yeah i am deep inside i like things to be clear and hate mind games.. i know i probably made a mistake telling him how i feel but if he was serious he would care and maybe do sth. Well just in case if he appears what should i do? Act as if nothing happened, pretend cool or do what?

If he's not asking you out, making a plan, or travelling the 90 minutes to see you then... He's not interested in you.

As cheeky said, he could waffle all his shit to you from far away but now it's real he doesn't want it. He's just given you excuses. Telling you what he won't do instead of what he will do.

Forget this guy. The more focus you put on him the less likely you are to find someone who does want to be with you.

He'll probably call you after Christmas and disappear again for another 11 months.