Disadvantages of being sensitive

Hi Virgos.

I wanted to post this topic because it seems like you are most compatible for it.

The problem that I have is really really hurts. Damnit. I am studying English at special courses and was pissed off by one girl.

I am very curious person. Sometimes people think that I am asking too many questions and dont know when to stop. They think that I waste their time by acting like that. This is not true, because I know when to stop.

Teacher was explaining a topic and came to part that is very problematic for me. I started asking questions (normally) because it was problematic side. I was having trouble with explaining exac problem. It took about 3 tries for me to make it clear.

Guess what happened. This girl, asked teacher to pass this topic and continue. Wtf? It was in the middle of when teacher was answearing my question. That pissed me off to the almost death.

It was soo bad. It took only 1-2 minutes from teacher for explaination. ONLY 1-2 MINUTES. So what? 1-2 minutes is time waster? The only thing she does, is to sit on her a*s and listen carelessly the topic where she understands only 30% . Wtf? She expect everyone do same?

I couldnt stand this crap anymore and left the class. Went to administration and asked for class change. But after a while I started to think: "I will leave and make this way her happy?". Momentarely after and stand up from administration and went to cafee where my friends from same class joined to me after the lesson.

They told me that I overreacted etc and should pass this. My head was working on "I'm not gonna make her happy". I accepted to go back to class.

We didnt speaked anything, but I'm still greatly pissed off. I know that I had to gave her good answear in time of crisis, but I didnt find anything that wouldnt lead me being extremly mean.

Sometimes being very sensitive is really bad. It closes your mouth and makes you unable to wink anything. I guess this will make me extremly violent in words against such people.

Hi Haffo.

You're right, being hurt or annoyed can cause an intense reaction. It's just the nature of man. . . Man lol. Get hit, your first instinct is to hit back. Fortunately, you control your reaction. The ability to reason curbs Nature's inner assertion.

Also, I agree, it's easy to get so pissed words go on strike and refuse to budge. You end up in these after the fact situations where you say to yourself,"I could've said this" or "I could've said that." After the initial moment has passed though, you can't really rehash it.

I know it's annoying, it happens to everyone. It's just one of those events in life that show you how to respond later should the circumstance arise again.

Here's the rub though; your nonresponse was probably better than a purely emotional one. I mean, granted. You were upset, you could've said something to "hit back" but it would've just made things worse. With the analysis after the fact though, your response will be more thought out. Should it arise again, you now have a better take on the situation.

All of that is intellectual though LOL. You're feeling crappy because reason is running up against nature. I know the feeling sucks, but what can you do?

VirgoSquared

Thanks VirgoSquared.

I could be very satisfied if I gave her response without provocating situation further.

I dont know exacly which words I had to use, but one thing I'm sure about is that such words are "exist". Why? Because I use to do those responses when crisis arises with topics that I really handle very well.

The problem is here, that I dont know what to response without provocation further or becoming mean.

By the way, if she doesnt think about becoming mean by acting like that (yea she really looked mean there), why should I think about staying nice? Dont you think so?

Haffo.

Only a weak mind "get annoyed" and a weaker mind "looking for revenge". Why do you want to reasoning and accepting that "she is against you and your opinion"?

None of us got a same level of understanding and intelligence; perhaps she is smarter than you and found out your questions "wasting her time" in the classroom..! Or she enjoys a lower level of intelligence and haven't realised the importance of your question..?

Our "misinterpretations" of our own guts feeling and instinct leads us to "misread" the signals that are not intended or necessarily bad or hostile. What we need is to see things with an open mind without judgements, "superficial logic" and self importance images.

Or? perhaps.. She likes you? and wanted to get some attentions.. Who knows..!...I'll say you buy her a cop of coffee and discuss the matter with her under the four eyes.

Actually now I think this is teachers fault!!

When this girl said what she said thas way, she actually tried to say to teacher what this teacher should do!!! Why teacher listened her? Doesnt this teacher know when to when to explain and when to stop explaining because time waste? Why she tolerated that? Dont you think so?

Teacher is the one who plans the lesson. Minute by minute plans what she should say. I'm pretty sure that teacher knows when she should give her time for my question and when she should tell me to ask later.

Hello Haffo,

I know you asked Virgos, but I wanted to offer my suggestion.

I've had the same problem, and I'll ask a lot of questions when I am confused. Sometimes I can even hear other students groan in disappointment when I raise my hand.

To resolve the problem I generally talk to my professors during their office hours, instead asking for help during class time. That way you can ask as many questions as you want and your conversation with the professor is not interrupted by the opinions and attitudes of other students.

Hi Haffo!
I am not a virgo but a Senior lecturer in a college. Had meant to post this message earlier but soemhow it never happened.

Howizz your class going on? I hope that girl is friendly with you now? And hope your teacher clarifies your doubt. Let me know.

In my opinion your teahcer should have acted in a more matured way. Yes it is difficult to answer the questions of student who has not understood a particualr matter at the risk of annoying the whoel class. What she could have done is to give you a separate appointment after the class to clarify your doubt. This way she could have spared you soem embarrassment and also the class would have got the message that there is nothing wrong if soemtimes soem students may take tiem to understand soem topic.

Keep pOsted
🙂