what should i do?

hello everyone, good day to all

can anyone of u helpful folks, get me out of this frustrating situation with my virgo friend, cos i think i am really stuck and i don't know where to go from here.

we've been friends for 3 years and have been really close.

2 months ago, we got into a big fight over something really trivial.

after that, although i have written a mail to say i was sorry about what happened, and if she was unhappy with anything, we should talk about it, she replied with anger over the situation, denied that she was angry, put things in my mouth and refused to address the issue.

being a scorpio, of cos i withdrew and didn't want to say anything from there.

but she suddenly dropped me a note 3 weeks later asking me if i wanted this stationery that she used to always get for me. i thought from there there was a chance we could talk over things and be friends again.

the next day when we were at a wedding, she was acting weird and busy throughout the dinner. we still talked in front of friends but when we were alone she stifled when i started a conversation asking how she's been lately. i didn't even bring up the subject.

after the wedding, my friends invited me for a drink so i've went. then i received a message from her saying "let me know when u reach home"

these are the heartwarming messages we used to send each other so i tot things should be getting better, i replied when i reached home " m home, what about u? listen, if u still care about our friendship like i do, we should talk"

guess what?! no response from the subscriber. now i m wondering if that message was meant for me? maybe she's meant to send it to another person and got it wrongly sent to me.. it could happen really..

but another 2 weeks later, she dropped me a mail about a hire purchase plan most helpful to me.. and said nothing else..

i didn't respond, didn't know what to respond with..

so what do i do? i can't take this refusal to talk then suddenly dropping me a mail kind of situation. at the same time, i can't bear to abandon the friendship without giving it my best shot. i don't want to go on like this not knowing if she wants to continue the friendship or dropping it. as much as i cherish our friendship, i definitely don't want to be a pain in her neck.

to me, i can't be friends again not talking about what exactly happened that caused much distress for the both of us. how am i supposed to trust her again like that if we couldn't even talk about things.

and what does she want really, i am not sure. if she wants to solve the problem. we should talk about it, if she wants to move on, tell me straight in the face that she doesn't want to see me anymore..

any virgos to give us scorps some insights to this? i guess i just need an answer what u want..

i cherish our friendship but if u r too cool and want to move on, just tell me and i will.

thanks all

troubled blunovi

2005-02-11 00:15:32

Hey Blunovi welcome to the board.

Though I am not a virgo I would like to say my piece here as I have seen even cancerians and scorpions behaving in such strange painful way. I maynot be able to correctly define her behaviour, but she is obviously very hurt by that fight ya'll had. She should have explained to you why she has distanced herself.

Now this reminds me of my situation with a scorpio close friend. When I decided to break up with him , it was very obvious why i wanted to. later on I even explained to him. Actually thrice i had explained him. Yet he seems to pretend that I have not told him why I want to distance myself.

Maybe your virgo friend did indicate to you why she is angry with you while the two of you were quarreling and maybe you didnt comprehend it. People do go into silence when hurt and it does make the situation difficult. The reason she sent you some mail is because she thoght it would be useful to you. Yes, Virgos can be like that. I have naturally no way of knowing if she is still interested in you.

The text message thing. yes mistakes do happen. But you may never know. she must have sent that message to you for old times sake and then at the next moment realised that maybe it is not a good idea.

See i have even changed my phone numbers as this sorp guy would keep on messaging me. Atleast you are keeping your distance in this case. But you know what? I always feared that even if i talk to him as a friend, he would always keep on pushing me for more closeness. Maybe she is afraid of that. If she decides to talk to you , you may start pushing her for more closeness as you have obviously not gotten over her. See it is difficult for Scorps to be normal with a person that they have been close with and still wish to.

Kindly take this just as my reflection and correct me if I am worng about you or your experience.
Regards
Looney Bird

Well, it is obvious that she still cares for you. We Virgos almost never cut off people from our hearts - no matter what you do to us. Yes, we do cut off any contact with you for a while ( It just hurts so much - and we don't know how to cope with it), but rest assured that we do miss you, and that deep inside we feel terrible.

Of course I am a first decan Virgo, and she may be diferent.

Here is what would work with me. Call me, call me, call me. If I am really mad at someone, I would not answer the phone the first day, even if you call a 100 times. I need time to think about, why are you calling me and what should my response be. However if you do insist and call me the next day again, then I will know for sure that you do care about our friendship, that you do not allow your ego to stand between us, and that you are sincere. That will warm up my heart in an instant, and either I will finally answer the phone, or I will return your phone call - with the intention of patching things up.

So, if you care about this girl, insis, insist and be REAL, SINCERE and HONEST. No Virgo EVER resist that - no matter what hapopened before. Action speaks louder then words

Well, good luck, and I hope that this really helps you!

Excess

Dear all, thanks for your most helpful advise. frankly speaking, i still can't decide what to do. but your messages has helped me thought about certain things... that was helped me a lot.

looneybird, u r right. i do find it difficult to treat a close friend as just another casual friend after being so much a part of each other's lives. i'd have to work on this i think.

i kept thinking that what's happened was something so trivial, as long as we talk about what we felt that have caused the fight, we'd understand each other better. but maybe, like u and your friend, she just wants to be casual friends now.

excess, your message was a big encouragement to me. it gave me the hope that our friendship may not have ended becos of some silly fight, that friends will still accept us the way we are.

but to tell u the truth, i am fearful, yes i am, of the reaction that i'd get in calling her. i have wrote a mail and messaged her saying that i cherish our friendship and i want to talk to her, but she hasn't responded. i find it extremely hard to make another attempt.

it's been 2 months, i don't want to be a pain in her neck if she has moved on. yet i treasure her as a friend and do not want to lose her unless i know that she has given up already.

i know that i have to make a decision to either do something or let the friendship fade with time. problem is, i don't want her to feel obliged to be friends with me again becos she feels cornered by me. yet i don't want her to think that i don't care anymore and ultimately cause us to drift as strangers.

hm... 😢

Hi Blunovi.

My man, I'm a Virgo, and I don't understand Virgo women lol. Similar situation. A friend of mine for right many years. . .we didn't have a falling out, but we did drift apart. At times, it seemed like each of us would make attempts to reconnect, but nothing ever came of it. After the last time she called, I extended myself way more than normal, and it was all for naught. My response was to just break ties. I missed the point in the back and forth.

I look at it this way. If she cares about the friendship, the attempt to reconnect shouldn't be one sided. I mean, to keep calling is fine, but, it seems desperate. How many times do you supposed to call? How much effort should one person put into reuniting before accepting the glass portrait can't be glued back together?

I don't know. I guess each situation depends on the individuals involved. For myself, I just backed off. My last thought was to call and invite her to coffee to talk, but at this point, I'm not really willing to risk the embarrassment of getting turned down. And truth be told, this is going to sound bad, I'm just not really overly concerned.

If there's a way you and her can talk it out. Do it. Be it over coffee, be it over the phone . . . but you're going to get tired of the ambiguity. Of the not knowing where you stand. I guess the question is how much is she worth to you? But the converse is also true. How much should you be worth to her? If she can write you off with the snap of her fingers . . . essentially, is reconnecting worth more than the ego bruising involved in taking desperate and lathering her will unreturned calls?

Any way. I hope the relationship with your friend works out better than mine. Maybe later she'll come around. You don't necessarily have to pursue though. Maybe backing off is best, at the same time leaving the door open to a rejoining. Either way, time typically takes care of itself. In hindsight, I'd say bend to her. Be receptive to a reconnection, but not necessarily insistent. You've told her you cherished the friendship. What else can you do? It's her move. If she cares she'll make it.

Good luck my man,


VirgoSquared

Hi Blunovi!
VirgoSquared is right. The attempt towards reonciliation shouldn't be one-sided. Besides how much time can you give her, before she comes around? In my dictionary caring for somebody doesn't mean not responding to them for over two months. If the matter was too trivial then I wonder what is the reason for this standoff? Is she putting you through some test? For what effect? I mean you will wait for her only till you have feelings for her. What if one fine day it is over? And then she would liek to return and check if you are still there? Well these are the thoughts which crossed my mind.

The Scorp friend that I mentioned earlier didnt want a casual friendship with me. Hence I cut off from him completely.

Well friend as VirgoSquared says for now keep the door ajar,but then there could be a possibility that the strong breeze of destiny could shut it with a loud bang.

I am curious to know if the two of you were alittle more than friends.
take care
Looney Bird

🙂 looney bird, so u kinda tot i was in love with this galfriend of mine..

no, i am a gal myself, single. i still live on the hope of meeting the right guy but at most times i've got past that hope, basically i am happy to just spend time with close friends watching a movie or have long talks over dinner and drinks..

this gal is the closest friend i have the last 3 years. she's engaged and may be getting married either this or next year..

i guess i find it hard to let go becos i don't usually grow close easily with people.. and with her, i feel we connect in many ways, especially in terms of values and beliefs.. i enjoy time spent with her sharing our joys and woes...

Virgosquared is just like the little worm in my tummy.. spoke precisely of what i felt inside... can i give him or her a biG hug for what she's said..

the thing is, when i did not receive my friend's reply (after i've told her that i cherished our friendship), i backed off and kept quiet from there...

then she started sending me small little messages that were useful to me, then i was confused all over again.. i can't differentiate if she was trying to reconnect by sending me those little messages, or was she just sending me becos they were useful to me like what looneybird said..

so there's always this feeling of whether should i ask her if she wanted to talk again, maybe she's trying to connect by using these little messages... things like that will run through my head and i will start to think yes, no, yes, no... and get upset all over again...

i just want to know if she still wants us to be back like the good old days, or does she want to see me lesser, or does she want me to get out of her life totally..

and exactly like what looneybird said as well, i dun want to give it up and then suddenly she comes back one day, when i might have moved on already and it was then too late to bring back what we lost...

i had a close friend some years ago... it happened that way.. we started to drift apart when she got to know her new friends at work..

there was once when i really liked a dress i saw in a magazine so i pleaded with her to go with me to the shop to get the dress.. she kept quiet and did not answer... 2 days later she told me she just went to the shop with her new friends so she didn't want to go again..

i was pissed and asked her if that was fair... i saw the dress and she brought her friends to buy it.. when i told her that we were drifting apart, she told me its natural people drift apart...

i was sad but at least i knew where i stood (quoting Virgosquared) so i began opening myself to getting to know new friends...

then guess what, her friends let her down and she came back to me... but it was too late, i have moved on... the problem is, i felt guilty.. even until today.. i feel the guilt that i couldn't go back to where we used to be... i felt that she was trying but our timing is so OFF...

sigh... is this all little girls' drama to u guys... r u tired of me going on and on...

btw guys, did u happen to catch the movie "shall we dance" if u havn't please go and watch it,,, i really liked the movie and wished more people will appreciate fine movies like these... good day 🙂

Hi Blunovi!
LMAO ! So You are a female. The joke is really on me. I am really ROFL. What else do I say? Well friend let us know if any further development takes place with regard to your virgo friend. Friends meet, drift apart & then may either move out permanently or return back after cirumnavigating other human circles 🙂 So life goes on.

It is nice to have you here though. Looking forward to hear more from you.

Hugssssssssss

Looney Bird.

hi looneybird

yes i am female... and gosh dun tell me my nick sounds masculine.... that's why the misunderstanding..

it's really nice to talk to u people...

u can't imagine how good i feel after talking to u all...

thanks again...

btw happy valentine's.... anyone in love out there...
may u be blessed with a great valentine year after year... i am extending this wish to myself as well.. 🙂

Hi! Blunovi I'm not a virgo I'm a cancer but I feel that what your friend is doing is very wrong. The least she could do is let you know what is up. If she really cares about your friendship she would at least listen to what you have to say. But I hope it all works out for the best. Just don't waste all of your time waiting on this one person. Your a Scorpio so I'm sure you have other things to do.

i m glad somebody feels the same way out there, sometimes u just need to know the truth to move on...

anyway after much tossing and turning, i finally told myself to make my one last attempt to leave her a message asking her to coffee..

i made a pact with myself, if she responds, we'd talk.. maybe things will work out, maybe not, but i'll know..

if she doesn't, i guess the truth will then be clear as crystal..

she has replied my message, that she's taking a 2 weeks break now, overseas..

so for now, i can relax and not think about this unresolved matter... everything should come to light when she's back... 🙂

at this point, i m quite sick of the ambiquity already (quoting virgosquared) ya its been 2 months, i won;t waste my time on this person if she doesn't try like i'm doing...

Is there a NORMAL HUMAN BEING out there that wont BLAME their fault on other HUMAN fellow?.in our CASE? VIRGO—

SURE.. you cancerbuddy and blunovi are exceptions.. you guys.. are as clean as Jesus Christ.. try to understand?.!!
We Virgos are sensitive and responsive to KEYS?. One wrong push and the BLAST?!!
Don?t you get it yet..??
Guess NOT?!!

Is there a NORMAL HUMAN BEING out there that won't BLAME their fault on other HUMAN fellow?.in our CASE? VIRGO—

SURE.. you "cancerbuddy" and "blunovi" are exceptions.. you guys.. are as clean as Jesus Christ.. try to understand?.!!

We Virgos are sensitive and responsive to lead KEYS?. One wrong push and the BLAST?!!
Don?t you get it yet..??

Guess NOT?!!

In your case C-B?!! You don?t helping any issue here but whining about your past experience?!! Haven't you considering the possibility that you might damage that poor Virgo of yours up to the point that he start to hate and avoiding you..?? Because of your needy and apparently (whining and nagging) nature..??

(Hint?.take a look at to your all previous posts?there is no single positive shot that can be constructive, all is about "MY earlier experiences"..) and you want to build up a fact from those "earlier experiences" and feed it up to the other people's mind?.

It's you my dear that MUST be avoided at any cost "simply.. there is no positive points in your heart and mind that can make life exciting with you". You already know the Virgo's speciality and you still want to challenge their nature by your words..?? Hmmm ....you are wrong again man?.!!. you cant change the nature of people or things? either you accept the fact as it is or move along.. and I m not joking?this threat "in my past experience" is getting really boring "you sounds like Grand dad already".

LIFE IS DYNAMIC AND CHANGING AS WE SPEAK so try to understand, past is gone and you are not going to get it back.. Those things you had at that "time frame" belongs and remains to that "time frame" that?s it?! New frame? New life line..!

I am not flaming on you and your post, but try to understand, everything changes and may not be in the way we want or like it?.either we accept it or we forget it?or in my case?.toast to it bad or good.
🙂

Or just realize it is what it is. Each person that comes into our life is teaching us a lesson that we need to learn so that we may grow. If we do not get the lesson, the experience will return until we do. We are all students and teachers in our movie of life...a constant change as Q has noted. Always changing....this is good. Embracing change and looking for the good in every situation will keep us on the "happy" track of life.

It really is all good and the best part of it, is that we have been given the gift of life to "be". Doesn't get much better than that my friends!

Breathe deep and enjoy the incredible person that you are 😉

Everyone Can't Be In The Front Row
author unknown

Life is a theatre. Invite your audience carefully.
Not eveyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives.
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.

It's amazing what you can accomplilsh when you let go, or at least
minimize, your time wtih draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention.
Which ones lift and which ones lean ?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage ?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill ?

When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse ?
Which ones always have drama, or don't really understand, know or appreciate you ?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

You cannot change the people around you.
But you can change the people you are around.

The wisdom of this "Freebird" lady...is second to none

Sometimes I'd really wish to curse this life for...."WHY I DIDN'T KNOW HER EARLIER IN MY LIFE"—??
Sigh?.
😉

Hi Guys!

I second and third and .... the thoughts of freebird and Qbone. We have to grow with our experiences. Each person has different set of experiences to offer in your life. Some are heavenly, soem are bitter & some more bitter.

For example i have had worst experience of my life with a Scorpio male, but that doesn't make me to spazz out on the whole scorpio community. This would mean that I am cutting myself off from some possible future great experiences.

I personally has this intense competitive relationship with capricorns. Inevitably it happens that i come aross a person who admires me very much but at the same time back stabs me. Thats' due to competition.And guess what the person is? - a Capricorn. so what I do? I Just take the best that they have to offer without laying down all my cards on the table.

And at certian times you have to completely avoid the ones who are no good to be around with.Just be non-judgemental. Keep yourself focussed towards your goals and keep loving life.

Regards
Looney Bird

Am I scary..?? or my Posts..?? Sorry about it...!!

BUT THE FACT REMAIN...

And thank you Free/loony bird for your constructive words..

love you all

🙂

Hi Q!

I personally do not find you scary at all - YOU spark me up with your words which orginate from your very insightful thoughts. I suppose it is a matter of perception - ya know what I mean? Sorta like one man's junk is another man's treasure - just depends.

No need to apologize for you who you are my friend...you is you and that is good enough!

Thank you also for your kind words...perhaps we have known each other and maybe do right now? there is more than one way to connect to the human soul 😉 and.....I think you already know that! Just a hunch that I have.

I am taking a trip to Costa Rica and will be gone for a bit. Going to explore the unknown (for me anyway).....looking forward to the adventure!

Bestest wishes and lots of love,

Freebird

Hi Looneytunebird and good day to you!

Sounds like life is working for ya huh? Yes, I agree with you...lessons, lessons and MORE lessons - it's all a part of the game of life. I know in my past (long ago) I can see it now but at the time had no clue but....I think that I put my all into relationships and in the process lost myself and that was the pain that I was feeling, I was missing ME! So, I ended up in relationships for me to figure out that silly lesson ...I am more detached, free of expectations of another person...what will happen will happen and then I will deal with whatever to the best of my ability at that moment. Thank goodness for relationships because we always have another chance, another choice to find ourselves becoming more of who we are. Isn't this the most incredible adventure? Where else can one go to learn about themselves? Nature is another good place to gain knowledge as we ultimately do reflect the patterns of nature.

I've heard it said that those we don't get along with are our best teachers.....what are your thoughts on that Looney?

I have a male Cappy pal that I have known for many years...we are complete opposites and he has said so....he is a planner, into details into busyiness....me? well um....freedom. I think oppostites attract to teach us what we need to learn...I do need more planning in my life but I sure wish someone would do it for me....details ugh!

Have a great day Looney - hope you are well 🙂

Freebird

Safe journey lady...
I wish all good and happiness for your adventures in Costa Rica... eagerly wait to see you back online again..🙂
Have fun
Thanks for the support..🙂

Hehe?.

Man?. Look at your own words

"He was a liar, a cheater, and a world class manipulator"

It could be anyone in this 12 signs of Zodiac, you needed a scapegoat "to blame on for your nature and actions" and you got it in Virgo sign, well you got one..

For you "fortunately there are 11 signs more to be blame later on" it's just a matter of time.
Wake up dude, you acting like 13 years old boy that wanted to kill mom and daddy because they take away the candy.

I personally don't know you and your ex- friend lover, but one look at your profile and the way you explain your relation, leaves no doubt about your annihilation and strange behaviour even after 2+ years separations?!! You still insist on this topic and yell about it.. May I ask you why..??

Does anyone gives a sh** about your experience or better say "experiment" with a Virgo..??

You guys that moan about Virgo's behaviour are a similar bunch of annihilators, you guys never learn "friendship/relationship is not a "COMMITMENT" there are no rules and promises, if one stay?stay, and if one goes?.goes..!! End of discussion.!!

And you still insist?and worst.. You ranting about it in Virgo's community and marking everyone else with your experience, It's not BRAVE?it's STUPID?!! No one listen?!! smart move dude?smart move....!! Are all Cancerians like you..??

As I've said? for your own sake, you'd better be constructive or else you'll be rendered as a dead goat.

There are things in this life more precious than a stupid relationship with other people, each individual got their own way of life and thought pattern, if lucky enough to come across with another individual with the same thought patterns then life blooming and get a shapes, if not.. then another day and another try "this process may take an hour or years" no one knows and it depending of those individuals?

Now?. WHO NEED YOUR ADVICES ABOUT VIRGO'S..??

Naw...

No hard feeling

But

"We are just too emotionally strong for you - period!"

Which means—?. Emotions=wind blow sail?no stabilities, Facts based on emotions are not the facts I am not try to be Mr. Spock, but when I analyse things, I need hard facts based on real FACTS and emotions are all bulsh.its to me..
Now.. how can you be constructive when you are all emotions..??
NEXT?!!

On the other hand you are right.. yes.. this is a message board?(not a garbage board), and I don?t claim to be helpful in this board (neither you) but, I don?t rant about things (based on emotions) you do?people ask for advise here are desperate people that need a HELP and you ranting?this is a problem.

Good old message board.. turn out to be a play ground for emotional people of age 13..!...feelings and talking about feelings are gone... and get replaced by ranting bu'll sh.ts from 13 years old individuals.
How about it man..??

Do I need to say more..??

Well... HEART AN HEAD is all I got and they mix very well..
Try it sometimes
🙂

You sounds like one...
And my actions are well intentioned (I may be scary sometimes) but my intentions is good and I try my best to help people out of dilemma.. YOU NOT?.!!

And —?YES.. I always ask people to choose heart before head (if they can not mix it)

E.g.........Heart = feeling--?_>>> not emotions flip-flap

No C.B... I am not lonely, I never felt to be a lonely ever. My life "is based on my work and habits and I see it from my pint of view as a never ending wild adventures" if one fails, I get busy with the other things almost instantly!!.. So, I am 24/7 guy with a lot to do.
Why are you asking this..??
🙂

Pint= Point

🙂

Hi Freebird Honey!

How are you today? Heard about your trip. Wish you a happy journey and a great time.

Yeah life is great. Things are looking up. I had also totally lost myself in my relationship earlier. In this I ignored ME. after separation it took me over 4 years to completely get over it. And the guilt of giving up a situation which looked so perfect was traumatic. After all he is such a great human being and a wonderful father of my 3 kids! Anyway today I am at peace with myself. I suddenly find that as I have allowed myself to please ME, opportunities and people who fulfill ME are happening. My ex, my kids and family are happy to see this new - glowing me.

Thanx to a friend ( a methodical virgo LOL)who did a thorough reading of my chart- opened my eyes to the missing link to my full personal growth & happiness.

You asked,"I've heard it said that those we don't get along with are our best teachers.....what are your thoughts on that Looney?"

I fully agree with that. My life has shown me that the people whom you dont get along with are the one's who show you the mirror to your limitations and hence propel your growth. That is why i say welcome the moments that you met an a*s hole or a b*tch...LOL... they are there to let you know what it is in you that brings the worse out of them. so that instead of being a victim, you build up your potentials further and work towards minimising your own personality loopholes. I use the word minimising because you are born with a factor called genetic endowment. Sometimes your best efforts may not help you in overcoming your limitations. You are what you are designed to be by the nature. It is the hardest lesson of all to learn to accept yourself. Many times we pamper our weaknesses to the point of self-destrution.Thats' why i mentioned about pushing further your potentials. It does help in minimising the negative effects of the weaker side in you.

On the lighter side I am enjoying this comraderie between you & Qbone. Keep it up. Nice to see exchange of messages of sweet feelings.

Take Care sweetness & keep in touch

Looney Bird

Hey Cancerbuddy & Qbone!

Phew! Phew ! here wiping sweat from my eyebrows. Had to prepare myself to witness a duel to the finish. Thankgod both of you are in one piece. 😢Oh my! guys both of you are prime examples in verbal eloquence. I was all the time playing a violin in the background to add more colour to this whole soap opera. Did you hear that?
Guys we sure make a great team out here.

Did I hear a standing ovation from the spellbound audience? Thanking you all guys (bending over my waist - my head almost touching my ankles)for being such perfect audience.

Really guys did you know there was a audience to begin with? NO? Well it was because they watched with stunned silence while holding their breadth witnessed one of the greatest display verbal missile launch.😛

Exit Parallax(cancer) & VirgoSquared(virgo). Welcome Canerbuddy & Qbone- caner & virgo respectively. LMAO.

You both guys are sweethearts in your own right. You guys have been supportive to anybody who needed your strong shoulders for support. Is it possible - maybe - that both of you join your hands and continue your noble work of being a great support to the ailing hearts around here?🙂

Cancerbuddy my dear fellow cancerian. I know how the cancer heart bleeds. You have been really hurt bad. But does this mean that the whole virgo species is damned due to this one bad experience? I have not one but 4 virgos in my life who have been such perfect angelic souls to me. So, does this mean i consider the whole virgo species as Gods? Any extreme views held just limits oneself. I can pefectly understand Qbone's outburst towards you. Instead of splashing back mud at him, wouldn't it had been better to make peace and pacify him by saying that you dont mean to hurt his feelings? And isn't it commendable that the virgos out here have maintained their dignity and not lashed out at you or the other virgo bashers before? I think it speaks very highly of them.

Take your time to think about this my friend. I do understnad your pain. And I do know what kind of experinces would bring out an outburst like yours in a cancerian.

So guys spread cheer ! make love and not War😉

Looney Bird

Hi loonybird...

Thank you for your kind words and support toward to this small Virgo community, having friends and constructive people like you is priceless.. you are a bless? really..!!

LOL?. Funny that you've mention Parallax in your post as I had my fine share of battle with para "lame" on the political and religion board?hehe? great guy and I am truly respect him,
people on this board are great?. Honestly even ?.the Oldjoke hehehe.

I have nothing against Cancerbuddy? nor those who flame this Virgo stuff, they are certainly people with the experience (negative) and wanted to share their thoughts?its great but at some point?.., more of (this fair share) become boring /distasteful and wont help anyone with a serious problem.! It wont help if I bring up "my bad early experience"?peoples are different ?.hell..! Even life is different, how can be anyone so judgmental about some individuals.. Let alone the whole group..??

Just take a look at all negative post..!! After reading 5 post you'll find it is RANTING?.its not constructive?.and it is not good..!!

I've found this board about 2,5 years ago?.but start talking about things only a year ago? !! And my question is still around?(why people ranting?) we are suppose to talk/share about our feelings, desires, experiences, generally things that can be typed "rather than talked" and if possible.. Remotely tender our soar hearts by gather the information and "save it for later usage"..!!

I am not a serious stereotype guy that put everything in "serious perspective"?but when it's come to "soar hearts" I'd rather see it as a serious problem..! What good it does "if I say?move along ? that particular group are generally crap anyway..??" helps something..??

Anyway?.thanks again loonybird you are great and a huge credit to this board, same goes for the lady of contradictions (Alana) lady of freedom (Freebird).

Love and peace

PS!

Was that Violin..??...I can swear that it was sounds like hard metal guitar..!!
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LOL Qbone. It was a violin. If you are talkign abotu my chiding..it si all doen in a very melodious tone..like a symphony... like a violin. Besides I like classical music.

About Parallax. We got into a tif & lot of it totally unnecessary & meaningless. VirgoSquared spoke a few words in order to make Para understand my point of you. The result? Para & VS squabble. And a month ago Para actually made very cheap remarks directed towards me. Absolutely no provoation form my side.

I decided not to respond to him at all. If you go through some of the posts of december and January in Pisces & virgo board you will get the picture.

I like cancerbuddy but he does go overboard abotu his past virgo experience. Well I wish peace to everyone. And Alana & Freebird I really admire them a lot. Sweet-P is another of my very good friend over here.allthese are very vibrant and lovely women & life of dxpnet.
Take care
Looney Bird

And yes Twinflame2 is a new addition to my list. right now sweet-p & tw2 are nto as active here. I guess it is too dead over here for them.

Naw... forget about the "para lame" and "Oldjoke"... those guys belongs to the museum and they are yesterday news.
Now? what we are going to find today..??
I have a lot to talk?. Need "kikkin"
Politics..?? Movies..?? Music..?? Arts and society..?? Humans..??...Technologies..?? name it lady..
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Sweet-P as I understand her.. !She is an active kind of lady that seek actions.. She starts with a fine load roar and the bravery———?.. and stops by the boredom.

TW2 while welcome here.. I do really know a little about her? give me some times to figure her out.. But if she stands in your list, I don?t have any problem with that and she is welcome to my heart too.
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Load = loud
Sorry typos

Ohhh...
Hi Sweet
Well for the start the "boredom" is the poison for you. Me is poisoned enough so that stuff probably wont kill me?
How are you lady..?? glad to see you around.
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Shall I start a flame war on political and religion board..?? or— Give me a clue ladies?.I am out of options.
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Hi Looneyfatooneybird!

Thank you for my well wishes on my upcoming adventure into the "unknown"...wonderful feelings are errupting from within only to soon be emerging once discovery is in progress. Man it's great to be a human with feelings!

Thanks Looney for sharing your awesome insights from the guestion that I asked you...makes perfect sense to me Lady!

Keep sharing that beautiful wisdom of yours...as you are planting your unique brand of "birdseed" for us to grow...now, who wants to supply the fertilizer, the sun, the water and the patience?

bird kisses and feather hugs to you my pal!
freebird

Hi Free-tree- soon to fly - bird

Darling always great to hear from you. I am her eto provide all the sunshine, fertiliser and other nurturing stuff that my friends need.

Dearest keep in touch. We have to be kept updated on your adventures. My reading about fluttering tummy is giving me butterflies in my tummy....how infectious are your words freebird.

Looney Bird

Hey Qbone!

In India's national language Hindi the word Q means 'what' LOL

so Q bone? -- yeah yeah Human Bone LMAO

Qbone you want a topic? How about religion? But we have to talk abotu it in sensitive way. I would never like to sound insulting ot someone's religious sentiments. But yes dogmatic views which limit and exploit the humanity should be definitely challenged.

Let me initiate the discussion by asking. What does Christianity mean to you guys? It will be interesting because not only the religion has several orders in it, but also it has a unique significance with certian unique practices around the world. Every religion is shaped by the culture of the land where ever it is followed.

I am of a mixed race. So, though baptised as a Protestant (Methodist Church), I am influenced by the philosophy & culture of South Asia. Specially Singapore & India. To me Christianity symbolises 'equality of human beings'. Abolishment fo practice of untouchability & a greater consciousness of democratic principles. Christianity in Asia came along with the Renaissance ideology of humanism & liberal thinking.

Okay guys your views please.

May God Bless You All,

Looney Bird

Oops corretion in Hindi Q menas 'why'

So why bone? why not mucles? Ha ha ha

Hey Qbone!

You had asked for suggestions to start a conversation on soem other topic- religion or politis for instance? I suggested one. Now response. Looks like you backed out of the idea after all😢

Oh.... I am still around...looking for a nice topic to start with..!

Hmm?The Qbone?means.

17-2-15-14-5 (1+7+2+1+5+1+4+5) =26 >> 2+6= 8

Which means a creature that belongs to vibration 8 (according to Linda Goodman)?.!

Hehe

Come'on get serious? there is nothing behind it..honestly.. Was fed up with my very old nickname in internet (Xzee) so created this one couple of years ago..

Cool to know that Q means (why) in Hindi,, didn?t know that..
thanks
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