eli4321
@eli4321
11 Years
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Posted by tiki33
Honestly I think you should take a break too.
Step back and listen to what he's saying on a deeper level, he's telling you/his mom that he is scared that he'll be abusive towards you/a woman, unfortunately you cannot fix that kind of feeling nor help him through that kind of emotion/thinking.
The best thing you can do is sigh relief that he's man enough to walk away and not drag you down verbally and/or drag you down with his fist.
From what you describe he actually seems like a good guy but even good guys have issues that they need to overcome on their own.



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His mom and I became really close and she told me that in November he told her that he could not see himself without me. (We're both in our early 20s btw)
The reason I'm asking this is because throughout the entire relationship we only fought 3 times. But the week after Valentine's of this year on Thursday, he asked me for a break. I didn't understand where this was coming from because everything had been going perfectly! I freaked out since we had never taken a break before and asked to see him on Sunday.
Pretty much he broke up with me and said "i dont want a relationship' but he still wanted to remain friends which confused me.
Anyway, long story short I met up with him this Saturday that just passed and I asked him why he really broke up with me. He said that he got scared. I didn't understand but tried to keep the conversation friendly. I asked him if we could turn the break up into a break.
He said, 'If it's in the cards then we'll be back together.'
His mom called and told me that she talked to him the day after and he told her that he was still in love with me and pretty much he didn't wanna end up being like his dad. His dad would hit and abuse his mom. He was scared that he was going to turn into him..
What can I do? I'm stuck in this weird point of 'Should I wait for him? Should I talk to him and try to sort out this relationship? Or should I just drop my feelings altogether? 😢
We're each other's first love and we were deeply in love.. I don't know what to do 😢 He's such a sweet guy I don't want his fears to take over... 😢