Do Virgo men enjoy playing games?

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Was seeing a Virgo man until I heard he was sleeping with another girl I confronted him and he said that it wasn't true but he was not exclusive with me, I left my city for 2 months to visit family and we kept in touch and talked about how we can't wait to see each other and plan a trip so we can be alone. I'm finally back home and he invites me to dinner with friends, when I get there he is all over me and keeps saying how much he missed me. I drank a lot and so he drove me home.. We ended up hooking up and as we were going to sleep he said he was calling and uber to leave. I was so shocked and upset I felt used and disgusting he could just leave me after having sex. He said he felt uncomfortable not having his car or knowing what part of town he is in, he said he was talking to another girl but knows it's not going anywhere and that he likes having sex with me and wants to travel with me and I said so why don't you want to talk and be together and he said "but you know" I said but what? He said he didn't want me to be mad that he was leaving so I grabbed his phone that was plugged into the speakers and said here you can call an uber and he got all mad and said well now I'm defiantly leaving since I know how you really feel by Handing me my phone to leave. He kissed me and held me and said I promise I'll text you when I get home you have to understand I could have a meeting tomorrow and I don't want to be stuck here, he promised I would come over so we could work things out between us and start over. He texted me when he got home and said "I'm home babe" and I haven't heard from him since. Is this Virgo a complete douche or should I stay in the distance and continue with my life until he's ready to spend time with me
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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon

.... this guy clearly from a bad batch of virgos.




What utter bullshit !!!!


this guy told her upfront that he wasn't exclusive with her. The fact that she's an emotional moron, in where she has expectations on him to be more than he stated was his wishes, makes him a good guy, not a bad guy.

When did honesty become a bad quality?

He has no obligation to want her. And if she's so stupid that she sleeps with a guy she shouldn't .. than that makes her from a bad batch.
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Posted by marie123

..... he was not exclusive with me

..... I drank a lot .... We ended up hooking up



You're a complete idiot.

since you'd rather be stupid than smart ... you don't deserve respect.

Only people who are respectful to themselves, deserve respect.


You purposely fuck a guy to whom just told you he sleeps with other people ... and then you even go further with your idiocy and chase him, as if he's a keeper.


the only ridiculous person in this scenario is you
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Posted by marie123
Was seeing a Virgo man until I heard he was sleeping with another girl I confronted him and he said that it wasn't true but he was not exclusive with me, I left my city for 2 months to visit family and we kept in touch and talked about how we can't wait to see each other and plan a trip so we can be alone. I'm finally back home and he invites me to dinner with friends, when I get there he is all over me and keeps saying how much he missed me. I drank a lot and so he drove me home.. We ended up hooking up and as we were going to sleep he said he was calling and uber to leave. I was so shocked and upset I felt used and disgusting he could just leave me after having sex. He said he felt uncomfortable not having his car or knowing what part of town he is in, he said he was talking to another girl but knows it's not going anywhere and that he likes having sex with me and wants to travel with me and I said so why don't you want to talk and be together and he said "but you know" I said but what? He said he didn't want me to be mad that he was leaving so I grabbed his phone that was plugged into the speakers and said here you can call an uber and he got all mad and said well now I'm defiantly leaving since I know how you really feel by Handing me my phone to leave. He kissed me and held me and said I promise I'll text you when I get home you have to understand I could have a meeting tomorrow and I don't want to be stuck here, he promised I would come over so we could work things out between us and start over. He texted me when he got home and said "I'm home babe" and I haven't heard from him since. Is this Virgo a complete douche or should I stay in the distance and continue with my life until he's ready to spend time with me
Hes acting like a single man
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Posted by marie123
He kissed me and held me and said I promise I'll text you when I get home you have to understand I could have a meeting tomorrow and I don't want to be stuck here, he promised I would come over so we could work things out between us and start over.
Working things out would only be possible if there was a pre-existing relationship already in order.



@marie123

This is why firmness, consistency and being vocal about what you want is very important.

Good Luck!
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I think a good Virgo from a good batch wouldn't be sleeping around. Being upfront about being a promiscuous doesn't make him a good person ok? And don't you think the guy knows she wants more than a friends with benefits with him? Guys aren't stupid. So if you think he was so darn clear and that makes him a good guy


A person having multiple partners, so long as he's honest with all of them doesn't constitute a bad person. In fact, his measurement of character, as far as being a bad vs good person isn't relative to the number of lovers he has.

Him knowing she wants more isn't his job to manage. His job is to be honest with her, which he is. He told her straight up that she's not the only lover he has. If she wants more from him than being treated as a piece of meat, then that's HER job to act like it. And NOT his job to act like it for her.

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.... this guy clearly from a bad batch of virgos.




What utter bullshit !!!!


this guy told her upfront that he wasn't exclusive with her. The fact that she's an emotional moron, in where she has expectations on him to be more than he stated was his wishes, makes him a good guy, not a bad guy.

When did honesty become a bad quality?

He has no obligation to want her. And if she's so stupid that she sleeps with a guy she shouldn't .. than that makes her from a bad batch.
I didn't say she wasn't "confused" in her situation. I clearly stated the guy's intentions and show her what the reality was. I think a good Virgo from a good batch wouldn't be sleeping around. Being upfront about being a promiscuous doesn't make him a good person ok? And don't you think the guy knows she wants more than a friends with benefits with him? Guys aren't stupid. So if you think he was so darn clear and that makes him a good guy, your standards for men are low.
Since when does promiscuity while not in the confines of a relationship make someone not morally upright?
Is it morally upright to be possiblg spreading herpes? AIDS? And then later oops, I didn't know I had it etc etc
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What the hell?

A person having multiple partners isn't what spreads herpes and AIDS.

Just like ... guns don't kill people.


Just because this guy sleep with more than one woman doesn't mean he's irresponsible.



What the fuck is the matter with you? Are you always this stupid?
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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon

your level of reasoning is what is contributing to all the babies being born without fathers.



You go even further in your ignorance to indirectly state that a man who has multiple lovers constitutes unequivocally that he also is seeding the women.

You really ARE that stupid, aren't you?


At first, I just thought you were projecting, like the typical douchebag does, because they are incapable of critical thought ... but, now I come to realize that you're just dumb.
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Posted by marie123

he said .... he was not exclusive with me

We ended up hooking up .....

I was so shocked and upset I felt used and disgusting he could just leave me after having sex.




I just can't get over how fucking stupid people really are.

No wonder our world is in the state it's in ...... there are people like this here, who cannot even manage to put two and two together.
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Posted by marie123

he said ... he was not exclusive with me

we kept in touch

he invites me to dinner

I drank a lot and so he drove me home

he said he was calling and uber to leave.

He said he felt uncomfortable not having his car or knowing what part of town he is in

he said he was talking to another girl but knows it's not going anywhere and that he likes having sex with me and wants to travel with me

He said he didn't want me to be mad that he was leaving

He kissed me and held me and said I promise I'll text you when I get home

I could have a meeting tomorrow and I don't want to be stuck here

he promised I would come over so we could work things out between us and start over.

He texted me when he got home and said "I'm home babe"




He sounds like a good guy ... I have no clue why you are playing head games with him.
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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
Wow glitch with my phone. Man go back and REread what I wrote. I never once said sexual transmitted disease or fatherless children were results of promiscuity. You said that when you distorted my original text. I merely cautioned being advocates of promiscuity with no regards to after-effects. I WAS talking about the high correlation between those factors. You need to learn how to read. I am tired of people picking fights where they don't belong and looking like idiots making no bullshit sense.
Actually, it's YOU who needs to learn how to read ... because any person in here who responded stated that they had no regard to after effects of promiscuity.


for the viewing audience: what has happened here is that this new person, VirgowScorpiMoon is projecting. Apparently, she stupidly fell for a man while in a fwb situation, so now she's projecting all of her own faulty judgment skills onto all people in this thread.

Because there's just no other reason for her to make such ludicrous assumptions, otherwise.
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Op, do you understand where you fucked up here?

He told you point blank that he's seeing other chicks. You REWARDED his behavior by sleeping with him.

Sex was your one card to play and you played it too soon. He's not in a relationship with you, ergo he is not obligated to cuddle and spend the night with you.

There is the chance that this could still turn into a relationship between you two. Y'all can keep seeing each other and maybe he'll discover that your the coolest chick outta all the girls on his rooster and give you the gf crown. Or maybe not...

If you do keep seeing him a good indicator of your 'ranking' among these other chicks is if your getting the Friday night and weekend dates from him. Then your definitely the front runner for his affections.
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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
Is it morally upright to be possiblg spreading herpes? AIDS? And then later oops, I didn't know I had it etc etc
I'm with @P-angel and @Ixion120 on this one. It's ridiculous and idiotic to assume promiscuity equates unsafe sex. I blame this kinda ignorance on our excellent 'abstinence only' sex education. God bless merrica!! *rolls eyes.

And I'll take it one step further and say that people who are more sexually promiscuous tend to practice safe sex and know what to look out for when it comes to outbreaks (stds).

Obviously this is a generalization. Crack addicts withstanding, those that are having sex with multiple partners will take precautions and get regular testing. While those in a committed, monogamous relationship will be having unprotected sex and not worry about testing.

In my own life, friends and family that I know have an std have all gotten it from a partner who cheated and brought it into the marriage bed.

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when a woman has 10+ partners marriages always lead to divorce

unless you're like p-angel and in an open relationship
I would think the woman who has had 10+ partners has a better understanding of what she wants and has faced compromise before, both qualities which would make for a more successful marriage.
actually that would make it easier to be more dissatisfied.
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How so..??
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when a woman has 10+ partners marriages always lead to divorce

unless you're like p-angel and in an open relationship
I would think the woman who has had 10+ partners has a better understanding of what she wants and has faced compromise before, both qualities which would make for a more successful marriage.
actually that would make it easier to be more dissatisfied.
How so..??
More sexual experiences suggest lack of commitment thus that carries into the marriage. in fact they did a study where as a woman's partners increase, the higher rate for divorce. Like 70% of women who have had 10+ partners get divorced.

if a woman has had 1 or 2 sexual partners, she shows more sexual happiness and is less dissatisfied in a marriage then a woman who has had more sexual partners.

the only way those marriages survive is open relationships...
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More sexual experiences suggest lack of commitment? On whose part though? Haven't you been in a relationship where you wanted long term but the he wouldn't commit CC?

Could be that those 10+ relationships didn't work for a myriad of reasons. What if your in your 50s/60s? Each of those 10+ partners could have been long term relationships spanning several years each.

The study sounds like it came from a neo nazi conservative religious type group where shaming women from excercising their sexual freedom is the real motive.

I still stand by my earlier assessment. Women who have dated a myriad of people and experienced many relationships will be more successful entering a partnership (marriage) than some shiny-and-new, fresh out the package woman who has little to no dating experience.
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Agreed yet there is a strong correlation that a woman with looser morals has commitment issues.

don't matter who you date. not my business
Yet again you are attaching body count to moral orientation. Why?
ok a person with a looser vagina has commitment issues.

better?
not that looseness of vagina is based on how many dicks, but still.
Since you caught yourself I don't have to lol.... on that point at any rate.

Insinuation that someone is afraid of commitment because they have sex often is horseshit. Outward physical markers especially of the type you are referencing don't tell much about someone's currently subscribed to belief system or behavioral tendencies.
Its common sense, if a woman has multiple types of penis entering her vessel, how can she not be bored by the peen she's settled on?
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It's not about the peen, but how he handles it. There are many studies out there that evaluate and validate the premise that for women, sexual satisfaction comes with emotional and mental acuity on the part of the male, not his peen. I'm a sex-positive person, I'm totally thumbs up with 'shopping', and taking a guy out for a test drive, but I know it's not everyone's bag, and it doesn't mean they are a prude.

However, a Hoe fo sho.....is a woman who has nothing to offer a man BUT sex, and she uses it to her advantage to con men into making her lifestyle easier. The hoe cares nothing but for her own wants and trades her body cheaply and often.
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Is it morally upright to be possiblg spreading herpes? AIDS? And then later oops, I didn't know I had it etc etc
I'm with @P-angel and @Ixion120 on this one. It's ridiculous and idiotic to assume promiscuity equates unsafe sex. I blame this kinda ignorance on our excellent 'abstinence only' sex education. God bless merrica!! *rolls eyes.

And I'll take it one step further and say that people who are more sexually promiscuous tend to practice safe sex and know what to look out for when it comes to outbreaks (stds).

Obviously this is a generalization. Crack addicts withstanding, those that are having sex with multiple partners will take precautions and get regular testing. While those in a committed, monogamous relationship will be having unprotected sex and not worry about testing.

In my own life, friends and family that I know have an std have all gotten it from a partner who cheated and brought it into the marriage bed.
I'm not putting on the blame. I was expressing the high correlation. Just so you know, you can't ducking read because you're the one that's says promiscuity causes stds. I merely said it is correlated with the rate of transmission of stds. You're with the idiots that can't read on this one. You all need to learn to distinguish between your own assumptions and differentiate that between what my actual context was.
"People with promiscuity tends to practice safe sex" is a mere assumption on your part. You can't possibly speak on their behalf. Just so you know " partners that cheated " also falls under " promiscuity".
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Where? Where did I say 'promiscuity causes std's'?? Please quote where I said that. Back up your cra cra with some proof.
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Is it morally upright to be possiblg spreading herpes? AIDS? And then later oops, I didn't know I had it etc etc
I'm with @P-angel and @Ixion120 on this one. It's ridiculous and idiotic to assume promiscuity equates unsafe sex. I blame this kinda ignorance on our excellent 'abstinence only' sex education. God bless merrica!! *rolls eyes.

And I'll take it one step further and say that people who are more sexually promiscuous tend to practice safe sex and know what to look out for when it comes to outbreaks (stds).

Obviously this is a generalization. Crack addicts withstanding, those that are having sex with multiple partners will take precautions and get regular testing. While those in a committed, monogamous relationship will be having unprotected sex and not worry about testing.

In my own life, friends and family that I know have an std have all gotten it from a partner who cheated and brought it into the marriage bed.
I'm not putting on the blame. I was expressing the high correlation. Just so you know, you can't ducking read because you're the one that's says promiscuity causes stds. I merely said it is correlated with the rate of transmission of stds. You're with the idiots that can't read on this one. You all need to learn to distinguish between your own assumptions and differentiate that between what my actual context was.
"People with promiscuity tends to practice safe sex" is a mere assumption on your part. You can't possibly speak on their behalf. Just so you know " partners that cheated " also falls under " promiscuity".
Where? Where did I say 'promiscuity causes std's'?? Please quote where I said that. Back up your cra cra with some proof.
** correction: "promiscuity equates unsafe sex" ** my bad I was on my phone when i sent the last message. However, your point of "promiscuity doesn't equate to unsafe sex" is naive as hell. Your friends and family would know, if their partner wasn't promiscuous they themselves wouldn't have gotten stds.
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Yeah, I never said that either. In fact I said the exact opposite.

You've contradicted yourself there with those first few sentences my friend.
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Lol, I think it's cute. Brainiacs attack.
Brainiacs? where?
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Lol. We're painting my den/reading room/Netflix n chill room..

Found a perfect shade of light grayish blue. It's called watery by behr. Cottage color. It'll go well with the white down filled sectional I just bought.

I'm going for homey, peaceful, tranquil and elegant. I'm excited to see it finished.

I was enjoying the back n forth between them during my breaks.

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Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
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I'm with @P-angel and @Ixion120 on this one. It's ridiculous and idiotic to assume promiscuity equates unsafe sex. I blame this kinda ignorance on our excellent 'abstinence only' sex education. God bless merrica!! *rolls eyes. ''

Aka people who are promiscuous doesn't equate to unsafe sex 100% of the time. It's your quote right there.
Your right, that is my quote. And it only took you how many tries?

Exhibit A
Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
Just so you know, you can't ducking read because you're the one that's says promiscuity causes stds.
No. Didn't say that...



Exhibit B
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** correction: "promiscuity equates unsafe sex" **
Nope. Still wrong...


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You're with the idiots that can't read on this one.
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Ironic, isn't it?
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wow ...... when a person reads through this thread, it's an easy realization why people have such a bad taste in their mouth with Virgos.

And, it should also be noted that Virgos don't last here. If you look at all of the other boards, there are numerous regulars who all talk to each other, and have dxp history together.


It's fucking crickets on the Virgo board ... the only regulars are other signs.

AND, Virgos should seriously take a look at this. You should be able to look at this VirgowScorpiMoon person to realize that this is what we see in you. This kind of ridiculousness.

It shouldn't be so difficult for you to comprehend that this is why you get so much grief from everyone. Even when you know you are wrong, you just continue to make a fool out of yourself.

You would think that an intelligent person would be able to have more self awareness than this.
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I'm with @P-angel and @Ixion120 on this one. It's ridiculous and idiotic to assume promiscuity equates unsafe sex. I blame this kinda ignorance on our excellent 'abstinence only' sex education. God bless merrica!! *rolls eyes. ''

Aka people who are promiscuous doesn't equate to unsafe sex 100% of the time. It's your quote right there.
Your right, that is my quote. And it only took you how many tries?

Exhibit A
Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
Just so you know, you can't ducking read because you're the one that's says promiscuity causes stds.
No. Didn't say that...



Exhibit B
Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
** correction: "promiscuity equates unsafe sex" **
Nope. Still wrong...


Posted by VirgowScorpiMoon
You're with the idiots that can't read on this one.
Ironic, isn't it?
Exhibit b is the word for word for your comment dumbass. The later comment was an aka of the the exact same bull shit u were spewing
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You calling me a dumbass? By far the funniest shit you've said so far ‚
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A debate over chastity vs promiscuity is pointless.
The Virgo man was honest. The number of past alleged partners is irrelevant.
A connection is a connection. He clearly didn't feel it with her. It was his choice not to go forward.
The waiting game simply implies that you chose to wait on a special individual, it doesn't mean that the feelings are going to be mutual.

The OP accepted the FWB setup.
...just a little delusional about the verbal contract she entered.
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wonder why they dont last...that is the few not like virgowscorpimoon. would be one interesting topic.
I suppose our reasons differ but I made the conscious choice to not post much, especially wherever there are heavy concentrations of negativity. I already have to combat my own negativity ingrained in me due to past trauma so for health reasons I shouldn't be lingering around very long lest I begin to adapt to the bad energy and it'll all go down hill again. These days I lurk mostly in the misc board because theres fun to be had there but I make sure to visit and see whats up in here every time.

Sometimes I try to throw in a piece wherever but I generally end up backing out and logging out because I've lost interest.
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A debate over chastity vs promiscuity is pointless.
The Virgo man was honest. The number of past alleged partners is irrelevant.
A connection is a connection. He clearly didn't feel it with her. It was his choice not to go forward.
The waiting game simply implies that you chose to wait on a special individual, it doesn't mean that the feelings are going to be mutual.

The OP accepted the FWB setup.
...just a little delusional about the verbal contract she entered.
You need to look up on a dictionary what chastity means. I was not at all what this debate was about. This is why I say people can't faking read LOL
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Chastity "the state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse."

Hmmm...sounds like I got it right the 1st time.

Now this...
"I was not at all what this debate was about. This is why I say people can't faking read" ....
Simply states that a dictionary isn't your friend...but the edit button can be...if you play nicely.

You are being quite sensitive.
This statement wasn't even directed at you.
This topic took a left turn, and became a pointless debate on sex and morality.
Although there are no right and wrong answers, there are pointless responses, and will not address the OP's issue.
The Virgo will not take it any further.
I am not aware of your back story, but this topic is hitting close to home for you.