do you believe in soulmates? (Page 2)

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Posted by imascorpio10

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Posted by imascorpio10

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You're thinking too negatively about his reaction. If anything, he may understand to some extent. Just contact him like you said you would...or did and be patient.

It's hard finding chemistry though and filling that void of having a soul connection, so I feel your pain..

i know it really is, i feel like thats why i cant get over him, bc no one has ever made me feel the way he did.

anyway, we usually stop talking and then we have no contact for months almost a year, and then we come back, we give an update on life, he wants to know if im dating someone or not, if i have been with someone or not, im not really sure if he just wants to know if i managed to move on with my life without him or wth is going on. He has been with one woman in the past 3 years and it didnt last long, everyone just keeps telling me about how hes waiting for me, and a few years back i thought that too, but im not so certain now.

Cant forget that everything happened 2 years ago, a lot can change and happen in 2 years, im afraid im living this fairy tale in my head and in reality maybe we dont even match anymore because we changed too much and have completely different life style s know what i mean?

im kind of done with that routine, we dont really settle, we just start talking, give an update and then get lost again, months later everything happens the same, and its been like that since i did what i did. i dont want it to be that way, because when we get to the point where we start talking i get all hyped and emotional and then weeks after we go back to not talking and then im the heartbroken one. Its devastating.

i want us to put our problems aside and try hard one last time but i guess he maybe thinks differently, as i said he doestn really care about relationships, hes all about his friends and friendships, all the time out and about, chilling and hes never home, hes not one to go after girls or smth. I remember when we talked the last time i talked to him about how long he takes to reply to my texts he literally said "2 years ago id be in bed chilling next to my phone waiting for a reply from u so that i could reply as fast as i could, i never went out because i wanted to talk to u as much as possible, but now i realize that its not like that anymore, i like being with my friends and i hate when they're on their phones replying to their girlfriends every single minute instead of just enjoying the moments with us and im not going to be one of those people." so theres that

Since so much time has passed he probably has changed and If he really is waiting for you, then you have nothing to worry about as far as y'all making another attempt at falling in love. He could like the fact that you really want to settle because otherwise what's the point? He may want to go deeper than you. You may be overwhelmed by it. Are you sure you're ready to be in a real relationship as you say you are? Do you know what that is?

Him changing could be for the benefit of the relationship, no? Maybe you could put him in a mental place as to where he feels comfortable naturally being in your mixure again. Maybe you would be more of an fruit or vegatable than just a vitamin supplement. Two intertwined spirits can't change that much without having that same middleground in which brought them together in the first place. And for all you know, the change may be the vitamin supplement to the fruit and vegitation already present which would make the relationship even stronger for the long haul. Maybe you are the bullets to his semi-automatic rifle. It could be temporary changes to get somewhere you may already be, or not. Either way, when there is love, there is always a path. Putting action behind it almost guarantees a solution.

I doubt if he loved you THAT much that he would not go out at all just to talk to you or be next to you, that it would be stopped up in the sink and if it is, a half of bottle of draino MAX should unclog it. At least enough until y'all can afford to get the pipes professionally cleared. I wouldn't dwell on the friends part so much. That changed when y'all were breaking up if I'm reading correctly. He put you first, but then decided that was a mistake when you put him second. Time heals wounds, but so does communication, effort, and forgiveness. Being in a relationship is hard work, but having chemistry and factually loving the other, makes it worthwhile and fun for the both.

so if i understood what you said, you think that maybe him changing might be something good for us?

Correct.

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so his friends are like doing some weird stuff. adding me on social media, sending me snapchats of him, since ive wished him a happy birthday 3 of his friends did that. I dont know what they're trying to do tbh, i feel like he might be talking of me so thats why they do this and knowing him like i do he never does the first step in trying to regain contact. Even if he'd want to, he wouldnt, i guess he's either too afraid of rejection, he's too stubborn or too shy. And then they say women are complicated......

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Posted by Koni

Idk, probably good for him since you left him for someone else and considered him your little biatch

my friends used to tell me that, "you treat him like a dog, u leave and come back because you know he'll be waiting for you no matter what, some day he's going to have enough of it" i guess he has. now that i changed and i really wanted to try, he might be done with me

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This. You treated him like shit, left him for an ex and expect him to take you back? Sorry, but that bridge would be burned for me. I'm also virgo sun/libra moon, no looking backwards.

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Yes I do. I feel the same way about my Ex Leo. I'm not sure they are the ones you end up with though. Is that the purpose? I'm still trying to figure this one out.

is it not painful? i mean just by thinking that you might be soulmates it means you really love that person otherwise you wouldnt think about them for such a long period of time or regretting decisions u made in the past that made you not have any contact in the present right? its weird lol

Well, they are still in my life almost every single day now lol....

So it's a bit different for me. We have had our periods of not speaking and yes I felt like I was going to die than.

Which is so silly and dramatic to say but it's how I felt at the time. I'd pine for them when I was with others, I'd see things that would reminded me of them and break down crying, write them love poems that I never sent and

I'd pretend my pillow was even them lol the whole 9 yards right?

I try now to look at it with a more appropriate detached view.

Since I don't know what the outcome will be.

Live in the moment.

depressing isnt it? even if you try not to think about them somehow everything that happens in your life reminds you of them and then u're left alone crying, thinking about memories u once made and wishing u could go back in time an relive them. at least thats how i feel lol

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This is exactly what's going on with me today 😭

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Posted by Koni

Idk, probably good for him since you left him for someone else and considered him your little biatch

my friends used to tell me that, "you treat him like a dog, u leave and come back because you know he'll be waiting for you no matter what, some day he's going to have enough of it" i guess he has. now that i changed and i really wanted to try, he might be done with me

This. You treated him like shit, left him for an ex and expect him to take you back? Sorry, but that bridge would be burned for me. I'm also virgo sun/libra moon, no looking backwards.

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i didnt treat him like shit on purpose, i've always had a soft spot for him and im not one to let people inside but hes always been the one. If i did make him feel bad it wasnt because i wanted, its been 5 years and a lot has happened, the point is no matter how much time passes we'll always have that crush on each other and he has told me that he felt like that as well, he said he has tried with another girl but somehow he cant get me out of his head. What happened was 2 years ago, i ve apologized like a thousand times and fought for him, but hes too hurt to try again. Which i understand completely. I know he's my soulmate but i am the one that fvcked up and i just have to deal with it.

If it were me id be long gone too, but he cant seem to do so. every like two to three months we somehow try to contact each other with little tips that mean stuff like "hey i still think about you". Its painful tho because its like everytime i stop thinking of him its when he decides to reappear, and then we talk, update each other on life, i get full of hopes, and then he just gets distant or leaves. again. Its been like that for 2 years. its so freaking annoying. might as well stay gone because at the end of the story im the one who stays devastated.

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No, I used to, but life set me straight.

damn.

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Posted by Sag898

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Sag898

Yes I do. I feel the same way about my Ex Leo. I'm not sure they are the ones you end up with though. Is that the purpose? I'm still trying to figure this one out.

is it not painful? i mean just by thinking that you might be soulmates it means you really love that person otherwise you wouldnt think about them for such a long period of time or regretting decisions u made in the past that made you not have any contact in the present right? its weird lol

Well, they are still in my life almost every single day now lol....

So it's a bit different for me. We have had our periods of not speaking and yes I felt like I was going to die than.

Which is so silly and dramatic to say but it's how I felt at the time. I'd pine for them when I was with others, I'd see things that would reminded me of them and break down crying, write them love poems that I never sent and

I'd pretend my pillow was even them lol the whole 9 yards right?

I try now to look at it with a more appropriate detached view.

Since I don't know what the outcome will be.

Live in the moment.

depressing isnt it? even if you try not to think about them somehow everything that happens in your life reminds you of them and then u're left alone crying, thinking about memories u once made and wishing u could go back in time an relive them. at least thats how i feel lol

This is exactly what's going on with me today 😭

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so depressing... whats ur sign?

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Whathaveidone

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Sag898

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Sag898

Yes I do. I feel the same way about my Ex Leo. I'm not sure they are the ones you end up with though. Is that the purpose? I'm still trying to figure this one out.

is it not painful? i mean just by thinking that you might be soulmates it means you really love that person otherwise you wouldnt think about them for such a long period of time or regretting decisions u made in the past that made you not have any contact in the present right? its weird lol

Well, they are still in my life almost every single day now lol....

So it's a bit different for me. We have had our periods of not speaking and yes I felt like I was going to die than.

Which is so silly and dramatic to say but it's how I felt at the time. I'd pine for them when I was with others, I'd see things that would reminded me of them and break down crying, write them love poems that I never sent and

I'd pretend my pillow was even them lol the whole 9 yards right?

I try now to look at it with a more appropriate detached view.

Since I don't know what the outcome will be.

Live in the moment.

depressing isnt it? even if you try not to think about them somehow everything that happens in your life reminds you of them and then u're left alone crying, thinking about memories u once made and wishing u could go back in time an relive them. at least thats how i feel lol

This is exactly what's going on with me today 😭

so depressing... whats ur sign?

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Gemini his Virgo

Posted by Jules-ll

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Posted by Koni

Idk, probably good for him since you left him for someone else and considered him your little biatch

my friends used to tell me that, "you treat him like a dog, u leave and come back because you know he'll be waiting for you no matter what, some day he's going to have enough of it" i guess he has. now that i changed and i really wanted to try, he might be done with me

This. You treated him like shit, left him for an ex and expect him to take you back? Sorry, but that bridge would be burned for me. I'm also virgo sun/libra moon, no looking backwards.

i didnt treat him like shit on purpose, i've always had a soft spot for him and im not one to let people inside but hes always been the one. If i did make him feel bad it wasnt because i wanted, its been 5 years and a lot has happened, the point is no matter how much time passes we'll always have that crush on each other and he has told me that he felt like that as well, he said he has tried with another girl but somehow he cant get me out of his head. What happened was 2 years ago, i ve apologized like a thousand times and fought for him, but hes too hurt to try again. Which i understand completely. I know he's my soulmate but i am the one that fvcked up and i just have to deal with it.

If it were me id be long gone too, but he cant seem to do so. every like two to three months we somehow try to contact each other with little tips that mean stuff like "hey i still think about you". Its painful tho because its like everytime i stop thinking of him its when he decides to reappear, and then we talk, update each other on life, i get full of hopes, and then he just gets distant or leaves. again. Its been like that for 2 years. its so freaking annoying. might as well stay gone because at the end of the story im the one who stays devastated.

The in and out is the hardest part because you will never be over him. I understand completely the virgo/scopio connection, even though it seems a lot of people don't see how it can work. There's a couple scorps from my past that have left a part of themselves with me until the end of time. Maybe you should ask him to leave you alone so you aren't tormented by "what could have been" if he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship? If he really cares about you he won't want you hurting...

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Jules-ll

Posted by imascorpio10

Posted by Koni

Idk, probably good for him since you left him for someone else and considered him your little biatch

my friends used to tell me that, "you treat him like a dog, u leave and come back because you know he'll be waiting for you no matter what, some day he's going to have enough of it" i guess he has. now that i changed and i really wanted to try, he might be done with me

This. You treated him like shit, left him for an ex and expect him to take you back? Sorry, but that bridge would be burned for me. I'm also virgo sun/libra moon, no looking backwards.

i didnt treat him like shit on purpose, i've always had a soft spot for him and im not one to let people inside but hes always been the one. If i did make him feel bad it wasnt because i wanted, its been 5 years and a lot has happened, the point is no matter how much time passes we'll always have that crush on each other and he has told me that he felt like that as well, he said he has tried with another girl but somehow he cant get me out of his head. What happened was 2 years ago, i ve apologized like a thousand times and fought for him, but hes too hurt to try again. Which i understand completely. I know he's my soulmate but i am the one that fvcked up and i just have to deal with it.

If it were me id be long gone too, but he cant seem to do so. every like two to three months we somehow try to contact each other with little tips that mean stuff like "hey i still think about you". Its painful tho because its like everytime i stop thinking of him its when he decides to reappear, and then we talk, update each other on life, i get full of hopes, and then he just gets distant or leaves. again. Its been like that for 2 years. its so freaking annoying. might as well stay gone because at the end of the story im the one who stays devastated.

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The in and out is the hardest part because you will never be over him. I understand completely the virgo/scorpio connection, even though it seems a lot of people don't see how it can work. There's a couple scorps from my past that have left a part of themselves with me until the end of time. Maybe you should ask him to leave you alone so you aren't tormented by "what could have been" if he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship? If he really cares about you he won't want you hurting...