Emotional Virgo Man

My boyfriend of 2+ years and i recently had a 2 week break because of a huge argument that transpired due to his ongoing insecurities... apparently i don't care about or love him and he thinks I'm cheating ( mind you majority of the women he's ever been with have screwed him over one way or another) anyways we got back together on Saturday and i told him I'm willing to work it out but there's certain things i won't tolerate. During those 2 weeks apart he truly did believe i was leaving for good and i got paragraph after paragraph via texts about how sorry he is and how much he cant live without me etc everyday.

So now he had a week off of work and has been back at my place and it has just been an emotional roller coaster. He thinks i'm acting cold when i don't wanna talk about our issues every minute of every day. I'm getting emotionally drained, with all his insecurities and he feels like im changing too. Plus I've been under a lot of stress with work and school maybe it's showing up in the relationship.

How do i get him to calm the hell down and live life and stop worrying about things that aren't happening and realize i do love him but this is getting to the point where im seriously thinking about leaving. I feel more like the stereotype man in the relationship as of now. The less emotional, less clingy one, more dominant one.

This doesn't seem like virgo behaviour to me? Maybe something to do with a leo venus and a gemini moon?

My Virguy was similar. Our relationship only lasted a year and three/four months though, so we didn't have the same connection that you two probably do. But anyways, I was in the similar position of feeling like the guy instead of the girl. He was constantly accusing me of not caring for him or loving him etc. I eventually ended up breaking it off. If you really love him then give it more time. And talk to him again about your side of it. Tell him how the behavior is making you feel. Tell him that you're really emotionally drained. Tell him that you need more time if that's what you need. (Are you sure that you're ready to be off of a break? Just something to think about.) In the mean time if things continue and you can't take it anymore don't feel obligated to stay. Take your time, weigh your decisions, and make sure that you do at some point talk to him about the toll this is taking.

Oh, and I don't think that him being so emotional has anything to do with a gemini moon. I have a gem moon and I'm not very emotional at all. Maybe it's the Leo placement. Does he have Cancer anywhere in his chart? lol

Best of luck!

Wow that was deep. Listen to him ^^^ That was...insightful. ::leaves in thoughtful silence::

It's not about the other signs of the chart. I have no Cancer or Gemini anywhere and I'm very very similar. The more I love someone, the more "crazy" I act. 25th has hit the nail on the head here, it's about making yourself the perfect guy for the perceived perfect girl, it's very stressful and a 24/7 job, it becomes an obsession. Sometimes the feelings are so overwhelming that when the SO does not reply with strong enough feelings, it's incredibly frustrating and that eventually turns into insecurity.
Oh yes, it sucks.

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It's not about the other signs of the chart. I have no Cancer or Gemini anywhere and I'm very very similar. The more I love someone, the more "crazy" I act. 25th has hit the nail on the head here, it's about making yourself the perfect guy for the perceived perfect girl, it's very stressful and a 24/7 job, it becomes an obsession. Sometimes the feelings are so overwhelming that when the SO does not reply with strong enough feelings, it's incredibly frustrating and that eventually turns into insecurity.
Oh yes, it sucks.

WOWWW. I beg to differ only in the fact that I agree with you so strongly!!! Haha. I am a Leo with my Venus in Virgo. I've been with my Virguy for a year and change and the more I want things to work long term for us the more I want to perfect myself. Recently it has become an obsession. I want to be the perfect woman for him. And the more I want to do that the less good I feel about myself because I am measuring myself against something that can never happen. (If Tiki sees this she'll kill me!!) I probably give too much in the relationship, and I have realized that is my Venus in Virgo. I'm not sure what to do about it actually.

My Virguy has actually NEVER shown any signs of insecurity to me. None. (His Venus is in Libra / Moon is in Sag.) But he also doesn't really communicate that much about feelings in the first place. So maybe they are there, just deeply rooted? I would actually be RELIEVED if he told me he was insecure about us! At least I would know that he cares!

AND regarding the Venus in Leo from the OP.... I think it absolutely could affect his behavior -- at least the Venus in Leo part (I don't know about the Gem part). I am a Leo and unless someone is devoted to me it makes me feel insecure. Venus in Leo: "They are threatened by a relationship that appears to have settled too much, or one that's lost its spark. They are also threatened by indifferent or impersonal behavior on your part." -- from CafeAstrology (http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/venusinsigns.html)