Engaged to a Virgo man & extremely confused HELP ! (Page 2)

"If a person shows (acts) like they aren't in love with you, then they aren't ... what is so difficult to get about that? A person learns at around age 3 or 4 that people who love you = show you they love you. A child gets it."

Oh absolutely!!.. all adds to our experiences, childhood, life, does it not— Thing is our experiences shape who we are.. oh and our ideas and beliefs! 😉.. oh and our habits! 😉 .. like the NOT so good ones!!! lol

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Posted by Mimz

You're so fucking stupid, it just makes it nearly impossible to answer a question ... how is anyone suppose to know that you will actually get the answer, since you obviously don't "get" that he isn't endlessly in love with you?

NO is your answer ... Virgos don't love deeply if they don't show it.

Seriously .. someone has to (tell) you that?

If a person shows (acts) like they aren't in love with you, then they aren't ... what is so difficult to get about that? A person learns at around age 3 or 4 that people who love you = show you they love you. A child gets it.


What the fuck is your problem?

His behaviour is miles away because he doesn't love you ... and yet, you know this, you are here saying it, and you are mso thick headed that you will continue to say .. "we're getting married" ... totally oblivious to any reality present in your situation.

I swear ... people are so fucking dense. You're not alone, there are millions of you out there ... dumb as fuck

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Speaking of childhood learning skills seriesly did someone drop you on your head while you were a child ?
Your speaking retard it's so damn sad 😢 you should get help I feel sorry for you

"Speaking of childhood learning skills seriesly did someone drop you on your head while you were a child ?
Your speaking retard it's so damn sad you should get help I feel sorry for you."

Now that experience could shape? If there is potential for growth, one would not like to assume but only hope 🙂...

Dont ever allow other peoples negativity shape you, stay on path, strive to be the best person you can possibly be, thats what makes you lovable and beautiful.

'1. Cold
2. Emotionally unavailable
3. Unable to bond intimately
4. Lack of consideration for your feelings and emotional needs'

My virgo is similiar but you know what? I laid out to him what MY needs are and he has made the effort to meet them. And that is what YOU need to do. If he can't try, then you will always be left wanting more and be unhappy. I can also be similiar in character to him because I am a Capricorn so in a way I get him. He lets me know what his needs are too and i respect his and compromise.

Caligula,

And again, Mimz is stating, "AGAIN", CLEARLY that she wants advice on her emotional problems. But you are too stupid, prideful, and emotional to recognize it.


Anyway, it's futile to continue talking to a foul-mouth, close-minded imbecile.

Take care, child.

Mimz,

There are so many different kinds of Virgos. I'll help you with two that I know in which one is moderate and the other extreme in coldness.

I've been with my Virgo for two years but it took us 13 months for him to really comfortably open up to me. His coldness almost cost us our relationship. That's why he decided to reevaluate his behaviors (or lack thereof) and truly try to understand how it affects me. After this major event, he slowly started to change and improve and warm up to my needs and really began to try to understand and be fair with my comfort level.

However, a friend of mine has been with her Virgo boyfriend for 5 years. He absolutely loves her to death! But, he would NEVER EVER show it in gushy mushy ways that a lot of females are obsessed about. As a matter of fact, she knows absolutely nothing about his past! All she knows is that his ex-wife cheated on him and divorced him. He does not like discussing details he is not comfortable with for whatever reason. Even though he doesn't approach love the conventional way, doesn't buy her flowers or looks deeply into her eyes and tell her sweet nothings, but he gives himself in a way of SERVICE. Gives her weekly shopping allowances, fixes anything that is broken or wrong in her home, goes to church with her every Sunday even though he is not a religious man; when she needs help, he's there in a heartbeat... My friend learned to accept that about him. That he may not be the most expressive man nor is he a charmer or sweet talker, he loves her and shows her he loves her by being useful and helpful in her life.

I think that's what everyone is trying to tell you, you need to give it more time. Virgos move VERY slowly. Until they reach that point you are fighting a losing battle. They are very private people and are afraid to be attached and vulnerable; for whatever reason, emotions are frightening for them. This fear prevents them from being openly expressive and risk you taking advantage of their feelings. It requires a lot of time, patience, and nurturing from your part. Are you willing to try hard to understand him? It's not going to be easy but it's better than being rash and making a mistake that will be hard to fix later. But also take into consideration that not all Virgos is capable of changing who they are, sometimes their negative emotional experiences will trap them in cold arms forever -- like in the case of my friend's Virgo boyfriend.

Are you willing to take that risk? He may recognize your needs and change someday or he may never be able to provide you with the kinds of affection you need...

Right now, take your time to sort out your emotional needs and get to know him more. There is no need to rush into marriage, it will always be there later if you guys truly love each other.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
Caligula,

And again, Mimz is stating, "AGAIN", CLEARLY that she wants advice on her emotional problems. But you are too stupid, prideful, and emotional to recognize it.


Anyway, it's futile to continue talking to a foul-mouth, close-minded imbecile.

Take care, child.

who cares what the bitch is asking for? she's 12!

when you become dr phil, you can dictate the course of discussion. until then, go fuck yourself and lick my left nut bitch!

Posted by ScorchedWater
Caligula,

Have some class. You're calling GodMadeBeauty trailer trash yet you're talking in an extremely vulgar disrespectful way.

exactly! i speak several languages. trailer trash being one of then.

close the legs in your avi...i smell something fishy 😛

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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
An American cultural perspective? What a JOKE! You clearly know nothing about American marital stats.

She's not here to ask you to judge her problem based off of cultural or ethnic backgrounds. She clearly stated that she has emotional needs that he is not providing and wants some perspective. Comment on the situation, not the person. In simple terms, she wants you to "JUDGE" her emotional dilemma. Get it? That's the request.

Exactly :o I need help with my emotional dilemma, he is a Virgo & he meets the exact detailed boring description I have read about virgos which say they are emptionaly cold.. Am a libra & am the opposite!! The question on my head was to know if he loved me endlessly behind his firm & very well put together self ! I know he does because it's a loooove attachment not arranged or any of the sort as many of you were thinking which justifies the need to know my ethnic & cultural background ! I simply need assurance that virgos do love deeply even though they won't show it that's what I need to know.. I got scared yes coz his behavior & his controlled self makes me feel he is miles away sometimes & I begin to feel insecure specially since we are getting married !! I need to know will he learn to show emotion more with time? Will he get more comfortable to speak his mind without the fear I will criticize him !? Coz by now I know for sure he is like that, I know that he won't tell me which is his favorite soccer team ! Because in my country guys are mad about soccer & it's a battle between Barcelona & real Madrid and its so ridicules & silly in my opinion because sure I ain't Spanish nor are they ! Support your own country ehehe foools I didn't know he watches soccer until he told me to turn the channel on the game. He answered with a smile when I asked him who was playing ! ;p that's the weird behavior am talking about will hee relax & trust me more with time coz I do believe he just needs more time to get use to me & loosen up without trying to hide his true nature

Now am not calling anything off am just postponing there is a difference !

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so you're Muslim?

Imbecile.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
Imbecile.

I second that