Going after a virgo woman.

I'm an aries and the girl that I am currently chasing is a virgo but she is unlike any girl who have caught my eye in the past so she has me pretty confused and hesitant about how I can proceed with her.

Background: We go to the same university and I met her in my chemical analysis lab long story short I got her number and we start txting from when we wake up to when we fall asleep for the past three weeks. This is where it gets confusing for me I flirt and leave no room for any misunderstanding. I made it very clear that I am interested in her but for the most part when I do flirt she doesn't flirt back and plays coy. Lol I even stated one time that when I get past her walls I'll be taking her heart and making her my girl. She is extremely intelligent and she seems really honest every time I ask to hang out she usually makes time despite being busy, she even asked to hang out with me. We're always laughing when we're together etc etc. Eventually I get impatient with how coy she is and asked her how she felt about me and this is what she said:
"Ah I think I'm still trying to figure out that part too. I mean,I obviously like talking to you and everything, but right now, thats where I stand."

Most girls I can get naked by the second week of talking to them but with this one everything moves so slow which I actually like if I could read where I stand with her. My gut tells me that she's into me but I always assume every girl wants me, so my questions to all of you virgos:

1) Do virgos play games? (I kinda left myself vulnerable for the first time rather than playing games, and since I'm pretty taken back by her I can't read her very well)

2) How's my situation looking?

3) Are you turned off by guys that are extremely forward?

4) How long do I have to wait for a virgo to open up?

I liked you until you said that thing about getting girls naked next week or something lol :p

Maybe she doesn't know if you are just into her for the challenge and will be out once you get her or if you meant what you said about her being your girl.

Personally I think she might just need to spend a certain amount of time with you to feel like she knows who you are.
For me 3 weeks would not be enough. I need to see a guy in different situations and moods before I can tell if he is someone I should be with or not.

So for your 1 to 4:

1)no
2)good
3)no
4)I don't know, but if you can wait it out she will stick with you through it all

Haha. You're a typical Aries. Virgo girls are beautiful, rare gems that are not easy to catch. But when you do catch them, you won't regret it.Be patient. Are you trying to pursue a relationship or just get her naked?

Posted by virgodreamz
I liked you until you said that thing about getting girls naked next week or something lol :p

Maybe she doesn't know if you are just into her for the challenge and will be out once you get her or if you meant what you said about her being your girl.

Personally I think she might just need to spend a certain amount of time with you to feel like she knows who you are.
For me 3 weeks would not be enough. I need to see a guy in different situations and moods before I can tell if he is someone I should be with or not.

So for your 1 to 4:

1)no
2)good
3)no
4)I don't know, but if you can wait it out she will stick with you through it all

Lol I'm sorry if that comment came out as arrogant or misogynistic, I only meant to show how steep the contrast between past girls that I have had chemistry with to this one. On an aside, almost all of those girls ended up being very serious gfs, I even fell in love and dated one for over two years long distance, so I'm definitely not a player.

Thanks for your response it definitely put my self doubt at ease, you almost reiterated every thing she said to me before word for word lol, sometimes astrology can be creepy when you find someone that fits the description so well.

Posted by Virg916
Haha. You're a typical Aries. Virgo girls are beautiful, rare gems that are not easy to catch. But when you do catch them, you won't regret it.Be patient. Are you trying to pursue a relationship or just get her naked?

I agree, she's absolutely gorgeous with such deep eyes It's hard to even maintain eye contact with her and not only that but she can carry on a conversation about metaphysics with me. Gotta love a girl with both looks and brains. Yeah everything says to be patient with a virgo but with her my confidence amounts to nothing and I'm never sure if she's just being friendly or is interested. Every girl that catches my eye I always feel a longing to get close to them so definitely a relationship.

As a virgo dude,I hear ya bro. I know a few virgo guys and girls. One of our virgo gifts is we are really hard to read. We're complicated yet simple all at the same time. At least she'll keep you on your toes and won't be predictable. Good luck. Also, don't be offended if she disappears and doesn't contact you for a little bit. We do that also. From what I gather, she really likes you.

Thanks for your advice man this girl definitely has me on my toes its nice to hear the opinions of people that are like minded with her.

I used to date an Aries guy. We broke off because he was too much of a player and couldn't commit. But going by the details you've given us, your situation definitely sounds promising. She's definitely into you! And its good that you made your intentions clear, virgos HATE dishonesty or being left in the dark. In case they pick up any negative vibes over a period of time, they will over analyze it till it gets too stressful for them and finally detach themselves from it in order to protect their feelings. Give her the time and space she needs, she needs it to just to be sure she's making the right choice, even if it's only dating. At all costs, stick to your words. If she's a typical virgo, she's definitely attracted to your confidence. Just be a gentleman and keep doing your thing. Good luck x)

UPDATE here is a recent text exchange that has me so damn confused:
virgo: Hah now you feel my reservations of taking my walls down.

aries: Lol I have absolutely no reservations about making myself obvious, although the way I've been chasing you has been pretty unorthodox for me , it came rather naturally. I just feel nervous because you leave me no room to see your heart at all but I know I'm on your mind.

virgo: And how do you know that?

aries: Why else would you hang around and talk to a guy who obviously has feelings for you?

virgo: Maybe I'm self centered and like the attention

aries: That could be your true nature but even so I'm the type who can make even a self centered and egotistical heart crave only my attention.

virgo: I'm the kind of person who takes a while to get into a relationship

aries: Yeah I kinda figured :p

vrigo: Oh gee you got me all figured out... I dont think I need to tell you anything else about me.

aries: Psh sarcasm is for winners. But I do know enough about you that makes me interested in you btw did I just get friend zoned?

virgo: Lol uh no... I'm still processing that. Would it be bad to be in the friend zone?

aries Lol naw, just means I have to move on.


Any insight would be much appreciated this girl is making me so damn anxious.

1) Do virgos play games? I've seen a few do it, but i'm pretty sure it's more of a character assessment, than trying to manipulate you.

2) How's my situation looking? So far, so good!

3) Are you turned off by guys that are extremely forward? Nope. Almost every guy i ever had a crush on was either an aries or a leo. Like layna said, nothing thrills a virgo more than a gentlemanly forwardness.

4) How long do I have to wait for a virgo to open up? Depends on stuff like past relationships,family environment etc. But to be on the safer side, i'd say longer than the average girl.

Ah thanks for your insight layna, cowpuncher (awesome name btw), and ruth.

Hehe, she's definitely keeping you on your toes. From the whole tone of that conversation it looks to me like she's just playing and trying to figure you by making you react. I'm not sensing anything bad here...but that's just me.

Lol it's so different from what I'm used to she definitely cut my ego down a bit.

I understand. My leo who's usually very confident and forward, looked SO anxious when he asked me out. I glowered at him deep in thought trying to phrase my thoughts(didnt realize i was glaring) and i could see him visibly shrink a little. Initially he felt i cut down his ego when i was restrained and testing the waters... but now he doesn't feel even a trace of that anymore 🙂 It's just a defense, a test and secretly she hopes someone will be patient enough to get past it

Are you guys affectionate once in a relationship?

Ok i didn't get your question right the first time, so i'm reposting.

Affectionate in a steady, promising relationship? Of course. we're emotional you know. We just don't show it much. And we're most comfortable with an expressive partner. The only factors that hamper affection are doubt and fear. We can't pretend everything's hunky dory and relax enough to be affectionate when there are doubts or apprehensions on our mind.

Lol dang really? I tell her all the time that she should just be my girl already. I think she just saw me as a really flirty person and assumed I'm like this to everybody but I'm pretty sure after today she knows that I actually have feelings for her.

So my plan of action is to stop talking to her for a bit, have fun in south padre for spring break,get my mind off of her and see where this goes.

I'll keep you guys updated (lol I have a feeling you guys will end up very helpful as insight into this girl's head)

LOL!

The lil Virgo damsel is giving the big bad ram dude a run for his money 😛 Hahahahaha...I love it!

Best know this pal, behind the sweet innocent facade lies the heart of a tiger. RAAAAAWWWR!

Buuuuut, no worries 'cause from what I read, she's interested. Just reading you, and that's gonna take some time.

It's sort of like a guilty until proven innocent thing (at least for me). Nobody gets in until they prove themselves worthy. Aries men (I used to date one) aren't exactly known for their patience so if you really like this girl as much as you say you do, it won't be that hard, right? 🙂

Why are you confused about the text? She clearly said you're not in the friend zone, so, don't stress.

Thanks Layna, (that is a really pretty name btw) my ex of two years was french Canadian she always showed me pictures and told me stories of Canada, from how she described it, it should be an amazing adventure.


To Vix: Yeah she's fierce underneath that adorable exterior of hers and stubborn as well, we are currently in a play fight and still debating about who is more 'awesome' lol it's been over two weeks and neither one is backing down. I find that strong women attract me most of all. Thanks for your encouragement! It's just from my experience that I learned that when you let your guard down women are usually turned off. With this girl right off the bat I dropped my guard to get to know her better so I'm feeling pretty anxious about how vulnerable I left myself. I'm used to sweeping girls off their feet within a few weeks of getting to know them but this girl hasn't even flirted with me in almost a month of me talking to her non stop.

I hear you but what you need to understand is, and now I'm gonna let you in on a little secret...*lowers voice*...we're not usually with that superficial flirtatious crap. We leave that for you Rams, Gems, Cancers, and Leebs, lol. 🙂 Nah, not really our bag. Don't take it personal. Not saying that ALL virgos are like this but generally speaking, we're not a very flirtatious lot.

Try not to be down on yourself for being vulnerable so soon. You met a girl who was different than the rest and because this is not what you're typically used to, you find yourself behaving in ways that you really hadn't before. If it had been reciprocated you would feel better, right? Well, think about it like this; She's trying to protect her heart, sussing you out to make sure that you deserve it, and in the process it makes you feel some kind of way because she hasn't been as open, but she never said you didn't have a chance, right? Actually, her telling you that you were NOT in the friend zone was her way of reassuring you.

I know, we're not easy on the ego. Tough cookies to crack but patience is a virtue.

Take your trip, relax your mind, and damnit, for the love of sweet Jesus, behave yourself (I don't want to have to head to South Padre to kick some Ram boy ass, but I will 😄).

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
I hear you but what you need to understand is, and now I'm gonna let you in on a little secret...*lowers voice*...we're not usually with that superficial flirtatious crap. We leave that for you Rams, Gems, Cancers, and Leebs, lol. 🙂 Nah, not really our bag. Don't take it personal. Not saying that ALL virgos are like this but generally speaking, we're not a very flirtatious lot.

Try not to be down on yourself for being vulnerable so soon. You met a girl who was different than the rest and because this is not what you're typically used to, you find yourself behaving in ways that you really hadn't before. If it had been reciprocated you would feel better, right? Well, think about it like this; She's trying to protect her heart, sussing you out to make sure that you deserve it, and in the process it makes you feel some kind of way because she hasn't been as open, but she never said you didn't have a chance, right? Actually, her telling you that you were NOT in the friend zone was her way of reassuring you.

I know, we're not easy on the ego. Tough cookies to crack but patience is a virtue.

Take your trip, relax your mind, and damnit, for the love of sweet Jesus, behave yourself (I don't want to have to head to South Padre to kick some Ram boy ass, but I will 😄).

Lmao! Thank you so much Vix you gave me a much needed laugh and a helluva pep talk.

LOL, you're welcome! 🙂

Posted by aries46
UPDATE here is a recent text exchange that has me so damn confused:
virgo: Hah now you feel my reservations of taking my walls down.

aries: Lol I have absolutely no reservations about making myself obvious, although the way I've been chasing you has been pretty unorthodox for me , it came rather naturally. I just feel nervous because you leave me no room to see your heart at all but I know I'm on your mind.

virgo: And how do you know that?

aries: Why else would you hang around and talk to a guy who obviously has feelings for you?

virgo: Maybe I'm self centered and like the attention

aries: That could be your true nature but even so I'm the type who can make even a self centered and egotistical heart crave only my attention.

virgo: I'm the kind of person who takes a while to get into a relationship

aries: Yeah I kinda figured :p

vrigo: Oh gee you got me all figured out... I dont think I need to tell you anything else about me.

aries: Psh sarcasm is for winners. But I do know enough about you that makes me interested in you btw did I just get friend zoned?

virgo: Lol uh no... I'm still processing that. Would it be bad to be in the friend zone?

aries Lol naw, just means I have to move on.


Any insight would be much appreciated this girl is making me so damn anxious.

OH man. When I read this it was like reading myself texting someone who I liked but didnt want to dive right in. This is a classic Virgo move but it seems like shes like me. In my opinion, I think you should do as you're saying: give her a few days without much communication. BUT I wouldnt stop communication cold turkey. When you're on Spring Break I would text her a picture of where you with a simple message like: "Jealous?" which will get her talking then maybe when the conversation turned a little flirty I would abruptly stop because it would confuse her and get her thinking. Text her here and there while you're away and I bet when you're back at University she'll be more receptive. I would also maybe stop telling her so much that you're into her. Its like when you tell a pretty girl all the time that she's pretty--it starts to sound like game and insincere. So I would tell her here and there and let her know you're being genuine. I would also ask her out for something interesting like an art show or hipster kind of place one on one. If she agrees and y

It got cut off!! The rest of my message lol:

If she agrees and you keep her out all night Im pretty sure that you'll get her sooner than later!

Oh yeah, and Virgos are affectionate once committed, but we arent ones to waste our time. If we feel you're not worthy we WILL let you know one way or the other. But once we like you thats it--hooked line and sinker 🙂

Yeah it seems to me a lot of virgos that replied so far can relate to this girl. Bahaha I wish our conversations turned flirty, the only time she shows any hint of emotion towards me is when I open up myself to her. Well that and when she's with me in person. Her eyes seem to light up, she's always smiling, and for some reason it feels like we gravitate towards each other and it's driving me insane, I just wanna pin her against the wall and kiss her already. Sadly though I'm starting to loose my composure with her, my smooth moves are gone and I'm starting to feel shy around her? So I just end up responding to her txt right away and I constantly shower her with affection even though I know it's coming off as lame. Lol I even have a rule book as to how I can win over a girl and yet I keep breaking my own rules.

How I feel and act right now reminds me of the first girl I liked and chased after, she was a Sagittarius that played with my heart. For some reason I feel like I'm being toyed with and feel so anxious but I still like being around her... Half of me is laughing at how badly I'm proceeding with this girl and the other half knows this girl likes me a lot. Lol I should've just been my sexy self from the beginning I got her to pursue me at first but how quickly the roles have changed. Ah oh well no matter how this ends I think I found myself a rare person that can be a life long friend.

Thanks for your encouraging thoughts tiger, sorry if my response was more of a vent.

Hey Aries

Just be patient and consistent.
From what I read from your posts she is not toying with you and she does like you. This is just how she is. She needs to take time. If I don't like someone who I know likes me I try not to spend time with them and I definitely won't encourage them. She has shown encouragement towards you.
You've noticed she likes when you open up and when you are together. So open up more about who you really are ask her questions about her so she can open up to you too and do things in person on a regular basis without being clingy. Don't outright play hard to get but have your own interests that you pursue so that it doesn't look to her like you are playing games but at the same time it shows you have your own thing to do. Also, I don't think if you had left her to chase you that anything would've happened. Every guy whose been in my life has been very persistent or we wouldn't have been together. Virgos can be very cautious which causes us to be slow. We need someone who understands this and who makes us feel safe and especially because I don't often open up I take my time to make sure I know who it is I am opening up to.

It's interesting to read your posts and see how confused you are by your virgo's actions because I can really relate to her and had guys very confused by me even though I thought I was obvious about where they stood with me.

Thanks virgodream 🙂 we actually hung out tonight and got some ice cream. I think she might be budging a little bit, well her body language anyways lol.

Bahahaha I finally got her to open up and admit her feelings so now she's mine.

Posted by aries46
Bahahaha I finally got her to open up and admit her feelings so now she's mine.

i'm going through some of the same stuff as you with a virgo gal also lol so what did u do to open up and admit her feelings?

I kept talking to her and got her to talk about personal issues. I kept asking her to hang out and slowly but surely she kept opening up more and more. Kind of abruptly she stopped being so coy and kept asking how I felt despite me being very obvious in voicing my attraction. I think the biggest part for me to get close to her was that I read her so well, when I first started hitting on her, I let her know that despite her walls and stubborn nature I would eventually make her mine. Also pay attention to the smallest details, seems to be important to them and assume her interest because she's gonna be so damn hard to read.

Lol feels so damn good to be back in control.

Posted by aries46
I kept talking to her and got her to talk about personal issues. I kept asking her to hang out and slowly but surely she kept opening up more and more. Kind of abruptly she stopped being so coy and kept asking how I felt despite me being very obvious in voicing my attraction. I think the biggest part for me to get close to her was that I read her so well, when I first started hitting on her, I let her know that despite her walls and stubborn nature I would eventually make her mine. Also pay attention to the smallest details, seems to be important to them and assume her interest because she's gonna be so damn hard to read.

Lol feels so damn good to be back in control.

good for you aries! keep it up 🙂..i wish i was as upfront with my feelings as you are..i'm an aquarius so it is hard for me to open up to my virgal..we BOTH have walls up and it seems like i'm going to have to be the one to break hers down..8 months into dating this girl, nothing official yet..we both show our feelings for eachother through our actions but we can't say it to one another..it gets frustrating! i've always thought of giving up on her but i've been in it for this long i know i have to question if we are on the same page or not and if she see's this going somewhere..ahhhh its crazy

Thanks layna, ik 🙂

Update: Just spent the last two days and night with her! The sex was just mind blowing and it was such a turn on watching her rip my sheets. I did feel somewhat guilty because she said she wanted to wait longer but one thing led to another and we spent the entire weekend in my bed. Lol and here I was thinking virgos were supposed to be prudes.

aries46, treat her with respect and dont make her regret.

I've said this before and I'll say it again..

A virgirl with an updated processor is a happy virgirl, geezz..is it that difficult to get that right? 😉

Yeah I definitely will I think I really found a special one with this girl. I've never been given so much affection before lol its so surprising how different she is once she lets you in.

haha you sound sooo much like my friend aries. so full of himself, saying you're able to get all of the girls, persistent 🙂
while reading your story i had doubts about the girl, but actually, being a virgo myself, i applied the knowledge - i never just toy with people i don't like, just to see them suffer or enjoy the attention, if i don't want to be pursued, i could be very open and crude. i just hate pointless relationships... so in the end i wasn't surprised she fell for you. congrats.

esmerine, same here!

esmerine, same here!

Update: I am pleased to announce that things have been going exceptionally well with MY virgo! Our relationship is starting to heat up like mad, she is extremely affectionate and surprisingly we compliment each other very well. Here is my dilemma and thus my question: are virgos any good at long distance? We have about a month left before classes are over and she is going back to her home state while I am staying at our University, so that means we would be long distance for longer than we were actually officially together.

I am a little worried about letting her get any closer to me just to lose her over long distance.

Posted by aries46
Update: I am pleased to announce that things have been going exceptionally well with MY virgo! Our relationship is starting to heat up like mad, she is extremely affectionate and surprisingly we compliment each other very well. Here is my dilemma and thus my question: are virgos any good at long distance? We have about a month left before classes are over and she is going back to her home state while I am staying at our University, so that means we would be long distance for longer than we were actually officially together.

I am a little worried about letting her get any closer to me just to lose her over long distance.

Actually Virgos, at least myself, are really good with long distance. But there needs to be constant communication since we're ruled by Mercury. You should say "good morning" etc everyday and just check in here and there. Let her know that you're thinking about her and send her light hearted things like pictures and little gifts. I think she'll respond well to that. Make sure you call and text often!! But not overbearing lol. Dont smother her. By now you should know her well enough to know how to let her alone sometime lol.

yes, virgos are good with long distance... as long as there is some communication and clear intentions. very romantic and old fashioned, and truly care, so if shown the same.. you should be a happy camper.

Update: Made it through pretty much the first month of long distance and although I wish we weren't long distance it's been bearable.

Some things that I've learned about her:

- She gets jealous easy
- Is more insecure then I first took her to be (maybe because she is investing more and more emotions into me?)
- Virgos express affection physically better then verbally (which they plain suck at lol)but she is opening up more and more
- They stress out too much about everything and are way too hard on themselves, haven't really seen her critical nature pointed at me yet
- They are much more sexual then most people give them credit for but still pale in comparison to me (I feel like I'm corrupting her and making her way kinkier then she ever thought possible)
- I'm glad I stuck to the advice I was given and didn't give up on this girl at the beginning.

I'm rooting 4 you guys! 🙂

1) Do virgos play games? No, Virgos don't play games. If anything I think she's being honest in telling you that that is where she stands.

2) How's my situation looking? Just keep talking to her. She'll most likely start chasing you the minute you pull back a bit.

3) Are you turned off by guys that are extremely forward? Yes and No. I like when a guy is honest about their feelings and don't play games. But being forward can also be seen as a game to Virgo, she is going to need to find some trust in you before she starts to open up.

Virgos are coy with people they are getting to know , we might like you but until we are sure we want to pursue you and have figure out your intentions we are not going to open up plus it takes time to open up to people as we have to determine if you worth it or not . Aries are a bit forceful and impatient you will have to not e this way because that will scare her off you are honest continue to be that way that will get her to trust you and relax around you .

Ok, so I am pursuing a virgo woman and have been for about 4 months. She has done everything that this thread has mentioned, stand-off, no real commitment to a future us - just enough to keep me pursuing her - a lot of answers with "maybe, probably, we'll see, etc...". She even told me that she "needs to see how I am in many different situations" - the problem is that we are in a long distance situation 2,000+ miles, so it's hard to see each other more than once every 6 weeks or so.

How long is too long to wait? I am an Aries man and frankly I am tired of waiting. I am about 2 weeks from just giving up on her and moving on. I want someone in my life and the wait is almost unbearable (typical Aries right lol).

Y’all...

I don’t know how I revived this dead thread from six years ago but...



I want a man like this





I hope these two are still together bc wow IM. The persistence, the passion wow I’m



Don’t mind me y’all im just

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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Y’all...

I don’t know how I revived this dead thread from six years ago but...



I want a man like this





I hope these two are still together bc wow IM. The persistence, the passion wow I’m



Don’t mind me y’all im just

😳👀😂😂😂😂

Ok @ sunsetvirgo

Whose the ram boy ur crushing on

Come on dish-is he hot?🤗👂🏼

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No no I don’t have any Aries Man right now. I just found this thread and it hit me in the feels bc this is how a few Aries have pursued me and I’m crying real tears BC LOOK HOW CUTE THIS THREAD IS I WANT A MANS LIKE THAT



so if anyone would like to get me An Aries mans like this, i would greatly oblige

I’m back at this thread 🥺 where are these type of threads

This was such a beautiful thread 😭

WHERE IS MY ARIES MAN