Help a Cancer draw attention of a Virgo girl :)

Hi there ya all!

I'll try to be short ...

There was this girl that worked at a pub downtown, as waitress. Been there few times. Made eye contact, presented herself [like, hey i am X just in case if you guys want something], i cracked a couple of jokes. Seemed she might be interested...
Now she doesn't work there anymore. 😢
Meanwhile I found her on Facebook. At first she did not accepted my friend invitation, only the second time, by then i had a couple of pictures of me uploaded. (no I won't give her name out or mine 😛)

Messaged her a couple of times, didn't answer. When i got to her she says she doesn't knows who i am. 😢 It was all a few months ago the last time at the bar, so it might be just as well as she doesn't really remember me. And with millions of drunk and idiots trying to hit on waitresses... I told her i found her by coincidence and hope it's not too mind bugging someone, a "stranger" that remembers her. Maybe that was too forward... So she never answered back. On her page says she is single.

I would like to write her something that would make her go like "hmmm". Unfortunately I can't get my shit together. I'm so out of ideas and all. It just doesn't come out of me.
Anyone with any nice ideas ? 🙂

Smart girl.

I wouldn't accept a friend invitation either unless I was sure of who the person was, and even then there's no guarantee. ALOT of creepos that hang out in bars, and unless you made an indelible impression during your few encounters with her, consider yourself just another one of the thousands of nameless, faceless patrons.

I admit however, that it's a little weird that she accepted your second invitation after seeing your pics (that could be a strong indicator that she remembered your face) but has yet to respond to your messages. Although she says she doesn't remember you, she could be lying out of disinterest, or fearful of being dismembered and body parts dumped into a garbage bin as waitresses tend to be magnets for psychos and sociopaths. 😢


Or, she could have been turned off by what you said to her in your messages...I'd like to help, so can you share?

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Smart girl.

I wouldn't accept a friend invitation either unless I was sure of who the person was, and even then there's no guarantee. ALOT of creepos that hang out in bars, and unless you made an indelible impression during your few encounters with her, consider yourself just another one of the thousands of nameless, faceless patrons.

I admit however, that it's a little weird that she accepted your second invitation after seeing your pics (that could be a strong indicator that she remembered your face) but has yet to respond to your messages. Although she says she doesn't remember you, she could be lying out of disinterest, or fearful of being dismembered and body parts dumped into a garbage bin as waitresses tend to be magnets for psychos and sociopaths. 😢


Or, she could have been turned off by what you said to her in your messages...I'd like to help, so can you share?

Things go much deeper then that and that would go in a private message maybe ...
So, to tell the truth it was all a few months ago the last time at the bar, so it might be just as well she doesn't really remember me.
We never went back there again 😢

Well in the first message I said hello, how is she, how come she gave up waitressing [I found that out from her facebook page.] and thanked her for adding me. Assuming she might remembers me... Don't wanna seem to her that I'm slaking her, as you said, lots of creeps out there.
Saw her once online, said hello but never answered. In the next message I asked her if it would be too much of a secret telling me what would I need to be doing to make her answer. She answered that night but saw the message only next morning. Then it was when she said she doesn't know who I am. Then I told her I hope it's not too much of a bother and that I found her by coincidence. A few days later I sent her this link http://vimeo.com/39417519 trying to make a little bit fun of the situation. Messages were sent like 3-4 days apart from each other.

Each time we were there she was all hanging around our table and looking at me, each other or trying eye contact.
She's a real classy virgo. I have the impression that she introduced her self for a reason. But maybe that's just me.


That's about it. I know how it sounds. I remember this chick from out of nowhere and now I'm desperate. Maybe I could send the more inner details in a private m

Compliment her. Tell her that you find her classy and that's one of the things that attracted you to her in particular.
Apologize if you've "come on too strong" and maybe frightened her, but would really like the opportunity to get to know her better.

Honesty and simplicity. That's the Virgo motto. Don't give her a reason to overanalyze. Also, like Let*It*Be and QLibra said, it would be a good idea to ask about her interests.

Cancers are great, but sometimes too intense. Nothing heavy (for now). She'll appreciate that.

Good luck and let us know what happens.

Thanks for the response guys ! I appreciate 🙂

@VirgoVixxxen easier said then done, you know ... and now that Easter is on the way. hmmmm

Too intense? LOL that's a mild word

... well, I sent her a message where I sent my happy Easter greetings and told her that with my previous messages didn't wanted to cause any discomfort or confusion but couldn't hold my self back because of her outstandingness and that I would really love if we would get acquainted.

Well so far she's ignoring the hell out of me... Didn't even greeted me back 😢

I forgot to mention, which i should have done from the beginning, that we are not English but Hungarian. It's really hard to translate back and forth all these things. But what i wrote now the last time I thing it sounds really nice and gentle.

"1) never mack a waitress. They are on par with strippers and prostitutes. They "sell". In all likelihood, the meal you had or the drink that was made could be made at home, comfortably and with the broad in your lap to enjoy it. (Chill out feminists, this guy ain't your boyfriend and neither am I..act accordingly..lol)"

On behalf of the women servers in the food/beverage industry that do not indulge in poles or accepting coin for sexual activity, I give you the one fingered salute. 😛

LOL Hmph.

anyone. anywhere ?

any of you with a little advice that might help ? no one ?

Naaah, it's not like that. Besides I'm an incurable romantic.

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Posted by TheWanderer
Thanks for the response guys ! I appreciate 🙂

@VirgoVixxxen easier said then done, you know ... and now that Easter is on the way. hmmmm

Too intense? LOL that's a mild word

You're welcome. 🙂

Boy would I would love to be a Cancer just for a day so I can experience this "intensity" of emotion you guys constantly speak of. 😛


So she still hasn't responded? Welp, time to give it up. If she hasn't done so by now then more than likely she has no intention to whatsoever...

...sorry. 😢

The rainbow you ask? Life goes on. It wasn't meant to be. Someone else really great (and worth your time) will come along...and all that other cliche stuff. No sarcasm. Seriously. Just...Hey, it is what it is, and it ain't what it ain't.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen

Posted by TheWanderer
Thanks for the response guys ! I appreciate 🙂

@VirgoVixxxen easier said then done, you know ... and now that Easter is on the way. hmmmm

Too intense? LOL that's a mild word

You're welcome. 🙂

Boy would I would love to be a Cancer just for a day so I can experience this "intensity" of emotion you guys constantly speak of. 😛

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You have no idea what you are wishing for, it's a goddamn curse. A poisoned gift.

Well damn, it's that bad? Shiiiiiiit.

Well I don't wanna scare anyone. I only can speak from my own experience and for my own self. I only know two other Cancers. One, an old schoolmate of mine who's a she. But she is so different, i guess this is due to the difference in gender of one Sun sign. The other Cancer is Grandpierre Atilla, musician, astronomer, Sun researcher, from the Hungarian bands V??gt??z?_ Halottk?mek [short VHK] (Galloping Coroners) and V??gt??z?_ Csodaszarvas (Galloping Wonderstag). Listened to many of his lectures where he mentions how out of his 10 best friends 4 committed suicide due to this materialistic world and those were back in the days of communism in the late 70s, 80s.
Well long story short, he tells of many things I can associate with spiritually. But that's all.