How do you know Virgos like you? (Page 2)

its been 3 weeks for me.... so it is very new and a little scary
the insecurity factor defenitely shows and i dont mind it its just strange to hear some of the things he says but they dont bother me and i want to show him that they dont
how often do you talk to him?

yes its the getting to the trust part that is so hard!
when he criticizes you, does he address certain aspects of your personality/how you do or handle things or other things that are more tangible (i.e. what you are wearing ) that sounded kind of stupid but i can't think of another example...

well i am going to go and i will check the board tomorrow for sure
i'm glad i have met someone who is going through this as well

one more thing...i have found that reading the posts (past ones and the ones that are active now) on this virgo forum have given me some insight as well and have been a help

Ok sasha have a good night. I'll write more tomorrow.

" was thinking if he was begging to see me the second day after we met and then I dont hear anything from him for two days and then when I do call him he was so nonchalant like nothing was wrong, it made my defensives go up and think he's probably a player and spent time with someone else since you didnt go see him"

one other thing i read is that the practical side of virgo, once they like you, makes them kind of step back and examine their feelings since they are not the wild abondonment type and they try to rationalize and understand their feelings so that is maybe why he took a few days as my v-guy did as well,

but then i dont know for sure, just from reading posts on this message board from virgo guys and about virgo guys it seems like a lot of them have their signature traits but they can be quite different from one to the next.

Sasha, so you believe that if a Virgo likes you they step back? Im not sure about that. It doesnt make sense to me but if you know something I dont please enlighten me. I thought about taking medication after dealing with a Virgo, I had the most sureal experience. Now Im sitting here with a heart in a million pieces wondering why she played with me the way she did. I hope your having a great day.

hi johnny - i don't know, i think its hard to tell from what i read/hear and then from the experience with the virgo....i mean it depends on so much more than astrology...
i have read that they will be up front and honest and don't play games, and then i have also read the opposite that they might play games and test you....what happened with your virgo? i'm sorry to hear about it...

i also dont have much experienec with them....but reading the posts on this entire forum board has given me more information/help

hah....thats funny....something like #1 happened and we just laughed it off because i am so clumsy, i haven't received any cutting comments really yet (does that mean he doesnt like me? i'm kidding- its just funny because its so backward i.e. if he criticizes you then he cares)

Sasha I sent you an E-mail.

thanks archer!

oh man...i have no idea what to do with my v-guy except to go with it....sounds like i am in phase 1 but have visited phases 2 and 3 very briefly maybe...

oh and i have actually said the words "yes sir" quite a few times (as a joke) to him
are you in a relationship with a virgo archer?

johnny - i just sent you a reply

so archer ...what is the story with your virgo ?

hah, i absolutely understand....
that is a good quote

Thanks strings, yes you did speak to me about that. I saw Ms. virgo about 3 weeks ago, and let me tell you, I got my answer right smack in the middle of my face. I cant believe she did that to me but oh well. She strung me along for a whole year, unreal then gave me the Virgo boot. Whatever. Thanks strings.

I have to disagree with #1. I have never hidden the fact of being fond of someone. #2 is very true. Just hoping they will go away!

Ok all.... I'm seeing a Virgo who has just officially told me he likes me (we've been seeing each other only a few weeks). He also told me he wants us to wait to be intimate, because he wants it to mean something and also so I dont have regrets that it might be too soon. Wow.... I thought theres got to be a catch, what man says he wants to wait and means it.. Is this normal— Or is this some reverse pyschology? Can some of you male Virgos give me a clue on this— I hate to sound insecure...

When I look at someone I like, or want, my body grows hot....I MIGHT look, but I don't wanna give ya the feeling I'm pervin' ya; I took a themometer one time and thought of this girl I liked, and my temprature jumped 4 degrees!!!!!!. It only happens to me when I feel my EXTREME EMOTIONS such as:Anger, Jealousy, Passion;kreepy huh? I just feel like I'm on fire....is that normal?

Dyr, you're amazing..My Virgo and I spent the whole weekend together.. so much for waiting to be intimate.. BIG GRIN ON MY FACE and to top it off he held me all night.. But then Sunday after he left he turned cold, totally withdrew for 3 days. Then today he writes asking how I'm doing, like nothing happened... He told me my little remarks have gotten old, which I think he means me questioning him in different ways about other women. We're not officialy a couple but we've been seeing each other more in the last week. I know it's my insecurity, does the fact that he finally started back communication with me after 3 days of ignorning my emails mean he still likes me.

Personally, I just have no problem telling a girl she is the most fabulous thing that came into my life, and shower her with abundance in affection, and love; I have no problems expressing these feelings; HOWEVER I only have problems expressing these feelings to a person whom has HURT ME why let someone back into your life who only can be counted on for continuously hurting you and lying?! I HATE LIARS!!!!!...my motto is;

"Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me!"

From what I have noticed about Virgos is that they seem to be very non-chalant about the way they flirt - they'll do it but not well enough for one to know for sure if they either like you or they're just being nice - leaving you to wonder how they really feel - which I guess kind of makes the chase exciting - now I have noticed this about the girl Virgos (and they say that guy signs and girl signs are different - in what I have noticed though - this couldn't be anymore true) now guy Virgos are a little more to the point - my guy friend is a Virgo and he's always messing around with this girl Cap anticipating that she'll come to his house and they could do some 'stuff' (though she usually just laughs about the idea but he still flirts with her in that same way despite being turned down as well - they're a little more forward in what I've noticed - the females seem a little more shy and use ALOT of body language in the way they flirt) Now I've been flirting with this Virgo woman for quite some time now and it seems that she does this alot to me - but I can never quite figure if she's interested or not - I mean all of the signs have been there - but I think it's the thought of things possibly not working out that gets to me more because I really like her and I value my friendship with her and I'd hate for any of that to change unless it was for the better 🙂 Even with my Virgo moon sign - (on top of being a Cap) I see that I have found myself giving off mixed signals as well - but it's been easier to talk to her the more often I'm able to get the chance to - her b-day is coming up so I'm hoping that she'll invite me to her party again and maybe things can go from there - we'll see though 🙂

But, on the topic of this thread: How do you know Virgos like you?

Dyrstr8z: "It depends. Most of us use eye contact. Some of us will approach you directly, and strike up a conversation if you've given us a Green Light...
If we start dating, uh, that's a REAL GOOD SIGN, since most of us don't date unless we like you first. But, there is a rhythm to our courtship that Ferghus Clydelover has mentioned, and that others on DXP have too, and that involves the "withdrawal" from you, just when you think everything is going great. Actually, that can be a good sign too: You've made your mark on us, so now we have to fall back, regroup, and reassess. If we come back to you, then it's serious, and you need to do some thinking yourself about where you want this Thing to go..."


OMG, Finally! The answer! The answer! Hooray! Wow, the lights have been turned on for me now. Thanks sooooooooooooooooo much Dyrstr8z!!!!!!!!!! It's all about the "WITHDRAW"!!! I will remember that...........

I mean "WITHDRAWAL"! 🙂

Dyrstr8z, thanks for your reply. I'm at my wits end. I feel like I've been beaten...After a whole week of barely getting text messages or phone calls from my Mr.Virgo, I finally break the silence and ask in a text message if he still wants to see me. He writes and says yes he still wants to see me, and that he was thinking of me Saturday and Sun, wondering what I was doing (then why didnt he text or call??), it was almost like he was waiting me out or too insecure to write first?? Then out of the blue yesterday he calls me, I ask if he's coming over he says no we dont live near each other, we exchange a few kurt remarks and he says see this is why we cant get along...then he says I was on my way to your house but now I'm not coming, the true Crab that I am came out and said fine thats your choice and I hung up. Only for him to call me 10 min later ( I missed the call) telling me he was in my driveway.. When I returned the call asking if he was coming back he says he was too far down the road. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME WITH THESE MOODS SWINGS........I'm starting to wonder if he's truely a Virgo or just BIPOLAR.. Either way I'm about to call it quits..Are virgo males demanding?? He always says I'm on my way to your house, he never asks which is strange since we're not in a relationship, I would never do that to him....

He is just waiting to make sure YOU like him before he puts his emotions on the line. Like doing research before making a financial commitment, Virgos tend to do this with relationships as well. We do not want to put out our incredible emotional energy without some assurance of a return on our investment.

We HAVE to know! lol. I am going through this now with a Sag woman, and it should be a doozy to see who comes out first.

P.S.- it is 'curt" remarks Dear, not "Kurt"! 🙂 ( Damn Virgos )

Thanks Dyr and Virguy.. I truely appreciate your help.

Ok Dyr and VirGuy and anyone else that can give insight.... I think it's over, since our big agrument last Monday, where he left my house withing knocking on the door, I've sent two text messages and he's ignored both. I'm thinking how could he possibly be mad at me when he was the one playing games. Now mind you, he recently found out his mom has cancer and his live in nephew that he's taking care of just got suspended from school, so I know he's got things on his mind. One of my non-astrology knowing friends told me my Virgo guy is a player due to the fact I dont hear from him for days at time... But I've read the majority of Virgos are faithful.. Is this true? We're not in a relationship so can technically see who he wants, but when I asked him a few times, if he was seeing anyone else, he said no. I also read Virgos are usually very honestly even too honestly most times, my Cancer feelings can vouche for this.. 😢 HELP.. I'm confused and hurt.....

That is strange. I have read several times about us being players, but have not seen it. Some head games I've seen, but not so much the player.

In fact, I have put up with some really nasty stuff from women and still stuck with it until I could see there was no repairing it.

Now, when I was in my teens, sure. But I don't know many teens who aren't mesisng around any chance they get, guys that is. The other part about a Virgo popping in and out after something ended I could see, only because if they were the ones who were dumped, they may try and get back together so THEY could do the dumping next time.

Something about getting dumped that Virgos really hate. I have raised 4 kids over the years, none of them my own, so there is nothing "runner" or "player" about me, so I guess I don't get it. Sometimes these things have nothing to do with Sun Sign, and all about culture and upbringing.

Virgos I know are usually picky and precise in so many things. They may indecisive about beginning a comittment, but can be stubbornly loyal afterwards. I Do know we like the game of the chase, it makes for intellectual stimulation. And sometimes a good argument, debate, whatever you want to call it can be fun for us.

Thanks, I guess he has decided to move on. I just dont understand how he can be wrong and it makes me feel like crap... Whats drives me crazy is the hot and cold, but what makes me more upset is usually when we were spending time together he was very affectionate, holding and cuddling. But I always thought how sincere is he, if I like him and he's this nice, how many others is he seeing, granted I'm very insincere, which I'm working on. But from almost day one the way he talked to me at times was very demeaning, like he was talking to someone with no brains or like I was a child, which I consider myself very intelligent. When I addressed this he'd blow it off or cut me short like he wasnt being mean, he was basically telling me something I needed to know. Then other times, he'd want me right under himself while we slept or eat, very weird. I thought is this normal virgo behavior—

Again my male friend told me his demeaning behavior comes form how he was probably treated, women at some point probably treated him like crap, and because I come off as so caring and nice, it makes him feel big talking down to me. Kind of like a child raised in a prejudice home, he grows up prejudice so they repeat what the see and are exposed to....Does that make sense?

Cancerbuddy, thanks.... On week 1, I thought this isnt gonna work... The drama, the apologizes after he made me feel like crap. I looked at the calendar and think it's only been 30 days and theres been so much drama. Most sites say a cancer woman and virgo man are a great combo, but I realized this Virgo is way too blunt for my sensitive feelings. Some sites say as they become more confident and secure with their mate, they're not as nagging and blunt and the games seem to go away.. But I've also read they're SERIOUSLY insecure and that causes them to be so hard on others...I'm insecure but I am too sensitive and geninue to be mean to others.

I have one male Virgo friend that I've known 20 years he was a major player but now he's settled down and has found the one and has no desire to cheat. Oh well, I guess the fat lady has sung..

They are very much upfront and honest from my experience. If they like you, they tell you. Simple.

but only once you've told them how you feel, I bet. It's a gamble.

Well my Virgo did tell me he like me. But in the hot and cold games were just too much.

He must be mature..he's a man of a very few words I can tell you that..but he said I am the first person who's been able to get more than a sentence out of him..lol..He said he's quite a rude person..because he's very short with people..but not to me..He's lovely..He knows indirectly that I like him, I haven't gone outright and told him. He's more forthright in that department..His actions speak louder than words..

So do virgo's think about their object of affection whilst they are not with them? From what i've seen of you dryst..i think thats the case.

"So do virgo's think about their object of affection whilst they are not with them?"


Yes Miss, we not only think of you, but we continually scheme and plot on how to better please you, make your life more interesting and romantic, find ways to make you want us more, and plan for your entire future, the kids future, and the grandkids future. Hence the flowers on a whim, the dinners cooked, the floors swept clean, and car oil changed for you.

We are a funny lot.

Awwww..that is just the cutest thing ever...Mmmmwah to all virgos..Missy loves ya...

LOL @ Stringsattached..oh boy..Missy fans herself...

Well if 26 text messages whilst having dinner is anything to go by...I know he was getting hot under the collar...and trust me we weren't even flirting..just every day banter with a hint of naughtiness...I wonder how he was coping at the company dinner..lol..Well he started it...It seems I am constantly on his mind..but my mind was having all kinds of crazy thoughts..multiply virgo thoughts by about gazillion and thats what us scorpios are going through!..lol..

My heart leaps everytime the phone goes off..must be love..

They totally either ignore you or are indifferent toward you when you are close by and secretly they keep on staring at you and moving around you.

That is totaly true Avalan 32 i belive you see it all through a virgos eyes.. they do this staring thingy really cute if u ask me.

Ok I just gotta get some feedback from you male virgos. A few weeks ago I wrote post about the Virgo guy I'm seeing coming to my house, calling me telling me he was in my driveway but not getting out to ring my bell. I missed his call we argued about 10 min prior and I guess he assumed I was ignoring him when he called to tell me he was in my driveway. It always bothered me why he didnt just get out and ring the bell when he knew I was home.. Tonight it all came out, it was the first time we had seen each other in about 3 weeks, I was elated.. We went out and when we drove back to my house I pointed at an older car that was parked in the additional parking space on the side of my townhouse, and told him I got new neighbors. He told me 3 weeks ago when he called but didnt ring my bell he saw the older car parked next to my house and thought I had company and that is why he didnt get out and ring the bell, but called. I guess when I didnt answer he thought I was brushing him off. I told him it always bothered me why he wouldnt just get out and ring the bell like he always does when he comes over. He said it bothered him too, I guess because he thought I had male company.. My mouth dropped because it was on my mind so much.. Now you male virgos, help.... Does this mean he likes me?? Was Jealous? Insecure——?

Yep a..72 - he's into you. It's not just a Virgo thing. Guys in general don't get upset over competition unless they are interested.


Now the fact he pulled back showed that he has self control so that if you were visiting with another guy, he would not create a hostile situation. It also showed he has an overactive imagination and a lot of insecurities, which is also common in some men, not just Virgos.

It's good that you are communicating again with your guy. Hopefully you can help him develop confidence and security.

I understand that these postings are from your point of view - so I will suggest that you consider what things in your and HIS past might make him wary. Your guy is exhibiting classic signs of PTSD - he must have experienced some emotional trauma's in the past.

While it might be rewarding and fulfilling for you to help him through this and earn his trust and love, know that your heart will be torn to shreds many times in this process. It can take years and lots of self reflection by the guy to get through the type of symptoms he is exhibiting.

I write from experience - both from first person and also third person (helping friends through this).

Best wishes.

tazman: Your guy is exhibiting classic signs of PTSD - he must have experienced some emotional trauma's in the past.

While it might be rewarding and fulfilling for you to help him through this and earn his trust and love, know that your heart will be torn to shreds many times in this process. It can take years and lots of self reflection by the guy to get through the type of symptoms he is exhibiting.

Yup - I could have used this warning a while ago (not that I wouldn't have stayed to help anyway, but at least I might have had a bit more understanding at the time and not taken a lot of things so personally). Some people DO take years to recover from a bad breakup or other emotional trauma. My heart has been torn to shreds many times and I'VE had to expose myself to a lot of self-reflection as a result too. I don't know yet if it will be worth it. I hope so...

Can you tell me tazman if this story has had a happy ending for you or your friends you have helped?

ScorpGal5,

It's a bittersweet ending.

The person who went through the transformation is now positive, loving, happy and confident. It took a terrible heartbreak, a lot of self realization, and counseling. The change was a transformation in only a couple of months. He has moved on even though the gal wants to get back together. If they met now without the baggage, they would make a wonderful couple.

It's a Catch-22 situation - if she had not left, he would not have "awakened". Because she did leave, the event triggered the changes so that he became the man she has always wanted.

This is however just one example.

The question for you is how much more sacrifices do you want to make and what do you want from the relationship? In life, people do not change unless:

1. They believe that there is a problem
2. They want to do something about the problem
3. They need to do something about the problem
4. They know what to do about the probelm
5. They solve the problem

If you find yourself drawn to men who would be great but need help, you may have more than a few difficult heartbreaks. They rarely if ever work out like you hope. The psychological addition is not too unlike that of buying a lotto ticket and savoring the sensation of winning the jackpot...it's addictive.

It is hard for me to see friends throw themselves into fixer-upper relationships and have their hearts broken over and over again. Unless they are mostly happy with their man, I have yet to see one of those relationships works out.

That goes for my personal experience as well.

Well said tazman.

Wouldn't it be nice for the vir guy to take her back by thanking her to make him an improved person?

Sometimes, some people go so many extra miles /sacrifice a lot for us, and even after we do open our eyes,if we don't acknowledge it, then the trasformation process is not fully completed.

When we admit and acknowledge other people, because of whom we become a better person, that's the full transformation..

I am 100% sure she must had reasons to leave the guy alone, may be because of his most offending comments, she might have ran off..

Taz, thanks so much for your help. Actually I'm thinking I would have thought the same thing he did, if I saw the car, but even more so when I didnt answer the phone a few minutes after we had just hung up after the heated argument. So I guess we both have PTSD..Something he said made me wonder if he too was insecure, I've had quite a few bad relationships dealing with trust, and he has mentioned he sees signs of insecurity in me..One thing that stroke a nerve is that he might have issues as well was, on the first day we met we were talking aobut what we want in a mate, he told me he's not picky about how someone looks but whats in their heart and mind. Then he added, I just want someone to be faithful. Which made me think he had problems in the past with women not being faithful....

tazman: The person who went through the transformation is now positive, loving, happy and confident. It took a terrible heartbreak, a lot of self realization, and counseling. The change was a transformation in only a couple of months. He has moved on even though the gal wants to get back together. If they met now without the baggage, they would make a wonderful couple.

Ahh, sometimes life does seem unjust... Only a couple of months though?? He must not have been a Virguy 😉 ...

Well, I am not usually drawn to the type of man who needs help. I mean, I'm compassionate and would help anyone who reached out a hand. But NOT by getting into a relationship with them. Besides, I'm definitely wise enough to realize that you can't fix people.

The heartache I have experienced is letting myself fall for someone who was not emotionally ready to enter into a relationship - and still may not be although we are much closer now. I'm not sure that qualifies as a 'fixer-upper' relationship. You are totally right, that sort of thing never works out.

tazman and allluv72 - I think we need to make a distinction between two people helping each other through their own insecurities and emotional baggage and other types of 'problems' such as alcohol or drug dependencies, unmanaged anger or aggression etc??

'Fixing' someone who may just be a bit fragile and requires some support and consideration in certain areas is one thing. 'Fixing' those other types of problems is NOT something that someone who is in a relationship with the person with the problem can do.