I think I handled it wrong

The virgo and I had a fight. He called me pissed about an email I sent. I thought I was being cute. It wasn't vulgar, nasty, or even angry. Actually I thought it was sexy.

It pissed him clean off. I guess maybe the email address I used for him isn't actually his, but he is single. Maybe it was a friends email. he never told me it wasn't his email address so how was I to know? Anyway he called me yelling and going off. I reacted with a lot of fire, I mean I am a leo lol. I left two angry voicemails and sent an angry text. No response back from him at all.

I sent him a txt this morning just to say that I don't want it to be over. That I am just mad he called me yelling. I don't yell at people. I have heard nothing back from him. I started back researching online trying to understand where this sudden outbust came from. The more I researched the more I see I might have actually messed up by reacting with anger.

Instead I should have been chill. I should have not snapped back I should have allowed him his emotional display and let him come back when he was feeling better, but I went the opposite direction. I went blow for blow with him. Now I feel a little bad...maybe not that bad he started it. However, I think I should have just laughed it off and been like are you done now? And then told him that if he likes me he better not yell at me because I would never yell at him. I didn't do that. Instead I jumped fly. I told him that another man wouldn't act this way. I said please don't waste my time with this bs.

Virgo males tell me have I really lost him? Or will he comeback? All my friends say if he comes back dis him and move on. I feel like he wont come back. I feel sad that its all over but I don't want anyone that feels they have to yell at me. Wht do you all think?

I think I did play it wrong. Thinking about my reaction more, I feel like I didn't have to go there with him lmao. I should have just laughed it off and let him know that I was a little hurt by his reaction but I am sorry and I won't do it again. Instead i went off myself and probably a little harder then even he expected I would. Damn now I feel foolish, because I may have lost a good dude over this crazy sitution. Dang! I really fuged this all up and I know I did because all my girlfriends that have seen the txt are like wow.

Posted by lovelyleo
The virgo and I had a fight. He called me pissed about an email I sent. I thought I was being cute. It wasn't vulgar, nasty, or even angry. Actually I thought it was sexy.

It pissed him clean off. I guess maybe the email address I used for him isn't actually his, but he is single. Maybe it was a friends email. he never told me it wasn't his email address so how was I to know? Anyway he called me yelling and going off. I reacted with a lot of fire, I mean I am a leo lol. I left two angry voicemails and sent an angry text. No response back from him at all.

I sent him a txt this morning just to say that I don't want it to be over. That I am just mad he called me yelling. I don't yell at people. I have heard nothing back from him. I started back researching online trying to understand where this sudden outbust came from. The more I researched the more I see I might have actually messed up by reacting with anger.

He told you he was angry about something you sent and you get angry because of that.

Did you listen to his concerns?

If he does come back, it would be after a couple months. 2 Months minimum.

I tried but he woulodn't answer the phone for me when I called him back after he hung up in my face. I think that added to the fire because I felt like why not answer the phone and tell me whats wrong. Thats not rational...am I wrong? you call someone yelling and screaming. They say nothing and you hang up in their face.

When the person calls back to try and get some understanding you ignore there phone calls? That pissed me off too. Thats how the voice mails came into play. The text was extra madness from him calling me yelling. I just have a problem being yelled at it puts me in a state of fear and panic. I don't like feeling afraid so I react with anger to hide the fear. He did not know that about me. Which also added to the fire and the voicemails

I apologized. I agree with you Cajun he may take a while to comeback if he does, I don't believe he cares enough about me to even make the effort. I do like him a lot but, I am looking for a guy that will always want to be in my life. He kicked the arguement off not me. I am woman enough to admit that I may have been wrong granted i feel like a sexy message to someone you like is never wrong, but if the message pissed him off then I can't change that. You can't change things that are not fixable by you. The message has been sent and read. I can't undo the damage.

I however want to be in a relationship where our love for each other can be seen fifty miles away. I want someone that is willing to seek me out and not wait two months because they have to lick there wounds. I guess I must really have the venus in libra because when I like someone I don't wait to say my apologizes. If he waits two months to talk to me then its over for real. I am tired of dealing with people who are quick to express feelings of anger, but slow to express feelings of love and affection. I prefer the reverse like all good natured people.

Whats really fucked up is that I felt so good sending him that email. I felt like he would really understand how much I missed him and wanted to see him. Instead he just went off on me and that really hurt me a lot. I thought we where becoming more.

Posted by lovelyleo



I told him that another man wouldn't act this way.

What an idiot. Strike Virgos off your list of manipulating .. because you'll never have one if you're game play is this stupid.

Hi Lovely,
I'm with you on not taking him back.
Unless you are leaving something out (it seems kind of weird that he'd blow
up over a flirty email) it's pretty hypocritical that he
would be mad at you having an outburst in reaction to his.
I do think it's always better to handle things calmly but if he called you yelling
it doesn't look as if he cares much about that.
Maybe he's ignoring you over whatever bothered him about the email and not
how you handled his confrontation.

Thats another problem too. I have no idea what the problem is, because even if the email wasn't his personally. It wasn't a nasy or vulgar message. It wasn't anything that would embrasses someone. I mean this fool went off on me. Now its silence as usual after we interact with each other. I want to call but I feel like if I have sent you two txt both nice and none confrontational then why not respond to me?

I am not looking for an I am sorry. I don't believe that he feels like he was wrong. I would even accept a simple joke about how I reacted and then move one nowing that yelling is not they way to resolve an issue with me. There has been nothing all day! I feel like when he see's my text he is either deleting them or maybe in a perfect world waiting until the end of the day to review them.

But its late no matter where you are in north america and I have heard nothing back

I agree and that was apart of my angry text. I mentioned that its funny that now you decide to go crazy on me when you are about to come home at least for a quick visit. I really want an explanation of all this and I would be fine with him saying that to me but don't take something small and go off about it because now you seem like a crazy person

I want to call him but I don't want to get yelled at or be considered the crazy girl. I am far from being that chick, but really I have learned how girls become her. Its through stuff like this with people. I feel like its only the day after and to call today is not as bad as to call three months from now or even a week from now

I am just so conflicted by this whole thing lol. I want to call him then again I hate calling him and I want to text but that not working. Then I feel like you have the resolve to call my yelling why not call me again today. Then I don't want to set myself up either, because I am a leo and I am very proud, but I am also curious. But you know what they say about curiosity and cats? lol

I haven't read anyone elses post, ugh so lazy today but IMO lovelyleo seems he's looking for a way out least for a little while...you were/are just being yourself...Leo female and Virgo male connection sometimes end up having a contentious relationship because of the sometimes critical nature of virgo's, my mom is a leo so she's pretty happy in nature and my brother as well is a leo, it's hard to get completely offended by such a fun loving luscious sign, anger is a way of creating distance, he needs some space, give it to him, my suggestion is to email or text him letting him know when he's ready to talk your available, please don't say much more than that or you will send out this vibe that your desperate over the situation...I do agree you could have handled things better by leaning back and allowing him to feel what he wants to feel...your human *shit happens*...He'll be back

Also a sexy message is a bit forward, some men actually don't like that kind of aggressive behavior, makes some men feel unwanted pressure....I think you were too soon on that sexy message and thus he felt pushed and he pushed back....He may be more of the initiating type, he may also feel like your attempting to manipulate more of a relationship out of him than he's ready to give by being sexually suggestive...If that email was anything like your profile picture I would run too LOL

You got a lot of love to give but it seems your leo fire is pushing you to rush....Slow down, let him lead, he doesn't want to be forced into expressing his emotions, I mean really what does a man say to a woman that he isn't completely involved with that is sending him I miss you emails and expressing all these loving emotions, that will frustrate a man and he will blow up or go dead silent until you cool down with all the loving emotional displays....

I agree with Cajun...listen to him, he gives very good advice regarding these kind of issues

Posted by hikoro
I think he wants out. He is just trying to create situations for you to break up with him or, for him to break up with you.

Sometimes, Virgos feel uncomfortable with breaking up with you, so they will sabotage the relationship in an indirect manner and wait until you make the final decision.

True, but she did not find out why he was upset. She retaliated without knowing what the problem was.

I would view this as intolerable ignorance.

Ingorant indeed .... he thinks your an idiot.

All these women going on and on about how to manipulate him back to you .. because you are Leo and you want an apology, you want to be served according to what you think you deserve.



And nothing really about wanting the man, for the man.



And he knows this .. he knew it the moment you threw the actions of another man in his face and what you thought should be expected of him according to your expectations of what other men would do to serve you.


You lost him right there and too stupid to be aware of it ... apparantly all these other women who think you might have a chance at keeping him as an object are equally as stupid.

LLeo, I kind of agree with Angel-P! You need to check your self a little more and recognise just because YOU feel you have acknowledged your error, he ought to fix up NOW and be ready to accept you. You have to respect him as an individual and therefore know he will deal with this in his OWN way and NOT according to YOUR timescale.

Take a chill pill and reflect on this, b'cos I have a feeling it will happen again with someone else.

Lol @ winter born I have a love for jessica rabbit. I always have she is the sexist cartoon charactor in my mind. Anyway he did contact me nothing to deep. I responded back to him and yes femina he has done all the things you have said that virgo male's do. I am just relaxing now all my friends whom most are virgo females, a cap lady, and one aqua girl all say to stop talking to him over this situation. Even my mom the bull say's to just stop because this is not my first sexy message to him. Most have been txt messages. None of them understand the situation. Most believe it is because he wanted to show out in front of another girl.

I currently don't want to stop talking to him. Its not an apology that I want p-angel I just prefer that he doesn't yell at me again. Outside of our signs we all have a personailty and personal backgrounds that make us who we are. Because of all these things I don't like to be yelled at. I could care less about his apology its not needed. I just want him to hear me and understand that yelling at me is not something that I want in a relationship. Plus he is not the type to be manipulated by me at all. I am not that kind of woman. I am the kind of woman that is a lover and not a fighter I mean you see the avatar.

Back to the post at hand. He did contact me and I replied he did not respond back to my reply so I replied again I felt that he saw my initial response as a little cold, when that was not how I felt. So I tried to respond more nicely and he still said nothing. Which is normal for him actually. Today I sent him a text something simple but as usual he did not respond to me, which is normal as I stated earlier.

I really don't know what to do about him, I do like him, but he frustrates me. I believe that I frustrate him as well. But I am not against being with him. I want him in my life and I try to let him control the relationship because I noticed that he likes control. Its just that when I give him control he does nothing with it and I am not used to that kind of man. I am used to a more agressive kind of guy, but thats not him. We have discussed this as I believe that he only understands complete honesty. I think he is a good dude with a lot to offer. I just like him so much, but I also feel like until he makes a final move and tell's me what he wants then I should just keep my options open

I do like him a lot. Its something about him that drives me wild. I think thats why I act so sexually agressive with him, because he just makes me want to devour him. I read that in a leo virgo compatibility website lol. Its true I do want to devour him both physically and mentally. I have never wanted to do that with someone, but he brings up a passion in me and its obvious that granted he displayed a different kind of passion I move him as well lol.

I don't knw again I am here for insight and all kinds are welcome. So please advise. I find its easier to talk here. I think my friends view him as a bad guy, they all say to move on because he is an asshole. I feel like he isn't an asshole niether is he misunderstood, but its hard to convience people that love you otherwise when they all see you as the friend to come to for advise and not the friend that maybe starting a relationship of her own.

the best way out of these situations is humble honesty. you have to be willing to admit where you went wrong and be ready to apologize for it, then be eager to make amends... under no pressure too. i know how impatient leos can be. you should always be patient to get the truthful answers that you deserve.

really, you know what you have to do. leos may be impatient but i know enough of them well enough to know THEY know how to put it all on the table. that seemed confusing.. ? so just pull the trigger and be prepared for the possibility of waiting for any reaction.

my limited experience with virgos... they are pretty reasonable. almost exclusively. approach them that way for best results. if they are being emotional, which is rare from what i gather, it seems to me they have a hard time arguing with a reasonable reaction.

...and i dont mean to say that virgos are unemotional and have no emotion. i mean that they tend to react with reason and logic rather than big displays of feelings. virgos have very warm emotions to them but they show them in their caring ways, their sense of right and wrong, and 'fixing' what is wrong.