Is the Virgo guy interested? How should I further approach him?

Hello!

So I met this Virgo guy at a friend's party. I thought he was super good looking. We exchanged some talk here and there, but nothing too promising. We bonded over an interest in going to live music shows, and animals haha. I didn't get his number, because I didn't think it was good timing. A week or so later, I asked him on social media (yes, I added him) if he would like to go to a show. He was unsure at first, but then decided to go haha. It was awesome! He plays the drums and was able to teach me a thing or two about music at the show. Later on, he kissed me in the car before I got home. Even though I enjoyed the kiss, he and I were a little drunk, so I didn't want to count it. I told him that I enjoyed the kiss, but that I don't normally kiss people I just met. I also said that it would be great to continue to go to music shows. He also agreed with me. I tried chatting with him here and there since (tried to see if he would like to get to know me), but usually his responses are very short and don't lead anywhere. "Leading" for me is when a guy initiates/shows interest in meeting up or trying to get to know me. When this doesn't seem apparent, I tend to be short in my answers as well. Sometimes I felt like he was only responding because the response was short, and less of an interest in having a conversation.

I didn't want to assume he was not interested in me just by chatting online, so an unexpected opportunity came up where one of my friends couldn't attend a music concert. I asked him if he would like to go with me, and he was more than excited to go. It was drive to the music venue. So we had a lot to of time to talk and get to know each other a bit more. It was very cool. He was surprisingly quirky and witty haha. During the concert, he offered to pay for my drinks, hold my beer (I was double fisting at some point), and would touch my back or shoulder whenever a good song came on. These details matter for me. In short we spent majority of the night talking, singing, and enjoying each others company. Later that night, we made out (and wow...it has been a while since I had my feelings set on fire like that). He was very sensual with his touches.

This is going to sound weird, but I don't have his number. I only communicate with him via chat. At the end of the night he acknowledged that as well, and said we should have each other's numbers. I gave him mine, but purposely didn't ask for his...I was hoping that he would text me his info (like he said he would do), but he still hasn't. (It's been 3 days).

Anyway, I don't mind being forward or taking the initiative, but I am unsure if I am being played or if he is genuinely interested...

Any thoughts are appreciated. Advice on what to do next?

Well that doesn't sound promising. Great.

Posted by TomSawyer
Jokes aside, what is it that you want advice on?

How to get the ball from him, take control etc.?

Or submit and let him lead?

Perhaps both?

I would like him to reach out to me (mainly to give me the confidence to make sure that if I continue to reach out to him, it will be well received). I am a Leo sun, Leo moon, with a lot of Virgo in my chart so I am super cautious with all of this, but I only want to act if I have the reassurance.

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Posted by xo_leo
Hello!

So I met this Virgo guy at a friend's party. I thought he was super good looking. We exchanged some talk here and there, but nothing too promising. We bonded over an interest in going to live music shows, and animals haha. I didn't get his number, because I didn't think it was good timing. A week or so later, I asked him on social media (yes, I added him) if he would like to go to a show. He was unsure at first, but then decided to go haha. It was awesome! He plays the drums and was able to teach me a thing or two about music at the show. Later on, he kissed me in the car before I got home. Even though I enjoyed the kiss, he and I were a little drunk, so I didn't want to count it. I told him that I enjoyed the kiss, but that I don't normally kiss people I just met. I also said that it would be great to continue to go to music shows. He also agreed with me. I tried chatting with him here and there since (tried to see if he would like to get to know me), but usually his responses are very short and don't lead anywhere. "Leading" for me is when a guy initiates/shows interest in meeting up or trying to get to know me. When this doesn't seem apparent, I tend to be short in my answers as well. Sometimes I felt like he was only responding because the response was short, and less of an interest in having a conversation.

I didn't want to assume he was not interested in me just by chatting online, so an unexpected opportunity came up where one of my friends couldn't attend a music concert. I asked him if he would like to go with me, and he was more than excited to go. It was drive to the music venue. So we had a lot to of time to talk and get to know each other a bit more. It was very cool. He was surprisingly quirky and witty haha. During the concert, he offered to pay for my drinks, hold my beer (I was double fisting at some point), and would touch my back or shoulder whenever a good song came on. These details matter for me. In short we spent majority of the night talking, singing, and enjoying each others company. Later that night, we made out (and wow...it has been a while since I had my feelings set on fire like that). He was very sensual with his touches.

This is going to sound weird, but I don't have his number. I only communicate with him via chat. At the end of the night he acknowledged that as well, and said we should have each other's numbers. I gave him mine, but purposely didn't ask for his...I was hoping that he would text me his info (like he said he would do), but he still hasn't. (It's been 3 days).

Anyway, I don't mind being forward or taking the initiative, but I am unsure if I am being played or if he is genuinely interested...

Any thoughts are appreciated. Advice on what to do next?

You want to know if he is interested then you ask him.

ohh looks like he is....

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hehe that is super direct. I only react that way when I don't care about the outcome (aka I have moved on), but usually don't do that when I have taken an interest, thus the shy Leo.

Posted by TomSawyer

Posted by xo_leo

Posted by TomSawyer
Jokes aside, what is it that you want advice on?

How to get the ball from him, take control etc.?

Or submit and let him lead?

Perhaps both?

I would like him to reach out to me (mainly to give me the confidence to make sure that if I continue to reach out to him, it will be well received). I am a Leo sun, Leo moon, with a lot of Virgo in my chart so I am super cautious with all of this, but I only want to act if I have the reassurance.

Here's the thing.

I could give you a list of messed up manipulation methods guaranteed to trigger a response.

But, they aren't genuine & might backfire with certain people.

Best advice: Be yourself.

It's easier said than done.

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That's fair and valid. Okay, thanks for the honesty.