MsLovelyLibra
@MsLovelyLibra
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My date with Mr Virgo. Started out good...
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LovelyLibra,
sorry for my comment, but the first question coming to my mind is, don't you think you are too old for just girlish flirting? You are a woman. If you want to be on the friendly side with Virgo man, then why staying until the morning hours with him or sitting on him... 😉 He is a guy! He does get turned on. And leaving him like that sounds much like *teasing* to me. If you want a proper dating, then I think you need to keep your hours on proper times and proper places such as cafes, movies, restaurants, etc.
sorry for my comment, but the first question coming to my mind is, don't you think you are too old for just girlish flirting? You are a woman. If you want to be on the friendly side with Virgo man, then why staying until the morning hours with him or sitting on him... 😉 He is a guy! He does get turned on. And leaving him like that sounds much like *teasing* to me. If you want a proper dating, then I think you need to keep your hours on proper times and proper places such as cafes, movies, restaurants, etc.
Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
LovelyLibra,
sorry for my comment, but the first question coming to my mind is, don't you think you are too old for just girlish flirting? You are a woman. If you want to be on the friendly side with Virgo man, then why staying until the morning hours with him or sitting on him... 😉 He is a guy! He does get turned on. And leaving him like that sounds much like *teasing* to me. If you want a proper dating, then I think you need to keep your hours on proper times and proper places such as cafes, movies, restaurants, etc.
He is a single dad, so his son is always with him. By the time he gets home from work and gets his son settled for the night, its pretty late. I could have went over earlier yesterday but I had plans already. I rarely hear from him so Im not about to not go out and have fun. When I end up looking at the clock to see what time it is, I see how late it is and Im like, I have to go. But last night and the last time we were together, I was super tired and didnt feel like driving back home. I didnt say nothing about us sleeping in the same bed. My ex fiance is here and when we hang out and its late by the time we've had dinner or something, he sleeps in one room and I in another, so I dont have to drive home.
If I wanted to just tease him, that wouldnt be hard to do. And yeah, I suppose I should stop being up under him but he always ask me to come be near him. He loves being snuggled up under me but then he starts making those moves, and yeah, I get turned on by him and when I realize what Im doing, I stop. I asked him last night why he keeps doing it, knowing Im not giving myself to him sexually and he says that he wants me. I dont know if he expressed his love *gulp* through sex. Im completely opposite.
And men are NOT the only ones that hurt when they cant complete the total act. Im just saying.
Posted by MsLovelyLibra
The 4x's we've been together, we end up arguing, its over sex and my not giving in. I cant and I wont.
No matter how hard I try, I cannot grasp why people become stupid fools about themselves when they have feelings.
Seriously .... it's not just you, it's everybody. If you didn't like this guy and he behaved like in the quote above, you'd be outraged .. how friggin dare him treat me like that ... you'd think. But, since you like him, you're like ... oh, what should I do to get him to love me.
He ONLY wants to fuck you .. it's plain in simple ... why does is that comprehension escaping you?
He's lovey-dovey to you in hopes of getting in your pants, and when you don't submit, he gets pissed off and doesn't care about how you feel about that.
Why does a person have to tell another that ^^^^^^^^^^
lol ... agree with the 'hurting' thing. I don't know, was just thinking that guys can be pushy at times. It does feel good to be close and get some affection, but then it is easy to tip over towards the sexual rush. In your case, since you do not feel ready for physical, it would be easier to keep the environment with public around. Since that is not possible, you may highlight that you will only come if he doesn't get his hopes up for sex, because you are not ready for that yet OR he needs a babysitter.
Again, I totally understand. Living romance is great... holding hands, watching the full moon and so on. Sooner or later it will always come back to our primitive feelings, that it can get hard to keep a guy off you if the environment gives possibilities. If he is only after sex, then you are probably the wrong person for him anyway.
Again, I totally understand. Living romance is great... holding hands, watching the full moon and so on. Sooner or later it will always come back to our primitive feelings, that it can get hard to keep a guy off you if the environment gives possibilities. If he is only after sex, then you are probably the wrong person for him anyway.
And another thing .... it's common for a Virgo to be like that.
They conflate sex/love .... they cannot discern the difference.
They conflate sex/love .... they cannot discern the difference.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by MsLovelyLibra
The 4x's we've been together, we end up arguing, its over sex and my not giving in. I cant and I wont.
No matter how hard I try, I cannot grasp why people become stupid fools about themselves when they have feelings.
Seriously .... it's not just you, it's everybody. If you didn't like this guy and he behaved like in the quote above, you'd be outraged .. how friggin dare him treat me like that ... you'd think. But, since you like him, you're like ... oh, what should I do to get him to love me.
He ONLY wants to fuck you .. it's plain in simple ... why does is that comprehension escaping you?
He's lovey-dovey to you in hopes of getting in your pants, and when you don't submit, he gets pissed off and doesn't care about how you feel about that.
Why does a person have to tell another that ^^^^^^^^^^click to expand
I am NOT that naive ok. Im known to easily kick someone to the curb and NOT look back and was just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt considering some things that I do know, that I dont think he knows I know. Who said anything about trying to get him to love me? If that were the case, Id just sleep with him like I know some women do in hopes thats going to get a man to love her.
And No, Im not hurt nor outraged about it. Why should I be? Im not that emotionally attached to him. Yeah, some stuff he does has me looking at him side ways. Like I wrote earlier, I have not dated much. I was with my (late) husband for almost 8 yrs. Without going into my personal life too much, I had been married for half my life, so what Im encountering now with men, is different compared to yeeeears ago. And while I dont rely soley on zodiac signs, its been interesting to see how some of it can be true, which is how I found this site.
Posted by P-Angel
And another thing .... it's common for a Virgo to be like that.
They conflate sex/love .... they cannot discern the difference.
This is what I was trying to understand based on what Ive read about some Virgos, which in a way is why I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Could he want JUST sex from me? Sure. I know this but I also know that some people dont think like I do. I have to be in love before I can give myself to someone. Whereas it may be totally different for him. I dont intentially try and get him worked up. Im big on kissing and he is one hell of a kisser and before I know it, we're going at it. Then I come to my senses. Not to mention with my not being in love with him, I tense and tighten up so bad, he couldnt get in even if..well, I wont go into details..lol.
they ALL want sex. Just keep away from dark corners 😉 and cover your behind lol
Virgo is AMAZING kisser ...
about the 'behind' thing, am not implying THAT... was just referring to NOT being ambushed .. he sure can cute himself by putting on that innocent look.
Posted by 25thDecan
So I can't conflate sex and love due to my sign.....what a CROCK OF SIT! Many of you women can't conflate PLAYING WITH A MAN FLIRTATIOUSLY. He wants a relationship WITH SEX. SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX...SHE DOES WANT TO DO HEAVY PETTING AND TEASING. Find a man who's good with that. Some men are and some men aren't. Period. And ignore that HE'S A VIRGO, SO HE SHOULD...BS. many of the women who post here, married or otherwise care ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for their mate. Zilch. They care only for a smile and an ego stroke. No concept of trial and error. No concept of someone else's legitimacy and ZERO regard or thought about someone else's view on ANY SITUATION. Geez....stop petting and cuddling and stop expecting more intimacy until he's ready because HE LIKE MANY MEN...IS HORNY.
I dont know how many times I have to write that I DO NOT rely soley on a damn zodiac sign cause what Ive read about my own sign, some of it is far from who I am. I DO NOT initiate anything sexual with him. I will be sitting on the other end of the sofa, he'll ask me to come snuggle up with him. I do. We are good for awhile and then he starts kissing my shoulders, which in turn leads to us kissing, which in turns leads to the petting. I DO NOT intentionally tease him. It happens. Im human. I realize we shouldnt be doing it. I stop. He gets frustrated. We argue. I see that him and I view this differently, so I need to step back. Maybe not hang out with him anymore seeing as I think this will be an ongoing thing. Yeah, he said he wants me. I need specifics and Im not going to apologize in wanting that. I can and do have sex in a RELATIONSHIP. He has NOT stated he wanted a one on one relationship, so Im just suppose to sleep with him based on him saying he wants me? I thinks not.
You are so perplexing MsLovely, I just don't get your behavior at all. You are a grown ass woman and your behaving like your 15 years old.
Why are you dating a non-abstinent man if you are abstaining, he wants sex, I'm sure he like hanging out with you as well but sex is a priority to him, you have 2 people that prioritize sex differently, it won't work.
Suggestion...Find your niche, find a community that has the same priorities as yourself, possibly get online and find a dating site that caters to what you want and need, I'm sure you could find men on Facebook as well that choose to abstain from sex. This bound to end in disappointment.
If your not going to have sex with a man, don't kiss, don't touch him, don't sit in his lap, don't go over his house at an late hour, don't expect to be asked to spend the night. You definitely need to set up some strong boundaries or your just coming off as an immature tease which equals to turn off.
Why are you dating a non-abstinent man if you are abstaining, he wants sex, I'm sure he like hanging out with you as well but sex is a priority to him, you have 2 people that prioritize sex differently, it won't work.
Suggestion...Find your niche, find a community that has the same priorities as yourself, possibly get online and find a dating site that caters to what you want and need, I'm sure you could find men on Facebook as well that choose to abstain from sex. This bound to end in disappointment.
If your not going to have sex with a man, don't kiss, don't touch him, don't sit in his lap, don't go over his house at an late hour, don't expect to be asked to spend the night. You definitely need to set up some strong boundaries or your just coming off as an immature tease which equals to turn off.
Posted by 25thDecan
No. You asked him what he wanted..he said you. He also meant sexually. And that's not all aimed at YOU. The fishrat stated virgos cannot conflate sex/love...does that mean that as a pisces she can NEVER discern reality from her own delusion?
I know that it is 'my issue' that I need specifics. Im trying to take things slowly because I do want to get to know him. I want him to get to know me. We've only met 4x's but we've been talking for awhile. He is just now starting to open up a little. I want him too sexually, theres no denying that but why start something he knows Im not going to finish? Ok, cause what? He's a man and he's going to test his boundaries? Yes, I know I have to take responsibility on my part and not it go beyond us kissing. Hell, I shouldnt just kiss him - period. I sent you a private message.
Posted by tiki33
You are so perplexing MsLovely, I just don't get your behavior at all. You are a grown ass woman and your behaving like your 15 years old.
Why are you dating a non-abstinent man if you are abstaining, he wants sex, I'm sure he like hanging out with you as well but sex is a priority to him, you have 2 people that prioritize sex differently, it won't work.
Suggestion...Find your niche, find a community that has the same priorities as yourself, possibly get online and find a dating site that caters to what you want and need, I'm sure you could find men on Facebook as well that choose to abstain from sex. This bound to end in disappointment.
If your not going to have sex with a man, don't kiss, don't touch him, don't sit in his lap, don't go over his house at an late hour, don't expect to be asked to spend the night. You definitely need to set up some strong boundaries or your just coming off as an immature tease which equals to turn off.
Yeah I am perplexing. No denying that. He was told from the jump how I am when it comes to sex. Again, it was my responsibility to limit the amount of physical contact we had. I didnt and this was the outcome.
Foul smelling rat....Please say it ain't me lol
Your situation is bound to end in disappointment...That old school behavior just don't work on men, they are not going to be coerced into something long-term/monogamous just to get sex.
Your situation is bound to end in disappointment...That old school behavior just don't work on men, they are not going to be coerced into something long-term/monogamous just to get sex.
Posted by tiki33
Foul smelling rat....Please say it ain't me lol
Your situation is bound to end in disappointment...That old school behavior just don't work on men, they are not going to be coerced into something long-term/monogamous just to get sex.
And this is the first thing most people think. I am not withholding sex to get a man to fall in love with me. Im also not willing to give myself to a man in hopes that he will. I AM old fashioned in that sense and have learned through trial and error that this is how I feel and its what I believe in. Eventually, I will meet someone I connect with on all levels.
Okay your being defensive and maybe that's my fault that your reacting to me this way. To elaborate on my statement, I'm not saying your withholding sex to get a man to fall in love, that's virtually impossible.
I believe that your abstaining until you meet a man that will be patient enough to get to know you first before developing things physically.
Set some physical boundaries, stop the making out and teasing and you probably won't have anymore heated discussions/fall outs.
I believe that your abstaining until you meet a man that will be patient enough to get to know you first before developing things physically.
Set some physical boundaries, stop the making out and teasing and you probably won't have anymore heated discussions/fall outs.
Posted by MsLovelyLibra
Who said anything about trying to get him to love me? If that were the case, Id just sleep with him like I know some women do in hopes thats going to get a man to love her.
You said it right here ....
Posted by MsLovelyLibra
... he starts asking me questions on why I dont have sex and I let him know that I have to be in love - in a deeply committed relationship.
click to expand
Do you honestly think that people cannot see the whole forest and will only respond to each tree as if it isn't one big picture?
You lead him on, touch him, lay next to him, sit on him ... you seduce him by doing those things and then push him away, telling him that you have to be in love with a person before having sex with them.
That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is giving loud and clear signals that you are wanting him to love you .. just because you don't verbalize it precisely in a sentence doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
He may be easy for you to manipulate, but, I am not .... if you think I'm that stupid then you're an idiot.
Posted by 25thDecan
No. You asked him what he wanted..he said you. He also meant sexually. And that's not all aimed at YOU. The fishrat stated virgos cannot conflate sex/love...does that mean that as a pisces she can NEVER discern reality from her own delusion?
She knows what conflate means .. which you obviously don't and continue to use it in a sentence wrong and has no practical sense to google a definition of a word before using.
As a Pisces .. because I'm a Pisces, I have enough practical sense to do that ... do you?
Um no .....
Posted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by P-Angel
And another thing .... it's common for a Virgo to be like that.
They conflate sex/love .... they cannot discern the difference.
This is what I was trying to understand based on what Ive read about some Virgos, which in a way is why I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Could he want JUST sex from me? Sure. I know this but I also know that some people dont think like I do. I have to be in love before I can give myself to someone. Whereas it may be totally different for him. I dont intentially try and get him worked up. Im big on kissing and he is one hell of a kisser and before I know it, we're going at it. Then I come to my senses. Not to mention with my not being in love with him, I tense and tighten up so bad, he couldnt get in even if..well, I wont go into details..lol.click to expand
To a Virgo, the physical aspects of a relationship is how they measure love, they cannot tell the difference. A Virgo will tell you he loves you, and make you feel loved through sexual contact .. and say nothing to you or make you feel any special way when sex isn't involved.
As long as I've been on this site women have come in here saying this very thing, in their own words to described their specific situation, but, it all boils down to the same thing ....
... when the Virgo is not involved with a sexual circumstance with you (third person), they aren't emotionlly present.
Rolling on the floor laughing out loud
hahhahaaaahhahaaaaaaaahhahahahahah
amazing! Fish/Rat in a dress.
I have to skim through her posts.. that's how nasty and deluted she is. She has absolutely no life experience envolving 21th century. She's got the dark ages under her skirt.
hahhahaaaahhahaaaaaaaahhahahahahah
amazing! Fish/Rat in a dress.
I have to skim through her posts.. that's how nasty and deluted she is. She has absolutely no life experience envolving 21th century. She's got the dark ages under her skirt.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by MsLovelyLibra
Who said anything about trying to get him to love me? If that were the case, Id just sleep with him like I know some women do in hopes thats going to get a man to love her.
You said it right here ....
Posted by MsLovelyLibra
... he starts asking me questions on why I dont have sex and I let him know that I have to be in love - in a deeply committed relationship.
Do you honestly think that people cannot see the whole forest and will only respond to each tree as if it isn't one big picture?
You lead him on, touch him, lay next to him, sit on him ... you seduce him by doing those things and then push him away, telling him that you have to be in love with a person before having sex with them.
That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is giving loud and clear signals that you are wanting him to love you .. just because you don't verbalize it precisely in a sentence doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
He may be easy for you to manipulate, but, I am not .... if you think I'm that stupid then you're an idiot.click to expand
Yu obviously are not reading what I write. I DO NOT initiate anything with him sexually. When he started wanting to do more, I should have stepped back from the situation instead of letting it progress to the point that it did. I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT.
I dont just go over and cuddle, touch and lay with him, he ASK me to do so. For awhile we are fine and then he starts kissing my shoulders and thats when it goes from kissing to petting.
Trust me, I dont have to try, nor do I feel the need to manipulate anyone. I am honest to a fault and pretty damn straight forward. Just because Im posting here, dont ASSume to think you know me. YOU DONT
Oh lord...Let's not fight
P-Angel has a point in some aspects of what she writes, she's not all wrong...Not defending but just saying she has some good points.
An abstinent woman really has to think about her behavior/actions and what that says about her and not be doing the things you are doing period invited into it by him or not. You gotta find other ways to connect and maybe start hanging out in public more and when you can't do that make sure you keep your distance as to not start things into escalation.
P-Angel has a point in some aspects of what she writes, she's not all wrong...Not defending but just saying she has some good points.
An abstinent woman really has to think about her behavior/actions and what that says about her and not be doing the things you are doing period invited into it by him or not. You gotta find other ways to connect and maybe start hanging out in public more and when you can't do that make sure you keep your distance as to not start things into escalation.
LovelyLibra
I called my ex Virgo husband and asked about your situation. He said, he would do another couple of trials approaching, but then he would be willing to wait if he were in your Virgo man's situation.
He doesn't like when I ask him these type of questions, understandibly. He gets annoyed, because he says, it is hypothetical and we may not know certain circumstances people can be in.
I'm glad he is still such wonderfully civilized man I can still fall back to. So that's his answer.
I called my ex Virgo husband and asked about your situation. He said, he would do another couple of trials approaching, but then he would be willing to wait if he were in your Virgo man's situation.
He doesn't like when I ask him these type of questions, understandibly. He gets annoyed, because he says, it is hypothetical and we may not know certain circumstances people can be in.
I'm glad he is still such wonderfully civilized man I can still fall back to. So that's his answer.
come on, 25th...
Posted by tiki33
Okay your being defensive and maybe that's my fault that your reacting to me this way. To elaborate on my statement, I'm not saying your withholding sex to get a man to fall in love, that's virtually impossible.
I believe that your abstaining until you meet a man that will be patient enough to get to know you first before developing things physically.
Set some physical boundaries, stop the making out and teasing and you probably won't have anymore heated discussions/fall outs.
Noo, I wasnt getting defensive. Now you should know when I am...lol. I was just saying thats what some people think when a woman is practicing abstinence. Like we are purposily withholding sex and thats so not the case.
LOL@25th well I said not all wrong, I'm not touching that conflate issue
Posted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by tiki33
Okay your being defensive and maybe that's my fault that your reacting to me this way. To elaborate on my statement, I'm not saying your withholding sex to get a man to fall in love, that's virtually impossible.
I believe that your abstaining until you meet a man that will be patient enough to get to know you first before developing things physically.
Set some physical boundaries, stop the making out and teasing and you probably won't have anymore heated discussions/fall outs.
Noo, I wasnt getting defensive. Now you should know when I am...lol. I was just saying thats what some people think when a woman is practicing abstinence. Like we are purposily withholding sex and thats so not the case.click to expand
Okay shuga...didn't want to upset you, I don't for a second think your being manipulative, I feel your sincere.
And I DO AGREE that I should have been more aware of what I was doing instead of waiting until after the fact. Ive only been intimate with a man 4x's in 3 yrs - my (late) husband and I stopped being intimate the last yr of his life, so this is pretty serious to me, giving myself to a man. I cant have sex just to be having it. I tried that after my husband passed and I got no satisfaction from it whatsoever.
My thing is which I keep stating, he knew how I felt but kept pushing it sexually. Im sure because of my actions, he did what anyone would do and when Id stopped, he got frustrated, which led to the arguments. Im not trying to argue or have anyone else on here arguing.
My thing is which I keep stating, he knew how I felt but kept pushing it sexually. Im sure because of my actions, he did what anyone would do and when Id stopped, he got frustrated, which led to the arguments. Im not trying to argue or have anyone else on here arguing.
He just texted asking what Im doing. I havent responded. I enjoy being with him and dont know if I should just let this go or give it a chance. I dont feel used or anything because Im not deeply, emotionally attached to him. Im still trying to get used to the 'new' ways of dating while maintaining some of my old fashioned values.
Posted by tiki33Posted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by tiki33
Okay your being defensive and maybe that's my fault that your reacting to me this way. To elaborate on my statement, I'm not saying your withholding sex to get a man to fall in love, that's virtually impossible.
I believe that your abstaining until you meet a man that will be patient enough to get to know you first before developing things physically.
Set some physical boundaries, stop the making out and teasing and you probably won't have anymore heated discussions/fall outs.
Noo, I wasnt getting defensive. Now you should know when I am...lol. I was just saying thats what some people think when a woman is practicing abstinence. Like we are purposily withholding sex and thats so not the case.
Okay shuga...didn't want to upset you, I don't for a second think your being manipulative, I feel your sincere.click to expand
Guuurl, you know we got history, so its cool...LOL!! Shoot, I still get horny and end up hurting just like a man...sorry if TMI. I dont care if youre abstinent or not, if youre with someone that can spark that fire in you, you cant think straight in the beginning and its during a certain phase, do I realize I cant do it and thus...so, yeah, IF I see him again or anyone else for that matter, I will need to set some boundaries for sure.
Yeah we do have history, just making sure we good...
Play it your way MsLovely and see how it works out. He's still there as fume has pointed out through her ex so yeah I could be wrong LOL, I think the teasing is not good but again most men love challenges, not getting sex and trying to get sex is a huge challenge so just make sure it's not a challenge for him and he really do want to be in your life the way you need him to be challenge or not..You don't want to risk being a challenge which keeps him drawn into you only to get dropped after the goal has been reached.
Play it your way MsLovely and see how it works out. He's still there as fume has pointed out through her ex so yeah I could be wrong LOL, I think the teasing is not good but again most men love challenges, not getting sex and trying to get sex is a huge challenge so just make sure it's not a challenge for him and he really do want to be in your life the way you need him to be challenge or not..You don't want to risk being a challenge which keeps him drawn into you only to get dropped after the goal has been reached.
typo
just make sure it's not just a challenge for him and he really do want to be in your life the way you need him to be challenge or not..You don't want to risk being a challenge which keeps him drawn into you only to get dropped after the goal has been reached.
just make sure it's not just a challenge for him and he really do want to be in your life the way you need him to be challenge or not..You don't want to risk being a challenge which keeps him drawn into you only to get dropped after the goal has been reached.
So I texted him back. I was in the midst of making banana pudding and playing Uno with my fam.
Him: U know how to make real banana pudding
Me: Yes. Been cooking since I was 6
Him: I want some
Me: Sure, I dont mind sharing
Him: I think you do
Me: Depends on what it is that Im sharing. You can have some of my pudding though
Him: I tried to get some of your pudding last night
Me: Ive made banana pudding before using instant pudding and while good, the taste of my banana pudding made from scratch taste far better and leaves you speechless cause its that good. It takes a little longer to make but its worth it in the end
Him: I dont want no damn instant pudding
Me: Stop acting like it then
Him: U love me
Me: I like you. Goodnight and have a great weekend.
Silence from him but Im straight. I kinda expected it. IF I see him again, I know boundaries need to be put in place by me.
Him: U know how to make real banana pudding
Me: Yes. Been cooking since I was 6
Him: I want some
Me: Sure, I dont mind sharing
Him: I think you do
Me: Depends on what it is that Im sharing. You can have some of my pudding though
Him: I tried to get some of your pudding last night
Me: Ive made banana pudding before using instant pudding and while good, the taste of my banana pudding made from scratch taste far better and leaves you speechless cause its that good. It takes a little longer to make but its worth it in the end
Him: I dont want no damn instant pudding
Me: Stop acting like it then
Him: U love me
Me: I like you. Goodnight and have a great weekend.
Silence from him but Im straight. I kinda expected it. IF I see him again, I know boundaries need to be put in place by me.
lol... that's cute
poor guy, he has to deal with dxp women ganging up on him
poor guy, he has to deal with dxp women ganging up on him
Jesus Fucking Christ ... the man texts you and the only thing he is concerned about is getting your pussy .. no concern AT ALL about your heart or you as a person .. and fools like Fum say it's "cute"?
He has zero respect for you .. so I'm unclear why you are even to bother to give him one smidgeon of your precious energy .. the only thing he deserves is getting blue-balled for treating you like a piece of ass.
What you should do, is wipe his existence from your mind and look to the horizon for a person who matters.
He has zero respect for you .. so I'm unclear why you are even to bother to give him one smidgeon of your precious energy .. the only thing he deserves is getting blue-balled for treating you like a piece of ass.
What you should do, is wipe his existence from your mind and look to the horizon for a person who matters.
And secondly, in the future .... be AWARE of the fact that you cannot treat a man the way you did him, and expect to be respected.
Meaning ..... you KNOW he is only interested in the goods, so to go snuggle up next to him is only giving him a sign that you want him to touch you. You have to live that if you want to be validated ... you can't talk out of both sides of your mouth and expect anyone to give you any merits.
You don't want sex .. you know that's the only thing he wants .. so you go snuggle next to his
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ that discredits you, and makes you disrespect yourself.
Yes, he isn't worth anything ... also, YES, you are the one responsible in allowing him the access to you of making you not worthy of respecting by doing that to him.
Own it ... or else you will continue to have your emotional hell to pay
Meaning ..... you KNOW he is only interested in the goods, so to go snuggle up next to him is only giving him a sign that you want him to touch you. You have to live that if you want to be validated ... you can't talk out of both sides of your mouth and expect anyone to give you any merits.
You don't want sex .. you know that's the only thing he wants .. so you go snuggle next to his
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ that discredits you, and makes you disrespect yourself.
Yes, he isn't worth anything ... also, YES, you are the one responsible in allowing him the access to you of making you not worthy of respecting by doing that to him.
Own it ... or else you will continue to have your emotional hell to pay
Posted by P-AngelPosted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by P-Angel
And another thing .... it's common for a Virgo to be like that.
They conflate sex/love .... they cannot discern the difference.
This is what I was trying to understand based on what Ive read about some Virgos, which in a way is why I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. Could he want JUST sex from me? Sure. I know this but I also know that some people dont think like I do. I have to be in love before I can give myself to someone. Whereas it may be totally different for him. I dont intentially try and get him worked up. Im big on kissing and he is one hell of a kisser and before I know it, we're going at it. Then I come to my senses. Not to mention with my not being in love with him, I tense and tighten up so bad, he couldnt get in even if..well, I wont go into details..lol.
To a Virgo, the physical aspects of a relationship is how they measure love, they cannot tell the difference. A Virgo will tell you he loves you, and make you feel loved through sexual contact .. and say nothing to you or make you feel any special way when sex isn't involved.
As long as I've been on this site women have come in here saying this very thing, in their own words to described their specific situation, but, it all boils down to the same thing ....
... when the Virgo is not involved with a sexual circumstance with you (third person), they aren't emotionlly present.click to expand
That has to be the biggest crock of shit I've ever heard in my entire life...
Wow, is it me or doesn't most adult relationships involve sex? I probably could not fall in love with a man if I didn't know how compatible we were in that area. Now, I am not talking about very young women here. I mean women who have been married or in long term relationships before. I also do not mean jumping in bed with every guy I meet/date.
** You both really like each other.
** You have been going out for a few months (or weeks, depends)...
** You as a woman feel he is a decent man who takes you out, is consistent in calling/contacting you, treats you with
respect.
** Is not in a commited relationship
** You both feel you want it
@MsLibra: If not, then as the others before said, you need to avoid any situations of being alone at his place, making out(more than a few kisses)...staying in public places.
** You both really like each other.
** You have been going out for a few months (or weeks, depends)...
** You as a woman feel he is a decent man who takes you out, is consistent in calling/contacting you, treats you with
respect.
** Is not in a commited relationship
** You both feel you want it
@MsLibra: If not, then as the others before said, you need to avoid any situations of being alone at his place, making out(more than a few kisses)...staying in public places.
Posted by P-Angel
Jesus Fucking Christ ... the man texts you and the only thing he is concerned about is getting your pussy .. no concern AT ALL about your heart or you as a person .. and fools like Fum say it's "cute"?
He has zero respect for you .. so I'm unclear why you are even to bother to give him one smidgeon of your precious energy .. the only thing he deserves is getting blue-balled for treating you like a piece of ass.
What you should do, is wipe his existence from your mind and look to the horizon for a person who matters.
What part are you not understanding that it doesnt bother me because one, I am NOT tied to him emotionally like that?!? My heart is not invested in him. He cant f*ck with my mind like that because I do know better. I am NOT that naive. I have been there, done that.
He can only do what I allow him to do and I have wrote time and time again that if I had limited physical contact between us, he wouldnt try me, sexually, the way he had/has been. Even though I do enjoy being with him, my life doesnt revolve around him. I come here and post wanting insight on how Virgos are, but dont rely soley on that and to also get advice, opinions..etc. Ultimately, its up to me to decide how to proceed and if the advice given turns out to be right and I get f*cked over in the end, then the only person to blame is me.
Posted by MsLovelyLibra
What part are you not understanding that it doesnt bother me because ....
1. It should bother you to tease a man's cock .. and the fact that it doesn't speaks volumes of you
2. If it didn't bother you then this thread wouldn't exist.
You might want to try reality on, then a relationship.
Women like you get raped.
Posted by P-Angel
Women like you get raped.
P is right here, you are putting yourself at risk by going to his house (son there or not) and fooling around, then refusing him when he gets riled up.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by MsLovelyLibra
What part are you not understanding that it doesnt bother me because ....
1. It should bother you to tease a man's cock .. and the fact that it doesn't speaks volumes of you
2. If it didn't bother you then this thread wouldn't exist.
You might want to try reality on, then a relationship.click to expand
Its really comical to me how people ASSume they know EVERYTHING about you through words via the internet. The simple fact is, you dont. You havent READ jack that Ive wrote. Have an awesome day P-Angel.
Posted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by P-Angel
Women like you get raped.
I appreciate your concern. Thank you!!click to expand
Actually, you haven't appreciated anything I've said ... eventhough everything I've said is here for you, rather than against you.
Your wall is up because you don't like what I'm saying ... killing the messinger so you don't have to hear the message is going to get you no-fucking-where if you intend on trying to relate with a Virgo because they'll fucking talk right in your face.
Many people have spoken to you ... you only talk to me in defiance. Does this mean you don't care to hear what they say?
Posted by MsLovelyLibraPosted by P-AngelPosted by MsLovelyLibra
What part are you not understanding that it doesnt bother me because ....
1. It should bother you to tease a man's cock .. and the fact that it doesn't speaks volumes of you
2. If it didn't bother you then this thread wouldn't exist.
You might want to try reality on, then a relationship.
Its really comical to me how people ASSume they know EVERYTHING about you through words via the internet. The simple fact is, you dont. You havent READ jack that Ive wrote. Have an awesome day P-Angel.
click to expand
Is exaggeration something that is primarily a late summer to fall born person? Because you have "everything" in caps .. and a Virgo said "entire life" .. when meaning one incident.
Do you think you are driving a valid point across that I don't know everything about you, in which if you didn't say that then nobody in here would be able to know it if you didn't tell them?
Do you think that because I am looking at this from a different angle in which you intended that it equals not reading jack?
What is it with exaggerations?
What were saying about ASSuming again?
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