My dear Virgo

I have a friend that I talk to over the net (email mostly) but sometimes on FB. He be-friended me about 2 years ago after mistaking me for my cousins sister. We actually went to the same school together although he was a grade higher.

Anyway, over the last 2 years we have become really good friends and he has helped me through a couple of failed love affairs and troubled times with my children. He himself has also had a failed love affair.

He has feelings for me and I know would have liked to be more than just a friend. We live in different countries and haven't officially met, we will when I return home in January but I feel nothing but a strong friendship for him.

Anyway the problem is that lately I have started seeing a Libra, he is such a lovely person and buys me flowers all the time and wines and dines me. I really enjoy his company and it's a loving relationship. I haven't felt like this in a long time.

But My Virgo friend has stopped talking to me. I don't mean to hurt him but I do miss him.

What should I do? Leave him to get over it or try and talk it through with him? I'd like to maintain some type of friendship with him.

No, he's mentioned that he has seen the first lot of lovely flowers I received. My sis-in-law wanted to see them so I posted it online. And he has been quite distant in his emails. All 2 of them as opposed to constantly chatting to me via email through the night or even calling me up to chat.

Dude is in another country. I hope he didnt think you two were hooking up or anything that would be foolish of him.

I have been single for years and he is in an on/off thing with a lady which we have talked about on occasion. Yes I knew he thought more of me but I've never entertained this with him and always told him I value his friendship. Which I do, but there aren't any sparks...even over the internet.

Leave him alone...I have done that only sending him an e-joke when a good one comes along.

@ Let it be

I didn't tell him but he would have seen FB convo's prior to my receiving flowers and he had gone quiet before then so I think he had already seen it. I didn't feel I needed to explain myself to someone that is already seeing someone else. It was only after the fact that I realised that things really aren't going so well for him and that he was thinking way more for me.

My main focus now is keeping him as a friend and if that means letting him be to re-coup then that's what I will do

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