My Virgo Disappearing Theory (Page 3)

Posted by tubbyscubby

wait, you're actually waiting on that? dude, when you say something stupid i will much more than oblige. i've already done. go back to some of my first posts on the virgo board.

I don't believe your first posts concerned me.

and yes, i do think there's something mental about people who think they can do no wrong. reading YOUR words, you have no faults. you've stated it repeatedly. not sure if it was you or LV who said that ration empathy.

I do not recall making such assertions.
I have had no problems admitting when I was wrong or to the faults I possess.

i just read your words boo and if you don't like the clinical definition, so be it. i invite you to examine YOUR words and compare them to narcissistic personality disorder or that of a psychopath. the similarities are astounding!

If you have read my words and come to such a conclusion, perhaps I have been misunderstood.
There is nothing wrong with that though, happens all the time.

As for the psychopath, that I would not argue.

and yes, i do enjoy being sardonic. it's fun

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Virgos can usually appreciate that.

That is SO what I was thinking LOL

*scratches head*

this isn't fun?

"I for one get attached easily and like to see affection being sent back. When that isn't happening as much as I would like, I would prefer to just walk away and rethink things for awhile."

~I am the exact same way. I will disappear and leave you alone if I don't feel the love returned.

Of course this is after I have given chances...

Posted by fieryearth
Of course this is after I have given chances...

maybe the problem i personally am having is the way in which some of you, whatever your signs, are communicating. i can only interpret what you write and the internet is static.

after you've given chances? not sure what your sign is but in this thread alone, a few of the virgos have made similar comments. it's as if, the mate is at fault for any trouble. the mate is given a chance to rectify or self-correct. when the mate doesn't get right, the virgo (according to the topic), pulls a whodini.

my issue, with how this has been communicated, is that it presumes that disappearances are almost always the fault of the mate. true, not true?

Posted by tubbyscubby

my issue, with how this has been communicated, is that it presumes that disappearances are almost always the fault of the mate. true, not true?

The bottom line here is this,

Virgos put out a lot, hearts on our sleeves, take things seriously.

People are either confused by it, use it to their advantage or could not care for it, sub sequentially not reciprocating or appreciating.

Virgos need appreciation and when we do not get it, we cease to give and simply shun thereforth.

We believe we did our part in our heads and any pain or hurt incurred to the offending party is deserved. Apologies will only be in order if the offending party can rationally and logically explain why they were unable to "give back".

^^i will be the first to acknowledge virgos are givers. you will hear no argument from me on that one. lessers/highers....yall are some of the most giving people in the zodiac. that's not the issue.

*I* personally find that there's an expectation of reciprocation. as if some virgos are tabulating how much they've given and how much they've received. are you not supposed to give selflessly? and if you are not giving selflessly, is the issue the other guy, or is it you? if you give a gift, you shouldn't expect something in return. you should give because you want to. or are virgos simply buying favors to be cashed in whenever it fancies them?

Posted by tubbyscubby
"I'm not saying anything bad about Virgos.... I understand Virgo. I understand my Virgo. It just hurts. And if it's done intentionally, then that hurts even more. The point being, one moment I'm going to have my breaking point, and then that will be the end of that. And he won't be able to come back after he has had his space, because I'll be gone.

Is that worth letting go—?"

M.I.A - i know you're in love but not sure why you're not paying attention to what they're saying. the answer is, YES. to a lesser virgo...to a lesser male of any sign, the answer is, YES!

you could be mother theresa in a hot body and without the habit and you still wouldn't be good enough to transform a man who lacks maturity. i think what makes your situation complicated is that you were his friend before. you expect more of him because you know his worth. just like i am shocked by some of my virgo friends behaviors. it's self-destructive.

but some people will cut off their nose to spite their face. some will lament the lose of their schnoz...a virgo will feel like a complete idiot but you'd be the last to know. that would mean admitting you're right.

I don't think I'm in love with him.... I think you're right that I see his worth. I just want things to be balanced, so that I'm not conforming to him, and he's not conforming to me. He doesn't things to show he cares, and he does them when I least expect them. I'm very spiritual, so I do believe that we are experiencing each other because we have a lot to learn from each other. He's my mirrored soul in so many senses..... I think there has been a lot of outside influences that have us kind of scrambling, but I feel strong about him. I won't just turn around and walk away. I won't give up, but if I'm to give in, then he needs to give in too......

Posted by tubbyscubby

*I* personally find that there's an expectation of reciprocation. as if some virgos are tabulating how much they've given and how much they've received. are you not supposed to give selflessly?

I do give selflessly, and typically after the giving is over, I lock off the person.
I am not interested in pettry friendships, only real ones.

And "real friendship" in my eyes, means the least I am appreciated for what I give and best case scenario, I receive in close to or in equal amounts.

if you are not giving selflessly, is the issue the other guy, or is it you? if you give a gift, you shouldn't expect something in return. you should give because you want to.

I completely agree. It's just when I give selflessly, when I mentioned before, I don't follow up so I have no expectations from that person.

If I do follow up, my expectations are automatic.
What happens is people just don't appreciate what or how much we give, that's the real problem.

or are virgos simply buying favors to be cashed in whenever it fancies them?

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Personally, no.

^^^reread what you wrote. read it objectively.

"What happens is people just don't appreciate what or how much we give, that's the real problem."

according to you. as i said, you have some mental score card that's very one-sided. it may not be as simple as, i spent $ 100 on a gift and they spent $ 90, but really, that's what it boils down to.

a gesture isn't enough. the gesture has to be equal in your eyes in order for you to feel fully appreciated?

"I don't think I'm in love with him.... I think you're right that I see his worth. I just want things to be balanced, so that I'm not conforming to him, and he's not conforming to me. He doesn't things to show he cares, and he does them when I least expect them. I'm very spiritual, so I do believe that we are experiencing each other because we have a lot to learn from each other. He's my mirrored soul in so many senses..... I think there has been a lot of outside influences that have us kind of scrambling, but I feel strong about him. I won't just turn around and walk away. I won't give up, but if I'm to give in, then he needs to give in too......"

@M.I.A - unfortunately, *I* don't think that's possible. not with the lesser virgos i've seen. i think that they go into it with the attitude that they've made enough concessions. one more isn't meeting in the middle, it's stepping down.

Posted by tubbyscubby

according to you. as i said, you have some mental score card that's very one-sided. it may not be as simple as, i spent $ 100 on a gift and they spent $ 90, but really, that's what it boils down to.

Yes, I do have a mental score card.

a gesture isn't enough. the gesture has to be equal in your eyes in order for you to feel fully appreciated?

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Sometimes, we don't even get a gesture.
I often find people apathetic to my existence. So I do the same.

^^i do plenty and i don't get thank yous. i role with the punches and give with a cheerful heart. being kind isn't a means for me to receive accolades.

why do you need a thank you? just do it cause it's the right thing.

if i help an old lady cross the street and she doesn't say thank you, i'm not going to let the next old lady get hit by a bus 😛

ok, i'm typo/grammar queen right now. bb in a bit. tonite is desert night! i only get one a week so i have to savor it...yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

Posted by tubbyscubby
^^i do plenty and i don't get thank yous. i role with the punches and give with a cheerful heart. being kind isn't a means for me to receive accolades.

why do you need a thank you? just do it cause it's the right thing.

It's a complex of being a Virgo.
Just like the analysis, logic, emotional repression, liking of order and cleanliness.

if i help an old lady cross the street and she doesn't say thank you, i'm not going to let the next old lady get hit by a bus 😛

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Ungrateful old people are hard to find.

Ungrateful people on the whole just irk me.

Posted by tubbyscubby
ok, i'm typo/grammar queen right now. bb in a bit. tonite is desert night! i only get one a week so i have to savor it...yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

What are you having?

Haha, enjoy!

me and my bff's version of death by chocolate...homemade cookies, topped with homemade brownies that have been crumbled. you have to do the timing just right so that while both are still warm, top it with breyers vanilla fudge brownie ice cream. i can only have it like once a month it's so ridiculously fattening but if you're a fan of chocolate.

sorry, if you're a fan of chocolate it's worth the extra workouts and now its done

lata

Posted by tubbyscubby
sorry, if you're a fan of chocolate it's worth the extra workouts and now its done

Chocolate is da BOMB!

Posted by seavixen2

I am the EXACT same way...
this is my logic for the "swimming away" and /or detachment/ "cold fish" of a Pisces..
It starts emotionally with us first Caj, so by the time we physically disappear..it's a cold case.

if anyone knows how to disappear, i do. you should see my FB. i changed my number about a year ago and i have friends posting on that damn thing monthly asking where the hell i am. i feel like a complete jackass for it but my whodini has less to do with them and everything to do with me. i know that I AM being a poor friend right now and there's no excuse for my lack of communication. thing is, this is a first for me. even though i talk to some of my friends infrequently, we've always been able to get in touch with one another...i'm speaking of my crew from HS. with them, i might naturally talk to them once every couple of months.

my point is, the issue becomes less about "whatever," and more about ME when someone is constantly trying to reach out to you. with the virgos, the VF i have spoken about, they may have legitimate reasons for distancing themselves but when someone is trying to make amends, at some point you answer the phone. repeated calling over the course of months is generally a sign that the person cares.

also, i think these women do not effectively communicate the problem. like if you're giving someone "chances" 😛 , these women aren't alerting the object of their stupidity of the problem. as mentioned, one of them said, "she knew what she did." i asked the mutual friend, "what did you do?" she said, "i have no idea." we tried to figure it out for two years...turns out, the VF has no clue herself.

Posted by tubbyscubby

if anyone knows how to disappear, i do. you should see my FB. i changed my number about a year ago and i have friends posting on that damn thing monthly asking where the hell i am. i feel like a complete jackass for it but my whodini has less to do with them and everything to do with me. i know that I AM being a poor friend right now and there's no excuse for my lack of communication. thing is, this is a first for me. even though i talk to some of my friends infrequently, we've always been able to get in touch with one another...i'm speaking of my crew from HS. with them, i might naturally talk to them once every couple of months.

Why did you do it?

my point is, the issue becomes less about "whatever," and more about ME when someone is constantly trying to reach out to you. with the virgos, the VF i have spoken about, they may have legitimate reasons for distancing themselves but when someone is trying to make amends, at some point you answer the phone. repeated calling over the course of months is generally a sign that the person cares.

also, i think these women do not effectively communicate the problem. like if you're giving someone "chances" 😛 , these women aren't alerting the object of their stupidity of the problem. as mentioned, one of them said, "she knew what she did." i asked the mutual friend, "what did you do?" she said, "i have no idea." we tried to figure it out for two years...turns out, the VF has no clue herself.

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Sounds like pride to me.

i am currently doing it because i'm being a total bitch. that's the truth of the matter. there's no excuse for it really and i'm not going to make any.

it'd be great if the situations with the VF were isolated but we're talking about numerous events and at least 6 different women...of varying ages. i would say that's more than a coincidence.

in the end, i would love to meet a virgo who has insight into why and who actually wants to change their behavior. one of them did decide to change after about 2 years of disappearing but you know, she came back and she still gripes that people aren't meeting her expectations. it's the oddest thing to hear someone complain about other folk not answering the phone when she didn't answer the phone for TWO YEARS! when i point it out to her it's as if i'm speaking not-earthish. she has a dismissive, that was then, this is now attitude. our mutual friends of course want no parts of it. they're afraid to befriend her again. not for fear of suffering another disappearance but rather because she fails to acknowledge that her behavior was asinine.

this is why i asked if virgos know how to empathize. do they know how to make a heart-felt apology without blaming the other person during the course of the apology. in my experience, in both cases, the answer is HELL NO!

Posted by tubbyscubby
i am currently doing it because i'm being a total bitch. that's the truth of the matter. there's no excuse for it really and i'm not going to make any.

Yours is a choice, conscious.
For Virgos, it is typically subconscious.

it'd be great if the situations with the VF were isolated but we're talking about numerous events and at least 6 different women...of varying ages. i would say that's more than a coincidence.

Pride and Ego, helluva thing.
I suffer from it as well.

in the end, i would love to meet a virgo who has insight into why and who actually wants to change their behavior.

Changing blueprints there darlin' 🙂

this is why i asked if virgos know how to empathize. do they know how to make a heart-felt apology without blaming the other person during the course of the apology. in my experience, in both cases, the answer is HELL NO!

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We try, but emotions are not straightforward honey... especially for us.
We can't quantify it, we can't plot it's course, we can't measure it at all.

As for apologies, that is something we can quantify.
If you played a role, we will surely mention it.

"As for apologies, that is something we can quantify.
If you played a role, we will surely mention it."

surely you jest?

in all seriousity, when you say things like this, do you REALLY mean this or is this your internet persona taking over?

i am so hoping that this is some rouse and that you can not possibly think this way.

you sound like my VF friends and in both instances i'm rendered speechless.

i just...wow...do you not get it or you get it but you don't care?

@tauruswmn - i don't think the issue is the disappearing act per se...i mean who the hell doesn't need time and space?

what i've witnessed with virgos is that the disappearance is generally temporary. it's not a permanent hiatus. in some cases, yes, but overall, no. if it's permanent and unjustified, it's a mixture of shame and pride. some people have difficult times with olive branches...i think a lot of lower virgos fall into this category.

when it's not permanent, it can be a few days...that's normal. a few weeks, that's annoying. anything beyond that is asinine...especially when you do it more than once. if you need that many breaks, it's broked.

so i get you, when i'm done, i'm done. i want it shut down permanently. if a virgo choose to do that, no disputes from me. but what i've witnessed is a boomerang behavior that's damn near crazy. and unfortunately for some of our mutual friends, the VFs haven't been allowed to come back.

Posted by tubbyscubby
"As for apologies, that is something we can quantify.
If you played a role, we will surely mention it."

surely you jest?

You will find me very serious.

in all seriousity, when you say things like this, do you REALLY mean this or is this your internet persona taking over?

I don't have much of an internet persona. I'm real 24/7, regardless of "location".

i am so hoping that this is some rouse and that you can not possibly think this way.

you sound like my VF friends and in both instances i'm rendered speechless.

i just...wow...do you not get it or you get it but you don't care?

If it is entirely my fault, I say so in my apology.
If there was provocation or culpability in the person I apologise to, I let them know their role in my offensive action.

Posted by tauruswomanwtf

Cajun is kinda hot on this thread, I must say.

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Well it is my attempt to answer the many inquiries about the subject matter, this thread. 🙂

Take complete responsibility. Never, ever make any excuses while you??re apologizing. They instantly ruin the weight and sincerity of your confession. Don't use any —buts.?? As in —I'm really sorry that happened, but??_.?? A man takes full responsibility for his mistakes. - from that article

cajun - "If it is entirely my fault, I say so in my apology. If there was provocation or culpability in the person I apologise to, I let them know their role in my offensive action."

that's your short-coming. and my VF friends as well. it's what i've been trying to get at and that some of you have stated on other occasions in different ways. it's maddening!

translation - "i'm sorry i shot you in the face but you shouldn't have gotten in the way of my bullet."

IMHO, you need to learn how to not make the apology about you. don't worry about making the other person see where they went wrong (virgo criticizing). accept the fact that the person may not be man/woman enough to own up to their short-comings. if they don't, they['re not on your level. but hwy stoop to theirs? why should you be small just because they are? is it about winning the argument or winning the war?

as that apology post stated, someone who loves you, if they see that you are apologizing from the bottom of your heart, that you empathize with their pain/POV, is more likely to own up to their mistakes. you won't have to outline with bullet points and power point presentation how messed up they are.

in short, you worry about you. i'll worry about me. but don't make my worries yours. put your big boy drawls on and man up. same for the women...but with panties.

wow...look at those typos. it's getting close to my bedtime

@jason - not apologizing for your beliefs would be akin to....

"i'm not going to apologize for refusing to eat your dad's bbq. you know i'm a vegetarian and i have been for years. i will not eat meat simply because you and your family want me to."

NOT

"i'm not going to apologize because you shouldn't have left the cake in the fridge. yes, it did have happy birthday on it but it didn't say whose birthday and given jim's was yesterday i thought it was leftovers. obviously there was some confusion so just make sure you label it next time."

^^^ i can't speak for all signs. of those i know well - tau, can, leo, vir, scor, sag, aqua - virgos disappearance is distinct. it's not simply a break. it sounds as if you're stretched too thin, exhausted, unappreciated and when you can give no more of yourself, you pull back or leave. there's something rational in your need to pull away. HOW you go about it may suck but your reasons are rational nonetheless. so IMHO although you appear to be saying the same things, i don't gather that you are.

the key with the virgos, i think, is the quantification of deeds. do their good deeds match your good deeds? where we all do this, to a degree, i honestly believe that virgos have a mental score card...consciously or unconsciously. like, they honestly remember that they gave you $ 5 last week to buy a sandwich. maybe they remember because it was their last $ 5 until they got paid but it's now ingrained in their memories. for them, that $ 5 was like giving $ 50 and therefore, you must reciprocate $ 5 monetarily and $ 45 in deed otherwise, it doesn't measure up.

i think of this one chick, her brother passed away around midnight. she called her not-boyfriend for comfort but it went to voicemail. she drove through the night to GA to reclaim her brother's body and do the final affairs. dude calls her at 10am THAT MORNING. he sends flowers to the hospital. he has a key to her house (remember, not-bf), picks up her dog and keeps it for a week. she's also expecting deliveries and what not and he holds it down the entire week she's a way. oh yeah, he lives about 45min-1hr away from her home and he knows that one of her closest friends lives less than 5 min away.

she gets home and as we're talking she says, "he's never there for me." when i relay all the things not-bf had done and has done in the past, she said, "yeah, but i have to beg him to do it. he didn't call me until my brother's body went cold."

by not answering the phone at midnight, that set the stage. it didn't matter if the man flew down and the brother pulled a lazarus, in this VF mind, he wasn't there for her when she needed him. i think this is what sets virgo apart. the closer you get to them, the more the expect. the more they expect, the more they raise the bar. the more they raise the bar, the more you disappoint them. so when they leave, it's not based in reality. they haven't been slighted at the level they'd like you to believe.

Posted by tubbyscubby

that's your short-coming. and my VF friends as well. it's what i've been trying to get at and that some of you have stated on other occasions in different ways. it's maddening!

And this is all your opinion 🙂

IMHO, you need to learn how to not make the apology about you. don't worry about making the other person see where they went wrong (virgo criticizing). accept the fact that the person may not be man/woman enough to own up to their short-comings. if they don't, they['re not on your level. but hwy stoop to theirs? why should you be small just because they are? is it about winning the argument or winning the war?

Yes, it is about winning the argument and rubbing it in the other person's face. Sure that's immature, but everyone has their bad traits.

If they are not mature enough to admit to their fault, then they will be reminded. End of story.

as that apology post stated, someone who loves you, if they see that you are apologizing from the bottom of your heart, that you empathize with their pain/POV, is more likely to own up to their mistakes. you won't have to outline with bullet points and power point presentation how messed up they are.

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Just doesn't sounds like a Virgo thing to do to me.

@cajun, it is a virgo. it's just a higher one 😉 i think i get it though...

MERCURY! lesser virgos appear insane because they are 😄 now hear me out...

"Astrologically speaking, Mercury relates more to our internal and personal life than to life outside of us. Mercury is not only the messenger from god to man, but also our internal messenger: the link between the eternal and the mundane, between our soul and our personality. It represents sense perceptions and communication devices that our true self, the divine spark residing within us, uses to run the machinery of the body. In insanity this link is broken, but normally, through our mind and eyes, heaven bears witness to the Earth, and god may still talk to man."
source: http://www.myastrologybook.com/Mercury-in-astrology.htm<BR>
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a lesser virgo is one who is not using the powers of mercury for their own good. the link is broken. they cease being rational and as a result, their decision making is irrational, the way by which they communicate is irrational. and unfortunately, the lesser virgo doesn't even get that they're off.

i don't mean that in a disrespectful way. this is true of any sign. our main asset can be our main failing. for taurus, tenacity can become stubborness. determination can become a refusal to change.

i honestly questioned the sanity of some of my virgo friends/fam. when i said they have psychopath tendencies, i meant it. i honestly could not see how any rational person can come to the conclusions that these women have come to. some of the examples are damn near scary...shocking. and the reason why they, virgos, are held to a higher standard is because they are rationality personified.

so i guess for me, it's realizing that these lesser virgo women can't help themselves. in some cases, i can deal with it. in others, it's just too..."off" for me. especially during PMS...lord, talk about craaaaaaaaazy.

^lucky you mine is m.i.a for a week now. no idea why everything was perfectly fine. getting to emotional maybe i dont know. second time he's done this first time i freaked out thinking something happend to him or he got into an accident or something. and he called me a week later saying he was just working and needed some time then apoligized and moved about like nothing happend i was like :o wtf, im an aries with a virgo moon. he's a virgo no idea what moon sept 6th. i'm getting extremly angry, we have grown very close we used to spent everyday together he basically lived with me and now he started disapearing for weekends, analyzing my behaviour more, then came the week. now a month later hes disapeared for another week. im getting very fed up, problem is im completly in love with him but love isnt everything now is it.

WHY do u guys disapear? im not saying be around us 24/7 but an aknowledgment of our existance would be nice! what do u expect to happen when u come back? How do u think we are feeling, does it even cross your mind or are so absorbed into your own world?

Posted by ariesbabie
WHY do u guys disapear?

I would'nt know, I don't dissapear on romantic interests.

How do u think we are feeling, does it even cross your mind or are so absorbed into your own world?

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Most likely, they are absorbed in their own world.

Posted by Cajunspirit
After having done some brief reflection today, spurred on by a post concerning a Virgo just stopping communication when they felt unappreciated.

I recalled my teenage years and even up to now, I occasionally get fed up of managing all my social relationships. It is because I take it so seriously and put so much effort in to each and every one, I occasionally become exhausted and feel that it's my "friends" turn to do some work, to match my level of interest.

More often than not, they don't... so I decide to gradually let the relationship die over time, lest they surprise me with some random spurt of interest, which is usually enough to keep me from forgetting them completely.

During my "fed up" time, I usually will not be swayed by their petty shows of interest. I just lock them off.

I thought I was the only one who did this! And my friends will tell me, "You know, we have the kind of friendship that we can go for months without talking, and suddenly pick up where we left off." Which is true, but only for those that I've known for YEARS, and I know our friendship is solid. I do tend to get disinterested in maintaining my relationships as I feel like I'm making all the effort, and when that level of interest isn't returned I become dissapointed in those people, and cut them out because to me they were never really a friend to begin with.

Interesting topic. Thanks for posting!

Posted by BABE

We are JUST friends.
We have never had sex.
He has been my Landlord since Feb 2005.

If this is the case, then why doth it bother ye, should he seeith it fit to respondeth not?

Maybe it's because I "feel" and "see" a change in his behavior...
Maybe I just do not like to be ignored for such a long period of time...
Maybe it's because I suddenly feel & am afraid I have lost my friend...

HHHmmmm...
Good question CanjunSpirit !!!

Posted by BABE
WDYT about my FB message —
What do you think about the call or certified letter —

Your response would be appreciated.

Maybe he never got your message...
Maybe he was dissapointed by your message...

Most likely he is just very busy and will respond to you when he is ready.

Posted by BABE
Maybe it's because I "feel" and "see" a change in his behavior...
Maybe I just do not like to be ignored for such a long period of time...
Maybe it's because I suddenly feel & am afraid I have lost my friend...

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25thDecan once mentioned Aries women love attention, that's likely the case from my experiences with them too.

Once again You were Correct...
He dropped by today...
Eeerrry...
He never got my email card...
He's been in Haiti...
And yes he thinks I require a "little extra attention"...
"More than his other friends"...
But he added "You are worth it."...
Other than adding "your cooking is all that too"...
that was the end of that as he was here to check on me & my car.

Thanks for your input CajunSpirit!

Ahhh... I need to work on patience!!!

HAPPY HOLIDAYs CAJUNSPIRIT !!!

Posted by BABE

Once again You were Correct...
He dropped by today...
Eeerrry...
He never got my email card...
He's been in Haiti...
And yes he thinks I require a "little extra attention"...
"More than his other friends"...
But he added "You are worth it."...
Other than adding "your cooking is all that too"...
that was the end of that as he was here to check on me & my car.

Thanks for your input CajunSpirit!

Ahhh... I need to work on patience!!!

HAPPY HOLIDAYs CAJUNSPIRIT !!!

🙂

Happy to hear it, thanks, pleasant holidays to you too!

"i am the exact same way but along the years i really stopped paying mind to people if they "dont show as much interest" and let things go with the flow, eventually you will pick up on signs that show you who's your friend and or whos not, you cant expect everyone to be on top of you like youre a god, they all apreciate you is just that alot of people dont like praising others like groupies do."

is it not a little "catch 22" situation ?
what is a virgo definition of a "level of interest" from a friend? /here i don't mean romantic relationships/
So,since virgo people like details,how they "meausure it "?

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Posted by Cajunspirit
After having done some brief reflection today, spurred on by a post concerning a Virgo just stopping communication when they felt unappreciated.

I recalled my teenage years and even up to now, I occasionally get fed up of managing all my social relationships. It is because I take it so seriously and put so much effort in to each and every one, I occasionally become exhausted and feel that it's my "friends" turn to do some work, to match my level of interest.

More often than not, they don't... so I decide to gradually let the relationship die over time, lest they surprise me with some random spurt of interest, which is usually enough to keep me from forgetting them completely.

During my "fed up" time, I usually will not be swayed by their petty shows of interest. I just lock them off.

Well said Cajun well said, I am the same I get fed up when I feel someone doesn't appreciate the lenghts I go for them or If I feel mentally/verbally abused by them If I don't get trust or respect I'm fucking out. Oh, how I hate the petty shows of interest " I miss you ... " and all that shit. Its like bugger off.

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correcto i dont like when people play around with people feelings or even my own my tolerance is very low when it comes to people like that.

thats my venus squared saturn talking.

Posted by quo vadis?

"i am the exact same way but along the years i really stopped paying mind to people if they "dont show as much interest" and let things go with the flow, eventually you will pick up on signs that show you who's your friend and or whos not, you cant expect everyone to be on top of you like youre a god, they all apreciate you is just that alot of people dont like praising others like groupies do."

is it not a little "catch 22" situation ?
what is a virgo definition of a "level of interest" from a friend? /here i don't mean romantic relationships/
So,since virgo people like details,how they "meausure it "?

hey quo being a virgo virgos put people in a circle friends family lovers etc and those feelings are expressed in different levels and how we deal with them and people.

LeGendary ViRGo

"virgos put people in a circle friends family lovers etc and those feelings are expressed in different levels and how we deal with them and people."


LeGendary ViRGo ... Could you explain this in detail please—

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LeGendary ViRGo

"virgos put people in a circle friends family lovers etc and those feelings are expressed in different levels and how we deal with them and people."


LeGendary ViRGo ... Could you explain this in detail please—

here's a website that says it even better that i was gonna say..


Virgo??s put relationships into concentric circles. The outer circles are relegated to the people you most interact with but with no emotional connection. And so there is the inner circle of loved ones, the next circle of close friendships, the next circle of acquaintances and so forth. The point of the analogy is that the outer circles never receive the criticism that the inner circle people do. So if you happen to fall in love with a Virgo you may have to start taking stock of your faults because your Virgo lover will definitely point them out.

http://www.astro-counseling.com/html/virgo_qualities.html

Mars in Aries --- I totally love you -- reading your posts was a huge breath of fresh air... HUGE! To ALL you virgos read, and re read Mars's posts --- They are 100 spot on! wow!

I just posted about this issue of a virgo man disappearing. When you say unappreciated, what do you mean exactly? This post might help me with my current issue.