New here... so confused by virgo guy...

Hello everyone! I'm new here although I've been reading a lot of posts here to try and understand the experience I just had with this virgo guy I really, really like.

It all started when we met about a year ago through a dating site, we chatted for a few weeks and then met up. Everything went great and we had a good time together. Then he sorta disappeared. Texting like once or twice a month, but never really wantint to meet up again. Then in April he asked to meet for a coffee, so we did and again had great conversation and a nice time together. And again, he disappeared with the occasional text conversation.

I never said anything, never confronted the absence since I felt we were in no way together and it would have been silly of me to ask.

I moved to a different city a few months ago, and a couple months ago he got in touch again, this time REALLY flirting and seeming really interested in me. I thought my patience and understanding had paid off. We were texting every day for a month, and then he came to visit for 4 days.

The first night was great, we slept together (he initiated) and I was really happy that it was all going well. The next morning, I initiated and we had sex again. Then spent a great day together, laughing, talking about a million things we have in common. But that night nothing happened... in the next days we spent together we only got intimate one more time, initiated by me.

And the biggest shock, the last night we spent together he rejected my advances. So it all got a bit awkward for me and trying to stay calm and friendly I asked if we were going to keep in touch after this. He said he wanted to keep in touch as friends... I was devastated but held it together and gave him a hug and a big smile.

Now the day after he left he texted me (I thought I'd never hear from him again TBH) and we had a brief conversation. But after that I have texted asking a simple "how are you? 🙂" and I still haven't heard back.

I don't even know what to ask, but, can anyone help me shed some light on what happened here?

Sorry for the long rant, I can provide more detail if needed 🙂

FYI I'm not a sex maniac or anything, hahaha. But I felt strong attraction to this guy and after a year I thought it was ok to enjoy my sexuality... But I wasn't just wanting to get that out of him. I spent hours talking to him, giving him tickles, even made him some food I knew he liked... I'm guessing he didn't find me sexually attractive enough?

It was obvious to me the first time he backed off, that he only wanted to be friends.

It's obvious to me that he's been giving signals all along that he wants to be friends.

You seem to be initiating trying to get him to want more ...


So, why in the hell you slept with a friend, and are now saying you don't get it ... really makes you out to look not so swift. It certainly isn't confusing.


just because you slept with a guy doesn't mean he is suppose to now owe you his emotions ....


He's not into you ... it's not rocket science.

I understand what you say, but I can assure you the way he was talking to me for a month wasn't the "just friends" type of talk. Plus, I don't think he needed to travel 400 kms. to see "a friend" when I'm going home for Christmas.

And if we are friends... it would be nice of him to write back, at least. I'm fine with sleeping with him and being friends now but he seems to just be ignoring me now.

Posted by RubyWoo

I'm fine with sleeping with him and being friends now but he seems to just be ignoring me now.

lol


These people coming here with zero maturity or life experience must really be 12 years and making this shit up, hoping nobody notices.