Playing hard-to-get?

My friend asked me a few days ago
that if I'm playing hard to get...
so I said "what? what are you talking about?
I would never do that...I'm just shy"
And then she goes on talking about how I never approach
any guys first or that I always have that cold look

so I was wondering if it has to do with my sun, moon, and rising combination.
My sun is Virgo (shy)
Aqua Moon (Emotionally detached)
Sag Rising (playing hard to get?)

I would occassionally hear from my friends that
someone has this big crush on me but they never actually ask me out
When they come talk to me I just shrink myself and shy away from
that person.

But I never intend to play hard-to-get
I think I'm actually opposite...I lack confidence...
And I don't think I'm good enough to play hard-to-get

Anybody with the same problem?
or any advice? 😢

Well, the guy that I was interested in had a virgo sun and an aqua moon. I don't know about his rising. And he definitely came across as hard to get. When I asked him why he was acting so cold, he told me that was not his intention, but he was just shy.

So, it could have to do with your combo...

Oh, I should also mention that it is very frustrating for the people who try to get to know you better... So, it might be a good idea for you to work on this... Just my 2 cents...

I totally understand. I, aqua sun, come off as cold and detached all the time. BUT its also hard when people tell you so and so has a thing for you, but so and so never does anything about it...THAT SUCKS.

You may feel insecure do to your moon and sun placements, but realize that they like YOU for a reason. You have something that appeals to them regardless of how you see or feel about yourself. Take that into consideration, give yourself a major ego boost, and push your insecurities aside when being approach by one of these guys.

I TOTALLY understand the shy part, its REALLY hard to get over....but once again you just have to go for it and take the leap or you'll be stuck with alot of what if's and missed chances.


Dont you just hate when a guy has a thing for you, but you just dont like him...and it sucks because he is Great, but you just dont like him....That could go for both guys and girls

vfacullo,
i'm virgo rising and a lot of people find me stand-offish upon first meeting.
if you were playing hard to get you'd know. because (to state the obvious) to play a game you have to actively participate.
guys used to find me un-approachable apparently, i guess because i used to be a lot more shy so i was probably hard work for them! smile more, make them feel welcome to talk to you. it's probably just a case of over-coming your shyness! which is no easy feat.
hopefully you'll meet a guy who is confident enough not to mistake your shyness as disinterest.

Venus and Mars

In woman horoscope Venus represents a type of woman she is and the way she used to show herself in relationships and of course her sexual expression.
In man horoscope Venus is an indicator of a woman man will be most likely sexually attracted to.
Mars as an embodiment of masculinity in its turn represents action and power. Therefore Mars is a key to man's sexual expression and his behavior in personal relationships.

Hey vfacullo! I have the same placements as you :-)

Love for me is soooo difficult.....and I have the same problem......I like people from a far.....but once I find out someone likes me or tries to talk to me .......I also get sooo shy and try to avoid the person .....don't know why but this is what I do.....unless there is no avoiding the person........I don't know if this is playing hard to get because I'm not playing just being really really shy..........but once you get to know a person then I get comfortable and show my playful side........but that is once trust is established

To me love, is serious and I want all or nothing......but it's funny since my moon
(aqua) and (sag) rising sign want freedom......but my sun virgo and venus in Cancer want love....I have also mars In libra.......it's a contradiction ...so it's a struggle big time in the love department

this what I struggled with before me and my love got together and that was not easy
but it worked out...after years of getting to know one another.....and yes I said YEARS lol.....it's like that for me to even entertain the idea of having a someone in my life

My advice (yes, Moon in Virg speakin' here) is to *be friends first.*

It really takes the pressure off. Talk, and listen, and watch. My impression of people changes every time they open their mouth. Who is this person?

And you need the friendship once sex cools off.

"how is it playing hard to get if you aren't playing..."

No obviously I'm not playing hard to get
but my friend thinks I am
She thinks that because
Usually, I'm not that shy. When I'm around people I'm comfortable
with, my Sagi side shows.
I'm laughing, very outgoing, goofing off, and active.
But when it comes to one on one with guys... especially
if I know they're interested in me, I just freeze.
My virgo+aqua side comes out. I look like I want to play hard to get
but I'm really not.And it's very frustrating.
I have Venus in Leo and Mars in Aries &now from what I understand
that's suppose to make me very outgoing and sociable
but I don't see so much of that in me.
I guess once the relationship starts it could show
but just getting it started is sooooooooooooooo hard

Mars in Aries is the best. Your independent, strong willed, but extremely horny. 😄
Venus in leo should be good as well.

Friends first is a very good idea.

I think there is a big difference between Virgo males and female Virgos when it comes to romance. I see Virgo women to be a bit shy. The Virgo men, is not that they are playing hard to get, it is just that they are in la la land and don't know what is going on... That simple! 😛

So are you guys still on Escorpionia—

vfacullo,

You have to look at this from the other person's perspective .. if this is how someone sees you, then this is how you behave according to how they view you.
Certainly, it's just a reservation on your part .. just bashful. However, unless you want to live your life alone .. does that really matter? If you want interaction with other people, you have to take into consideration that how they are looking at you, which, isn't how you are looking at yourself.

From your angle .. it's shy
From theirs .. it's playing

The only one a person can change, is themselves .. you can't adjust how another person operates in this world .. yourself, however, you can adjust. So, my point is .. it's really irrelevant to hash over the "why's" .. you've already stated it. What gain comes from reiterating a knowledge you already have, for the purpose of finding an excuse?

If you have the awareness .. fix it. Taking a defensive position, doesn't solve the equation, rather, allows your mind to continue with a justification as to "why".

If you know you have a problem with being shy around men you like, and sociable around everybody else (which btw, does "appear" to be playing) .. only you can fix yourself.

So do it .. so many people in this world are completely oblvious and ignorant to themselves .. you, on the other hand, are aware ..

.. grow, expand, conquer, overcome .. win, win, win
.. finding excuses for why it isn't, makes you .. lose, lose, lose

Lacking confidence is a Virgo malady .. so, don't feel alone with this.
1/12 of the population shares this with you ..

.. look at what your friend said, "I always have that cold look"
This is what she sees in you, whether, YOU feel it, or not about yourself.

I know that Virgo's aren't cold, you know that they aren't .. this is what other's see, anyway.

Take tiny steps .. try having a warm stare, with a touch of small smile .. and see where that gets you.

Rome wasn't built in a day !!!!!!

Aawww .. the question is NOT how to get a shy girl, rather, is it shy, or playing?

Just because someone plays hard, doesn't mean they are hard.
And just because a woman throws herself on you, doesn't mean she's easy.

First step is determining who is really shy, and who is just trying to ensnare you by making you think they are "good girls".

Many a women I know "play" hard, when in reality, are total sluts.

If a girl wants you .. she will use any means to catch you.
If a girl doesn't want you .. she will use any tactic to repel you.

How to know the difference is the question, isn't it?

I have the same problem all the time, but I'm never playing hard to get either. Maybe Virgos just appear that way, even though we're not trying.