Super clingy virgo being a pain in the ass

Never thought I'd hav to post this again but here I go..

My good friend from high school (we're 24 now) is too fucked up now. I used to respect him before when he was studious,sincere and hardworking but now it seems his only goal in life is getting in a relationship with any girl he comes across.My relationship with my cancerian sweetheart tookoff and just then co-incidentally this virgo girl he was desperately yearning for distanced herself from him too(not surprised). We would share our miseries with each other as good friends. We would jokingly call each other as our rebound. But dammit I never knew this would cause trouble. He has turned way way too clingy and I love my space and freedom. He texts everyday and if I don't reply since I'm busy or don't reply if I find the joke he sent way too stupid and unclassy,he gets mad. He has a thick thick skin. I even tell him that dude I'm occupied right now,he gets mad and starts talking about how lonely he feels and that Im the only friend he's closest too and then all that emotional trap crap. He is too demanding of my time. We'll un-coincidentally be in the same city this Christmas and he got all excited knowing that and said "wow,so two rebounds will have a date this christmas" and then send those stupid kisses and hearts. I'm tired telling him I don't want a relationship at this phase of my life as my career is my only priority(and I still love my cancerian ex AND I WOULD NEVER BE WITH THIS VIRGO GUY) .When I got mad at him for calling it a date(i told him I wont meet him if he calls it a date) and dammit I even threatened to brozone him (LOL) he texted back getting mad at me(reverse backfire.Hate this) saying "do you think I'm flirting with you? Or I was serious with all that?" Dude then why demand so much from me,why do your friends pair us and that makes you so happy and why get jealous when I mention some guy.Problem is,I can't just disappear from him because he's not just some guy,he's my school bud afterall so that makes it too challenging and I don't want to breakoff our friendship. It pricks his ego when I lash out at him and says it was a joke to cover it off but then he behaves otherwise. I absolutely hate it when people pair us together and he blushes. Dammit dammit dammit

? im laughing bc i feel your pain lol. i need to hear the input on this one too... *waits patiently*

Posted by gia

Never thought I'd hav to post this again

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It appears to me as though he's just being light hearted and friendly, and wanting to be with his best friend. He even tells you that there's no other intent.

while, you, on the other hand .... it looks like you are twisting his intent to suit your hidden agenda, which obviously consists of unresolved issues that you are projecting onto him



to top it all off ..... you have excuses why you refuse to take a break from it.



You come with a lot of drama ..... it's only a matter of time before he won't be able to handle that any longer and decides to dump your friendship.



I wonder what song you will be singing then?

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Posted by starwars
yikes

you sound way too dramatic

clearly, the use of capslock hints drama

*chuckles

but really, this is the reverse of my situation with a pisces guy friend of mine... he is incessantly contacting me to meet his new gf and in my mind i just know this is gonna last for 4 months like it always does and im just not gonna get into that drama again...

my wife is enough drama for me thanks

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use of capslock usually indicates more emphasis on a certain term.In this case,my frustration with this guy.

He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

Posted by P-Angel
It appears to me as though he's just being light hearted and friendly, and wanting to be with his best friend. He even tells you that there's no other intent.

Guess I wasn't clear when mentioning how he behaves.Actions speak louder. Heard that back in school,yes?

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while, you, on the other hand .... it looks like you are twisting his intent to suit your hidden agenda, which obviously consists of unresolved issues that you are projecting onto him

Next Sherlock Holmes I believe 😄

Posted by P-Angel
to top it all off ..... you have excuses why you refuse to take a break from it.

I just mentioned we are school friends and his personality drastically changed.It's not that easy to break off years long of friendship,you know.

Posted by P-Angel
You come with a lot of drama ..... it's only a matter of time before he won't be able to handle that any longer and decides to dump your friendship.

oh well hello clairvoyant.

Posted by P-Angel
I wonder what song you will be singing then?

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Don't have to wonder.I am a great singer. Will invite you if you're lucky 😄

*Peace*

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Posted by starwars
yikes

you sound way too dramatic

clearly, the use of capslock hints drama

*chuckles

but really, this is the reverse of my situation with a pisces guy friend of mine... he is incessantly contacting me to meet his new gf and in my mind i just know this is gonna last for 4 months like it always does and im just not gonna get into that drama again...

my wife is enough drama for me thanks

use of capslock usually indicates more emphasis on a certain term.In this case,my frustration with this guy.

do you think he has libra placements?

why don't you just tell him about it?

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I did drop so many hints that I'm not even remotely interested in him. I like him as a friend and that is it.

I have even been too blatantly straightforward when he has crossed the line.

But he still portrays us as if there's something going on between us to his friends.I don't meet his friends but once when he called me and his roommate was right there,he was flirting with me in front of him and the guy(his roomie) was giggling and saying "i'll give you two some privacy" and i was like WTF!! When I confronted him(my virgo friend),he defended saying he's just joking but it's not funny.

Posted by Diddybop
He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

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LOL 😄

Posted by yupvirgoo

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Posted by starwars
yikes

you sound way too dramatic

clearly, the use of capslock hints drama

*chuckles

but really, this is the reverse of my situation with a pisces guy friend of mine... he is incessantly contacting me to meet his new gf and in my mind i just know this is gonna last for 4 months like it always does and im just not gonna get into that drama again...

my wife is enough drama for me thanks

use of capslock usually indicates more emphasis on a certain term.In this case,my frustration with this guy.

do you think he has libra placements?

why don't you just tell him about it?

I did drop so many hints that I'm not even remotely interested in him. I like him as a friend and that is it.

I have even been too blatantly straightforward when he has crossed the line.

But he still portrays us as if there's something going on between us to his friends.I don't meet his friends but once when he called me and his roommate was right there,he was flirting with me in front of him and the guy(his roomie) was giggling and saying "i'll give you two some privacy" and i was like WTF!! When I confronted him(my virgo friend),he said defended saying he's just joking but it's not funny.

i think your annoyance level with him is much higher than your friendship

so why not just go bye bye and leave him be?

cut him off or something

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The dude doesn't let me leave.Because it's tough to break off more than a decade of friendship I have given him the silent treatment many a times. But he won't let me be silent for more than 8 hrs.

Isn't there absolutely no other way of handling this than just simply breaking it off?

Lol if he can't take a hint then start flirting with someone else infront of him till he gets it.

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Posted by Diddybop
He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

LOL 😄

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I bet he'll respond better if u ignore him and just respond when u have time. Dont give any excuses and don't acknowledge any of his arguments (try to remember u know he's selfish).

If he's like that in person don't engage and just walk away. Don't argue tho - he'll have an answer for everything and odds are he'd rather antagonize you then get no attention at all.

He'll either leave you alone completely or it'll be the boundary check he needs.

(My libra friend had a similar relationship with a Virgo and he really drove her nuts. This worked!)

Posted by Stinger408scorp
Lol if he can't take a hint then start flirting with someone else infront of him till he gets it.

Today I told him I have a boyfriend(not true).He got mad.

He wasn't wanting to believe it but boy he got mad.

Posted by BadBoy
Here is how the pisces virgo marriage begins.

Not even if he was the last guy on this planet

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Posted by Diddybop
He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

LOL 😄

I bet he'll respond better if u ignore him and just respond when u have time. Dont give any excuses and don't acknowledge any of his arguments (try to remember u know he's selfish).

If he's like that in person don't engage and just walk away. Don't argue tho - he'll have an answer for everything and odds are he'd rather antagonize you then get no attention at all.

He'll either leave you alone completely or it'll be the boundary check he needs.

(My libra friend had a similar relationship with a Virgo and he really drove her nuts. This worked!)

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He calls me extremely selfish when I do that but I'll still do that

Is he cute? Send him over my way, I'll whip him into shape.

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He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

LOL 😄

I bet he'll respond better if u ignore him and just respond when u have time. Dont give any excuses and don't acknowledge any of his arguments (try to remember u know he's selfish).

If he's like that in person don't engage and just walk away. Don't argue tho - he'll have an answer for everything and odds are he'd rather antagonize you then get no attention at all.

He'll either leave you alone completely or it'll be the boundary check he needs.

(My libra friend had a similar relationship with a Virgo and he really drove her nuts. This worked!)

He calls me extremely selfish when I do that but I'll still do that

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Through text "lol" or "ok" is the perfect response (don't try to teach him to respect ur boundaries; he knows and doesn't care). In person just walk away.

It might be hard to turn the cold on but people sometimes need a cold check to get back to reality. Good luck!

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Is he cute? Send him over my way, I'll whip him into shape.

ahaha he's not bad looking. He's fit,muscular,kinda tanned skin,co head of his soccer team and an electrical engineer. He's a 24yrs old li'l baby who needs way too much attention and pampering and considers himself to be the real version of Sheldon Cooper(If you watch Big Bang Theory).

Suits your check list? 😛

😄

Oh and definitely not cuter than that doggy you posted

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He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

LOL 😄

I bet he'll respond better if u ignore him and just respond when u have time. Dont give any excuses and don't acknowledge any of his arguments (try to remember u know he's selfish).

If he's like that in person don't engage and just walk away. Don't argue tho - he'll have an answer for everything and odds are he'd rather antagonize you then get no attention at all.

He'll either leave you alone completely or it'll be the boundary check he needs.

(My libra friend had a similar relationship with a Virgo and he really drove her nuts. This worked!)

He calls me extremely selfish when I do that but I'll still do that

Through text "lol" or "ok" is the perfect response (don't try to teach him to respect ur boundaries; he knows and doesn't care). In person just walk away.

It might be hard to turn the cold on but people sometimes need a cold check to get back to reality. Good luck!

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That's what I do majority of the times Diddy 😢

This is how it goes many times

He: *sends a joke*

Me: *sends a laugh emoji*

He: That's it? I need bigger replies

Me: I'm occupied right now.Will get back later

He: You don't have time for me

Me: I don't have my own self time.It has been way too hectic

He: I don't care. I am facing problems and you're my closest friend

Me: *calls him*

He: Yeah so I fractured my leg and doctor asked me to rest but I still played soccer and it has worsened. Sing soft kitty for me now.

Me: I can't.I'm at work.

*And I go offline*

He: I don't care

*I dont reply*

He: So you're ignoring now. You're too selfish. I'm saying unwell and you still aren't singing for me.Ignoring me.

*and it continues*

But there is no other option that what you said. Although it hasn't worked that's all I can still do so that's what I'd do.

If he looks anything like Sheldon, you can keep him.

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He's your friend and it sounds like he's not handling the fwb position too well. Maybe you SHOULD* brozone him and just be his friend as he gets through whatever is bumming him out so much.

The thing is,he pesters me for my time.He demands way more than I can give. He texts all the time and when I say I'm working and can't reply,he replies something like "i don't care.I feel lonely". Isn't it selfish?

I am not too good with handling such situations but this is too much.

Posted by Diddybop
*caps for emphasis not dramatics ?

LOL 😄

I bet he'll respond better if u ignore him and just respond when u have time. Dont give any excuses and don't acknowledge any of his arguments (try to remember u know he's selfish).

If he's like that in person don't engage and just walk away. Don't argue tho - he'll have an answer for everything and odds are he'd rather antagonize you then get no attention at all.

He'll either leave you alone completely or it'll be the boundary check he needs.

(My libra friend had a similar relationship with a Virgo and he really drove her nuts. This worked!)

He calls me extremely selfish when I do that but I'll still do that

Through text "lol" or "ok" is the perfect response (don't try to teach him to respect ur boundaries; he knows and doesn't care). In person just walk away.

It might be hard to turn the cold on but people sometimes need a cold check to get back to reality. Good luck!

That's what I do majority of the times Diddy 😢

This is how it goes many times

He: *sends a joke*

Me: *sends a laugh emoji*

He: That's it? I need bigger replies

Me: I'm occupied right now.Will get back later

He: You don't have time for me

Me: I don't have my own self time.It has been way too hectic

He: I don't care. I am facing problems and you're my closest friend

Me: *calls him*

He: Yeah so I fractured my leg and doctor asked me to rest but I still played soccer and it has worsened. Sing soft kitty for me now.

Me: I can't.I'm at work.

*And I go offline*

He: I don't care

*I dont reply*

He: So you're ignoring now. You're too selfish. I'm saying unwell and you still aren't singing for me.Ignoring me.

*and it continues*

But there is no other option that what you said. Although it hasn't worked that's all I can still do so that's what I'd do.

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Yeah that's annoying as hell. I don't want to sound insensitive but shutting him down is what you have to do to enforce your boundaries. Either completely ignore or don't respond at all after the lol. Respond when you're up for it with casual conversation and shut it down again if he starts going again. Repeat as necessary. No explaination but he'll get the message.

Trust me, I was down and out myself once and didn't realize how draining and negative I was until a couple people shut me down. It was hard of course but it forces you to take a look in the mirror and that's the only way change happens.

Posted by gia
Never thought I'd hav to post this again but here I go..

My good friend from high school (we're 24 now) is too fucked up now. I used to respect him before when he was studious,sincere and hardworking but now it seems his only goal in life is getting in a relationship with any girl he comes across.My relationship with my cancerian sweetheart tookoff and just then co-incidentally this virgo girl he was desperately yearning for distanced herself from him too(not surprised). We would share our miseries with each other as good friends. We would jokingly call each other as our rebound. But dammit I never knew this would cause trouble. He has turned way way too clingy and I love my space and freedom. He texts everyday and if I don't reply since I'm busy or don't reply if I find the joke he sent way too stupid and unclassy,he gets mad. He has a thick thick skin. I even tell him that dude I'm occupied right now,he gets mad and starts talking about how lonely he feels and that Im the only friend he's closest too and then all that emotional trap crap. He is too demanding of my time. We'll un-coincidentally be in the same city this Christmas and he got all excited knowing that and said "wow,so two rebounds will have a date this christmas" and then send those stupid kisses and hearts. I'm tired telling him I don't want a relationship at this phase of my life as my career is my only priority(and I still love my cancerian ex AND I WOULD NEVER BE WITH THIS VIRGO GUY) .When I got mad at him for calling it a date(i told him I wont meet him if he calls it a date) and dammit I even threatened to brozone him (LOL) he texted back getting mad at me(reverse backfire.Hate this) saying "do you think I'm flirting with you? Or I was serious with all that?" Dude then why demand so much from me,why do your friends pair us and that makes you so happy and why get jealous when I mention some guy.Problem is,I can't just disappear from him because he's not just some guy,he's my school bud afterall so that makes it too challenging and I don't want to breakoff our friendship. It pricks his ego when I lash out at him and says it was a joke to cover it off but then he behaves otherwise. I absolutely hate it when people pair us together and he blushes. Dammit dammit dammit

Either introduce him to a friend or consider moving on already which can help him find someone new to fixate on.

Truth be told you're just as dramatic as he is. You should know if a man is into a woman romantically then trying to be platonic does not work.