Why am I so Difficult?!

I'm a Virgo sun, Capricorn moon and Gemini rising. I'm recently attracting Sags, Scorps, and Gems. Every time I'm getting to know a guy, I'm very open and bubbly UNTIL they start wanting to get personal then I pull away. I start answering with short answers and become "mysterious" because I no longer let them in. It's like they have to work for my soft interior. No matter what they talk about, I don't care to hear about it even if that is what we bonded over before. I'm straight forward with them and tell them I want it platonic and they agree to it but I see through their bullshit. I know they like me and want to try to get to me through "friendship".

I guess I want to know what signs in my chart make me do this?

Why are these guys with these signs so attracted to the point of trying to break me down?

The placements

Mine: 

Virgo sun

Cap moon

Virgo merc

Libra venus

Gem mars

Virgo jup

Aqua saturn

Cap Uranus

Cap Nept.

Scorp pluto

the gems wants ur sun, the scorps want ur moon, and the sags want ur rising. i think

ur gem rising is what has u so open at first. then ur true virgo/cap nature kicks in when they get close which makes you cold.

Posted by Ophiuchus
the gems wants ur sun, the scorps want ur moon, and the sags want ur rising. i think

ur gem rising is what has u so open at first. then ur true virgo/cap nature kicks in when they get close which makes you cold.

Oh I see. I look at my actions and know that I'm odd or confusing. I catch myself doing a lot of similar things my scorp friend does but I'm not a scorp. We both cover our true feelings and put a mask on. We both can sense the bs the other is saying and know what the other is trying to say although we both speak "straight forward". I love learning from him so I thought I picked up some of his characteristics but started to doubt that. Thanks for clearing things up! I guess it also bores me when they don't speak my "language".

@starwars

Posted by capricornmoon
Call a spade a spade. When you finally meet someone you're extremely attracted to, I mean charming, intelligent. Sexy, powerful etc., all those combinations, you'd open up real quick. Average, basic dudes do not do the trick.

And also, you're a Virgo, aka, a perfection seeking asshole. Embrace it

I'm cautious now though because I've already met that guy. It's the Scorpio friend I mentioned. Long story but we're just friends at the moment even though I see through his bs also. No other guy has been able to top him. They say it's no such thing as a perfect human but by golly, he sure is.

Posted by starwars
you're not difficult, you simply don't click with them on that level and is aware of that.

maybe I'm just making excuses for our cuckoo ways.

Lol no I agree! I totally know when I'm going to click with someone or not. I try to be as stern as possible but like you, I end up cutting them off for being pushy and trying to manipulate like you said. Just back off and let me breathe. I do feel bad also but I warn them so they know what is up. I'm glad you understand! By the way, I love Aquarius! Lol you seem awesome.

Posted by tiziani
Scorpio, Scorpio, Cancer composite.

You may have strong water ties to resolve in your individual life.

Wait, what do you mean?

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Posted by yauniboo777

Posted by starwars
you're not difficult, you simply don't click with them on that level and is aware of that.

maybe I'm just making excuses for our cuckoo ways.

Lol no I agree! I totally know when I'm going to click with someone or not. I try to be as stern as possible but like you, I end up cutting them off for being pushy and trying to manipulate like you said. Just back off and let me breathe. I do feel bad also but I warn them so they know what is up. I'm glad you understand! By the way, I love Aquarius! Lol you seem awesome.

glad I'm not the only one, you're awesome too! *fist bump*

watch out for hardcore friendzoning someone then falling for them, happened once. fucking nightmare! LOL

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*fist bump* back at ya lol. Oh trust me, I tell them that I take things very slow so if I change my mind then it'll be fine. You know we have to have backup plans haha.

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Posted by tiziani
Scorpio, Scorpio, Cancer composite.

You may have strong water ties to resolve in your individual life.

Wait, what do you mean?

With all three signs you mentioned, you make a composite Water sun in your relationship with them.

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Oh ok, thank you. Are those good or bad?

Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're just not into them. I don't get the guilt, but your mysterious ways probably turns them on

What they don't know tho is that underneath it all you're just a marble and not worth the chase

That they're lucky you're not giving them a chance

I've yet to meet a Virgo who wasn't self serving

Slow down cowboy. You're talking to a Virgo that is VERY selfless especially if I care about you, I practically become submissive (only if you are worthy, why give my all to dogs and pigs?)

Posted by capricornmoon
Call a spade a spade. When you finally meet someone you're extremely attracted to, I mean charming, intelligent. Sexy, powerful etc., all those combinations, you'd open up real quick. Average, basic dudes do not do the trick.

And also, you're a Virgo, aka, a perfection seeking asshole. Embrace it

This. Right. Here.

Having standards is not 'being difficult'.

Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by capricornmoon
Call a spade a spade. When you finally meet someone you're extremely attracted to, I mean charming, intelligent. Sexy, powerful etc., all those combinations, you'd open up real quick. Average, basic dudes do not do the trick.

And also, you're a Virgo, aka, a perfection seeking asshole. Embrace it

This. Right. Here.

Having standards is not 'being difficult'.

Standards is one thing an Aries Moon another, whole dilemma.....haha

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Do tell

Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by capricornmoon
Call a spade a spade. When you finally meet someone you're extremely attracted to, I mean charming, intelligent. Sexy, powerful etc., all those combinations, you'd open up real quick. Average, basic dudes do not do the trick.

And also, you're a Virgo, aka, a perfection seeking asshole. Embrace it

This. Right. Here.

Having standards is not 'being difficult'.

Standards is one thing an Aries Moon another, whole dilemma.....haha

Do tell

Quite the entree they can be..

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Still not getting...please elaborate.

I can be the same way. But honestly I just don't see myself getting married like everyone else BC I don't think I'll find anyone that I can open up to.

After a few dates with people I don't connect with and idle meaningless conversations, I just start to pull back.

But I truly believe my expectations aren't even that high. I just simply cannot show my vulnerabilities to anyone that I know of (relationship wise) right now. Maybe that will change in a while, but *shrugs*

You probably are cautious and afraid of getting hurt. Cap moon does that.

Let's put astrology to the side for a second as this is more of a pattern of behavior.

OP, not to say you're a bad person, but have you considered how your actions come across to the other person? Realistically and honestly?