The Same Old Song and Dance

Here's another "virgo man is distancing himself, what do I do?!" post for all of you. There's no way in hell you're tired of hearing these stories, right? 😛
Been close with my virgo for about 3-4 months. I've known him for about 2 years, but we didn't get romantically involved until now. Right before getting involved with my virgo I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, so I didn't want to rush anything. Virgo's last relationship ended 2 years ago, but it was a 6 year relationship with lots of bumps along the way. His ex cheated on him throughout the whole relationship (cheating started within the first year of them dating). Anyways, for as long as I've known him I've always been attracted to him. Not only physically, but there was just something about him... everyone talks about virgos showing their emotions through their eyes. So damn true! I've always noticed this with him. Anyways, we started talking, hanging out almost everyday and when we kissed... it was explosive. A kiss is a kiss, or so I thought. It was magical. He's opened up to me about how he felt, said he really liked me and that he's always liked me but didn't know how to take me (I'm a Cap btw). So for the past couple months we've gotten really close. If I'm not with him, I get texts every morning and throughout the day from him and always a text goodnight. It's sweet. He's told me he's always wanted to be with someone like me and that I'm too good for him. He's introduced me to a lot of his friends and family. Compliments me a lot and is always so helpful. Has opened up to me about his really rough childhood (he's dealt with some unimaginable things unfortunately). People around have assumed that we're dating, but we've never made it official. I'm kind of an idiot and don't want to seem clingy so instead I come off a bit detached, so when people ask if we're together and he's there I'll normally say things like, "no way. we're just friends!" He would laugh it off and say things back to me like, "keep telling yourself that," or "if you say so." But it's just I don't know what HE wants, and I assume (I'm always assuming, oops) that because he's a guy he doesn't want to commit. Also, just 2 weeks ago he randomly texted me saying that it's been hard for him to get close to someone since his ex, even though it's been 2 years and that might sound stupid to me, because he was in love and getting hurt sucks. I told him I totally understand, but to get close to anyone you have to take the risk.

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Well anyways, I just saw him this last weekend (we live 2.5 hours away) and he was totally distant, which was strange. I was just on vacation and during my whole trip he was texting me saying he missed me, couldn't wait to see me, and sending kissey faces with texts (don't judge, haha). But I get back from vacation and go visit him and he's distant. He apologized for being distant and said he had a lot on his mind. Well, when I returned home from being by him I got to (over)thinking and needed clarity. So I texted him saying, "ever since you said you've had a lot on your mind you seem less interested in me and if whatever is on your mind is making your feelings for me change, it's okay. Just tell me. I'd rather know. I feel weird saying all this, but I'll feel better knowing." His response, "Don't feel weird and idk I'm just not wanting to get serious." I said, "neither do I, I've been saying that all summer." Even though I would like to get serious down the road... and honestly, from everything he's said and done I got the feeling he wanted the same. Now I just don't know. I think we've both given each other mixed messages in fear of being rejected and now it's just a confusing mess. Since my last text to him he hasn't responded (which is so out of character for him) and it's been about 2 days. I figure I should just give him space. Suggestions, opinions?

Posted by blackmagicwoman

Virgo's last relationship ended 2 years ago, but it was a 6 year relationship with lots of bumps along the way. His ex cheated on him throughout the whole relationship (cheating started within the first year of them dating).

You write the above, so you have some vague knowledge that it exists ... but, you seem incapable of putting two and two together.

Do you honestly believe that he has magically changed just because of you?

Not quite sure what you mean. Could you explain? She cheated on him, he didn't cheat on her.