Tricky test or forgetful?

So I reconnnected with a Virgo crush recently. We've been casual friends for a long while with a small flirtation occurring last year that cooled off. Now, we're back to being a little bit closer.

Two weeks ago I worked up the nerve to ask him to the movies through a text message. He didn't respond which made me think he wasn't interested, but then he brought me a little present to church a couple of days later (We go to the same church so see each other every Sunday) and apologized for not texting back, saying he was just really busy with two jobs and a commute. So, I believed him.

Well, movies turned into me organizing a movie night at my sister's place with me, him, my sister and his best friend. Nothing majorly romantic happened, just a fun night. My favorite part was when he hugged me goodbye. (He ended up leaving at 3:30 a.m.!) He just kinda held me and rested his chin on my head which was super sweet.

BUT...here's the weird moment that I'm hoping y'all can help me with: He "forgot" my birthday. Last year, during a night out he mentioned my birthday. "You know my birthday?" I asked him. "Yeah. It's the same day as my grandma so I always remember it." I was pleasantly surprised that he had my birthday memorized. He even texted me Happy Birthday at midnight...on the correct date.

Well, at movie night, we started talking about checking out a painting class and one of the classes is on my birthday! He said, "That not your birthday. Your birthday is April 20." Nope. Huh? I tell him, "How can you forget my birthday when you remembered it last year!" He again said, "that's my grandma's birthday so that's cool." And I tell him, "Yes, I know. You told me that last year." He just gave a little chuckle and we moved to naming other friends' birthdays.

Can a Virgo really forget something he once remembered or did he want me to believe he forgot? I kinda felt like he wanted to act like he didn't know my birthday in front of his best friend. It's just a weird move, that made me wonder if there was a game behind it. Is that paranoid? Ha.

Posted by JoMarch85
He "forgot" my birthday.

Those quotation marks tell me you pretty much are already leaning in the direction of this being a test.

he likes teasing your brain of course he remembers they remember everything!

My Virgo BF forgets conversations we've had. Like discussions about drafts in my house. He'll check out my doors for drafts. He has done this 3 times already. I asked him if he remembers we've already talked about this and he says "oh we have"?!?! I don't get it cause he'll remember others things. I think his brain is exhausted and he has to much going on up there.

They want you to believe that they are straight up people and when you give them the benefit of the doubt, then you realize that they are just like everyone else and will mess with you for whatever reason.

It could be to just amuse themselves, test you....as long as they can justify it, then it's perfectly alright. But don't you try to do it to them.

Similar to scorps....controlling. Yep they can be the biggest trolls.

So, you start to reconnect with someone from the past .... and of all the things for you to focus on about him, about the two of you, about the future .....


... your concern is him not recognizing your birthday?


really?


You must be a certified attention whore .. because a thing such as that is insignificant in the whole scheme of things, when it comes to trying to reconnect with someone.

Truly, once he gets past the opportunity of hitting it, then it will all come rushing back to him as to why you weren't partner worthy and why he didn't push further to get you ... and episodes like this, where you present yourself as being self-centered will be the principle he stands on, as he walks away.

Thanks for the input everyone! Helps me put things into perspective. Hanging out with him this weekend, so excited about that. 🙂

Posted by P-Angel

So, you start to reconnect with someone from the past .... and of all the things for you to focus on about him, about the two of you, about the future .....


... your concern is him not recognizing your birthday?


really?

I suppose my concern was that by not recognizing my birthday, it was his way of saying to me that I'm not someone he cares about. That I'm forgettable. It wasn't the case, but that was my fear.

As for your comment about "once he gets past the opportunity of hitting it, then it will all come rushing back to him as to why you weren't partner worthy and why he didn't push further to get you"

Yikes. Are you talking about sex? I'm actually a super prude and very guarded about intimacy so that's not likely to happen. See, we were getting closer last year, but then I started dating someone else exclusively so we stopped hanging out. It wasn't that he didn't push further, it was that I was swept away by a Sagi. But, that relationship taught me that maybe you shouldn't be with someone too much like yourself. Am I scared that the Virgo will look at me differently now? Maybe our tide has changed and I missed my window with him, but I'm willing to try a little harder to find out.

Sorry. I hid my previous update because it just sounded like a personal journal entry. I just needed to vent about my Virgo crush!

But, he leaves for a summer program next week and said he wanted to spend his last weekend with me (and his closest friends) so I'm accepting that we're close, but not necessarily in the romantic sense.

I'm gonna tell him he's important to me this weekend. And once it's out, I can move forward 🙂