Trying to catch Virgo guy's interest - HELP!

Hey guys!

I'm a capricorn myself and met this wonderful guy who I found out is a virgo and he fits just about everything under the sun in describing a virgo. We've talked a few times over the last 1-2 months and he seems like the nicest guy, but pretty closed-off, like he's happy with his small circle/himself. I think he may have come out of a relationship rather recently as well (Recent being like 2-4 months ago). When I first started talking to him he was pretty shy/quiet, answers weren't very long but always maintained good eye contact, always smiled (genuine smile not fake). Lately we've talked more and more every time we've seen each other and every time he's mentioned more about himself and asked me more questions about myself as well. He even remembers random things I tell him (one day I mentioned I was attending a conference and when I saw him a week later he asked me about said conference). I thought I had hit a breakthrough when he suggested we hang out outside of what we usually do. Seeing this as a clear sign of interest, I decided to ask him out the next time I saw him, and while he said yes and seemed excited, he never called (even though he said he would). Since then we've run into each other plenty of times and his interactions are even friendlier than before (and his smiles seem to get bigger to boot).

Some people suggest going slow with him, like not trying to rush into anything and not scaring him. I would love to get closer to him, but I don't know how to do that without actually asking him out. We have a few hobbies in common so I was thinking of inviting him to do one of those together, but I don't know how long I should wait. Other people suggested I ask him to hang out with some of my friends, but given how he seems like the quiet type I don't know if it's a good idea to put him in a situation with a bunch of people he doesn't know. It might scare him off.

This might sound silly, but I know that if I can just sit down with him for, say, half an hour, I think we could really connect because from the few times we've talked we've had a lot in common and even interrupt each other when we speak. My ex was a virgo, and even though we weren't a 'love at first sight', we fell for each other after having a 5 hour conversation while sitting in the library because we were able to connect.

I don't know. Any of you virgo guys like to pitch in? Or girls who managed to snag a virgo guy?

compliment him,
but not overly
show interest
in his interests
but not too obviously
soon you will get to the details of his life
they will inspire your life
enjoy your new friend
if the kissings good
you have him
hook line and sinker

Thanks guys! I will def. go slow with him and if I see a good opportunity to ask him for something casual I will. Earlier I ran into him while moving some boxes and asked him if he wanted to accompany me to the dumpster (so romantic, right?) and he came with me and we talked, mainly both of us asking questions about each other's company/work.

I guess I'm just really insecure about everything because I never heard back when he said he'd call, but at the same time, instead of giving me the cold shoulder afterwards he actually became friendlier and more open, and heck, took a trip to the dumpster with me where he was asking more questions and keeping the conversation alive more than I was. Is that a normal virgo thing?

They move like snails. So take it one day at a time.

I think you guys are right in the move like snails part. I have a BIG UPDATE since last time I posted - check this out.

I had tickets to an event I knew he loved and that I was interested in going (I got them free). I asked him if he wanted to join me for lunch so I could ask him questions about the event and he agreed, he suggested the place, I suggested the time and we met for lunch. Throughout lunch we were both talking non-stop; it literally took him the whole hour to eat the small soup he brought because we talked so much. At the end he invited me to grab coffee with him and when it came time to order he offered to pay, so I let him but with the promise that I'd get him next time. After coffee (which we continued to talk through) I brought up the tickets and the event and he seemed super excited, asked me if I was going and I just asked him if he wanted to come with me. He said yes and we exchanged phone numbers.

The next day (Friday) I was leaving work and I got a call from him. He was just calling to talk, confirm the next day, and wait for it... ask me for dinner that same night. I was already almost home at the time with other plans so I had to decline, but we talked for a good hour on the phone about random things.

Yesterday we went to the event. It was only like a 3 hour thing, so that's what I planned for. So we go through the event and we're talking the whole time until the doors close. He tells me he's thirsty and suggests we grab a drink. We sit and we talk for like, a good 2 hours. He then says he's hungry and asks if I want to grab a bite, which I of course agree. We settle on a restaurant and again, we talk for hours on end, try each other's food and everything. He paid for it without me even seeing - and it was expensive! He asked me if I was still hungry (the portions were small) and I admitted I was and he suggested we get ice cream. So we go out for ice cream and again, talk for hours. He eventually walks me to my car where we talk a bit more and we have the whole 'I had a great time, we should do this again' speech and even though he's supposed to walk away he just.. lingers there and is smiling and looking me in the eyes. I get nervous and ask if he wanted a ride to his car (parked far away) and he agreed. I drive him over, we park and continue talking for another hour. We do the speech again, he continues to linger, but nothing.

So, yeah, amazing like 10 hour day together, but no kiss 😢

lol! My mom said the same thing :p

I guess he's either shy or just wants to take it slow? At least, that's what I'm hoping. He never dropped the 'friend' line on me, and when we ran into some people he knew, he just introduced me by name (not 'this is my friend ____').

try kissing him rather

Wouldn't that be too forward/aggressive of me?

Virgo male cap female relationships are something to marvel at. But sometimes the world will interfere so watch out for that.

But you are probably on the road to a wonderful and fulfilling relationship.

Be mature and be grown up. And above all make sure that he is as well. If he's slightly immature he could blow it out of stupidity.

I wish the best of luck.

Thanks, and I hope you're right 🙂 So far it looks like the world is interfering in the right direction. All of last week we kept running into each other in the most unlikely places, and I had just happened to get free tickets to this thing to boot. To think that if we had never run into each other as much as we did, none of this would have happened.

Posted by DarkTrainer
Wouldn't that be too forward/aggressive of me?

heavens no!
please do.
prepare yourself for a tsunami of respect from your virgo.
he'll find you very interesting

Good to know!

One more question.. should I wait for him to call/make contact now? Technically I was the one who invited him to the event, though he was the one who invited me to all 3 follow up events (drinks, dinner, dessert), so I dunno what's appropriate. I just hope I made it clear enough that I liked him and that he's not having any doubts.

*Sigh* The good ol' Virgo (Male) Capricorn (Female) pairing..... match made in the heavens :p

I'm a Virgo myself and was actually in a very long term relationship with a Capricorn. It was great while it lasted but as MIAMIVIRGO mentioned above, sometimes the world WILL interfere. The kiss...hummm go with your intuition. Honestly he probably hasn't made a move on you because he's trying to make sure that the kiss is "perfect". What a virgo thing to say -____- lol but in all serious that could probably be the case. He wants the first kiss to be something memorable, a kiss you'll never forget.

Thanks for the vote of confidence, though I feel I may have screwed everything up just now.

I was talking to someone from work on my phone and walking around outside when I suddenly look up and see him walking alongside me. He smiles, waves and mouths a 'hi' to me and I finish up my phone conversation and start talking to him. Conversation feels awkward (or maybe it's just me because I'm nervous as hell at this point), I talk to him about the game his team played this week, we chat a bit about that, he tells me he thinks he's getting sick (he had a box of medicine in his hand) and then I panic and just ask him if he's up for lunch. I mean, he said yes and we agreed on the time and place, but I feel terrible about it. I should be giving him his space, letting him make some of the moves and I just mucked it all up. Argh, what was I thinking? I just had more random stuff I wanted to talk about that I didn't have time for so that was the first thing that came to my mind.. ugh.

Lol.... You haven't screwed anything up. In fact, you're playing your cards just right. This is what you have to understand about a Virgo, which I'm sure you're aware of, we live in our minds for way too long and we analyze/over-analyze situations very often. We're very very observant. He's noticing every single thing that is going on every time you guys meet up. In a way he's taking notes (I know i would). You probably feel that you're not giving him his space or that you're smothering him, right? That's definitely not the case. If a Virgo feels smothered he will not say anything, you WILL notice the slow detachment. No more phone calls, texts, hanging out, etc. you name it. I'm sure he enjoys your company & not only that, he likes the fact that he's needed. Don't over-analyze the situation DarkTrainer, everything is going to fall into place sooner than later....trust me.

I appreciate that 🙂 I guess I live in my head too and keep over-analyzing everything he does and says to death.

We met for lunch (whew, he didn't cancel) and conversation was as great as it had been Saturday. Afterwards he asked if I wanted to grab a quick coffee and I said yes, though I didn't have my purse and had no plan of ordering anything, just keeping him company. When we get there and the barrista asks what I want I just say 'oh, nothing, thanks' and my virguy looks puzzled, so i explain, and he says 'oh, order something, i'll get it' and I object but he gives me a little smirk and says 'don't worry about it'. I thank him, and get something cheap.

So... we'll see what happens. It's just weird; he seems to have a good time whenever we go out but when I give him opportunities to ask me out but he doesn't (he asked what I was doing this weekend, I said no plans, he said same). So far he's 5/5 with asking for immediate date follow-ups, but not the initial meeting. Why is this? Is it a virgo thing?