V-guy and Cappy gal

I've been dating a Cappy gal. Our most recent date was the 4th date. I'm starting to fret a lot. I'm a nearly 46 yo male (on Aug 31) She's 52.

Besides passionate kissing, there has been nothing else... no sex of any kind. This worries me. She's already told me "kissing is no big deal" and "I make a better friend than a girlfriend".

After our last make out session, which lasted several hours... Her email to me the next day included "don't rush things". I'm thinking... RUSH? IT's been FOUR dates!

I'm thinking now, I'll give her two more dates to "play" or I'm going to demote her to a plain old friend, and give up any thought of sharing any passion with her.

She had me from date one. Although I held myself back, because I needed to see how she was around horses (a HUGE passion for me). I soon found her to be a good rider, and on another date, a good horsewoman... although not quite as devoted to horses as I am... but still enough to let myself go and start to dream about her.

But still she's holding back. It goes against conventional wisdom... but I LOVE sex on the first date... it endears me all the more to a gal. However, I know some gals need time to think things out... but FOUR DATES? Am I being unrealistic here? Common V-guys... I need some advice here = )

I think she's "oh so hot" but can only handle so much kissing without sex... before I have to put a stop to it... it's just too much hope... too much heat... too much, too much. I can't handle this much longer.

At one time she asked me "what's your timetable?". I hate being put on the spot like that. I am no wheelerdealer. I suck as a salesman... I always err on the side of caution... giving myself time. I told her "a year and a day". Her reply was "it won't take that long if I dig you".

But the truth is... time is rapidly running out. If I think she doesn't REALLY dig me after say... six dates... then I figure, it ain't NEVER gonna happen. And I'm not about to tell her the ACTUAL time table, because I HATE fakers. I don't want her if she PRETENDS to dig me, just to keep me.

So I'm thinking, if two more dates go by, and no passion... I'm going to quit trying. Quit being the first to kiss... and even if she kisses me first... give a peck, then say... "look at the time, I have to go". Then quit thinking of her as a potential mate.

I suppose I'd give her a little more time... not write her off completely. But basically from that point on, figure it AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN.

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