Virgo Confusion

So I've been dating on and off a Virgo who has said "he just wants to be friends". "He's not ready for a relationship"...we've gotten closer (over the phone) and more distanced physically. Anytime lately I invite him somewhere he says "no" because he's afraid of us "falling in love" for ex invited him on a trip which was partly his idea but he was afraid that "we'd make love all day"...so he called me to wish me happy New Years and then called me again (could tell he was deep in thought) to say he was worried about me and cared for me so I said "wish you were here" and he got off the phone quickly. Any advice? I'm trying to simply be friends right now but we definitely like each other a lot and I would love to be with him but know we both need to work on our own selves and he's the type of guy that wants to be a perfect partner and also very afraid. Any advice? I'm a libra he's a virgo.

Posted by Confused123
but he was afraid that "we'd make love all day"

Amazing the modern man's phobias.

"He's not ready for a relationship" -> truth

"We'd make love all day" -> hint at the scenario of something emerging at some point.

also having a way out since he did tell you he isn't ready.

he either is confused or totally playing you for a fool. both of the scenarios should make you take a step back.

Thank you

Posted by Confused123

Virgo who has said "he just wants to be friends".
"He's not ready for a relationship".
ex invited him on a trip which was partly his idea
I said "wish you were here" and he got off the phone quickly.

Look at 3rd quote..He is going away on a trip with his EX and it was HIS idea.

That's ^^a man who when they WANT to be with a woman, they TELL the woman they do, followed by they are WITH the woman they want to be with. There's no such thing as "trying to simply be friends"..there's no effort in that, so wash your hands of this one and move on. If he wants to be friends, let him come to you, and keep the love mush out of it.

And why did you have to be told this, exactly?

Do you have mush for brains?


You can't try to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for.

Seriously .... what are you? 12?

Are you willing to go for a guy who is afraid to fall in love with you ?
Giving friendship to someone who needs love is like giving bread to someone thirsty. Plus, he has already told you that he doesn't want a Relationship with you, nor want to go deeper with you in a physical level.
Why are you so confused ? It is clear that this is not going anywhere
Looks like is not into you the way that you are into him..
Good luck with this though

he doesn't know what he wants!
& he is very precocious on who he wants to be with!
give him time he's feeling you out! 🙂

total bullbutter.

Posted by Confused123

Virgo who has said "he just wants to be friends". "He's not ready for a relationship"...

Posted by Confused123

we've gotten closer (over the phone) and more distanced physically.

Posted by Confused123

Anytime lately I invite him somewhere he says "no" because he's afraid of us "falling in love"

Posted by Confused123
I said "wish you were here" and he got off the phone quickly.

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Let's forget for a moment that many Virgos come equipped with Libran placements that like to be nice and let people down gently. Let's also forget that he's a Virgo and instead look at this person as only a man.

If he's telling you that he doesn't want a relationship with you, you should probably listen. And while he may be tempted by sexual intimacy because he's a human being, he's also withholding from partaking which is quite a sign. What you have on your hands is a man that doesn't want a romantic relationship, doesn't want a sexual relationship, and who refuses to reciprocate wishes for your company.

So really it comes down to two options: learn to be friends and *only* friends, or move on without him in your life.