Virgo English Please!!!

He's into you. Stop second-guessing it.
The only reason he may be second-guessing it is because he doesn't know where you stand, and wants to avoid getting shot down.
The best way to handle a virgo in this situation - figure out for yourself where you stand with him. Do you want a relationship or not? If so, what kind of relationship? When? Then sit down and have a straight-forward discussion, interjected with lots of compliments, of course, to keep the male ego interested while you two figure it out. Don't rely on mixed signals or body language or any kind of analysis to figure him out. that won't turn out well because you will probably end up being wrong. Just find out exactly what the two of you want and meet somewhere on common ground.
Whether you decide to have a relationship or remain friends, your bond will be strengthened by this approach.

"we are going on a trip for a few days together with other friends and we are sharing a hotel room he just wanted to get one bed instead of two because he doesn't mind sleeping next to me well, I'm getting emotionally too involved with him and I'm not sure where he stands."

I think that women have taken on the position to do not only all the work in developing relationships, also, all the responsibility to the other when it comes to needs. Men are NOT stupid .. they know full well that women are emotional beings and if a man says, that he doesn't mind just sleeping next to a woman who he knows is "feeling" him, then that would show me that he doesnt' care about my emotions because if he did, he wouldn't torment me like that.

He knows, Sweetheart .. and yet, he would allow you to suffer. Men are allowed to do this, it seems .. women just let them hurt them and then take all the pain. In your position, I wouldn't permit the sleeping in the same bed and when he protested about it, I would tell him .. stand up like a man and take responsibility for you're woman's feelings, or get lost.

"when he says whomever then it makes me feel like I'm going to get hurt because he's not sure of what he wants and I feel like I'm one of many women or something"

This is because he is permitted to ignore his responsibility to your feelings. Why should he care whether you are hurt or not .. if you allow it?

"Then sit down and have a straight-forward discussion, interjected with lots of compliments, of course, to keep the male ego interested while you two figure it out."

"Don't rely on mixed signals or body language or any kind of analysis to figure him out. that won't turn out well because you will probably end up being wrong. Just find out exactly what the two of you want and meet somewhere on common ground."

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Additionally, referencing the above post from another responser .. to interject with tons of compliments to keep the male ego stroked is in fact, the same thing as mixed signals. You are being told not to rely on his mixed signals, while, at the same time giving him some mixed signals just for the sake of his ego.

If you are trying to figure this man out .. giving him false signals just for the sake of his ego, will only fuck things up further .. you want him to be real, don't you? Then you have to be so, also.

Have you seen the movie, "The Holiday"? With Jude Law, Jack Black, Cameron Diaz & shoot, I can't think of the other girls name, she was in "The Titanic".

Anyway, in this movie .. this situation arises. The man KNOWS the girl is emotionally connected to him and he keeps messing with her anyway. Men shouldn't be allowed to do that, anymore than women should get away with being a c-tease.

I know you're trying, Sweetheart, I remember all the things you've posted him. I wish I could tell you that there's an easier way to deal with these men who dont' communicate well in the beginning of a union, but, I can't because there probably isn't one.

Whatever you do .. don't let yourself feel like you have no control of this situation. This isn't just about his feelings, his decision and his life .. you have to take care of you first.

"I actually did try to have a conversation with him this weekend but, he avoided it and told we will talk later about everything. Just a brush off to avoid the converation for now."


See, just like that.

That's not fair. When he does come to you and want to talk, brush him off .. let him see how this feels, when he's upset because his feelings are hurt, then he'll understand that this hurts you, too .. he'll turn around, then. With my Virgo, I have to do this sometimes and it's because they have no empathy. If something doesn't effect them directly, they are unable to understand how what they do effects another person. Once his feelings have been effected, the light goes off.

Quite Frankly .. I would have no clue as to where an ex from a year ago was vacationing, nor who was with him .. unless he told me so. For the life of me, I can't figure out why I would be privy to his private life if we were exes from a year ago.

Furthermore, I can't fathom why on earth my boyfriends attitude toward me would change like that unless he'd just been caught cheating .. in which case, what the woman did wasn't mean at all .. in fact, a verbal ass beating is what she should have done to him for cheating on her.

ASSHOLE .. but, you know .. you knew, Sweets. Him stringing you along, wanting sex without any commitment, nor communication on where the two of you stood IS what started this thread in the first place.

Sweetheart .. you can't go back in time and change this, the only thing you can do is learn something from it to take into the future. Next time, if a similiar situation arises ..

.. SLEEP ON THE FLOOR, IN THE LOBBY, IN THE KITCHEN CUPBOARD .. anywhere except in the bed of a man to whom won't communicate with you, quote, "I actually did try to have a conversation with him this weekend but, he avoided it and told we will talk later about everything. Just a brush off to avoid the converation for now."

You set yourself up and the low-life, scumball sumbich took it ..

I'm sorry, I'm just bitching because it ticked me off. Are you ok?

Screw him, Sweetheart .. you don't need his shit sticking to the bottom of your shoe, let him go suck the life out of somebody else .. you have a love to find, one that's honest and pure .. and he's out there looking for you. 🙂