Virgo ghosting- Part 2

There are way too many posts here about Virgo men ghosting. Like seriously,why?!?! Sometimes this makes me feel like they are not a relationship/husband material at all. Sorry, I am just frustrated right now. Our relationship has gone rocky after our graduation these 2 months but despite that we'd at least talk daily and he never ghosted on me. He is prepping for this really competitive exam in November for MBA and he knows its too tough to crack so he said if he wont be able to make it then he has to prep for jobs. We met after a month on July 20th and spent 2 days and 2 nights together.We had a great time but then next day while returning home I saw there was a text from this girl(they are friends and only interact on Instagram. She texts him like a leech(texts him everyday and if he doesnt reply even once,she'll get clingy) and behaves like he's single even though he's been very open about our relationship on Insta by posting our pics, writing lovey dovey captions and stuff). I have been suspicious about their "friendship" for months and we have had too many fights related to this so I demanded him to show me what she texted. He is very secretive in general but double secretive whenever she texts and he deletes their chat when I am around. I forced him to show me and I saw it was some pic with "Let's Make Out" written with M being McDonald's M. I got mad and he said "this is exactly why I hide. This was just a McDonald's joke. You always misinterpret and get mad and that's why I hide".

When I got off the train he didn't text me asking if I reached home safe(something he'd always do). We again fought next day when I confronted him how he cheated on me with her by having conversations of such sort. Then he got mad and said "I never cheated on you. I never cheat on anyone". We got angry and he said some unforgivable hurtful things and we blocked each other on Whatsapp(that's where we always talk). After 5 days of no talk he sms'ed me that he has to go to college for some work and said "if you want to accompany me you can and if you dont want to ,it's fine". I said yes (because I had some work too and because I wanted us to personally sort things out). We unblocked each other on whatsapp, and just discussed timings and that's it. We met the next day and he was trying to be all affectionate grabbing my waist and keeping his hand on my shoulder and I asked him not to(as I was mad).He tried making me laugh by cracking lame jokes and singing silly songs but that's not what I wanted. I finally bursted out and I asked him why is he so addicted to her and he said there's nothing like that and how it's her initiating the talks and sharing. I saw she msgsed again and i asked him to show and she had written" no i dont want to meet". I asked him what is this about and he told me how she hookedup and madeout with her cousin who wants to meet her again for "fun". Like this is the kind of talks they have. He said she's the one doing most of the talking and sharing.

We went to a nearby mall and when he saw I am still mad so he said "you should give some space to your boyfriend.I dont cheat". I asked him "what do you want from me?- he said "i want you to be normal". I asked "do you want this relationship"-he said "yes". I asked "are you sure?" - he replied "yes". Then I saw she messaged again and i again asked to see and she had messaged "why did you not reply me after seeing my msg? Dont you have any manners?". I was like "wow". I smilingly told him to reply that he's busy in an outing with his gf. He said he wont msg that. He was adamant. We didn't talk much after that and we left for home. Again,he didn't text.

I texted him saying that it feels like he doesnt have feelings for me anymore. We hardly talk lately. He replied "I just got back home.Look I am already really tensed about my exam so please dont add more stress. I need a break till November". I told him "why doesn't he say that to her when she texts him?". He didn't read it. It's all on whatsapp so I know he read it offline so those blue ticks of read doesnt showup for me. Then next day I again texted "I need to talk to you". He replied "after november".

Then 3 days later I texted "hi. I miss you. I love you.Bye" and he replied the next day "after november.Also my phones touchpad isn't working so i wont get on whatsapp much. I am replying this to you through whatsapp web.Bye". I would keep an eye on insta and I would see him like people's photos. I know you can do it through Insta web version. Last weekend there was an occasion and I wished him on whatsapp and he read it the next day but he didn't reply. It was SO rude. 4 days later i.e.3 days ago I went on a roadtrip with my dad and I posted stories of all photos on whatsapp. He saw those. No message. Then next day I posted pics from day 2 of my trip and they are still visible now. He came online, he saw my friend's whatsapp story(got to know from that friend) and he purposely didn't see mine. He doing this intentionally. Now I even think he lied about his phone's touchpad not working just to avoid me.

I don't understand what's going on and why is he behaving like this. He doesn't want to breakup and at the same time he's behaving like I don't exist. Sorry about the long post. I really need virgo men's perspective on whats going on here. Also, ladies who have experienced a virgo man your input would be helpful too.

he's an untrustworthy dumb cunt and i'd dump him.

let him text her and just block him everywhere.

virgos do that, keep contact with people from the past. we're curious. sure we may not initiate nor participate all that much but we still leave them floating around. that's fine whatever but he's not even trying much to make you feel secured.

@virgoOPPP but then why isn't he just breaking up? I am not his past. I am his very present.

I repeatedly asked him if he wants to breakup, has he lost feelings for me and he just keeps replying "i'll talk after november". Like WTF ?!?! And when 2 weeks ago I got frustrated and told him that I am breaking up with him when I read that insta dm from that girl, I was pretty adamant on breaking up but even then he didn't let me. He's avoiding a breakup and at the same time he's behaving like I don't exist.

I am all support for his career. I want him to do best. Months ago he had said that if he doesn't make it then he'd have to breakup with me until he finds a good job. Instead, I have always made it clear to him that at this phase of our life I want us to prioritize our career over our relationship. I am fine if he wants a break from this relationship if he feels he can't focus on his MBA exam. When I asked him what he means by a break he said "taking some time off from each other while still staying committed". I am all up for him prioritizing his exam over me but here it looks like he's prioritizing that girl over me.

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ghosting, hot/cold, flaking, distant= not that serious about you

True, but then why is he not breaking up or letting me breakup? Each time I say "we need to talk" ,he replies "after november" aka after his MBA exam in Nov.

When I ask "do you want to be in this relationship?" - he says "yes".

When I say "I am breakingup with you" - he avoids that talk.

When I say " You dont have feelings for me anymore" - he says "after November"

When I say "We need to talk" - he says "after November"

When I say "I love you" - he says "after November".

When I reply "why dont you say "After November" to her when she texts you everyday?" - he wont reply.

When I wished him on an occasion last Sunday he read it 2 days later and didn't reply.

When I posted photos from my roadtrip on whatsapp he saw day 1's photos but didn't see yesterday's even though he actively saw other people's. Basically he intentionally ignored mine. I don't understand why is he doing this.

I remember him telling me months ago that he's not like me who can focus on 2 important things at a time. He treats me like a trophy gf on Instagram so all our college mates think we've been great. Besides, he had also few times cribbed about how I have had this best natured girl image in college and how he has this not-so-good image among collegemates so he said that if anything goes wrong and we fall apart then how people would blame him for messing things up between us.



Also,I don't mean to brag but I feel I must mention that I'd be moving to US for my Master's and I got into an Ivy League which is kinda too competitive and prestigious to get into and I'd be leaving in less than 3 weeks. So when I confronted about how he's prioritizing Instagram over me and our relationship he said that I am well settled and I have everything perfect in my life so I have no stress and how he has a lot of stress about his career as he doesn't know how he'll perform in his Nov exam.

Last week Monday he had some work in college so he asked me to accompany him and I did and we fought when I confronted him about his inappropriate attention for that girl. It's been a week since he texted and it's been over 2 weeks since we talked properly. This upcoming week he again has some work in college and 99.9% he'd text me then to accompany him. What should I do then? Should I go?

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@virgoOPPP but then why isn't he just breaking up? I am not his past. I am his very present.

I repeatedly asked him if he wants to breakup, has he lost feelings for me and he just keeps replying "i'll talk after november". Like WTF ?!?! And when 2 weeks ago I got frustrated and told him that I am breaking up with him when I read that insta dm from that girl, I was pretty adamant on breaking up but even then he didn't let me. He's avoiding a breakup and at the same time he's behaving like I don't exist.

I am all support for his career. I want him to do best. Months ago he had said that if he doesn't make it then he'd have to breakup with me until he finds a good job. Instead, I have always made it clear to him that at this phase of our life I want us to prioritize our career over our relationship. I am fine if he wants a break from this relationship if he feels he can't focus on his MBA exam. When I asked him what he means by a break he said "taking some time off from each other while still staying committed". I am all up for him prioritizing his exam over me but here it looks like he's prioritizing that girl over me.

maybe a break would be good.

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@virgoOPPP but then why isn't he just breaking up? I am not his past. I am his very present.

I repeatedly asked him if he wants to breakup, has he lost feelings for me and he just keeps replying "i'll talk after november". Like WTF ?!?! And when 2 weeks ago I got frustrated and told him that I am breaking up with him when I read that insta dm from that girl, I was pretty adamant on breaking up but even then he didn't let me. He's avoiding a breakup and at the same time he's behaving like I don't exist.

I am all support for his career. I want him to do best. Months ago he had said that if he doesn't make it then he'd have to breakup with me until he finds a good job. Instead, I have always made it clear to him that at this phase of our life I want us to prioritize our career over our relationship. I am fine if he wants a break from this relationship if he feels he can't focus on his MBA exam. When I asked him what he means by a break he said "taking some time off from each other while still staying committed". I am all up for him prioritizing his exam over me but here it looks like he's prioritizing that girl over me.

maybe a break would be good.

A break "up" will do better.

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yeah i think so too but it's not like she'll listen

Guysss, don't get me wrong. I did initiate breaking up but he kept avoiding that talk and stuck on "taking a break till his exam".

The only reason I didn't push that hard is because even though he has been a total ass with this behaviour, I don't want it to feel like our relationship brokeup just because I wasn't supportive and understanding of his exam prep.

Please don't misunderstand me. I am no way justifying or defending him else I wouldn't be here. It's just that I have read SO many articles on virgo men and how they disappear once in a while(he has rarely done this to me before.We always stuck through during worst of times and never did he disappear then) and how they stress a lot about anything to do with career and all that yadda yadda.

Again, I dont mind if he prioritizes his exam prep over me. Rather, that's what I want. What my problem is that I've been feeling like he's prioritizing instagram and that insta female-friend of his over me and our relationship while not breaking up with me. His deliberate attempts of ignoring my texts and anything related to me while being active on social media.

He’s being rude to you. Seriously you can’t even tell him you miss him til November?

But oh it’s fine if she messages him & complains if he doesn’t answer?

that’s a big nope! You’re right you’re not the priority and it’s not about school. He just thinks you’ll rollover in my opinion. So he can do what he wants.

Take care of you, don’t worry about him. If he cares he’ll shape up. If not, good riddance!

He’s saying he’s taking a break from you a few months? Until November?

Girl! Now is the time to send back a “ok,cool” and ghost his ass.

You’re too worried about what he’s gonna do with the new/old girl. But if he’s gonna be with her, there’s nothing you can do about it.

I say let him miss you. Right now he’s upset so he thinks he doesn’t need or want you.

Don’t reach out, and just give him the space he wants. He’ll come back around.

Nawww dogs...it's July lmaooo

You're a whole human being, how is he gonna just assume he can just "pause" you for 4 months??

Sis that's almost half a yearrrr. 💀💀💀💀

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

Either way, you were a little extra but he handled this pretty lame, esp with that 4 month request.

Jesus ain't even fast that long 💀

Then you obliged this bafoonery so he's rolling with it.

Put your foot down. You obviously want him to do well on his exams, but to postpone the issue when it's important to you for FOUR months is way too inconsiderate to ask of someone you supposedly care about.

He is being a dick but if you really want it to work out then just leave him alone. Accusing someone of cheating is actually pretty rude, talking to some girl is not a big deal in a larger sense of things you have to have some trust in him if you want this to work out in the long run. Give him space and then either let him initiate conversations or ask him casual things instead of confronting him, it will show him you are thinking of him and are also consistent with your affection. Once he feels more comfortable with you can build things up again.

Virgos are a very passive non confrontational sign. They hate conflict too, or the idea of someone being upset whit them. So they take the easy routine and ghost/distance. I wouldnt think everything hes said to you is the FULL truth....theyre manipulative. I say for your piece of mind disengage and drop him. He'll come back around when he realizes what a butter ball hes been.

THANK YOU ladies (and gentlemen,if any). These are some fantastic inputs.

Yeah the last time I whatsapped him was on Sunday. We had an occasion where you wish your friends so I wished him but he read it 2 days later and didn't even reply back and it was awfully rude. He was active on Instagram on Sunday as I saw he liked some classmate's pic.

Now I even doubt his phone's touchpad not working story. I have a strong feeling he lied about it to me to not interact with me.

2 weeks ago I whatsapped him that I love him and miss him and he replied "after november" and I replied "why don't you say that to her?" he totally ignored that.He read it offline so that I don't come to know he read it and he deleted my message. I didn't text him after Sunday. Then I posted some pics from day 1 of my roadtrip on Tuesday on whatsapp story which he saw on Wednesday but then I posted day 2 pics on Thursday but he deliberately didn't see mine but continued watching other people's stories.

Also, today that girl posted a picture of herself with her friend wishing her birthday and he liked that too so I am 100% sure he has been talking to her a lot the usual way on a regular basis. This makes me feel like I am being fooled big time. It looks like she's his de-stresser.

Also, last month he had talked about how he has to go to college to collect his Leaving Certificate and asked me if I'd accompany him and I had said yes. He had said that he'd visit this upcoming week. I have a feeling that he might whatsapp me for that. However, I cant be 100% sure that he will given how badly he has been ignoring me now for nothing,however, just in case if he does, should I agree to accompany him? What do ya'll think?

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this. We were in our favorite restaurant and had ordered our favorite dish. He is an Insta addict and I had confronted him before entering the restaurant so instead of choosing to spend his 100% attention on me he started scrolling though Insta because he was irritated by me because of the confrontation. Boom! There I saw a dm from her and I ordered him to show it to me. He said "hey, now you cant ask me to show you each time she texts" I replied "be grateful we weren't married right now else she'd have been out of your life forever already". Oh btw, she's a 15yrs old high school pass out. Now, when he showed me the msg, she had written "why did you not reply after reading? Dont you have any manners?".

I laughed and seriously said "can i please reply her?"

He: "what do you want to reply?"

Me: "I wont abuse, dont worry. You know that's not my thing. I'd just reply - Hi. He's out with his girlfriend. - His girlfriend.

He: " I swear on my mom I wont let you do that"

Me: "Come on. This was such a normal reply. Why are you behaving like you don't want her to know you have a girlfriend?"

He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Then our talk ended and our food came and we eat quietly while he kept surfing Insta. We must have hardly said 5 words after that. That was the last time we mutually talked and this was last week on Monday.

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We all think you should stop talking to him for good and find someone better. Why would you keep seeing a guy who ignores you and talks to another girl daily who he wants to meet and make out with at mcdonalds or whatever tf. He probably already met her. Is this your first boyfriend? Invite a new man who pays attention to you to hangout with you tonight and see how it feels.

This is my 1st serious relationship. We've been together for over a year now. We've been through a lot and have stuck through some really challenging times without disappearing on each other so this is coming as a big blow to me.

No, they never met. They had only met once yearsss ago because of some mutual common friend and for 5 minutes.That was their 1st and last meet. Their interaction is strictly on Instagram. He's all cool with hangingout with me. We live 1.5 hours far by train so we dont live nearby but he's all up for a lunch date or a movie date or just hangingout in general. I am leaving for the US in less than 3 weeks. It's my confrontations which have annoyed him. I am 100% sure if I was all cool and chill and fun he wouldn't have ghosted. He doesnt want to deal with my emotions and anger and confrontations right now.

Ok so I am a Sag Dom Aqua, I can't read all that because I dissociate too much but I do know that Virgos are so critical of themselves so maybe sometimes they get overwhelmed in there head about letting someone down or not being good enough so then they ghost. They may also feel like said person they are dealing with is not good enough and also ghost. I do not recommend mutables and dating anyway or Aqua so there you go.

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this. We were in our favorite restaurant and had ordered our favorite dish. He is an Insta addict and I had confronted him before entering the restaurant so instead of choosing to spend his 100% attention on me he started scrolling though Insta because he was irritated by me because of the confrontation. Boom! There I saw a dm from her and I ordered him to show it to me. He said "hey, now you cant ask me to show you each time she texts" I replied "be grateful we weren't married right now else she'd have been out of your life forever already". Oh btw, she's a 15yrs old high school pass out. Now, when he showed me the msg, she had written "why did you not reply after reading? Dont you have any manners?".

I laughed and seriously said "can i please reply her?"

He: "what do you want to reply?"

Me: "I wont abuse, dont worry. You know that's not my thing. I'd just reply - Hi. He's out with his girlfriend. - His girlfriend.

He: " I swear on my mom I wont let you do that"

Me: "Come on. This was such a normal reply. Why are you behaving like you don't want her to know you have a girlfriend?"

He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Then our talk ended and our food came and we eat quietly while he kept surfing Insta. We must have hardly said 5 words after that. That was the last time we mutually talked and this was last week on Monday.

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OMG DROP HIM!

he's so offensive and stop making excuses for his bullshit

why pisces women put up with shit i don't even know

he's a dumb cunt

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Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

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Sis, they fucking.

The fact he acknowledged she's basically a ho, but declines to tell her to leave him alone, or let you open that can of worms live, speaks volumes. - He likes the attention, the fact she's at his disposal any given time, and if you replied that, she would probably have been snarky in her response and blew his spot.

Either that or he cares so little about your feelings, he'd go through as great a length as to let you walk away over a random, than compromise, no matter how trivial he felt it was.

Do you really want to deal with either? lol

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

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I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

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I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Yeah, I agree. That part was creepy, suspicious and inappropriate af. When I asked him that day if he has feelings for her, he laughed and said "feelings?? I dont even like her that way". When i asked if they're bestfriends, he said "she's just a normal friend.That's it. Neither does she have any feelings for me. She's like this with every other guy she's friends with. You're just reading into things way too much and overthinking nonsense. I told you I'd never cheat, I never did, I didn't so far and I won't. You just need to give me space and stop stalking me".

See, I know his taste. As much as he wants a dirty bad girl, she's just not his type. She's not at all someone he'd consider as his girlfriend. I can bet the Brooklyn Bridge on that(not like I have that much money to bet on lol but still).

He only dates girls who have a very sober image, are highly mannered,are ambitious, dont speak or act trashy (now I am really not complimenting myself here but that's the truth). Also he hates clingy girls. He knows she's much clingier and demanding than I am. He looks down on girls like her. She is extremely attention seeking - to a ridiculous extent. She doesn't dress dirty at all but she has inappropriate talks with multiple guys. Like this one time I saw she had posted her chat with a guy where he talked about anal and how funny she thought that was that she posted that as her Insta story with laughing emojis. That's when I was confirmed that he'd never ever seriously date her. On top of that she telling him about making out with her cousin recently. She said she regrets it though. All these are the reasons why he said "girls like her are the hookup kind".

Last month he posted a picture of us on Insta where he wrote "you're the only fish in the sea for me. Better be a lobster". And 3 weeks ago after we had a bad fight when she sent that "Let's Make Out" trashy McDonalds "joke", he again posted our pic and captioned "Light is easy to love.Show me your darkness ❤️". She never liked any of our pics which he posted. It's like I am his public trophy offline and online whereas she's like his dirty secret which he never wants his side of the world to know.

However, yes, I completely agree with you ladies that he's certainly more than 100% enjoying her attention to an extent of choosing that over me and our relationship. As if he's addicted to her attention like some serious drug addict. It feels like she's his de-stresser. She's just 15 and she's not at all as much into academia so Instagram is his entertainment.

With her it's- 0 emotions. With that comes 0 stress. De-Stresser. Cheap talks. Loads of free attention. 0 commitment

With me it's - 100 emotions. With that comes 100 stress. My confrontations. Added Stress. Serious talks. Full commitment.

And maybe,just maybe, talking to me stresses him out even more making him think what if he doesn't

perform well in his MBA exam so he'll feel inferior to me given my achievement as of now so far.

Also once he said I am his distraction. It's weird because I always consider myself to be his motivator. Again, I don't want ya'll to misunderstand me that I am justifying his actions by any means. He's wrong - there's no doubt about that. I am just laying out everything so I can get all your perspectives.

Posted by Brittnie

Ok so I am a Sag Dom Aqua, I can't read all that because I dissociate too much but I do know that Virgos are so critical of themselves so maybe sometimes they get overwhelmed in there head about letting someone down or not being good enough so then they ghost. They may also feel like said person they are dealing with is not good enough and also ghost. I do not recommend mutables and dating anyway or Aqua so there you go.

He is EXTREMELY insecure. During the initial days he always saw me as someone way out of his league.All our classmates used to tell him that so everyone was shocked when we officially got together. I am not pretty or sexy at all. I am just perceived to be one of those typical geeks who only date books and career. We were just good friends then. Then he showed he was very serious and wasn't just fooling around and I re-iterated that I take a relationship very seriously and its a very big decision for me as I won't get in unless there's potential for it to turn into something in the long run. I also re-iterated my career goals to him -me moving to US for my MS and PhD and work for a couple of years until I move back to my country. Back then he supported my choice and agreed that he's willing to work out long distance so I gave in thinking he has genuine feelings for me. As soon as we got in a relationship, his grades inflated rocket high. Our classmates and some professors used to tease him that it's all because of my influence(I never took credits though) and that would kinda annoy him a bit. I lost my virginity to him after 8 months into our relationship.

We spent a weekend together in June and made love and he looked at me and asked me in a serious but surprised tone "why do you love me so much?I really dont understand". I smiled and said that it's because I believe in him and that he has a lot of potential. He was silent after my answer. So I think deep down he's extremely insecure and scared of not living upto the high mark.

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

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Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

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Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

lol me too - tag me, if she divulges

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She's a Cap, haha

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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

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@Kittens

Tsk tsk.

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Yeah, I agree. That part was creepy, suspicious and inappropriate af. When I asked him that day if he has feelings for her, he laughed and said "feelings?? I dont even like her that way". When i asked if they're bestfriends, he said "she's just a normal friend.That's it. Neither does she have any feelings for me. She's like this with every other guy she's friends with. You're just reading into things way too much and overthinking nonsense. I told you I'd never cheat, I never did, I didn't so far and I won't. You just need to give me space and stop stalking me".

See, I know his taste. As much as he wants a dirty bad girl, she's just not his type. She's not at all someone he'd consider as his girlfriend. I can bet the Brooklyn Bridge on that(not like I have that much money to bet on lol but still).

He only dates girls who have a very sober image, are highly mannered,are ambitious, dont speak or act trashy (now I am really not complimenting myself here but that's the truth). Also he hates clingy girls. He knows she's much clingier and demanding than I am. He looks down on girls like her. She is extremely attention seeking - to a ridiculous extent. She doesn't dress dirty at all but she has inappropriate talks with multiple guys. Like this one time I saw she had posted her chat with a guy where he talked about anal and how funny she thought that was that she posted that as her Insta story with laughing emojis. That's when I was confirmed that he'd never ever seriously date her. On top of that she telling him about making out with her cousin recently. She said she regrets it though. All these are the reasons why he said "girls like her are the hookup kind".

Last month he posted a picture of us on Insta where he wrote "you're the only fish in the sea for me. Better be a lobster". And 3 weeks ago after we had a bad fight when she sent that "Let's Make Out" trashy McDonalds "joke", he again posted our pic and captioned "Light is easy to love.Show me your darkness ❤️". She never liked any of our pics which he posted. It's like I am his public trophy offline and online whereas she's like his dirty secret which he never wants his side of the world to know.

I’ll go with the same thing that the D said. If she is the complete opposite of you and is filthy. It goes right along with the Virgo Virgin/Whore theory.

His dirty little secret, indeed.

But. He said he’s never cheated on you. So you need to use your intuition and judge if you think he’s lying. You should be able to tell by now, if you’ve been with him for a while.

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Yeah, I agree. That part was creepy, suspicious and inappropriate af. When I asked him that day if he has feelings for her, he laughed and said "feelings?? I dont even like her that way". When i asked if they're bestfriends, he said "she's just a normal friend.That's it. Neither does she have any feelings for me. She's like this with every other guy she's friends with. You're just reading into things way too much and overthinking nonsense. I told you I'd never cheat, I never did, I didn't so far and I won't. You just need to give me space and stop stalking me".

See, I know his taste. As much as he wants a dirty bad girl, she's just not his type. She's not at all someone he'd consider as his girlfriend. I can bet the Brooklyn Bridge on that(not like I have that much money to bet on lol but still).

He only dates girls who have a very sober image, are highly mannered,are ambitious, dont speak or act trashy (now I am really not complimenting myself here but that's the truth). Also he hates clingy girls. He knows she's much clingier and demanding than I am. He looks down on girls like her. She is extremely attention seeking - to a ridiculous extent. She doesn't dress dirty at all but she has inappropriate talks with multiple guys. Like this one time I saw she had posted her chat with a guy where he talked about anal and how funny she thought that was that she posted that as her Insta story with laughing emojis. That's when I was confirmed that he'd never ever seriously date her. On top of that she telling him about making out with her cousin recently. She said she regrets it though. All these are the reasons why he said "girls like her are the hookup kind".

Last month he posted a picture of us on Insta where he wrote "you're the only fish in the sea for me. Better be a lobster". And 3 weeks ago after we had a bad fight when she sent that "Let's Make Out" trashy McDonalds "joke", he again posted our pic and captioned "Light is easy to love.Show me your darkness ❤️". She never liked any of our pics which he posted. It's like I am his public trophy offline and online whereas she's like his dirty secret which he never wants his side of the world to know.

just cuz he would never seriously date her, doesnt mean he wouldnt fuck her/flirt with her

lotsa dudes entertain easy tail

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True. He won't go to the extent of physically cheating on me by fucking her but I am sure they flirt else why would he delete all her chat so much. When we had that crazy fight when I confronted him I asked him if they flirt.

He said "neither does she, nor do I. What she sent me last weekend was a stupid McDonald's joke and that's it. What she is with me, she is with every guy she's friends with." I have read way too many articles online which state that if you're in a doubt ,straightup ask a virgo they'd tell you the truth. I have read so much about their blatant honesty. It's because of these 2 contradictory things that my head is messed up. These articles make me think I must trust him while on the other hand I feel as I am being fooled.

He has been cheated on before by his ex. He really loved her and he brokeup with her after 2.5 years. He told me she cheated on him with her best friend by sleeping with that guy. He went through such a major depression that he didn't even turn up for 3 of his core subjects' final exam and had to retake those courses. When we got in a relationship he told me that no matter what he wont cheat.He said he'll breakup with me if he wants to sleep with someone else but he wont do it while being in a relationship. But flirting counts as big time cheating for me but he says they dont flirt. This is so confusing.

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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

lol me too - tag me, if she divulges

She's a Cap, haha

i wonder if she has sag in her chart... that wouldve been my second guess.

her vibe feels very fire... brazen lack of boundaries. that is, if she does, in fact, know that he has a gf

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Brazen lack of boundaries - definitely.

She knows he has a gf. She gets to see all his lovey dovey instagram posts on me and us. She gets to see all our pics and my solo pics each time we go on a trip. He told me that once he explicitly told her that the girl in those posts is his girlfriend.

But guess what? She does not give a f**k and he knows it and he feels that's fine.

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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

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I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

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Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

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Yeah, I agree. That part was creepy, suspicious and inappropriate af. When I asked him that day if he has feelings for her, he laughed and said "feelings?? I dont even like her that way". When i asked if they're bestfriends, he said "she's just a normal friend.That's it. Neither does she have any feelings for me. She's like this with every other guy she's friends with. You're just reading into things way too much and overthinking nonsense. I told you I'd never cheat, I never did, I didn't so far and I won't. You just need to give me space and stop stalking me".

See, I know his taste. As much as he wants a dirty bad girl, she's just not his type. She's not at all someone he'd consider as his girlfriend. I can bet the Brooklyn Bridge on that(not like I have that much money to bet on lol but still).

He only dates girls who have a very sober image, are highly mannered,are ambitious, dont speak or act trashy (now I am really not complimenting myself here but that's the truth). Also he hates clingy girls. He knows she's much clingier and demanding than I am. He looks down on girls like her. She is extremely attention seeking - to a ridiculous extent. She doesn't dress dirty at all but she has inappropriate talks with multiple guys. Like this one time I saw she had posted her chat with a guy where he talked about anal and how funny she thought that was that she posted that as her Insta story with laughing emojis. That's when I was confirmed that he'd never ever seriously date her. On top of that she telling him about making out with her cousin recently. She said she regrets it though. All these are the reasons why he said "girls like her are the hookup kind".

Last month he posted a picture of us on Insta where he wrote "you're the only fish in the sea for me. Better be a lobster". And 3 weeks ago after we had a bad fight when she sent that "Let's Make Out" trashy McDonalds "joke", he again posted our pic and captioned "Light is easy to love.Show me your darkness ❤️". She never liked any of our pics which he posted. It's like I am his public trophy offline and online whereas she's like his dirty secret which he never wants his side of the world to know.

just cuz he would never seriously date her, doesnt mean he wouldnt fuck her/flirt with her

lotsa dudes entertain easy tail

True. He won't go to the extent of physically cheating on me by fucking her but I am sure they flirt else why would he delete all her chat so much. When we had that crazy fight when I confronted him I asked him if they flirt.

He said "neither does she, nor do I. What she sent me last weekend was a stupid McDonald's joke and that's it. What she is with me, she is with every guy she's friends with." I have read way too many articles online which state that if you're in a doubt ,straightup ask a virgo they'd tell you the truth. I have read so much about their blatant honesty. It's because of these 2 contradictory things that my head is messed up. These articles make me think I must trust him while on the other hand I feel as I am being fooled.

He has been cheated on before by his ex. He really loved her and he brokeup with her after 2.5 years. He told me she cheated on him with her best friend by sleeping with that guy. He went through such a major depression that he didn't even turn up for 3 of his core subjects' final exam and had to retake those courses. When we got in a relationship he told me that no matter what he wont cheat.He said he'll breakup with me if he wants to sleep with someone else but he wont do it while being in a relationship. But flirting counts as big time cheating for me but he says they dont flirt. This is so confusing.

everyone lies, including virgos.

also, lotsa stuff you quoted him saying is textbook gaslighting. he will lie & make you think YOU are crazy.

deleting messages is very sus & i have no doubt in my mind that he is being fishy af. do not underestimate the lengths people will go for sexual attention.

be real girl.

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Unfortunately I agree with you. I am afraid you might be right.

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

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Yup. This sucks to be in a situation like this.

He’s taking full advantage right now. He needs to feel what he’s about to lose and make a decision on what more important IMO

Op should leave him be for a long while.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by dilettante

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

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Yup. When I confronted him I told him that she maybe a homewrecker but he's the main one at fault because he knowingly allowed her to. And again. His defensive virgo ass got offended and he started going crazy on how can I accuse him of cheating on me when he hasn't.

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Posted by gia

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by dilettante

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

Yup. This sucks to be in a situation like this.

He’s taking full advantage right now. He needs to feel what he’s about to lose and make a decision on what more important IMO

Op should leave him be for a long while.

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He demanded a break till November for his exam anyway. I am not texting him of my own. This I know for sure.

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Posted by Silvuh

Posted by gia

Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

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She's Jan 9th,2004 born so feel free to check out her natal chart haha. He and I are 22 now. He told me she brokeup last year. It's highly likely she's using him as a rebound,maybe.

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

Yup. This sucks to be in a situation like this.

He’s taking full advantage right now. He needs to feel what he’s about to lose and make a decision on what more important IMO

Op should leave him be for a long while.

He demanded a break till November for his exam anyway. I am not texting him of my own. This I know for sure.

10/10 he is gonna go fuck around w/ her

drop the trash & dont look back

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hahahahaha oh dilettante, how much I hate your intuitions haha 😛

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

Cap women don't give a shit if a man is taken. they will still try to go for your man if she so desires. but you can't take a man from someone if they don't willingly go so the fault is not with her but with him.

Yup. This sucks to be in a situation like this.

He’s taking full advantage right now. He needs to feel what he’s about to lose and make a decision on what more important IMO

Op should leave him be for a long while.

He demanded a break till November for his exam anyway. I am not texting him of my own. This I know for sure.

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I think that’s a great idea.

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Posted by Silvuh

You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

i honestly got an aries vibe from the friend

I hope the OP comes back and says what the sign is of the friend

Naah folks. She's a Capricorn.

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NANI?!?

I think they're 2 individuals who are highly attention seeking. We all love some good attention. We all do but not at the expense of someone we really care about. He very well knows he doesn't want a relationship with her. If we breakup, he might hookup with her for some random nights as a rebound, sure but a relationship? Never.

He calls me a wife material. He talks about things like future, marriage and "we" with me.

He has been behaving like a drug addict. A drug addict who knows he has a drug problem is still a hopeful one but what about a drug addict who doesnt know he has a big problem? He is that. I don't know what is it but there's something in their chats which has addicted him so much. She is his side entertainment. It was there right from the start of our relationship but I never spotted anything suspicious so I never confronted him and so our relationship went smoothly. Now that I saw her message him every single day i started confronting him and he has gotten tired of my confrontations. Maybe he thinks he never cheated on me and maybe he didn't as per his definition of cheating but according to me he did.

I recall how he once mentioned this another girl he was best friends with and would talk a lot and how that would annoy his then girlfriend. Now Not once in this more than 1 year of relationship did I see them message each other. She likes all our pics though but they dont talk anymore. Now I understand that it's probably the exact scenario which his ex faced that I am facing now. My conclusion - He wants a constant girl as his girlfriend while these so called "friend" girls are only for temporary entertainment. This girl will soon get replaced just how his previous one got replaced. Am I making sense?

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

She's Jan 9th,2004 born so feel free to check out her natal chart haha. He and I are 22 now. He told me she brokeup last year. It's highly likely she's using him as a rebound,maybe.

we have to know what city/state/country

i am v curious about her placements... for my own field research 😛

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Fineeeee just give me 10 hours I'll fetch her placements for you xD. I am curious you never asked about my virguy's placement lol. He has a venus in Scorpio. For some reason I always found that very sexy. I am always drawn to Scorpios. Just love them for their intensity. When I saw his Venus is in Scorpio I went all gagaga. But ouch.

Yeah after reading all of this, I've changed my mind.

Don't put your foot down. The issue is very clear to both of you and anything else will be nagging.



Ghost him.

I personally can't see how anyone any sign could go on a 4 month break and just recoup like it never happened, but time will tell.

Right now though, he needs to marinate. And you too should think about what you will and won't tolerate from a dude.

You're so young and there's plenty to experience!

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

She's Jan 9th,2004 born so feel free to check out her natal chart haha. He and I are 22 now. He told me she brokeup last year. It's highly likely she's using him as a rebound,maybe.

we have to know what city/state/country

i am v curious about her placements... for my own field research 😛

Fineeeee just give me 10 hours I'll fetch her placements for you xD. I am curious you never asked about my virguy's placement lol. He has a venus in Scorpio. For some reason I always found that very sexy. I am always drawn to Scorpios. Just love them for their intensity. When I saw his Venus is in Scorpio I went all gagaga. But ouch.

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I'm hanging out with a Venus is Scorpio too, currently. What's your venus/mars?

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

She's Jan 9th,2004 born so feel free to check out her natal chart haha. He and I are 22 now. He told me she brokeup last year. It's highly likely she's using him as a rebound,maybe.

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Moon in Leo and Venus in Aquarius. 😆 She most likely loves attention and likes that he's taken and has a thing for unavailable men. He most likely hasn't cheated but IF he does, she probably will lose interest in him because she wouldn't want that type of guy, so then he will have neither one of you, which will suit him just fine with the way he's acting!

Oh you'r a Pisces with the same Venus as her? Hopefully you didn't get him this way, cause you know what they say about that type of thing. The same way you got them is the same way you lose them.

I never trust anyone who is willing to cheat

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Ok so I am a Sag Dom Aqua, I can't read all that because I dissociate too much but I do know that Virgos are so critical of themselves so maybe sometimes they get overwhelmed in there head about letting someone down or not being good enough so then they ghost. They may also feel like said person they are dealing with is not good enough and also ghost. I do not recommend mutables and dating anyway or Aqua so there you go.

He is EXTREMELY insecure. During the initial days he always saw me as someone way out of his league.All our classmates used to tell him that so everyone was shocked when we officially got together. I am not pretty or sexy at all. I am just perceived to be one of those typical geeks who only date books and career. We were just good friends then. Then he showed he was very serious and wasn't just fooling around and I re-iterated that I take a relationship very seriously and its a very big decision for me as I won't get in unless there's potential for it to turn into something in the long run. I also re-iterated my career goals to him -me moving to US for my MS and PhD and work for a couple of years until I move back to my country. Back then he supported my choice and agreed that he's willing to work out long distance so I gave in thinking he has genuine feelings for me. As soon as we got in a relationship, his grades inflated rocket high. Our classmates and some professors used to tease him that it's all because of my influence(I never took credits though) and that would kinda annoy him a bit. I lost my virginity to him after 8 months into our relationship.

We spent a weekend together in June and made love and he looked at me and asked me in a serious but surprised tone "why do you love me so much?I really dont understand". I smiled and said that it's because I believe in him and that he has a lot of potential. He was silent after my answer. So I think deep down he's extremely insecure and scared of not living upto the high mark.

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Wow, yea. I really think that this is at least PART of it because it sure sounds like it. His mind might have went to "what if I let her down?"

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You need to re-obtain some control in this situation. He should've been sure to at least give you the confirmation that girl knows she isn't entitled to his time, and i see nothing wrong about mentioning he's out with you unless he was unsure if her response would be suspicious.

But on the other hand, maybe he didn't because he felt cornered, and mistrusted.

It went like this.



He: " She knows I have a gf. I post so many pics of us and stories and all those lovey dovey captions on each of them"

Me: "So why are you behaving like you don't want her to know that you're out with your girlfriend?"

*He: "Because such girls are the hookup kind. They don't give a f**k about whether I have a girlfriend or a wife. "

Me: "Then in that case you absolutely need to let me reply that" *almost trying to snatch his phone*

He: " I told you I swear on my mom I won't let you do that. You want to breakup over this then go ahead but I won't let you".

Sis, they fucking.

I think so too. He has too many good excuses or stories about what her direct texts mean.

friend:-"Let's fucc tomorrow, I miss your dicc in my mouth"

Boyfriend:- " Oh she accidentally sent that to me, it was supposed to go to someone else and she wants me to forward it to him"

I'm wondering if this friend is a water sign, has water sign written all over it lol I won't be specific and shade the actual sign though.

I definitely feel like she's got some heavy emotional baggage which does hint to her being a water sign. Super shady and manipulative, a lil psycho with the double texts. And possessiveness through the ROOF, trying her hardest to claim someone already taken!!

Lmaoo I feel like you wanna say Scorpio and I too want to make this claim so let's break even and call her "unevolved" 💀💀

Her Virgo is trash tho

She's Jan 9th,2004 born so feel free to check out her natal chart haha. He and I are 22 now. He told me she brokeup last year. It's highly likely she's using him as a rebound,maybe.

Moon in Leo and Venus in Aquarius. 😆 She most likely loves attention and likes that he's taken and has a thing for unavailable men. He most likely hasn't cheated but IF he does, she probably will lose interest in him because she wouldn't want that type of guy, so then he will have neither one of you, which will suit him just fine with the way he's acting!

Oh you'r a Pisces with the same Venus as her? Hopefully you didn't get him this way, cause you know what they say about that type of thing. The same way you got them is the same way you lose them.

I never trust anyone who is willing to cheat

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Venus in Aquarius? WHAAAAT...NOOOOOOOOOO. That's the same as mine. That's weird because I consciously distance myself from men in a relationship. Heck, I reduced my talks to only once a month or two with my own male bestie after he got in a relationship. He said she doesn't care if the guy has a wife or a girlfriend - she'll treat him single. Also, no,he's not unavailable to her - I wish he was but he isn't.

And nooooo, I am not that kind. Please X_X I wasn't even ready for a relationship. I had posted our story in one of the replies here before. I'll tag you so you can read it.

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Yeah after reading all of this, I've changed my mind.

Don't put your foot down. The issue is very clear to both of you and anything else will be nagging.



Ghost him.

I personally can't see how anyone any sign could go on a 4 month break and just recoup like it never happened, but time will tell.

Right now though, he needs to marinate. And you too should think about what you will and won't tolerate from a dude.

You're so young and there's plenty to experience!

Yeah I am not going to whatsapp him. It's been about a week now and no matter how many days go by I won't of my own. I know he'll be shocked that I didn't smother him anymore because he always told me how emotionally weak I am and how much I love him and can't live without him. He knows I am not the kind to easily break off a relationship because he's internally aware that so many of the things he has done so far would have led to a breakup long long back if it were some other girl. I think this has made him take me for granted. Highly granted. And that mindset needs to break.

To me it seems like you are the one with drama. You need to stop being so clingy and acting so insecure. Stop trying to control the guy and trust that he will do right by you until he proves you otherwise... You're honestly acting like a 13 year old