Virgo Guys Hooking Up with Female Friends

Hi all! I'm new to the forum and had a question for my Virgos esp. the males.

Basically, I have a close Virgo male friend. We've known each for a while about 10 years (we went to high school together). Throughout high school and college we were "friendly" but not really friends (kept it touch, chatted we when ran into each other)but over the last 2 years we've gotten closer.

We share a bestfriend (Aries) so the three of us hang out a lot but I have never hung out with the Virgo guy alone.

We are also VERY attrached to each other. We flirt,we've talked about the attraction and there's been some light stroking but nothing super intimate.

All of our friends are telling us to hook up and saying we should get married etc... erm AWKWARD.
He just tells them: He is doing too much to right now (school/ career wise) to be in a relationship and that he is not ready.

I'm a Virgo too and not really comfortable with the situation between us. I really do like him and would date him but the timing is all wrong.

MY issue is I don't want to be so emtionally/ physically attached to someone I'm not dating. And I worry about if/ when we date other people. I'm trying to decide if I should distance myself from our friendship.

Oh he's on the Virgo/ Libra cusp and I'm a 3rd deacon Virgo.

LOL thats was long so my questions:

Is do you think my Virgo friend is interested in being more than friends?
And have any Virgo guys been successful at just being friends with someone they were attrached to?
Should I just bring up my concerns to him?

Is do you think my Virgo friend is interested in being more than friends? NO if he was you would know it, 10 yrs of friendship can be lost over a fling so not worth it plus he's said how he feels and it's up to you to believe him, his words: He is doing too much to right now (school/ career wise) to be in a relationship and that he is not ready which is code for I'm not that into you at least not enough to disturb my routine/life.

And have any Virgo guys been successful at just being friends with someone they were attrached to? I'm sure there are are a few, big world but if he was truly attracted to you he would do something about it, he hasn't so I wouldn't too much concern myself with it if it were me.

Should I just bring up my concerns to him? Nope, drama and unless you want him to distance himself and/or make everything awkward for the both of you I would suggest you get on with your life, he's expressed friendship nothing else, I wouldn't get my hopes up over anything attraction or not.

Thanks Tikki.

Yeah I never brought it up with him due to the drama factor.

I feel similar to the "not that into you".

We've known each other for ten yrs and been friends for 2.

I probably should have added that he told our Aries friend that he liked me/ wanted to be with me but I had a boyfriend at the time. this was about 3 months ago.

Still your probably right.

This is disurbing, despite the mere fact that males, religiously speaking, can only 'hook up' with females... who else can thay hook up with? Don't overthink it. Lol.

LOL... female strangers, acquaintances and



*whispers*..... boys


i'm not over thinking, i'm fretting lol totally different process.

I have never hooked up with a friend.

I always have to ride into a woman full speed, hot and sweaty before they think I'm "boyfriend" material.

Otherwise I get "friendzoned" and no girl wants to loose a friend they have a lot of respect for.

i have a virgo male friend that was interested/attracted to me from the start and he asked me out on a date the first night we actually hung out together. i gave in, even though it wasn't reciprocated, cuz i did feel a connection with him. we had a great date but i definitely let it be known that i wasn't interested in being anything more with him. i wanted to help him out and befriend ppl in general. it took him a couple of weeks to come back around (he started distancing himself from me; think he was really liking me) but now we're total buds and it's fine. he confides in me about other girls he's dating and i offer him my advice. i think they can be just friends as long as u don't start dating any of their friends (i know this because a few of his close friends became interested in me as well; after i told him i wouldn't due to conflict of interest he eased up a lot).

Virgo guys value friendship. If you are one of his bestfriends, he may like you but he may not want to have a relationship with you. He is not aggressive, but he may tempted if you will show signs or make the first move... ;P...

I'm a 1st decanate Virgo Guy...I don't know if this is true to all virgo males, but I posses most of the characteristics...

My virgo guy, he has a lot of female friends, and people like him, coz he is an extrovert, funny, perfectionist virgo. He respect his friends more than anything. especially his best friends which most of them are girls. when he introduced me to his friends... gee, i almost couldn't believe it... he is just such a very caring person to everyone... and i had a conversation with him after we got back home, I told him about what kind of things that would make people misunderstood with what he did to everyone (in this case, caring and flirting are different thou). Thank God, he understood and trying to make a difference between that two words.

so, anyway.. i've become his friends' friend now, and I'm glad that they told me what they are thinking about him, he is just like a big brother to them. 🙂
I had once asked him about this gemini girl (let's called it A), whom he talked much about her to me.. for example A was really funny today, she.. bla.. bla.. bla...; or ; why don't we asked A to take us around her hometown, she can drive a car, etc....; or ; A has a really good leg.... etc.... anyway.. I think I had had enough to listen about A.. then.. I wittingly joking to him "well, yeah, A is so pretty, do you like her? then why don't you just be with her?" then I laugh.... he laugh too... then he answered "She is a good fun person, but i don't want be with her, coz she is drunker.." (anyway.. A is really good at flirting everyone.. so, I won't think too much then. although I know she has a little bit feeling with him... and fortunately we've become friend.. 😉)

I asked him if he like somebody will he tell the person? he said.. no.. coz he wasn't that sure about the significant other feeling, and it's not good to get the feeling of being reject if the significant other don't like him, etc.. he prefer that a girl said it first to him. since he has a lot of female friends.. being his friends means he will respect you, he attracted to you, he likes you and he will treat all his friends the same...

he adding this sentences "if i really don't like somebody, I'll see how much worth are they. if the likeliness have been cut by me 60% , I will be rarely talk to them, no greetings, maybe just some important things that i should have to tell them... if the likeliness have been cut by me 70% , I will never talk to you, even for the important things." (Wew.. he do this to everyone...)

cont...

If your friends told you to hook up, getting married, etc or whatever, you should ask or think from his point of view.

Me and him had talked about the future point of view, and I am agree with him. shortly saying, he told me that he will not getting married if both of us didn't have any money to settle down. and it's about long long way... even about the children, It couldn't be just me or just him who raised the kids, it should be both of us. that are his point of view...

he told me that it will be taking a long time, and he asking me if i'm ready or still want to be with him and taking it slowly... coz he is just so busy (i don't know why my virgo man has a busy life... ) well... i finally realized that he is a well organizer.. and he still learn for that.

he has ever told me that he even don't have much time for himself.. then how could he spend time for me?? well.. i understand that, and i reminded him to take things slowly... no rush.. just enjoy life now, since i'm busy too but not as busy as him, then i said that i would spent to care for him, etc.. and just do what he want to do.. this life is short, but this future needs time... 🙂

and, i felt relieved after the talked.. and i know where i am now... 🙂

so, why don't you talk to him, i think he needs a secure feeling about that you are going to do with him, will you able to take things slowly?