Virgo Mom?

I imagine that I'll be pretty tough, honest, critical and take charge kind of mom. Anyone out there with Virgo mother? What where they like as parents?
The baby will most likely be a Cancer and my man is a Scorpio..

Well my mom, dad, and sister are all virgos, as well as me. My virgo mother was very critical, tough, honest, and the take charge kind of mother. I have some of those traits, as well as my sister. But to be honest I felt that she was a little too tough on me, always pushing you know? Which was good in a way because I was a very intelligent and knowledgeable child, always studying, recieving good grades, went to the best schools, not a trouble maker, pretty much just a really good child and teenager. But I felt that she was always on my back, always nagging me, and that did not sit well with me. I am pretty emotional person (although it took me a while to figure that out, b/c I thought I had a very hard nature, but this was not the case). Her critical eye actually hurt me in a way, and it was hard for me to express my emotions especially in relationships during my teens. My mother and I argued a lot when I was in high school, and it was not a pretty sight. I almost moved in with my father (they are seperated). But after high school, our relationship was MUCH better, I went away for college, I seen less of her which meant less nagging, and it led to a better relationship.
As a child, I feared her, and felt that I had to be "perfect", as a teen I rebeled and argued back. I was very angry with her (aries moon and mars), I felt she always put me down, and this led me to believe I was not good enough for her.
But in all truth she was very proud of me, and would constantly talk about me, my accomplishments, etc...it was just hard for her to express her loving side to me, probably because her mother was an alcoholic...Our relationship was always hot and cold, sometimes it would be good, and when it was good it was REAL good, but when it was bad I couldn't stand the woman! LOL
She never really tied me down, she let me go out and discover the world, but she was just too critical of me and my sisters. But our relationship has gotton better over the years....
-Hope this helps

My father on the other hand was a very loving and caring man, and always put me on a pedistal, he was critical but not overly as my mother, he let it be known that he loved me and was proud of me.

So, one of my good friends is a Virgo and has two kids (all grown up now), and she was a pretty good mom. Like fieryearth said about her mom, she was always pushing and always on her kids backs about stuff .. but, in the scheme of things, is that really so bad?

The other side of that coin is .. a parent could be extremely lenient and not even attempt to teach their kids any sense of morals or responsibility .. so, to be overly hard in comparison would seem the most beneficial for the child. Self awareness is key to everything in life .. just for the fact that you are now thinking about whether you might be a little tough, might make a bigger inpact than you think.

That was helpful..Critical and difficulty with my "emotional" side -- well, that hit on the nose.
I am and have been working on these issues, but not ever having been a mom -- well, that's a different ball of yarn. It will be an adventure... oh boy, if baby is a cancer-- wow, talk about emotion, huh?

My mom is a leo/virgo cusp (Aug 23)...she's the greatest...although she could definitely work on being a better "friend" to her children. She was very nurturing and held high standards that did us well but her controlling streak pushed both of us a way a bit in our adulthoods and she hates that because she really wants to be more clued in and involved......but that's difficult when we're used to her making a huge deal out of every mistake or thing she doesn't agree with.....we've just learned to smile big innocent smiles and give her limited information lol....

One thing that might be a problem with a Virgo parent .. I'm not one, so I can only look at this from the outside .. Virgo's are notorious for pulling away when things get too emotional, and though, in an intimate situation, let's hope the Virgo is dealing with an adult .. in a parent/child relationship .. this could be damaging to a child who looks to the parent to teach them EVERYTHING .. so, if this happens, this pulling away and ignoring for fear of drama with the Virgo parent when the child is in emotional distress .. oh hell ..

.. add Cancer child to that scenerio, who takes everything personally .. what if the child is female, which will be emotional by nature.

Perhaps, only from a Cancer who had a Virgo parent will any real-life accounts from experience be beneficial.

Maybe you should ask this question on the Cancer board (maybe you did, already, lol)

?Anyone out there with Virgo mother??

Yes..I do!!


?What where they like as parents??

She was super-cool & patient. No matter how badly of a fuck-up my bahavior was when I was told others, she NEVER spoke negativity & screech like a crow?she let my dad do that.

"Perhaps, only from a Cancer who had a Virgo parent will any real-life accounts from experience be beneficial."

Well P-Angel none of that was the case in my cancer child/virgo parent situation.