Virgo needs space (Page 2)

Choosing to ignore my Virgo man now by not calling him, and will not call him. Like I said, I called on Sun. and left a message. He will have to call me when, and if, he misses me. No matter how much I miss him. If he can't be a man about things, and call and talk to me, then he can have all the space he wants. Lots of it too!

A friend of mine said not to email him either to ask if I did something wrong. She said I did nothing wrong, and if he can't accept me for who I am, than why should I accept him. She said that I have done way more for him than he has done for me, and the way she sees it, he owes me. I think she is probably right.

One of his kids called today, just a while ago. Wanted to know if I had my neice so she could come play with them. I don't have her today. Asked when I would, and I said it would not be for a couple of days, maybe. She said they miss my neice. I can't help that. I didn't create this situation. Their mom (his ex) did, and he is not helping any.

I did not ask where her dad was, what he was doing, if he wanted to talk to me, or did not say I wanted to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him unless he can call me.

Still hurting and heart broken though.

Capricorn Lady

I knew a virgo, he was really immature and childish like you say, but not all virgos are like that, i guess its just the person he is but i just cant really deal with virgos, they just dont fit with me lol and this is coming from a taurus! but then again..im a taurus/gemini so maybe that has something to do with it..or maybe these horoscopes are just all fake!! MY GOD!! WUT IS THIS ALL COMING TO?!?! LOL ok im done. LuZ

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Have you heard from your Virgo yet? How long have you been involved with him? I am the first poster on this post. I am in a stand off apparently with my Virgo. I have always been the first one to call. I haven't this time and I won't. It has been 35 days since I have seen him. I believe with mine it is about control. If I call him then he wins. If he calls then it would show he was weak and needed me and he would never admit that. OH WELL! Don't want a man like that anyway. Still do love him though.
Not all Virgo's are like this though. Have had wonderful long term relationships with Virgo's and no games.
By the way almost all Virgo's that I know are going through tough times right now emotionally. Lots of planets transiting their 12th house so lots of isolation and depression going on with them.
Taurus Lady

Heard from my Virgo man last evening (Tues. night). He called me. We talked for a bit, but not about what we probably should have talked about.

Still have not told him that I love him, although I'm pretty sure he knows, just by my actions and me being affectionate towards him. One of his kids told him I love him, one morning when we were sitting out on his patio. He did not really respond. I think he was a little surprised that she just blurted it out, and maybe a little embarressed too. I also was a little. Then neither of us really knew what to say.

Talked to his first ex-wife (not the one that is causing problems) on the phone for a while last night. They have been divorced for I think about 18 years. She told me that he was not outwardly expressive with his feelings even back when they were together. She said it sounds like he is a little more now with me, than he was then.

Watched his kids for him last night and today. Stayed the night there because he had to leave, and their mom could not take them. He hugged me, told me thanks for staying with the kids, and kissed me before he left for work (11:30 p.m.) Said he would call today or tonight (Wed.) and let me know when he would be home.

He did. He called this evening and told me what time he would be on his way home. We also talked about just some general things, but had a good conversation. We always do, whether it's in person, or on the phone. Just not about feelings. He said he would call me tomorrow, because he will have his kids, and they want me to bring my neice over to play with them.

Left a note for him this evening, just about some general things, before I left his house (I don't live there, just stay there sometimes). Signed it Love, then my name. That's as far as I've been able to get to telling him I love him, without coming straight out and saying it. Still somewhat afraid, and kind of know, that could maybe push him away and scare him a bit.

Unless he does feel the same. But I don't think he will really come right out and say. Maybe in a roundabout way, or more so with his actions.

I will continue on, hanging in there as long as it takes, or I can. Will let you know how everything goes whenever I get the chance.

Until next time,
Capricorn Lady

I WOULD NOT STICK AROUND TO SEE. HE WOULD HAVE TO BE MORE CONSISTANT WITH ME. THIS IS THE VERY BEHAVIOR ABOUT VIRGO'S THAT I CAN NOT STAND.

GOOD LUCK CAPY CHIC, I JUST HOPE YOUR WAIT IS WORTH IT.

Hi Capricorn Lady

I read a couple of your posts. I have to say that the push-and-pull thing happens to all the signs. I am a Virgo and currently going through this exhausting pull-and-push thing with a guy I have known for five months. This time I am the one keeps wondering what another party is thinking.


He sent me mixed signals but never asked me out. I am a cool Virgo and supposed to be the one hard to be figured out. I jump and grin about my staying with this guy. If someone didn't care me much, I used to move on with hesitance. But I cannot explain why I am different this time.


It feels terrible when someone we care sends out mixed signals to us. His smiles, gestures, and any little tiny thing become big things in our lives. When he doesn't call, we think if we have done something wrong . When he does call and say something, we try to figure out if there are any hidden meanings behind his words. We work hard for one ounce of hope that he might turn to be affectionate one day as we have been hoping for.


I talked to a friend about my situation. She commented that I probably like challenges. Damn .... I think she is so right about this. I ever read a psychological book which mentioned that the carelessness form someone we like/love triggers the fear of being abandoned. We tend to work hard to prove that we are worthy of love. Actually we are trying to ?maintain? a relationship that barely exists. If we let go, the whole thing will go because we are the only ones who try hard to keep it at the first place. Sad, huh.


However, I will not encourage you to move on right now. I believe it is a lesson we need to learn. If it is not with the Virgo, it might be with another guy. When your pain reaches to certain point, you will know it is time to go because you realize it is not worthy paying attention to someone who mistreats you. In the future, you will never give another guy a chance to mistreat you.

Love yourself before you love someone. umm ?. I myself know what to do now.

Yes, most relationships are push-and-pull. I think part of the reason my relationship with my Virgo man is so hard on me sometimes (or I make it hard on me), is because I haven't been in a relationship like this for years.

I haven't felt this connected, or this much in love, with any man, ever. Most of my relationships in the years I've been divorced have been short, lasting only a few months at a time. I've known my Virgo man for 2 1/2 years. Although it hasn't been, or seemed, serious until a few months ago. We have gotten closer during the last several months.

I think I must also like challenges, even if I might tell myself and others I don't. And yes, I also think part of it is a fear of abandonment, and getting hurt. Been there, done that, don't want to do it again.

He does not treat me badly. He is actually very caring and kind to me. Never says anything mean or cruel to me, and has Always defended me to his ex. Has never said anything bad about me to his friends (I've met & talked to most of them). We do get along excellently, have great conversations, joke around and tease each other all the time. I really think I am still in a learning process pertaining to him, and how he is.

He is not an outwardly affectionate person, and I have always known that. So when he does little things for me, teases me, gives me a hug, touches me slightly, smiles at me, kisses me or lets me give him a kiss, I know that is his way of showing he cares and showing his affection towards me. Showing his love towards me, without saying with words? Is there any way to know for sure?

He also seems to be getting better about calling when he says he will. I have realized that if I don't call him, leave a message, whatever, that he does call me. Called 3 times Sat. night. Called, then had to eat, so called back after, then got another call, then called back again after that. Each time he called, we talked for at least 1/2 hr. Then, he called Sun. morning while at work to ask me about taking the turtle at his house (his kids found it in their yard) to let it go, and to take pictures first for his kids.

Said he would call again when he came home. Actually, he did. Today. But my cell phone wasn't picking up the signal at the time, and he couldn't get through. I ended up calling him tonight to ask something. He said he had to leave again, but would see me in a couple of days when he got home.

I guess I just need to continue to learn to let go some and not worry so much. Hang in there? Go with the flow?

I have to say that being able to say all of this on here, and reading the responses, is a big help in how to understand, make stronger and better, and continue my relationship with my Virgo man. Thank you.

Until next time,
Capricorn Lady

Capricorn lady,

Hang in there.
So far I haven't had the intention to find out what the sign of the guy I am after. Go with the flow. I am still meeting other guys, not seriously though. The thing between the guy and me is extremely slow but progressing. I wonder where the unexplainable connection is from. Anyway, time will tell to stay or go.

ok guys i think i might be able to help a little im a virgo man much like the ones you have talked about an i can say if ur virgo man is still with you an tries to play with you off an on like touching an a small kiss he most likly loves you that is how i show that i do its the only way i know how an if i try telling that i do its just so hard to explan an makes me feel like im a fool an i must say be carefull about leaving him an waiting for him to call if he thinks that you are mad at him or if like me most time think they hate me i will never call but if they call it shows me i was wrong an took things the wrong way but about feelings sorry there is no way to get a virgo man to talk if u try to hard you are pushing him away just back off an watch what he does hes a person that does for the one he loves but most of the time not in the way most people think like if he goes to wash his car an washs your car to or gets you a beer when he got his or a coke might not mean much to you but its his way of showing that he cares if he didnt just would not do it its like we are at war with our self we are we want to tell you that we love you but cant bring our selfs to do it no matter how hard we try an to all the people that keeps going back an forth your virgos must love you very much if not it would have been over the first time an virgos at times must be alone to find them selfs an feel in control of there lifes but most of us are depressed an sad all of the time cause we cant tell others how we feel an that we do not fit in this world its like we are allways on the out of whats really going on but if you cant get him to an good luck with it cause it took me over 20 years to do it an that is gosee a doctor i did an it help a lot now the world is not looking at me all the time an i can see that i do belong so go get those happy pills lol hoped i helped good to all

looks like I forgot to self-html, though....😛

Just wanted to say that Virgos and Scorps can work really well actually.. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years, and I hope for years that are many more to come.. Good luck to you all in your relationships.

I've really mucked things up with My virgo ex. He ended it nov last year but has remained my friend and we've been getting on so well however i thought he dont want me and was so lost and confused and tried to tell myself that he dont want me so that i wouldnt get hurt holding on. i signed on to a dating site but didnt use it as it just made me realise i dont want to give up on him. Everything was going so well but I had forgot to delete my dating site profile and his friend told him I was on there. He asked and I explained that I did it when I was angry as I thought he didn't want me and that I don't use it as it made me realise I don't want to move on. He said its ruined any chance we had and it hurt him and that maybe its best we just be friends later on. I had nothing to loose and told him I have always loved him. I asked to meet up and he said he was going to his parents. He's deleted his whatsapp now and come off of Facebook. He had signed on to the dating site to see my profile. I've since deleted but he is still going on there.

Will he ever contact me. Virgos please help.

both can work because both understand the need os S P A C E






hehe..

Posted by jaya
Just wanted to say that Virgos and Scorps can work really well actually.. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years, and I hope for years that are many more to come.. Good luck to you all in your relationships.

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Posted by Loveorlust
So virgo males do you think wileman 1001 gave an accurate description of a virgo male—

Only the part about doing actions to show we love you without having to constantly say it. But everything else was his personal strife to 'happy pill' land.