Virgo Questions on Curious Behavior

When you guys show up after a fall out is it typical to act like nothing ever happened?

Why would you not respond to someone when they reach out and then get upset when they stop reaching out?

What are the things I need to understand about a Virgo to successfully have a friendship with one?

Back Story in case you need it to answer:

After a couple of years of platonic friendship with a Virgo we started flirting and eventually one night he asked me where we were going with things. I felt like he agreed that neither of us was in the best place to move forward and that we would just maintain the friendship and see what happened. But after that he became really hot and cold with the friendship. Sometimes he would return calls and texts, sometimes he wouldn’t. Sometimes when we saw each other he’d be my same old friend and other times he’d completely ignore me. I eventually just stopped reaching out and let him come to me because I never knew if he was going to be responsive to my efforts. That led to snide comments about how he never heard from me. This went on for about three years, and then finally I got frustrated with the whole thing and just pushed him out altogether and asked him to stop contacting me.

I had feelings for the guy and I really just wanted to put them in the past since things weren’t going anywhere. Once I got over things I did reach out a couple of times and apologize but he didn’t respond so I let it go. Last month I had a huge, exciting life event take place and I sent him a text and picture along with all of my other friends and he responded immediately congratulating me. We exchanged a few texts joking around and talking about how things were going for a while and then I went back to what I was doing. 20 minutes later he texts me again and says “Wait, what? Who is this?”

We were friends long enough that I know he knows my number and my mannerisms so I just kind of thought…ugh, same weird stuff as always. In response I just said “That sounds like an existential question, I’ll have to think about it.”, and went back to my life. That was the first conversation we’d had in a year and a half and I figured that was the end of it considering how it went…until he emailed me a couple of weeks later and asked for more details about what I had texted him about…and then texted me again the following week just to chat.

We live in a small town, so we see each other a lot, the year and a half we were not talking he would avoid me when he saw me. The last month or so he smiles and waves, although he hasn’t stopped to talk to me in person just texts and emails.

He hasn’t mentioned what happened and either have I. I haven’t reached out to him at all, I’d love to work on having that great friendship we had before there were feelings, but the non-responsiveness was hurtful and I don’t want to get hurt again. I recognize that you aren’t all the same, but before I decide if I’m willing to put myself back in this situation I would love to get some opinions and insight.

CybeleRising,

I had a very similar experience with a virgo male who has been a friend for over 30 years. I tried to PM you, but you have that disabled. I'd be happy to share my experience with you if you PM me sometime.

I know there are no guarantees in life, but I think I was just looking for the Universe to give me some sign that would tell me whether I should keep my distance for fear of repeating history, or give that great friendship another chance. This is excellent advice though and if I decide to step up it's what I'm going to have to do. Thank you.

Posted by magma
You've known this guy long enough to be asking him these questions. Meanwhile and forevermore, I'd recommend that you treat him exactly how you want him to treat you and do it with as much courage and consistency as you can muster.