Virgo Woman - Words do not match actions (Page 2)

Posted by 4evercharm
Yes - i was not happy...trying to understand her....but as soon as she ended it... then she wrote to me 1/2 later

All of my friends want to me end it with her and move on... its been a messy situation.

That sucks...I'm sorry.

Do what you feel is right and learn to be patient, not all up in your ego and pushy. And I hope you find someone who fits with you!

We live far from each other and this is her concern. If we are never going to be together, then why continue.

We live far from each other and this is her concern. If we are never going to be together, then why continue.

We talked about living together and now she has second thoughts. Out of left field pull the plug.

No blow-up this time so its very weird but I am not shocked at all. The biggest problem now is when and if she contacts me. I have no plans to contact her anytime soon. Based on what everyone says in here, she probably will not and this may be a good thing for me.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
She may just be busy and not able to respond right away. As far as the nice things you say...me personally, I don't like all that fluff and depending on how thick you are laying it on...she might not believe it is genuine. Yes, it is nice and all but it also tends to make me uncomfortable...especially if its something I'm not use to. I also don't like to chase guys...I can be totally into them but my actions wont show until I know for sure where they/we stand.

You're a Leo...correct? So you're wanting that ego stroked and maybe she can sense that....Usually, again this is just me, but when someone is fishing for compliments or praise, I tend to ignore it. I don't have time to stroke someone ego.

I think chatting on skype needs to end and you need to get together in person and see how she is.

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I have mentioned this in another thread. Leos tend to say big things early on and it just appears not genuine enough so people dont take it seriously. Glad someone gets it. I thought i was the only one who thought that way. I agree with you. Leo has to walk the talk.

I had a leo guy do the same thing. 3rd day of chatting online and he was like “i really like you. I want to go here and there with you.” And said “i will come to gold coast to see you when youre there on vacation” and I was like “sure. If you want to” because deep down, if he was genuine enough he would fly there. If he was really as interested as his words seem to show. And BOOM! He did not fly. That was from Sydney only. Same country. Less that 3 hours flight.

Where as the aqua, we have been chatting for a month. He said early on after I went MIA for 24 hours, that he was gonna fly to see me. I said “ok. Sure! If you wan to” and he flew to me the following month. 17 hours flight to another continent for a first date. So who had a bigger impact? The all words no action leo or the more action less words aqua? Obviously, I am with the aqua now for almost 6 mos.

So Mr. Leo, you cant blame the Virgo lady. If anything, be glad that she is a classy virgo who doesnt fall for words. She needs you to show her. Not tell her. And I have to say too, that not everyone wants to stroke a leo’s ego.

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Exactly...actions are the only thing I care about. Words mean nothing if there is no action to back them up.

Holy shit....NOW that is some action lol. That is crazy but also pretty awesome that he did that and for a first date...damn he has my respects!!

Well, she did write to me this morning. Asked how I was doing. She wanted me to know one of our mutual friends was asking for me.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
She may just be busy and not able to respond right away. As far as the nice things you say...me personally, I don't like all that fluff and depending on how thick you are laying it on...she might not believe it is genuine. Yes, it is nice and all but it also tends to make me uncomfortable...especially if its something I'm not use to. I also don't like to chase guys...I can be totally into them but my actions wont show until I know for sure where they/we stand.

You're a Leo...correct? So you're wanting that ego stroked and maybe she can sense that....Usually, again this is just me, but when someone is fishing for compliments or praise, I tend to ignore it. I don't have time to stroke someone ego.

I think chatting on skype needs to end and you need to get together in person and see how she is.

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I have mentioned this in another thread. Leos tend to say big things early on and it just appears not genuine enough so people dont take it seriously. Glad someone gets it. I thought i was the only one who thought that way. I agree with you. Leo has to walk the talk.

I had a leo guy do the same thing. 3rd day of chatting online and he was like “i really like you. I want to go here and there with you.” And said “i will come to gold coast to see you when youre there on vacation” and I was like “sure. If you want to” because deep down, if he was genuine enough he would fly there. If he was really as interested as his words seem to show. And BOOM! He did not fly. That was from Sydney only. Same country. Less that 3 hours flight.

Where as the aqua, we have been chatting for a month. He said early on after I went MIA for 24 hours, that he was gonna fly to see me. I said “ok. Sure! If you wan to” and he flew to me the following month. 17 hours flight to another continent for a first date. So who had a bigger impact? The all words no action leo or the more action less words aqua? Obviously, I am with the aqua now for almost 6 mos.

So Mr. Leo, you cant blame the Virgo lady. If anything, be glad that she is a classy virgo who doesnt fall for words. She needs you to show her. Not tell her. And I have to say too, that not everyone wants to stroke a leo’s ego.

Exactly...actions are the only thing I care about. Words mean nothing if there is no action to back them up.

Holy shit....NOW that is some action lol. That is crazy but also pretty awesome that he did that and for a first date...damn he has my respects!!

Exactly. No actions— not genuine. People who believe words only have the wrong idea how the world goes. Many people talk but never do any actions to match their words. I hate those types of people. I can be very impatient with them.

Yes, my bf proved me wrong. I didnt believe him until he was really on his way to see me. And even when he arrived in the airport i was thinking he was probably a catfish 🤣 i met him on Tinder. Who would have thought he would actually do it? But that also shows the kind of person he is. He is a doer like myself. And when i promised him i will fly to him, i really did too. Because i know how disappointing it fan be to say something and not do it.

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I'm not a fan of that either. Like why bother blowing smoke...just don't say anything at all...seems like to much effort.

Yeah, I wouldnt have believed him either and I probably would have died of shock seeing him at the airport lol.

So I have a few updates. We spoke quite a bit on Sunday at three different times of day. Was extremely emotional on both sides. Eventually, she said I am unable to continue this conversation. Few hours later, I wrote to her and she did not replay at all. Last night, we spoke for two hours. She was much more relaxed and open with me. I tried to keep this less emotional this time and we just talked. She said that she was very happy to see me today. I plan to take things one day at a time.

I have been doing lots of reading in here and other places. Apparently, her actions are very much in line with how Virgos operate. I have read about all of the frustration we encounter for those of us that tend to be needy. This of course includes me. I am not so sure how much of me can change,but I am far less frustrated by all of this. All along I felt she may be playing me and she could be. Time will tell.....the journey continues.