virgos

Please enlighten me. VirgoW says he isn't in love with this woman, but they are recently engaged. Why?

We had actually had a recent conversation andbi jokingly threw out that he would marry her and he responded with a hell no.

No, not at all. I am confused by what happened. What he said and what he happened.just trying to figure out the logic. My choices are he either lied or using her.

I don't feel like I would want to be with someone that is supposed to be in a committed relationship, but continues to try and sleep with other women.

I guess the real question is are you Virgos so shallow that you would choose someone you can use vs. Love? Totally generalizaled, I know.

So, I see you're still throwing yourself at someone who chose another woman ... and now you're trying to insinuate that you know what's best for him.

Lmao. P Angel, I am so not throwing myself at him. We are JUST friends. Nothing more. If anyone is doing the throwing it is him at me, but I refuse to go there. I am not crossing those lines and already told him.

I am just wondering about the thought process is all.

Honestly, I hate that everyone seems to think that there is some motivation other than just knowing. My family tells me I think too much about things, analyze too much. That's all this is and just for the sake of trying to understand.

I won't confess that I love someone to just about anyone, not even my friends or my family know that I was in love with my boyfriend then (husband now). To me, everyone in my life is on the need-to-know basis.

So, I believe what happen here is that you think because you two are friends, he should have no problem informing you (aka his friend) how he feel for this other girl, but that's not the case with Virgo. We value our privacy. Our feelings are private. We are not really into being open to others. To us words are sacred, especially those words that is in conjunction with love and feelings. I'm sorry but this doesn't mean he doesn't care about your friendship, he does but he doesn't necessarily feel he needs to be open. If I were you, I would sincerely congratulate

BUT that's just me though. Hope the other Virgo will chime in also.

I did congratulate him. If he found a good woman I am happy for him and hope that he treats her right and her him.

The whole thing that throws me off with it is that he will tell me that there is obviously more than just friendship between us, which was true at one point and isn't true now. We just communicate every now and then. I had made A comment that it was nice he was in love and he responded with, I never said I was in love." In a later conversation he has also said that he didn't love her like that. So my question is why are you marrying her if you don't care about her in that way? (Assuming what he said previously is true). His response is she is different because she doesn't question him. If he does lover her, than why try to continue to cheat. Doesn't make sense in my mind.I am just trying to comprehend what he is telling me lol.

Virgodragirl, I can understand the privacy, but there is no sense in denying what is obvious (or I would think)...that you care for someone.

I'm sorry but that's just men being men. Virguy is not the only one doing this so...
He probably realized how much the other girl meant for him while he was with you. Look at the bright side though, now you know where you stand with him and you can proceed accordingly.

Thanks virgodragirl. We haven't even dealt with eqch other like that for awhile, so the decision shouldn't have been based on me, at least I hope.

The lady has plenty of reasons to question him, hope she either figures it out soon or he becomes a better man for her.

Posted by christinelovessnickers
I did congratulate him. If he found a good woman I am happy for him and hope that he treats her right and her him.

The whole thing that throws me off with it is that he will tell me that there is obviously more than just friendship between us, which was true at one point and isn't true now. We just communicate every now and then. I had made A comment that it was nice he was in love and he responded with, I never said I was in love." In a later conversation he has also said that he didn't love her like that. So my question is why are you marrying her if you don't care about her in that way? (Assuming what he said previously is true). His response is she is different because she doesn't question him. If he does lover her, than why try to continue to cheat. Doesn't make sense in my mind.I am just trying to comprehend what he is telling me lol.

Virgodragirl, I can understand the privacy, but there is no sense in denying what is obvious (or I would think)...that you care for someone.

He DID find a good woman. He isn't going to give you the intimate details either out of respect for her regarding his true thoughts and emotions. You also say "If he does love her, than why try to continue to cheat"...who is he trying to cheat with?? You don't mention that at all throughout the thread.

Also this quote: "In a later conversation he has also said that he didn't love her like that. "

He respects her which is a much higher level of love.

Why are you asking us?

You know the answer you want to hear. So tell it to yourself.

The whole thing that throws me off with it is that he will tell me that there is obviously more than just friendship between us, which was true at one point and isn't true now. We just communicate every now and then. I had made A comment that it was nice he was in love and he responded with, I never said I was in love." In a later conversation he has also said that he didn't love her like that. So my question is why are you marrying her if you don't care about her in that way? (Assuming what he said previously is true). His response is she is different because she doesn't question him. If he does lover her, than why try to continue to cheat. Doesn't make sense in my mind.I am just trying to comprehend what he is telling me lol.

Translation:

"She's convenient...
And you're curious enough about the two of you romantically...
She will NEVER question him about it....
So...What's up? What you're trying to do?"

Virgos are more observant than you think.

He's intuitive and smooth.
There is no need to be pushy.
No swag, No sweet talk, or seduction game necessary.
He knows you want him.
And you would be perfectly fine if he was linked to someone already.
You're just pretending to have empathy for the other woman.

Not trying to be harsh Christine, just keeping it honest.

I had dated a virguy that had an ex that was after him. I asked, would you ever get back together with her, his reply was "No, I can't even see that happening 20 years down the road, shes crazy" a week later, they were back together..lol, well, i laugh now, but i was devastated at the time, cause he really is an amazing person.