Virgos and Apologies

Hey! A behavior I observed made me curious so was hoping to see if this is a Virgo trait or wut.

I noticed that a Virgo pissed off two of his friends by disappearing on them and they spoke up (they texted him "I don't deserve to be ignored" and "that was a jerk move", apparently he didn't flat out say "I'm sorry" but instead gave them a gift.

But, at first I thought that seemed manipulative on his part. Like, "don't be mad at me for my behavior, I got you something pretty." Lol. But, maybe this is the Virgo's version of an honest apology? As an Aries, I like a verbal "I'm sorry" because I think it brings a friendship closer and I'm held accountable for my behavior. Does a Virgo think the same thing is true about compensating for his behavior by giving tokens of affection? Or is it a sly maneuver to get people to forgive you? Tricky, tricky. haha

It's just interesting to me because I enjoy observing human behavior and was amused by this. 😄

Yeah. It is an apology. It's kind of like the "I'm sorry, here's something to make up for it"

Posted by Lilianni
Yeah. It is an apology. It's kind of like the "I'm sorry, here's something to make up for it"

I can dig that.

your over doing it. to much thought into it.



Haha. I've been told that before! But, behavior, in general, is super interesting to me. I should just go read a book. lol

I don't know...my Virguy friend secretly seems to want to see who will care if he disappears. I don't play that and he probably hates it because I treat him the same.He's actually asked me multiple times here and there, "well if i leave (our city) it's not like anyone will care right..." or, "but if I leave, you're gonna miss me...haha".

I actually prefer it if they make up for it through action (not necessary to be gift-giving), rather than verbally. Virgos are notorious for sometimes only saying what they think others want to hear, not necessarily because it's the right thing to do - and this includes apologising (because you know, they are 'never wrong').

Case in point:

Posted by starwars


us virgos don't know because we're never wrong

Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt

Posted by SunMoonStars
I don't know...my Virguy friend secretly seems to want to see who will care if he disappears. I don't play that and he probably hates it because I treat him the same.He's actually asked me multiple times here and there, "well if i leave (our city) it's not like anyone will care right..." or, "but if I leave, you're gonna miss me...haha".

the day is gonna come hes just gonna up and leave with saying a word....if you never said you cared.

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He's a good friend, but unfortunately I don't seem to feel the spark for Virgos.

Better that I don't lead him on with false sentiments. I let him know all the time "we're friends".

Posted by JoMarch85

I noticed that a Virgo pissed off two of his friends by disappearing on them and they spoke up (they texted him "I don't deserve to be ignored" and "that was a jerk move", apparently he didn't flat out say "I'm sorry" but instead gave them a gift.

I think that was unreasonable for the two people to guilt trip a friend for wanting space .. and an apology wasn't in order.

He has no obligation to say he's sorry, nor should he due to the friends being insecure.

Friends don't have obligations to announce their every move, and every intent to people with entitlement issues. And the person stating that they didnt' deserve to be ignored has obvious entitlement issues.

As a friend, you are suppose to understand the characteristics of the people you call, "friend" ... if you can't do that, then you're a lousy friend to the other, and only in it for attention .. which would explain the, "I don't deserve to be ignored" comment.

People these days demand their wants to be satisfied immediately without having to put forth any considerations.



A person that you've described here, didn't just develop this trait at that moment. People develop these characteristics at very early stages in life. There's no doubt in my mind that this Virgo has been displaying the trait all along that he preferred not to be so communicative, and preferred to be alone. The two alleged friends should have enough sense to realize that ... but, instead of being understanding of his character, they are only in it for themselves, and for their own feelings and wants .. and so lay guilt trips on him for not coddling their entitlement issues.



this seems to be a common theme for the young people today .. they are the most intolerant and closed minded generations to have come ..... they don't seem to know the difference between right and wrong.

The door for emotional consideration swings both ways

Tell that to young people ..... they failed to learn that.

I don't even see why he needs to apologize for deciding not to attend whatever the function was.



Furthermore, what kind of psychosis do these people suffer from in where they think forcing an apology or forcing a response through guilt trips = sincerity?

Pardon my language and I rarely cuss on here but it's actually kinda fucked up that the Virgo is being laughed at for expressing a sincere apology through their primary love language...acts of service...giving.

OP, here's a quick lesson in fairness. Did you ask the two "friends" have they ghosted on anybody before...especially the Virgo? My guess is they have. Also, if it is about true friendship, if the virgo truly did wrong, punishing by laughing at them when they try to make up for only makes it worse not better...and punishing someone is nobody's job anyway. Especially since non of us are perfect

Actions speak louder than words. So giving a gift is like a peace offering. I am sorry are just 3 words but I guess some folks just like hearing the words..