My virguy friend....could he be anymore weird? lol

Hi all 🙂

I would really love it if someone could explain to me what my virguy "friend" is up to.

He had stated clearly to everyone that him and i are just friends. After all the conflict between us over this past year...i just decided to be his friend (which was hard for me at times)....he had gotten rejected by another scorpio and after he got back at her (which he used me to do) didn't go near her for a while. I stayed out of it and didn't ask any questions. On a monday..virguy was asking where i was and a co-worker told him i wasn't working that day. He fell silent and just walked off then turned back toour friend and proceeded to say some harsh words about me (he has ALWAYS done this with me)

I see him at work a few days later and everything between us is fine. Where spending lunch breaks together etc... Then he spends his lunch break with this other scorpio (i think it was the first time he spoke to her since she rejected him)and BAM....the next day he is running away from me. He has always kind of ignored me but this time he wasn't even uttering two words to me and kept his distance. He has never done this to this extent. I'm confused because it feels like i've done something wrong. He said we were "just friends"....so why the hell has he pulled away from me?

Today i casually approached him about it (i was not emotional in the slightest)...and he denied it all saying he has been busy and not been able to talk to anyone. He's lying because i saw him chatting with everyone.......but me. He came across extrememly cold and uncaring..so i just let him go for the rest of the day. I can handle when he's a little distant with me but this is just strange (not to mention painful)..it's like a don't exist but then i catch him staring me the fuck down from afar. This all just came out of thin air.

i would really love some insight on this. What the hell is he doing? lol

He's not behaving like your friend, he's treating you like your second best or a back up, he's harshly talking abotu you BEHIND your back and that definitely doesn't say friendship IMO it says I don't like her, he's using your so called friendship to restore the relationship he truly wants with the other girl, she most likely saw you 2 together and now she's HOT again so he's rejecting you. Stop letting this guy use you as a stepping stone to get the woman he really wants, friends don't treat one another like this.

IMO your wasting your time analyzing this issue, sometimes when a man says let's be friends he's basically saying let's be friends on my terms at my convienance, he's most likely physically attracted to you in some way but not emotionally attracted and prefers to keep his distance which should be fine with you, I'm sure you don't need a man to force himself to feel something not even friendship if he doesn't. I wouldn't breathe too much life and energy into his behavior by paying attention to it.

I'm sure your attractive and can have healthier relationships, friendships with other men, when men reject us it keeps us focused on that man, we try to restore or regain our pride by being friends when truly most women would walk away as to keep her self esteem and confidence up, if you stick around these kind of men they bring you down, pull out before he steps on your self esteem, don't spend another minute thinking about this clown or you will invite mistreatment from him. Once a man (this type of man) see he can push the envelope by treating you half ass and can talk about you harshly it won't stop, it won't get better and plus this is an office issue and if enjoy your peace of mind at work you will ignore this guy, stop looking up to him as a friend or anything else and move on. Your self worth depends on you pulling away and staying away, he won't respect you if you ALLOW yourself to be disrespected by a man it only creates more distance.

He fears the gutteral feelings you give him.
He's fighting his attraction to you, that's not a good thing.

The harsh talking behind my back he has done before.... yes and it's more like observations/flaws etc....i mentioned this another thread a while ago about him being able to freely admit likeing all these other girls...except me. This guy has gone as far as pushing other guys away from me.

cajunspirit...that is what i have been suspecting and that is what it feels like.... or he's covering up his feelings towards me by saying he's attracted to other girls. He has even said that i'm a "bad influence"...which he KNOWS i'm not. It feels like he is trying to convince himself that i'm all these bad things to kind of put himself off me.

I will pull away myself if that is what i have to do but is it the smart move?

Adrianna,

How old is he? To be blunt, and looking at it from your perspective. This guy can go screw himself!

Lol..he's 21. I wouldn't be surprised at all if him fighting it off is exactly what he doing. I'm the first girl who opened up this "closed" guy (

Posted by Scorpchick

cajunspirit...that is what i have been suspecting and that is what it feels like.... or he's covering up his feelings towards me by saying he's attracted to other girls. He has even said that i'm a "bad influence"...which he KNOWS i'm not. It feels like he is trying to convince himself that i'm all these bad things to kind of put himself off me.

I will pull away myself if that is what i have to do but is it the smart move?

I used to do this to my Scorp... who is STILL obsessed with me.
Dreams, crying, inability to move on and regular thoughts about me are her symptoms.

The thing is, once you get past the "Trust Barrier" with a Scorpio and into their hearts it's hard to get out. The meaner I was to her, the more nice she was to me.
The more I pushed her away, the more she made the effort to stick with me.

It's a quirky Scorpio dynamic...

He isn't trying to convince himself, he's trying to convince you to leave him alone and move the hell on.

The smart move is to forget him and act like he doesn't exist.

honestly he just need to man up and say he's not interested in you or he is its his choice if he cant do that den you just need to move on and find some one who is on ur level and dats it.

good luck

Scorpios scare me with that Scorpio intensity its kinda a little over board lmao

Posted by Scorpchick
Lol..he's 21. I wouldn't be surprised at all if him fighting it off is exactly what he doing. I'm the first girl who opened up this "closed" guy (

He's young and dumb. How do I know? Because *I* was totally a late bloomer and VERY dumb at 21 😛

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

Scorpios scare me with that Scorpio intensity its kinda a little over board lmao

Hell no. Its that intensity that makes them smoking H O T !!!!

Posted by VirgoHero

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

Scorpios scare me with that Scorpio intensity its kinda a little over board lmao

Hell no. Its that intensity that makes them smoking H O T !!!!

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forgive me i have three air planets in my chart rising mercury and venus so over bearing people scare me lmfao

it really creeps me out at times lmao

Yeah....i'll move the hell on, forget about him...then he'll come running back because this other scorpio will (for the second time) reject him lol

Posted by Scorpchick
Yeah....i'll move the hell on, forget about him...then he'll come running back because this other scorpio will (for the second time) reject him lol

lmao he sounds pretty clingy for a virgo is he a august born or sept virgo?

If he was being silent but nice... I'd say he simply didn't know what to say to you at the time. I get like that sometimes... but eventually work out what I want to communicate and touch bases. But it seems odd for him to be rude about it.

This is a joke, right?

"He had stated clearly to everyone that him and i are just friends. After all the conflict between us over this past year...i just decided to be his friend"
** you two are just friends, you have agreed that this is your relationship .. so, what is the problem with him treating you like one?

"just walked off then turned back toour friend and proceeded to say some harsh words about me"
** how the fuck do you know that? You don't, you weren't at work that day. You are proclaiming hearsay as gospel .. sounds like you have an insecurity problem.

"I see him at work a few days later and everything between us is fine."
** why shouldn't everything be fine? Nothing not-fine has happened except in your head where you agreed to be friends with someone you are crushing on and decided to believe he would 'act' out according to the gossip you believed as truth .... again, do you have an insecurity problem?

" ... the next day he is running away from me."
** what the fuck are you talking about? He wasn't yours to even be running away from you. Because a friend of yours decides to try to have relationship with a woman doesn't mean he is forsaking you .. because he isn't even yours, numbskull.

"He has always kind of ignored me but this time he wasn't even ..."
** wtf? Are you mental?

I can't even finish reading this ..... because I now realize that this isn't a joke .. you are the joke.

He has pulled an equal amount of shit. He went as far as to put a stop to to me and another guy when he found out i was spending time with him by putting a wall between us....then tested the living hell outta me (i saw the whole thing)...to see if i was actually flirting with him. Quite bloody clever! this enraged me because he jumped to an assumption based on a compliment this other guy said about me. I wasn't flirting with him of course, i had only met the other guy a week before this shit went down. Obviously there are massive loop holes to my story...there is way too mush to delve into.

I could go on about all kinds of"tests" and whatnot this virguy has done...but right now i have no idea why he's being a cunt..unless cajun is right and this is the only way he can say "NO" to me.

I'm beginning to truly believe that Scorpios are the butt cracks of the zodiac.